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Archived questions from: September, 2009 (see latest in Trust issues category)

Trust issues: Help and advice

Was I wrong to check up?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5321 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - hi, me and my boyfriend have been together now for almost three years. In that time he has cheated once with a woman for a month, that ended once i found out. He has persued another woman but she didnt want anything with him. Why did i stay? because ...

Giving it a try again with the ex, only now he's gone distant again after his friends saw me out with my girlfriends!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5321 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - Hi, i dont know what to do im so confused.... i got back wid my ex and i think he is doing the same as he did before useing me... when we first met back up it was so good to see him again we had a few drinks and a chat he cudnt stop saying sorr...

He danced with and was kissed by some chick 3 weeks before our wedding!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5321 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - My fiance was out drinking one night and decided to dance with some chick, and he said she kissed him and he pushed her off and walked away. This happened three weeks before our wedding. how do i forgive him and move forward? ...

I struggle to trust men and I think this has taken its toll on my relationship, how do I stop my boyfriend from leaving me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5321 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - Hi everyone ! I need some help. I have ruined my relationship with my boyfriend. I love him a lot and so does he. But in the past i had unsuccessful relationships and due to my past i couldn't trust my boyfriend. I always fought with him and blame ...

How can you love someone and get turned on by other people?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5321 days ago

30 September 2009 (M) - Here's my story. My girlfriend and I have been dating for eight months and I am now convinced that I'm in love with her. So here's why I'm writing now... A few weeks into our relationship I found out that she gave me several STDS, some were easily...

Do you think she'll give me another chance even though I cheated?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5316 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - me and my ex met wen i was 18 and she was 16 we was going out for about six months wen she told me she loved me and i felt the same but about a month later one of her friends started texting me and we became close i ended up seeing both of them on ...

His past is littered with ex girlfriends and I'm scared!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5322 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - I was hoping someone might lend some insight to this -- I've been someone who has been rather picky about relationships and most have been all very serious. I will go out on first dates but if I don't see a potential first dates turn into last ...

Is my husband looking elsewhere because he's not happy anymore?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5322 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - I often feel that my husband is looking else where for relationship's. He often has female friends that I am sometimes aware of but do not have contact with for one reason or another. In the pass year he has been in a friendship with another women, ...

Relationship Crisis: he cheated but I want it to work!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5322 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - So this month has been my worst month ever, boyfriend cheated on me and everything. I took him back we had a long conversation and I told him that it will be a long time for me to trust him and I continue to ask him to keep 100 with me all the time. ...

Should I work on it or leave it now before it gets worse?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5322 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - I've been dating this guy for 15 months now. I am so sure that I am in love with him and I was so sure he felt the same way. But at times he gets mad over something and decides to change his mind. The last time we fought he told me he didn't thi...

She used to be the one that hated me going out with my friends, now it is the other way around! How do I deal with my paranoia?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5322 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - Hiya, i've been going out with my girlfriend for over a year now. We've had some up's and down's along with some trust issues but everything's been going well lately... Except ; She's always been a bit of a loner, never had a great many fr...

What can I do about a boyfriend that hates my past?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5316 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - What can I do? My boyfriend hates my past, I never did something wild, but there was a mutual friend involved. It happened before I met my boyfriend. Then that same friend introduced me to my boyfriend. Then after 6 months my boyfriend asked me ...

How can I stop lying to my boyfriend and regain his trust?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5323 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - I have a serious problem that is causing havoc in my relationship. I have been lying to my boyfriend about money being spent and not telling him about it, taking things like my cell phone without asking him if i can use it and taking him for ...

I still love him, should I tell him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5322 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - Hi everyone, i have a problem, ok.... Me and my ex broke up almost 3 months ago after a year and a half relationship because he ended...to be honest i dont even really know why, something about me being clingy and moody and jelous of his best gir...

Did he ruin our relationship from the start?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5322 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - me and my husband have been together for almost 4 years and married for 2. in the very beginning of our relationship he lied to me about still talking to his ex g/f...we live in pa and she lives in fl. i found out that she was still in the picture ...

Why won't he commit?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5323 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - I am currently "involved" with a soldier. He has been a really good friend for years which somehow evolved into an intimate relationship. We never intended for things to get this far, mainly because he is my ex-boyfriends best friend. (Well, not ...

My g/f on motorcycle rides without me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5323 days ago

28 September 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and I just bought motorcycles. Now, she's planning all of these day rides when I am working with our local riders group. Most people that go on these rides with her are men. Being a man, I know what a turn on it can be to see a girl ...

She made a new facebook account, lied about it and now I feel very insecure

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5323 days ago

28 September 2009 (M) - ive been dating this amazing girl for about 1 yr and 5months. shes amazing and i love her to death. she is my other half. we have been through absolute hell together, from the rumors and drama to the pointless arguements. were together forever. ...

My girlfriend is going out clubbing without me, how do I feel comfortable about this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5323 days ago

28 September 2009 (M) - Friday night My girlfriend is going out this Friday night and I am beginning to feel anxious. I just need someone to talk to about it to as I get a bit paranoid. Basically she will be going out after work at about half 9 with her friends in...

I'm finding it so hard to let her go, but if she wants to live her life like this should I just accept it and move on?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5323 days ago

28 September 2009 (M) - I have been married for 19 years, I am 64 my wife is 48. We have a son aged 15. It has been a happy marriage, we were both in love and have a wonderful life, great house, great cars, health, great holidays. My wife also has a great stable ...

Why does he want me back when he clearly couldnt accept me the way I am?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5323 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - My ex bf just told me he wants me back, but he is the one who broke up with me in the first place. During out relationship he was always pointing out all the things that he didnt like in me, such as my values and beleiefs and just generally my per...

Should I tell my ex why I'm mad at him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5323 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - So my cheating ex who has not talked to me in 8months and blocked me from everything...facebook, yahoo, games we played, his cell decided to contact me 2 weeks ago it started with a friend and on yahoo well then he started texting me and talkin...

I don't think my boyfriend trusts me like he says he does. What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5323 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years now and I feel like he does not trust me and if he doesn't now than he never did! anyway, if he doesn't trust me it makes me think that he doesn't love me or wants to break up. He gets all mad and jealous ...

I love my wife but I think divorce is the best answer

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5323 days ago

27 September 2009 (M) - I Really want a divorce, my wife doesnt. im still hurt and in love but i need to move -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- First of all i want to say thank you for reading this and im begging you ...

Why is he ignoring me?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4977 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - I like this guy a lot. We had sex about a week ago which was my first time and now he's ignoring me. When I call he doesn't answer when I text he doesn't text back. If he does he says he's working. I really don't know since he use to do it before he ...

Is he cheating on me and how can I stop us from falling apart?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5324 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - So, Im 18 and My Boyfriend Is 20, we've been together 2 years but i just don't know if he loves me anymore.. he tells me he does but would rather be out with his friends than spend time with me, he always seems to be on his phone which is making ...

Can I trust her now?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5323 days ago

27 September 2009 (M) - I've been dating my girlfriend for a year now, and things are really great. My problem is that I found out that she used to be very permiscuous. She was also a substance abuser. I dont believe she has ever cheated on me, but my imagination gets the ...

I know most of his friends, why don't I know her?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5324 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - Recently married but been with my husband for 10 years. We of course have been through our ups and downs, and even separation in our relationship after I found out he had a baby outside of me. After 2 years of being separated we had a baby and got ...

We broke up but still say I love you and still text! what's going on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5324 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - Okay so i had this serious relationship for almost 7 months. The guy and I were each others 'first' and I was his first girlfriend. We discussed a future together and everything. I really love him, and up until yesterday he said the same. Weve been ...

She has stabbed me in the back, should I move jobs?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5324 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - Thanks in advance to all who answer here. I work in the corporate world. Most of my colleagues are ok but my current team is rather backstabbing. Last year I was part time and there was a person on the team who really was a decent person..I admired ...

How can I trust anyone? Including my husband?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5324 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - I've never been able to fully trust my husband; when we first started dating, I had had several bad relationships and family issues, where I felt that most people hurt me and let me down, or just left me. When I met him, he was still getting over ...

7 years and now this...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5325 days ago

26 September 2009 (F) - The major problem i have in my relationship is TRUST and DEPENDABILITY. 2 major problems in my book. I've been with my love for 7 years and I love him. We have gone through some s*#t and we are still together. We have never cheated on one another, ...

I just can't trust him, should I even bother to keep trying?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5325 days ago

26 September 2009 (F) - So here's my situation, i've been dating my boyfriend for a while now and I really love him a lot. But, I can't trust him, and I want to. He has done so many sneaky things behind my back and that makes me think he doesn't care what I think or how I ...

Jealous of a vibrator. Will she get used to the thicker girth?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5265 days ago

26 September 2009 (M) - This may sound ridiculous but I really cant help feeling like this. When I met my girlfriend she had never had an orgasm with any partner and she believed she couldnt have one. she also said that her previous partner didnt even know or probably ...

My friends smoke weed. How do I tell them I don't toke anymore?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5281 days ago

26 September 2009 (F) - Please i need help, im going to a gig soon with some mates ill be 16 then and basically, my mates are taking weed with them and I dont know what to do. I used to smoke it with me old mates and i really dont wanna get back into it. It messed me up ...

We agreed to break up because of different views about sex, but he's still messing with my head

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5325 days ago

26 September 2009 (F) - My ex bf broke up with me a couple of weeks before he was due to leave for a long overseas holiday. This is how it happened. We had a huge fight one night because I wouldn't have sex with him. I believe in waiting, where as he doesn't view sex...

Should I learn to trust my girlfriend despite all her lies, or should I throw in the towel and give up on this love?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5325 days ago

26 September 2009 (M) - my girlfriend and i met when we were 15 and 16. i was a virgin, she had sex with one other guy. lets just say we were really attracted to each other and we had sex a week and a half after we met. (before we even started dating). we started ...

Do I give my ex bf another chance?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5326 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - I asked for advice at the beginning of this year when i had split with my ex boyfriend. I was in heartache and agony and was spiralling out of control, i had lost over a stone in weight when i discovered he'd been texting other women. this all ...

Should I be worried about the text messages she's getting from this guy?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5326 days ago

25 September 2009 (M) - Should I be concerned with flirtatious text messages that my wife gets from an old co-worker? My wife gets flirtatious text messages from someone she used to work with. This person left the company she is with about 12 months ago and they were fr...

Who's right? Him? Or me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5326 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - Please help me out...Recently I asked about my relationship. And now my boyfriend wants his question answered.He wants to know is it right for me to text or call him like every 3 hours when he is not home..But here is why I do In the first part of ...

He's never given me any reason to doubt him but I cant get over his past!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5326 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - Hi, my partner of five years is 62 and I am 53 hence we have a lot of life experiences between us. When we first got together he told me a lot about his past and if I'm honest I was shocked as it consisted of 4 unplanned pregnancies, 3 abortions etc ...

Is my boyfriend falling for his roomate?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5326 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - My boyfriend has moved in with our mutual friend, who is a girl. They are also living with two of his guy friends. They have been getting really close. They are extremely flirty. In fact, they are closer at this point than I am with him. The...

Which guy will bring me the most happiness? Who should I trust the most?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5326 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - last night my bloke asked me to sleep with him, i said no, by sayin no resulted in him pushin me right by the stairs. i nearly fell down them. do u think he would ever hit me? also i have been reading his comments and it appears that he is meeting ...

Even though he's been going behind my back, I don't want to leave him!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5327 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - My husband had a realtionship with another female for years. I was with him first but it started before we were married. Then We all started having threesomes together. I did not know that they were doing it behind my back. I just recently found out ...

Shall I go and talk to him even if he's a jerk and a liar?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5327 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - What is happening ? I and my boyfriend we are together since 2 years , recently I noticed that he became different person , he changed , like he doesn’t want me , if I hug him he said I hate hugging If I want sex , he said I hate sex , if I wanna ...

Why does she dress to impress when I'm not around?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4625 days ago

25 September 2009 (M) - hey whats up guys and girls i need help i don't know what to do. my girlfriend always dresses nice when I'm not going to be around like when she goes to school or work or something she never wears nice things when i am. does she have something on ...

My boyfriend thinks I don't support him, I can't argue or I'll lose him!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5205 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - OK, me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 months. I really love him and we have a good sex life. But hes so immature at times. and the problem I face now is nearly losing him. Today he had an argument with my best friend, my best fr...

Does he even love me anymore?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5327 days ago

24 September 2009 (F) - I don't know if its me lately we have been arguing alot we have been together for almost 2 yrs and we live together and we have a child. I love him with all my heart. But he thinks he does'nt need to tell me where he is at all the time. I only ask...

B/f doesn't trust me at all and its driving me bats!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5327 days ago

24 September 2009 (F) - Should i stay or should i go? my boyfriend of 1 year doesn't trust me at all. i don't give him reason not to trust me, i'm very faithful and loving and wouldn't dream of cheating. he accuses me daily of cheating, he genuinly thinks i already have ...

I think I need an intervention to leave him. What do you think?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5324 days ago

23 September 2009 (?) - My boyfriend moved into my house almost four years ago. He has a verified history of keeping outside "relationships" with other women. Last June I caught him in a heated romance with a co-worker, Stacy which he denied, but then suddenly to...