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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:hey I have a problem and I don't know how to fix it.I don't trust anyone, not my friends, not my reatives... like, I wouldn't put it past anyone to sell me out or anything. Any time I like a guy and it's going well I tend to sabotage it beore he gets too close and then he usually ends up hating me, thinking i'm wierd and often try to ruin my life for fun.. this led to me having my first kiss with an ugly loser when I was horribly drunk - not something of which I am proud.I think I have trust issues because a guy was a totall jerk to me when I was like 12/13 and sent me into a massive depression for a while.Any advice on how to fix myself up?If anyone knows of similar experience, care to share?thanks
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reader, B123 +, writes (28 October 2009):
 Trust is something a person usually earns and perhaps you are reluctant to give it for some particular reason or another. The point is perhaps you are not v comfy in your relations and as a result its causing you this blockage. I would sincerely advice you to take a step back - maybe you are not allowing yourself to trust due to fear. Do you fear if you trust a person they will let you down constantly??? do you fear that they will mistreat you if you let them in to your thought process? These are questions that only you have the answer. You need to take some time for yourself - be happy with yourself. You will only open up to others when you feel ready. It won't happen either until you can give a chance to the other person. But that of course is entirely up to you. Hope that is of some help.
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