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Archived questions from: August, 2013 (see latest in Trust issues category)

Trust issues: Help and advice

My girlfriend has cheated on me several times. Is it acceptable for me to have an affair of my own to show her that there are consequences to her behaviour?

This question has 27 answers - newest was posted 3886 days ago

31 August 2013 (M) - My 28yo GF has been with me for 5 years. This is the best relationship either of us have ever had. Its not perfect but we enjoy each other and we are good for each other most of the time. My GF openly says she used to be a huge cheater. Then...

My best friend is hanging out with my ex and lying to me about it.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3889 days ago

31 August 2013 (F) - Me and my boyfriend broke up three months ago and right after this he moved away to another town where my "best" friend lives. He and I stayed in touch at first but were arguing a lot so have been in touch on and off for the past three months. We ...

I snooped on her computer and don't like what I found!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3886 days ago

31 August 2013 (M) - a couple of months ago i was visiting my LD girlfriend and i had lots of time alone at her place while she was at school. i snooped into her computer historial out of couriosity and i found she had visited some hook up site afew times for the last ...

I feel I am too intimidating .....

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3890 days ago

30 August 2013 (F) - I feel like i am too intimidating to guys and therefore they dont talk/approach me. I have a general 'don't mess with me/i am my own person' attitude that lets boys know that if the try to mess me around like they do to other girls i just won...

Can I make this work or should I give up?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3890 days ago

30 August 2013 (F) - I'm having relationship troubles. My boyfriend and i have been together two years. We were fine until a few months ago. I bought a house and we started doing it up together. That was stressful. Then my dad got diagnosed with prostate cancer and my ...

Secretive girlfriend! How do I approach this?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3888 days ago

30 August 2013 (M) - Been reading through articles on here and they are very useful. However I need some advice still. My g/f has become extremely secretive with texts and calls over the past month or so. There's a guy she's been speaking to and she has become quite ...

What are the signs that would show if it is just casual with my coworker?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3890 days ago

30 August 2013 (F) - Hey everyone I've found myself in a difficult situation with a guy I like. We work together and have been good friends since I started there about 3 months ago. We had flirted a lot but never let that come in the way at work. One night we ended up ...

Am I overreacting or being unrealistic? Am I wrong to distrust her?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3889 days ago

29 August 2013 (M) - This will be a long question, thanks to anybody who reads it and tries to help me! I have been dating my girlfriend for about two and half years. We're both strong-willed people but I guess she's probably a little more hard-headed than...

Am I right in thinking I should be cautious about marrying him?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3891 days ago

29 August 2013 (F) - Hi. I have just found out my boyfriend has court judgements. (Not sure of the term) for unpaid bills. He says his ex wife named him as liable as the expenses were for his child, and he says he never received the bills until it ended up as a legal ...

I don't understand my ex. Does my ex have issues?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3891 days ago

29 August 2013 (M) - My relationship with my ex ended almost 6 months ago as she had been raped 12 months ago. She was able to tell me just a couple details to start with but admitted she had an orgasm. she said she couldn't get it out of her mind or understand how i...

How do you get over trust issues?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3892 days ago

28 August 2013 (F) - How do you get over trust issues? I'm in a relationship with an amazing guy but i cant trust him. You see in every single one of my relationships I have been cheated on and its had a serious affect on me. I get paranoid on where he's going and who ...

She would have left me for someone better than me, did I do the right thing ending things?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3892 days ago

28 August 2013 (M) - It is after the breakup I initiated last week. I am writing trying to hear more from other people's point of view about my situation and decision. Almost two years of relationship with this girl, and I will call this girl H throughout this post. ...

Tells me to be honest, but he gets mad When I am?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3892 days ago

27 August 2013 (F) - My boyfriend always says that he wants me to be open and honest with him about everything no matter what it is. Especially if it has to do with another guy an he would do the same But the thing is, when Im open and honest with him he gets upset wi...

Think he's a got a old crush to keep an eye on! Insecure and need advice!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3893 days ago

27 August 2013 (F) - Hi guys! I have a great long term BF (4yrs) who treats me right, but I can’t help the fact that he really only makes friends with girls. He says his friendships are plutonic and harmless, but another girl has re-entered the picture who seems to ...

I'm worried about boyfriend's immaturity and lack of boundaries

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3893 days ago

27 August 2013 (F) - Hi, I'm trying to figure out if my relationship is good for me or not, me and my boyfriend have had a fair few disagreements, we do usually talk it through sensibly and both feel good afterwards. But there has been one topic that keeps coming...

My wife came back to me after an affair but she's pregnant and I don't know if it's mine

This question has 23 answers - newest was posted 3890 days ago

26 August 2013 (M) - My wife left me for another man last year, she was carrying this hidden affair for a while. I was clueless or chose to be blind about it. She broke my heart because I really do love her, I tried really hard to get her to come back and she did. She ...

LDR says I'm nicer than the other girls he's been with

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3894 days ago

25 August 2013 (F) - This year I went on holiday with my family and whilst I was away, I met a guy who lives in Wales and I'm from England, so we could make it work. The hitch is, he is 19 and has slept with 18 girls, including a threesome he told me about whilst he ...

Been single for 2 months, met someone nice. Is it too soon to be venturing into something new?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3894 days ago

25 August 2013 (F) - I am 16 years old and I think for the first time in ages I have met someone nice. So far in my life I've been in two relationships both of which have been violent, abusive and I've just been cheated on and been stupid enough t...

Am I just being paranoid and irrational and needy?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3895 days ago

25 August 2013 (F) - Well my boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months. I've dated many guys but I only really fell deeply in love with a couple of them and I did fall deeply in love with him. A long time ago I dated an emotionally abusive guy and he also cheated ...

Nothing has been said since I reminded her of her sexual past, should I bring it back up?

This question has 38 answers - newest was posted 2404 days ago

25 August 2013 (M) - I am upset over something but don’t have the right to be. I posted last hear on Dear cupid and got some good feed back. Let me explain and get your reaction. I have suffered from retroactive jealousy for a number of years. I realize the p...

The house will be "ours" but he is making the rules!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3894 days ago

24 August 2013 (F) - Both in our 50's and only been married 10. months. We lived together happily for a year before but now bicker all the time. He feels that he has fitted into my lifestyle whilst at my house and we are now moving to his. I never wanted this but ...

I fear I am being used and lied to!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3895 days ago

24 August 2013 (F) - I need to know if my boyfriend is lying and using me. The thing is my boyfriend used my computer to go on to Facebook and forgot to log out. I noticed this and automatically went to do so when I saw my name in a concerning way so I read it. I felt ...

Her parents don't know we are married.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3894 days ago

24 August 2013 (M) - Dear Cupid, I really don’t know where to start.. I met a beautiful lady (24) that is now my wife accidentally through social media whilst I was part of a high profile event which we both were using such public platform to talk about. Cut a lo...

He is pushing me away and here I am, crying my eyes out!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3897 days ago

24 August 2013 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. He's 35 and I'm 31. My boyfriend has basically been neglecting me. He's always been the initiator in the relationship when it comes to texting/contact and anymore he doesn't even try. We don't live together ...

Borderline personality disorder is affecting my relationships

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3839 days ago

23 August 2013 (F) - Sorry, this is going to be long, but I do really appreciate your help! Here is my full story, for those of you who read/answered my last post. First things first, I am a female who has been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. If you...

Worth trying? Or pointless? Do you think I can contact her and have coffee and try for the truth?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3895 days ago

23 August 2013 (F) - Thank you Aunts for your time reading my agony...My boyfriend of 2.5 years had a ' friend' that he met up with at her house unbeknownst to me over a year ago, i caught him there, he said they were just friends and were talking about a guy she was ...

My boyfriend blames me for his recent sexual problems

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3895 days ago

23 August 2013 (F) - My Baby's father got a problem. he lost his sex drive. No erectoin and ejaculate very quikly. he's in mid 40's pls help me. Now accusing me of missing my ex. he saw msg on my phone. Of one of my friends. Pls help!!!...

I get jealous of his virtual game girlfriend!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3899 days ago

22 August 2013 (F) - Dear Cupid, I've returned once again with a new relationship and I'm extremely happy with him. I met him the same way I met my last boyfriend on an online game, but we live in the same state so we can go out. However now on the game we ...

I'm very concerned that my boyfriend is getting a female roommate

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3899 days ago

21 August 2013 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and I've always trusted him. I've known him for years and he was never a cheater with girls and was always well behaved. We've done long distance for the last few months and it's still ...

My Bf, while still a child, suffered sexual abuse by a male pedophile. Can this affect the relationship between my Bf and I, long term?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3898 days ago

21 August 2013 (F) - My boyfriend recently told me that he was sexually abused by his male coach when he was 8. I am the only woman he has ever had sex with and he says loves making love to me. He says he feels very loved and complete afterwards. He said that he does...

Boyfriend's lie about my birthday present makes me wonder if things can ever work between us?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3899 days ago

21 August 2013 (F) - my bf of almost 2 years lied to me. it was about my birthday present. he said he had ordered something off amazon for me and told me what it was and told me to look out for packages and everything. to make a long story short, i found out he never ...

Single parent and scared. Based on his track record and his baggage: Should I be scared?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3899 days ago

20 August 2013 (F) - Hi everyone I need a bit of clarity about my relationship with my ex and I also want to know if you guys think I have done the right thing, because at the moment I an questioning it..please bear with me as this is quite long! Two years ago I met m...

He's acting like I cheated on him! I did not!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3899 days ago

20 August 2013 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for a little over 2 years now. Recently I turned 21, my boyfriend however will not be 21 until June. On my birthday we spent the whole day together and later that night I was going to go out with friends. Since the ...

I'm in love with him but he won't give me any commitment

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3900 days ago

19 August 2013 (F) - Since March this year I have been in touch with a Korean man online. We met on a penpals website so I was not looking for a relationship. He's based in London on a two year student visa. When we first started talking it was very casual but after a ...

My husband has many close female friends.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3900 days ago

19 August 2013 (F) - I'am not the jealous type I'm very laid back and always tried to avoid drama by not hanging out with certain ppl. My husband got a lot of female friends he talked to form day to day I have not met them yet and they called him for advice all the ...

My curvy LDR gets advice from her friends to lose weight. I like her just the way she is. Should she listen to her friends or me?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3901 days ago

19 August 2013 (M) - I have been in LDR with an American girl for two years. We met once in South East Asia and spent two weeks together. I'm 32 and she is 34. She is curvy and always asks me whether, "should I lose weight or not?" Also, if she loses weight, he...

Could this man have deeper feelings for this girl? Known this man a long time but he still only appears to flirt, nothing more? Is he attracted to her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3901 days ago

19 August 2013 (F) - Dear cupids, is it just normal (attraction is there but no more than friendship) or there are deeper feelings involved when a man who has been friends with a woman for over more than 7 years acted and done the things listed below? First, let's sa...

Only my extreme shyness is stopping me from talking to him. How do I get over being shy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3901 days ago

19 August 2013 (?) - Ok so, school starts Next Monday and that means I get to see my crush again. Yay! But I'd be happier if I can actually talk to him. I'm extremely shy and find it impossible to talk to him. It's not even funny, whenever my mom always ask me to buy s...

He's 16 and I'm 17. Should I try to talk to him when I see him at choir?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3901 days ago

19 August 2013 (F) - Ok so! Recently I finally got over my ex, it took like 6 months but I am finally over him, we ended up just honestly stay best friends. Anyway now that I have moved on I found this new guy I really kinda like. I always saw him around the schoo...

Should a person spend so much time with someone who isn't a bf or gf?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3901 days ago

19 August 2013 (F) - My bf and I see each other every week day for like 1 or 2 hours, we go to the same university and we only see each other between classes. When I go home after class, my bf hangs with a male friend, they spend the whole afternoon together fro...

We are soulmates but now he's ignoring me.

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 3892 days ago

19 August 2013 (F) - I've been in a whirlwind relationship that I would consider my soulmate. He is recently divorced, a messy divorce, and has kids. I'm longtime divorced with no children. It was love at first sight for both of us and he asked me to marry him ...

I thought our relationship was my business! Am I overreacting?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3902 days ago

18 August 2013 (F) - I have been with this guy for a while now. I love him very much and thought he felt the same way. we use to share everything. He is the only guy friend I felt I needed. I don't talk to other guys on the phone or internet. I recently found out that ...

I don't know if I'm in the right relationship. How do you know?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3894 days ago

17 August 2013 (F) - How do you know if you're in the right relationship? Is there really a "right" relationship, or is it all about finding someone who is "mostly" what you want and then working really hard at the relationship to make it last? I'm not trying to ch...

Troubled situation with girlfriend and her family coming here. I'm afraid I'll come home to nothing!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3901 days ago

17 August 2013 (M) - I posted last week about my girlfriend being entitled to her privacy.. since then it has been a roller coaster of me having hope and thinking things will change and utter despair. I do not know how to cope with this situation that she has/I have p...

I know he loves me, BUT.. Is it when he's feeling tired and weak or something that he looks at the Facebook pages for his ex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3903 days ago

17 August 2013 (F) - I've noticed that when my boyfriend is feeling down about something, or bored, he looks up his ex girlfriends facebook page. For example, he injured himself training before a competition at the weekend and was quite angry about it, and he looked u...

Am I wasting my time with this 'second chance' stuff if he can't even honor the date we arranged that was due to happen on Sunday?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3902 days ago

17 August 2013 (F) - My boyfriend of 4 years and I almost split up last week. It was me who initiated the break up conversation as I feel he puts too much emphasis on his friends and going out with them rather than spending time with me. He got really upset and...

What are some proven successful ways to overcome premature ejaculation?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3903 days ago

17 August 2013 (M) - For anyone who can help but mostly to those who had premature ejaculation and has overcame it. I have sexually intimate with my girlfriend for over 2 years now. My first time with her was my first time and also my most embarassing moment. I go...

I lied about being pregnant, how do I fix this with him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3901 days ago

17 August 2013 (F) - I was with a man for a year and he left mefor an ex. The ex did not want him, she just did not want him with anyone else. That fact is confirmed. She said I had to be completely gone. So i did something i am not very proud of, so please do not put ...

Could he have another girl over ? Could he be out with her, or worse, in his house with her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3903 days ago

17 August 2013 (F) - I have been lied to and cheated on in the past by men. My current boyfriend (of 8 months) fully admits he cheated and lied in his 20's(he's now in his 40's). He once told a GF he was visiting family when in fact he had flown across country t...

She wants space, how should I approach this?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 3903 days ago

16 August 2013 (M) - My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years. We both loved each other endlessly from almost the very beginning. For me, she is the love that I have searching for my whole life and from letters and notes from her I am her one and only. S...