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writes:Ok this is a little confusing but here goes...I am 6 months pregnant and really don't enjoy having sex. My partner cheated on me before, and I'm worried he will do it again if we stop having sex. I've spoken to him about it and he said that cheating on me was a moment of madness and will never happen again especially now the baby will be here soon. He says it's understandable if I don't want to have sex and he is cool about it.I could take this in two ways...1. I don't do it for him anymore, and he doesn't actually want to have sex with a big pregnant frump...or2. He generally cares about the way I feel rather than me having sex just because he wants it. And I'm being very insecure all because he cheated once?...Help!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 October 2009):
That's great. Like I said, the important thing is that you both talk to each other reassure each other and you both realize you need each other because of the baby, who will of course need two loving parents. Enjoy your pregnancy, and I wish you all the best.
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reader, Sara-abby +, writes (27 October 2009):
Sara-abby is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe hasn't done anything to hurt me since. Infact, he has been really helpful and understanding. I guess I should count myself lucky.
Thanks for the advise, I feel better already!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 October 2009):
I am sorry you're in the position. Being pregnant and having a guy say that can I imagine be a little unnerving. He cheated once, and claimed it was a moment of madness. Since then, has he done anything else to hurt you?
It sounds more like he cares for you, but is aware that you're pregnant and may not want to have sex because your baby is right there. Don't think you don't do it for him, and don't think you're just a pregnant frump. There's nothing wrong with you at all. The key now is comminucation. Let him know that he's loved, and make sure he gives you reassurance and the care you need. Guys sometimes need to be needed, so don't be afraid to keep talking to him and keep him informed what you're feeling. Hopefully he means what he says and you'll be happy. Also, remember that babies can sense their mother's stress in the womb, so take good care of yourself, relax and enjoy your pregnancy. Lots of luck
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