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Archived questions from: January, 2009 (see latest in Trust issues category)

Trust issues: Help and advice

My partner is a kind hearted compulsive liar!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5190 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - I have been married for 8 years to a good hearted guy with a compulsive lying problem. He has lied about everything, his age, his interests, his credit card debt, his salary, his taking care of errands, his losing something, even to hiding a letter ...

Lonely because I'm insecure and don't trust men.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5562 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - I'm a 39 year old single woman and have been treated badly by men all my life either been lied to or cheated on but now I'm so insecure and can't trust anyone that I drive men away, I just met this lovely guy but within 3 days I managed to lose him ...

Why would my bf lie about being in a relationship with a girl for 3 years?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5562 days ago

31 January 2009 (F) - Why would my bf lie about being in a relationship with a girl for 3 years? We were discussing past relationships and he said he had been in a relationship with this girl for 3 years. He told me her full name. And a few months after we talked about ...

When I left the room I heard her kissing another guy--what do I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5563 days ago

30 January 2009 (M) - Iv recently split from a long-term relationship and have been getting to know a girl who lives in my building, she used to smile at me and Id always catch her looking at me when I was with my girlfriend, then after I split with my girlfriend she ...

Boyfriend talking to another girl on MSN but says there is nothing in it???

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5563 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - Last week my boyfriend left his MSN open. I went into it and seen that he had been messaging a girl. The messages were not of a sexual nature however he was saying that they must mail in secret so that I would not find out, he was saying how bad ...

I'm hurting... how can I learn to trust him again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5563 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - I've been in a relationship now for 3 years and now have a 3 month old baby boy who we love amazingly, 3 months into the relationship my boyfriend went away to America and ended up extending it. I did ask if he had met someone else as it was odd, he ...

My girlfriend is being manipulated by another man. How do I get her to let him go?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5517 days ago

30 January 2009 (M) - I'll start by giving a little bit of detail about my girlfriend and I. We're both 22 years old, we have been dating very seriously for four years, and we are pretty much best friends. We have never had any big fights or rough spots in the ...

Should I go back out with my ex or move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5564 days ago

30 January 2009 (F) - I broke up with my boyfriend of half a year about 3 months ago for the forth time. The first time I broke up with him was the worst night of my life and consisted of me at a party standing in the middle of a cirle of my boyfriend's close friends ...

How can I be sure he's not in it just for the sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5564 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I just started a new relationship with this guy a few days ago. We are soooo into each other. The kisses are more than passionate. So, far it's gone as far as a touch here and there. No sex. He wants it bad! And I'd like to get to know him bett...

My husband looks at pics of really young girls, how can I stop him?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4379 days ago

29 January 2009 (?) - my husband looks at pics of really young girls, what can i do to stop him? hi every one, for most people, I have a perfect relationship, and to some extent i believe it. me and my husband are in our 28-29s and been together for 3 years. he watche...

I feel so violated and stupid now that I was nearly scammed by my "boyfriend". How do I get over it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5565 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - The guy and I were friends for a month before he asked me for a relationship. I met him on a penpal site, and we just talked about our family lives and I helped him find scholarships and stuff (he was from Africa). When he asked me for a relatio...

Should I trust him after being a jerk?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5565 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - okay, so this guy used to be so mean to me and acted like a jerk, now my friend says that he can't stop thinking about me! i used to have a crush on him. he talked to me on the phone and said "dude i seriously can't stop thinking about you!" and it ...

Is he only going out with me because I'm a virgin?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5565 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - I have my first boyfriend! I graduated early, but when I went to school there was this guy on the varsity football team and he was a senior. I never knew who he was, but He came to one of my friends' parties last week and said he knew me from school ...

Hoe can I prove how sorry I am after I cheated on my BF?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5565 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - Dear cupid I'm 16, i lost my virginity when i was 13, but anyway, im 16 now and i have a boyfriend and i went to a party and i met this guy who i didn't realize is my boyfriends 2nd cousin, i had sex with him at my boyfriends house and he cau...

They just started going out and she flips because he didn't propose!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5565 days ago

28 January 2009 (M) - My buddy's dating a new girl. He's looking to settle down and he thinks she great but I think he's tolerating too much. Am I way off on this? I think the fact he's looking for get married soon is affecting his perception. They've been g...

He thinks I cheated and now he won't talk to me, help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5565 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - Heyy; i split up with my boyfriend a few weeks back; because he thinks i cheated on him. the story is i live quite far away from my school; so i have a different group of friends during the holidays to who i would hang around with at school. Well; ...

How do I become close to my ex again - after I made a move on her friends.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5565 days ago

28 January 2009 (M) - After me and my girlfriend broke up, i asked 2 of her friends to be friends with benefits with me( all 3 of them are in my batch) well they told her and she got really pissed and mad at me, i spent around a week and a half try to get their ...

Why is he still messing about online?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5565 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - I met my boyfriend on an online dating site two months ago. Things have been going really well and until now I had absolutely no doubts about our relationship. However last week through sheer curiosuty I discovered he is still using his online ...

Will I ever be able to trust him while she is still in his life?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5566 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of 10 months still has regular contact with his ex, he dated her for 5 years, she is 23 he is 40. A few week ago he went to meet her and she stayed the night at his, he told me he was going home to watch the footie with his neighbour ...

Am I over reacting? Is it okay to be so realistic about marriage? I really don't want to be naive.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5566 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been going out for a while. When we started dating, I never thought we would be together as long as we have. Well, I had a problem trusting him (needless to say). But I can honestly say I'm madly in love with him. He seems so ...

She says nothing happened but I still doubt her...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5566 days ago

27 January 2009 (M) - I started dating a person in August of last year. We had a wonderful time together. However, she had an ex that she still loved. By Christmas, I was head over heals. Then he came back in town and poof, they were together. Now that he has gone ...

How can I trust again and what is going too far?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5564 days ago

27 January 2009 (F) - I recently stopped dating this guy, about 4 months ago, we had been together for 2 years. After the relationship ended, he confessed to me that he had been cheating on girls throughout the relationship. I am quite glad that I got out of the ...

My sister is paranoid about me sleeping with her husband!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5567 days ago

26 January 2009 (?) - My sister is paranoid about me sleeping with her husband. I would never do that and I already have a (hot) boyfriend. Ever since our other sister slept with her ex bf (which was 3 years ago and she didn't even let her come to her wedding) she been ...

What can I do to stop myself from constantly bringing up the past with my boyfriend? I

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5565 days ago

26 January 2009 (F) - What can i do to stop myself from constantly bringing the past up to my boyfriend? I always look back on our relationship and wonder about stupid stuff. for example, we started going out 2 years ago, and when we first started going out, i can ...

Falsely accused of affair

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5567 days ago

26 January 2009 (M) - My wife is convinced that I have had multiple affairs. I have never had a physical relationship with any woman, man, or animal outside of my marriage. Nothing I say or do has or will convince her that the affairs never happened. Today she calls ...

Is he waiting to see if something better comes along?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5568 days ago

26 January 2009 (F) - My other half was formally a bit of a womaniser and while we were on and off a long time ago he cheated on me. Since then we have become stable and moved in together and he became a completely different person. i feel like i can trust him completely ...

He claims he didn't get my texts... something fishy here don't you think?

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25 January 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and just recently had to switch it up to a long distance relationship when he moved this past summer. We seemed to be holding strong but now for some reason I think he is lying to me. This past Friday ...

Is it possible that he's really changed?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5568 days ago

25 January 2009 (F) - is it possible for people to really change? ive been friends with this guy for a really long time now and hes an extremely smooth talker who has hurt, cheated and manipulated other ppl including me. he was then deeply hurt by someone he really cared ...

Is this an affair?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5568 days ago

25 January 2009 (F) - Ladies:- If your man was meeting up with a woman behind your back, just to help him out financially because she likes him a lot - would you consider this as having an affair?...

I can't remember what happened after drinking

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5568 days ago

25 January 2009 (M) - Hello i have been with my wife 15 years we have been married 8 years we have got two lovely kids i love them all very much but the thing is when i go out drinking i never know when to stop and i always end up out of it and my family just get ...

He seems the same as what he's always been, except for this strange lying!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5568 days ago

25 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for a year and a half, and we're extremely close and have never argued or had any problems. He's usually very honest and open with me I'm the same with him - we tell each other everything. So this i...

Lost my parents trust

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5568 days ago

25 January 2009 (F) - How do i get my mum and dad to trust me again?? Im having trouble with my mum and dad as they dont trust me for a simple reason i went out and got drunk and did some silly things and now they dont trust me they havent for about 6-7 months and its ...

All my friends have perfect cleavages, I've nothing!?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5551 days ago

25 January 2009 (F) - I'm really worried because i have about a 2 inch gap between my boobs. i've tried everything to get rid of it like different types of bras and i've even been on the pill because its ment to make your boobs grow but it doesn't work. All my friends...

I can't seem to trust him fully!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5569 days ago

24 January 2009 (F) - so im in love.. and hes in love with me. but i just cant seem to trust him fully.. like i do trust him but if i see a girl talking to him online or on his phone then i just get scared.. i mean i talk to guys and he gets mad.. but i just dont wanna ...

What ways are there to help explain to her that I did not mean to violate her trust and what can I do to help bring our friendship back?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5569 days ago

24 January 2009 (F) - Yesterday, I was at a party at my friend's house. Everyone was really drunk, and making out. My friend and her ex-boyfriend hooked up (all the way) and then she got mad after and went to sleep. I'm friends with the ex, so I followed him out to the ...

Is my husband lying or my sister?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5569 days ago

24 January 2009 (F) - I really dont know where to begin other than I suspected my husband had feelings for my sister and thought maybe she felt the same way. One night many years ago they held back whilst walking home and my instincts told me something was not right. ...

I don't think he wants me anymore

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5569 days ago

24 January 2009 (F) - Ma bf has just told me tht this girl who he ust to fancy is talking to him. He said to me that he asked her owt ages ago and she sed no and she just sed she regrets it. Then he just asked me what would I say if he went and met her and i sed well a ...

Something going on or am I paranoid?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5570 days ago

24 January 2009 (F) - Me and my fiance have been together for almost 3 years. One of our mutual friends (I have known her for years and he and her are more associates than friends to me but whatever) has recently moved to our state. My fiance got her a job with his ...

I can't trust my wife's and her male cousins relationship.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5570 days ago

23 January 2009 (M) - I can’t trust my wife w/her male cousin’s relationship. Here’s the story. I know I have some deep insecurity issues I need to deal with. These have led to intense forms of jealousy. I have been married for 16 years. My wife is an ultra-frie...

GF hanging out with exboyfriend - when is the line crossed?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5568 days ago

23 January 2009 (M) - I need some input on this matter. I've been with this girl for 3 years. We live together, we love each other very much, and I am very committed to her. From the beginning of our relationship she has always maintained a friendly communication wi...

Why does it ruin it over stupid little things? Or am I taking it too seriously?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5570 days ago

23 January 2009 (F) - Ok well me and my bf have been together about a year and 2 months or so .. but lately things have started to go wrong.. we've just been having STUPID arguments, i wont go into to details but they are petty. Latest one was he got annoyed with me ...

Why is she lying about knowing him, he's on her facebook!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5570 days ago

23 January 2009 (M) - Ok, so I have this dilemma that is just eating at me. Im with this girl, she says we're more then friends and she "thinks" of me like a b/f. Well i was messaging her through MSN one night... and she wouldn't answer, then after awhile... Some guy...

Is it unrealistic to tell her to stop having contact with this guy?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5569 days ago

23 January 2009 (M) - I don't usually do this but I got to summarise this and get an unbiased opinion. I will try my best not to be biased and favour myself. Ok, where do I begin? I hooked up with this girl about 3 years ago when I was about 19 at a pub, we saw each...

My jealousy is killing our relationship I can see it but I can't do nothing about it.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

22 January 2009 (F) - I have a problem with jealousy. I have a boyfriend and we're dating for 2 years and I still can't believe him. My jealousy is killing our relationship I can see it but I can't do nothing about it. I'm jealous when he goes out with friends ...

How do I work out my trust issues?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4839 days ago

22 January 2009 (F) - hi just wanted some advice. im in a relationship with this guy for over a year and a half but i have trust issues with him, and i feel like that cause my past relationships ive been cheated on and he says thats the reason i dont trust him he tells ...

I think she deserves a bit of her own medicine

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

22 January 2009 (M) - Here is my situation, first the background information: I've been talking to this girl for about 3 months now, shes 20 and I'm 27. She lives with her parents about an hour and a half away from me so I've only went out with her twice. The first time ...

How can I make him believe that I was a virgin?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

22 January 2009 (F) - hi,after i had sex for the first time, i realised i wasnt a virgin. my boyfriend does'nt belive me when i tell him he was my first since i wasnt a virgin. i think the cause of loosing my virginity is riding bicycles alot since it was one of my ...

How can I win his trust in me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5572 days ago

22 January 2009 (F) - I met this guy 3 weeks ago at a party and we really hit it off. He calls me and texts but he let me know yesturday that he was really hurt and he doesn't trust any female, not even me. I really like him and I have been really hurt in the past to and ...

Why does my husband constantly lie about the little things?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4905 days ago

22 January 2009 (M) - My husband lies about stupid little things.... For example: John has a huge addiction to looking at "free" items on "Craigslist." I have no clue why, something about that site he just loves. It becomes too much when I ask him to stop so we can...

I talk to other guys on the phone, should I tell my BF?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5572 days ago

21 January 2009 (F) - me and my boyfriend been together for 2 yrs now and i really love him and everything but i like to conversate with other guys. i never technically cheat but i talk on da fone wit them late @ night and go out with them places and thats where it ...