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Archived questions from: August, 2009 (see latest in Trust issues category)

Trust issues: Help and advice

He hasn't physically cheated, but I feel betrayed. How to work on this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5325 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - Sorry this is long but I had a hard time cutting the fat from this thread. Here's the whole story. After I wrote and proofread this I realized I don't feel better at all. I'm sure you will have no difficulty understanding how that is. On Thursd...

Is this my fault? This is not how I imagined love and commitment to be!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5351 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - So I have been dating the same guy for 4 years. Well, we had an 18 month break in between where we still saw each other and slept with each other daily. I continued to help pay his rent and taking care of his daughter during this time. I felt like ...

My boyfriend and his new best friend... he seems suddenly secretive!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5351 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - My boyfriend has a new female friend who he has been somewhat secretive about. Should I be worried? I've been with him two years now and I've never met or heard of this women. Supposedly they were friends in middle school, but they haven't ...

How honest is too honest?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5351 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - Is it ever okay to tell "white" lies in relationships? How would you respond to these questions? Have you ever liked one of your female friends? Have you ever fantasized about being with another girl? Have you ever fantasized about someone el...

My bf cheated and got someone pregnant -- should I forgive him?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5349 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - My boyfriend cheated and had a baby. I found out 10 months later by accident Now he wants another chance. I am so torn because I love him but the entire family knew about it and they all kept quiet. They asked me to cosign for a house..this was befo...

Should I break up with him if I don't feel I can trust him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5350 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - Should I break up with my boyfriend? Or how do I trust him? My boyfriend and I have been going out for about 9 months now, and, overall, our relationship is pretty good. We treat each other with respect; he says he loves me no matter what; and we h...

My gf is moving away to uni, I'm afraid that she's not as committed to the relationship as I am

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5351 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - I'm 23 and my girlfriend is 18. We've been together for 13 months now, and i thought everything was going great. I love her so much and she says she does too. I run my own business with my brother, and my girl has just finished her A levels and is m...

Do you think my colleague is using me for sex?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5321 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - Im just very confused about this guy from work. I cant say I know him that well, we used to just have small talk whenever we bumped into each other and one day he asked me if I wanted to meet up for a drink, so we did and we had such a fun time that ...

My boyfriend dumped me because I'm too emotional, and couldn't accept my past. How do I move on and get over him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5335 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - I've been in a toxic relationship for 3 years, and I don't know what to do. You see in the beginning it was all perfect, it seemed to us (and everyone around us) that we'd been made for each other since we shared the same hobbies, thoughts, ideas, ...

I'm worried that my boyfriend will meet up with his ex girlfriend when he flies over to his home country! Help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5335 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - me and my boyfriend we been together for 6 months and we are madly in love. we both have different culture and religion. but we both understand each other well. soon his going back to his country to see his family and im worried if we meets up with ...

He's my first boyfriend, so is it normal to feel jealous when he's talking to other girls? I fear he'll find someone better!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5335 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - Hey everyone, ok so I'm 15 and I have a boyfriend who's 16 and he's my first boyfriend, but I'm not his first girlfriend. Anyways, whenever he talks to other girls I end up getting super jealous, and i thought that would be a sign showing that i ...

Why he just joking? Why did he do this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5353 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - O.k.. When i was younger about 15 i was dating this guy. We dated for a while but never had sex.. we broke up when i moved and i didn't see or hear from him again until seven years later. i just recently ran into him again and we have been seeing ...

I'm suspecting my fiance's loyalty to me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5353 days ago

29 August 2009 (F) - Hi Everyone, I recently found out that my fiance is a member of an online dating site which really upset me.I glimpsed at the lap top and his e-mail box was open and there it was.I hope I am overreacting but he always told me how he doesn't ever ...

Should I leave my ex a message to let him know I'm still thinking of him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5353 days ago

29 August 2009 (F) - i was with someone for over 3 years...rather than rehash all the tiny things that made me insecure, jealous, just didn't feel right etc...i can admit i was wrong on some of those things and reacted too jealous at times and should have been more ...

Is it possible for a guy to not look at other women when he's in love with his girlfriend?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5353 days ago

29 August 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of three years has been telling me all along that he never looks at other women, and has no interest in anyone but me. I never asked him not to, or expressed a desire either way but he believes it is so fundamental in his beliefs that ...

Is being with a drunk better than being alone?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5353 days ago

29 August 2009 (F) - Hi, I have been in a relationship w/ a man off and on for 9 years. He's cheated in the past, been very emotionally and verbally abusive. Recently, he's been trying to make up for the past, however, he expects me to trust him again overnigh...

He has lied and cheated..and yet can be so good to me...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5351 days ago

29 August 2009 (F) - I have been with my fiance for about 9 months. I am a 22 year old college student and he is a 26 year old with a job, never went to college. This relationship has had a lot of problems, let me just say that to start with. When we got together, we ...

My girlfriend talks about her other guy friends who love her dearly!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5349 days ago

29 August 2009 (M) - Well this is the Issue. I have recently met a girl at work. She is just amazing, she is 20 but really has a good head on her shoulders. I am 28. We became very good friends pretty fast and then She came to know that I liked her more than a friend ...

Should I believe she doesn't remember her drunk-dial? And that nothing happened?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5354 days ago

28 August 2009 (M) - ok, i was recently in a relationship with shall we say "x", we met online and chatted on the phine for about 3 weeks, then we met and had a really good couple of days together, we really hit it off, then the week after she came to visit me and again ...

Are women's aid calls confidential?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5353 days ago

28 August 2009 (F) - Does anyone know-if you call women's aid are they allowed to pass on information to the police or is it strictly confidential...

The lying has stopped... or has it?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5354 days ago

28 August 2009 (F) - My husband and I have been married now for over 8 years and in that entire time, we have been fighting over the same thing: trust. He has broken that trust to the point that it can never be repaired. For the rest of my life, I will never trust him ...

Am I going to have to pay for the entire trip? If so, I think its the end for us!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5354 days ago

28 August 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have been seeing eachother for 3 years with a couple of months break this time last year. When we got back together things were great except he was having money problems so I lent him some. Which I did get back. He's now earning ...

I'm worried that my son may not actually be mine

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5352 days ago

28 August 2009 (M) - I heard off a good friend of mine that my son is apparently not mine. When I met my girlfriend about 5 years ago she was a single mum, who had a 3-year-old son. Two years later, we moved in together, our life was good, we then decided to try...

I have this weird situation with my ex-boyfriend!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5354 days ago

27 August 2009 (F) - Sorry-it’s a bit of a long story. It started 3 years ago-me and my boyfriend had a physical fight and I had bruises, a few days after that I started seeing him in places he shouldn’t have been-like near my mum's when I never took him there I kept ...

I lied and told him I'm a virgin and now I can't tell him the truth!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5355 days ago

27 August 2009 (F) - hi i need advice from anyone out there. im engaged getting married in a few months he thinks im a virgin i told him that i had a medical procedure and they kind of broke my hymen so i dont think i have a hymen told him its easy for me to insert my ...

How should I feel about my girlfriend constantly talking to her ex-husband?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5355 days ago

27 August 2009 (M) - I have been with this woman for 6 1/2 mths. we seem to get along about everything. she moved to my city to get away from her ex and start a new life. when we found each other we instantly clicked.we have been living together for a while ...

I've lost the man I love over something so stupid!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5355 days ago

27 August 2009 (F) - Ok well this is gonna be quite long (sorry) but I desperately need some help. Please be honest with me, I can take any criticism where it's due, but please don't judge me. Ok, so, last year, Id just gone 18 and I was going out with someone . a...

I don't know if I can trust my boyfriend, I'm scared he will leave me again!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5308 days ago

27 August 2009 (F) - I don't know if I can trust my boyfriend. We were a couple for 15 months before and it ended badly and we didn't see or speak to each other for 8 months. We are now together again for 11 months now. The way he told me he was sorry about everything ...

He's proposed before, why not to me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5356 days ago

27 August 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 5 yrs already we have a child together and everything. i have proposed to him before but he doesn't want to get married because he feels that were moving too fast. he has proposed to two other women who have ...

Does he really want to get back with me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5355 days ago

27 August 2009 (F) - My exboyfriend keeps telling me he wants to get back together but things need to change first...such as my jealosy issues, the fact that I don't accept some of his friends..and that I annoy him some times He says he wants us to be together but to ...

When I go away for a year, I'm afraid his feelings for me will fade! What can I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5355 days ago

27 August 2009 (F) - Hi I am a female and I am 23 yrs old and I am bout to go off to school for a year. Well, I am currently dating this guy who i really truly love but i'm scared that while i'm gone he is going to stop lovin me and not want to be with me anymore. I ...

My boyfriend will be going to a college with the same people who caused drama at high school. How do I deal with this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5356 days ago

27 August 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I are soon to start college. Well, I already started, he's starting tomorrow. However, he isn't going to the college we planned for weeks that he'd be going to. I was okay with the idea of him going to this college (out of state), ...

I need peoples' thoughts on how I took him back after he cheated please..

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5356 days ago

27 August 2009 (F) - I was dating my boyfriend for a year before he proposed we moved in together and things were good. We fought like any other couple made up like any other couple. Then we started fighting more he seemed different. One night(at this point it was 3 ...

Four weeks after I found out she cheated, she's texting him again!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5356 days ago

26 August 2009 (M) - My girlfriend had been texting some guy constantly for over 2 years at first I thought nothing of it but it was getting out of hand and if I were to touch her phone would go mad. I did only to find out she has been sleeping with him for 2 years on ...

I found out she cheated on me a year ago!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5356 days ago

26 August 2009 (F) - My partner and I have been together for four and a half years. Since the middle of our sophomore year of college. We started at the same graduate school last year and I'm planning on finishing with my Master's in Education while she wants to go on ...

Why would he lie and say he had sex with her when he did not?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5356 days ago

26 August 2009 (F) - My childhood friend and I have had feelings for each other on and off for the past 15 years of our friendship. But of course always at separate times. I was going to confront him about my feelings this time. Though it isn't as easy as I thought it ...

Did I do the right thing by not taking her number? And how can I stop worrying that every girl I meet might be lying about them being single?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5356 days ago

26 August 2009 (?) - I met a woman today when I was in my local city centre. I'm 23 years old, she's 25 - not much of an age difference really, in my opinion. She seemed like a nice person and we got on well enough. She asked me if I wanted to walk her to the bus s...

My girlfriend wanted to kiss her male friend! Can I trust her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4728 days ago

26 August 2009 (M) - My girlfriend has just told me that she wanted to kiss her male friend while she was on a night out where he happened to be. She didnt kiss him but should i be worried by the fact she wanted to? Also i tried telling her i dont want her to keep in ...

What do you think of the emails my boyfriend and his ex exchanged?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5356 days ago

26 August 2009 (F) - Annoying emails! Hi again, So my boyfriend and I got together he has been split up from his ex a couple of months, but he broke up with her and was not over it, so she started to stir a few rumours up. I told him i thought he should email he...

How do I get through to her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5356 days ago

26 August 2009 (M) - I need help! I had an emotional affair about 9 months ago but it was because i didnt love my gf "K". The other girl "A" stole my heart and apparently i stole hers. "A" now cant bring herself to trust me so that i may prove that i love her and "K" ...

I love him, but could it be that I'd be better off without him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5353 days ago

26 August 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months now and we are expecting our first child, i am now 7 months pregnant, i am 18 and he is 22, although we wasnt together long before we concieved we both knew it was love at first sight, we were made for ...

Is my girlfriend a player?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5357 days ago

25 August 2009 (M) - My question is about if I am being played by a woman or not. I am 36 and have been dating a 42 year old for over 13 months. When we met, she said she was divorced, a mother of 3, and just got out of a relationship with a younger man of an unknown ...

Cheated just before we got married, and now he wants a threesome to even the score!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5344 days ago

25 August 2009 (F) - I cheated on my husband 2 years ago a few months before we got married. I had sex with another man one time (the biggest mistake of my life). Now he wants to make me feel the same way that I made him feel back then by having a threesome this weekend ...

I believe the other woman more than I believe my boyfriend!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5344 days ago

25 August 2009 (F) - i found a girl's number in my bf phone. i asked who it was and he lied. couple days later i found out it was this same girl ive saw be4 on his page on the internet couple months ago. so i told him to call her and have a convo with her. ask her why ...

My partner is away with work & always seems too tired to speak to me. Are these signs worrying?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5357 days ago

25 August 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of five years is currently in another country to work on a company project. He will be away for two months. I am putting every effort possible to keep the communication between us however I somehow feel that he is not as enthusiastic as ...

I'm pregnant & he isn't taking it seriously & is even messing about in txt with my mate! Help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5357 days ago

25 August 2009 (F) - hey i need some advice. iv been with my fiance for a year, im pregnant with his baby and we moved into our own house 3weeks ago my bf has lied to me in the past and iv always been worried hes cheatin on me as he hides his phn and deletes msgs, on...

He's questioning me all the time. I don't know what to do. Please help...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5344 days ago

25 August 2009 (F) - im seventeen years old and ive been going out with my boyfriend since i was fifteen, however we have been friends since i was twelve. By looking at our relationship from an outsiders perspective, you would think that it was perfect. Even my own ...

She slept with someone on holiday, within weeks of us getting together. Is that a bad sign for the future?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5357 days ago

25 August 2009 (M) - So, I’ve been seeing this girl for about a month (long distance) and we started having sex after 3 weeks. She had a preexisting trip to Europe she started calling me two weeks into the trip on a daily basis. Joking (not expecting that she would) I ...

Cheating by texting....I need advice

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5321 days ago

25 August 2009 (F) - My husband and I have been married for over 4 years, we were together for 4 years before we got married. Across our marriage we have the normal peeks and valleys but i have always trusted him 100% in regards to being faithful to me. We still have ...

I think my girlfriend is cheating on me but she always manages to make me feel like I'm in the wrong!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5334 days ago

25 August 2009 (F) - So, I've been in a relationship with the same girl for over five years - off and on - more on than off, though. We've had ups and downs and have mostly worked through them. Problem as of late is that I think she's cheating on me, maybe she isn't ...