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Archived questions from: May, 2009 (see latest in Trust issues category)

Trust issues: Help and advice

Trusting my boyfriend

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5444 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - hi im 17 and ive been dating my boyfriend for 8months now and the past 8 months have been amazing hes sooo nice to me and everything but i cant trust him hes sooo over protecting when it comes to me i cant text any of my guy friends on my phone ...

I have learning difficulties and feel incomplete, please advise!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

31 May 2009 (M) - Hello, I have lost the will to live, I am a 21 year old male. when I was born I was deprived of oxygen and as a result i developed learning disabilitys/difficulties. I have a very poor concentration span, and co-ordiniation problems. This really did ...

Lied about my age, will he still love me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5442 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - Hi, i met my boyfriend online 2 months ago. We got chatting and really hit it off, met a couple days later and we got along so well and fell for each other so bad that i didnt end up leaving and so now ive moved in with him. We've already been thr...

Is it wrong for your boyfriend to stay at another girl's house with his "brother"?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - Is it wrong for your boyfriend to stay at another girls house with his "brother" after a night out on the town?...

Do I let her keep playing games or should I break contact by being silent?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

31 May 2009 (M) - Hello, I am 29. My ex-fiance is now 30. We got engaged a little over a year ago. Heres my situation. She is a massage therapist. About a month ago, she had a client (this is what she called him) that came in and she was doing some healing work ...

Is he just afraid of committment or does he only want sex?

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30 May 2009 (F) - Ok so I've gotten into a real mess recently because I've fallen in love with my ex boyfriends best friend. We have been friends for over four years, and about 8 months ago finally took our friendship to the next level after I had broken up with my ...

Did I give him too much space..has he lost interest??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5445 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - Hi, me and my boyfriend (both 19) have been together nearly 5 years now, we're engaged and are usually fine but lately he's been talking and acting like he wants a different 'path of life' to go down. We're usually the typically 'cute couple' who ...

In love, yet we can't seem to make it work, due to clashes!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5443 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of two years have had our ups and downs. Everytime things go well in our individual lives [ie: get out of debt, decide to quit bad habits] we work so well together, and I can see a definite future for us. The problem is, when we are ...

I can't trust my husband

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5443 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - I've recently accessed my husbands Facebook account. I'm stunned, hurt, betrayed and angry! I found letters to and from his ex-girlfriend he found on facebook talking about how much he's thought of her over the years and how much he thinks of her ...

Am I right to trust him again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5440 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - long story short, my boyfriend and i had been going out, my best friend was always very 'friendly' with him and caused a lot of problems, after we broke up they both snuck around behind my back and it didnt last long. she told me it was because she ...

Should I ignore him eyeing up other women?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5445 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - I have a new partner, every time we are out, i notice him ogling other women who are younger, and thinner. He says he finds me gorgeous and attractive. So why does he do it? last night he spent all evening eyeing up women, and practically...

They've cheated one me once and I'm afraid it will happen again!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5445 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - im having some issues with my boyfriend, that being his ex girlfriend/my ex best friend. they had secretly gone out behind my back and after that i ended both relationships. it took me a really long time to trust my ex again but he tried really hard ...

If only I was more outgoing like her...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5446 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - My good friend, (probably my best friend) is starting up a small part time business with another woman, her busness partner, this has happened very quickly in a matter of a month. Its all my friend can talk about - she is 100% focussed on only...

Why is alcohol so popular? Can it help me become less... shy?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5441 days ago

30 May 2009 (M) - it seems like everybody nowadays loves alcohol. i've never consumed it. can you tell me why it is EXTREMELY POPULAR? also, will drinking alcohol help me socially b/c i'm one of those shy, insecure people and i was wondering if having a drink or...

Does he love me or should I end it?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - I'm a little lost as to just what this man wants,well for starters he is married and we have been having an affair for many years, but he is in a very high profile job and he sometimes has to work 70hours a week so we don't get to see a lot of each ...

Trust issues/Long distance relationships/How to ask her to stop getting drunk so often

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5443 days ago

29 May 2009 (M) - Ok, basically im in a long distance relationship, we have been together 5 months now, and i feel she is the one and know that she feels the same Basically recently she has changed which group of people she hangs out with and this new group goes o...

Girlfriend made mysterious call while drunk and I was away

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5446 days ago

29 May 2009 (M) - Hello I was away on work this past weekend. My girlfriend went out one night with a mutual guy friend of ours (not worried about that). They ended up bar hopping with some of his friends and going to a party and she stayed out until 5am, which...

Stay with the guy who lied to me or marry a person of my parent's choice?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5446 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - Hi..! I am in relationship with this guy since 5 months i.e. from Dec end. We got to know each other through phone and usually communicated through phone and after talking thrice or some more times he proposed me. At that time I hadn't seen him...

My boyfriend can't stop lying to me about everything

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5446 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - A guy I am seeing keeps telling me lies. Sometimes he lies about things that don't even matter, and I even tell him that if he had told me the truth I wouldn't have cared, yet he still lies. For instance, he and I were laying out at the pool and he ...

I have a friend who thinks it's funny to lie all the time, why does she do this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5447 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - Ok..so my friend lies to me..alot. She does it alot and whenever anyone confronts her about it, which is not alot, she always just jokes about it..and sometimes she can be mean about it. She always jokes all the time and lies..and sometimes I find ...

I do love him, but I don't trust him, how do I overcome this problem?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5447 days ago

29 May 2009 (F) - Ok this is a long one, Me and my fiance have been dating for 6 years now and have 2 small boys together.I love him so much and would do anything for him. He has messed up so many times and every time he messes up i feel like a small piece of my be...

He spends an hour on the phone with his female business associate, how do I deal with this monkey business?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5447 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - My b/f who is 8 yrs younger than me started texting this business associate on the night he worked the night shift, then I found out he has been calling her on evenigs before he reaches home, on morning after I left for work. I confronted him and he ...

Angry, Hurt & Confused - Is this guy a player?!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5443 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - I met this guy through my best friend about two months ago; they were studying and both away from their hometowns. The first meeting was great and we seemed to click straight away - joking, laughing and a bit of flirting. At the time I didn't ...

We're on summer vacation, now and bf hardly ever texts me! What's happening?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5447 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for almost 6 months. We are now on summer vacation and I won't get to see him as much. However he hasn't called or texted me. What should I do?...

I'm crazy paranoid...about everything!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5447 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - Hey... So I've been with my fiance for 2 years now and we have a one year old daughter... And we're happy, most of the time. The problem is that I'm crazy paranoid... about everything. HE dated a girl for 3 years before me and she's caused...

Is he cheating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5447 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - Ok I been with this guy for almost 3years n I thnk he's cheating on me he did in the past and cuz he did it I did it bad cuz it hurt. But I think he is doing it again The reason why I say is cuz the past 2days he called me late n he said and yest...

What should I say when I talk to him to get him to stay with me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5448 days ago

28 May 2009 (F) - So my bf wants a break because he misses what he had when he was single. He also says i pushed him into saying "i love you" (but he eneded up saying it after i let it go) When i asked, he said he still has romantic feelings for me, but he...

My boyfriend had one previous relationship with a man, and I can't accept it...

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5445 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - hi, so i have a bf which really loves me and i feel great with him, but my boyfriend in the past had one relationship with a man and i really cant accept this thing. if it was you would you stay with him? however he confessed that it was his only...

Boyfriend says I'm a controlling person, what can I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5448 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - i have a problem with my boyfriend we've been dating for 3 years and he says that i'm a controlling person and he states that becuase i told him to stop talking to one of his girl friends because she hurted me so many times and we broke off because ...

Major trust issues from the past

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5445 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - Ok I have a boyfriend of 7 months, I love him and one day want to marry him. However, he has some seriously deep trust issues from his dad leaving him and being cheated on by all his ex girlfriends. So from this he believes that im going to do the ...

I don't trust my own judgement anymore.....should I leave him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5355 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - Don't know what to do, I have been married for 17 yrs. 4 yrs ago my son nearly passed away with head injury he had lots of surgery has recovered thankfully.That same year my husband started a new job and started acting wierd not being a very goo...

I feel inferior all the time!!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5448 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - I feel inferior all the time. I don't know why. I mean, I've always had some issues with my self esteem, but usually I did pretty good and was fairly happy with myself. Of course in high school this was normal, as I wasn't pretty or popular, so I ...

Rumors! But am I the father or is he?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5449 days ago

27 May 2009 (M) - Here's the deal. My wife is pregnant. We've been together for a year, and for the most part, it's been a good year. Like most people, she has her share of history, and I have mine. While this may sound like some of that, it's really not, at least I ...

He's beat down with addiction, but I love him. What do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5448 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - have spent 7 years raising child alone .casually dated over years never introducing child to any dates. lived next door to man a year in a half ago.hated one another.he was a single dad raising two teenagers on his own.daughter started watching my ...

I feel used and abused emotionally...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5449 days ago

27 May 2009 (F) - This started a week back. I had asked a guy who worked at my school if her drop me off at my bf house because i wanted to see him. When i was aking my bf how do i get to where he live, he asked me who was bringing me and i said a friend. He then ...

Lost and confused

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5449 days ago

26 May 2009 (M) - i found out my girl of 11 months had went out with her old boyfriend from a 1.5 years ago.they went to dinner and she doesnt drink but she had a glass of dinner wine and was intoxicated,so she ask to be brought over to her girl friends.well she ...

Addicted to porn

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5439 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - About a month ago my boyfriend and I talked about how much his watching porn bothered me, he said he would stop because of how much it bothered me. After several weeks of assuring me he had not watched any porn, yesterday I found out he was lying...

She wont stop lying!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5449 days ago

26 May 2009 (M) - Im just so messed up right now. i just don't know how someone can do this or its just me... a girl i was seeing typical was great to start. Then just too many wierd things and hearing things that she had done or lied to me about. could never get her ...

Does one mistake mean the end of everything?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5446 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - I have just found out my husband of six years cheated on me with his cousin a year into our marriage.How I found this out we were at a wedding and his cousin [3rd]down the line was there .She told me in her drunken state that my husband had a fling ...

Should I wait a while and hope things change or move on?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5449 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - Im really in a confusing situation. Ive been seeing this man for a while now.he says he loves me and i love him. We do have a special bond and i just cant c myself with anyone else.prob is hes been a bad lad in his life. Had lots of women and hes ...

I found condoms in my husband's pockets and he says they were for a friend!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5446 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - I Found 6 condoms in my husbands pockets and he said his friend asked him to bring it. I didn't believe him, and he was crying. could he be telling the truth?...

Should I trust him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5450 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - Dear cupid One of my relative told me that my hubby was riding a lady with him, after knowing this i asked him but first he lied but after making cross question he said yes, but that was only coincident, she is just a friend. After going thro...

He has never lied to me before but I'm finding it hard to believe these text mesages are just a misunderstanding!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5447 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - This is my strange story that i really need help with.... Okay, my boyfriend and i where out on saturday, we went to one of the local car and bike show, he parked rather far from the pits, he asked me to go and get a few things out the car after ...

I have questions about my girlfriend's boyfriend, am I being too cynical?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5449 days ago

26 May 2009 (F) - I don't trust my friend's boyfriend at all. I always had this odd feeling about him and there have been a couple of red flags. They have been dating two months and she's NEVER been to his house. He says it's too messy. She offered him a cl...

She cheated, I'm worried she'll do it again, want to break up

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5449 days ago

25 May 2009 (M) - hi this is my history:i met a very beautifull girl i dated her for 3 months she told me she was virgin,well one time she told me that she was not ready to be with me so i understood and left..2 months after she started texting me saying many things ...

I'd like to exorcise his "indiscretion" from my head, but I can't!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5447 days ago

25 May 2009 (F) - Hi, it's me again some time after my last post in April. The wife with the text cheating husband (one of many I'm sure). When I discovered his secret phone he 'came clean' about a few other things one of which was that they 'occasionally' met in ...

My boyfriend is blaming me for becoming pregnant, but he didnt wear a condom so arent we both equally to blame?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5450 days ago

25 May 2009 (F) - I feel like my boyfriend is blaming me for becoming pregnant but as much as i should have asked him to put a condom on, he didnt think to either. I'm mature about it and i understand that we were both absolute imbociles and we BOTH made the mistake ...

I keep forgetting to get my ID so that I can sign up to get on the public dole rather than get a job, and my boyfriend is really bugging me about it. He wants me to start getting welfare as soon as possible and doesn't believe that I just forgot to g

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5450 days ago

25 May 2009 (F) - My boyfriend says he needs me, cares about me and loves me. We were getting on just fine until about a week ago and now hes suddenly turned into an arsehole. He asked me to move in after the first time we met and i accepted, we both really liked ...

I lied to my Mom repeatedly and now she doest trust me. How can I get her to trust me again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5450 days ago

25 May 2009 (M) - Im 15 and i lied to my mum about going to a party, i isaid i was sleeping at my friends house but she found my ticket and now she has grounded me for the rest of my school holidays and she even said she hates me and that she can never trust me ...

My husband has assured me he didnt have an affair, but I am still worried.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5450 days ago

25 May 2009 (F) - I came to know from my relative that my hubby is having affair with a young lady, after that we had discussion, He promised me that it was not true he has been blamed, He even promised he well never that young lady. He said how can a young girl like ...