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Archived questions from: February, 2009 (see latest in Trust issues category)

Trust issues: Help and advice

I resent that she's turned the tables on me and wants me back AGAIN.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

28 February 2009 (M) - Having read much of the excellent advice given on here I am hoping that someone can help me. Over my 17 year marriage my wife and I have split up 3 times. The first time was after 8 years and was partly because of my social anxiety disorder ...

I accepted his apologies, why doesn't he accept mine?

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28 February 2009 (F) - I got jealous and was mad and Hurt. In turn i hurt him because he looked at differently and saidthat I was being disrpectful. Which looking back I was rude and disrespectful but I was enraged. things appeared to be different than they were. After ...

Have I been single for too long?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - Hi, As a single parent of 2 teenagers still reeling from the effects of acrimonious and lengthy, energy-sapping divorce I have lost all sense of self and fun and ability to enjoy life. Since the failure of this relationship I have had problems with ...

I feel like an old stupid woman!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5514 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - I am a 53 year old caucasian woman. Been married for 28 years. My husband is 58. Have four adult children lost an only son to suicide. My husband cheated on me for 1 year with three asian young women. He had a five month affair with one and took ...

I'm ready for sex but I don't like my body!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5052 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - hello (Im 14 and im still at school ) i have liked this boy for about 2 years now i told him last wednesday and he was like oh ok me and him had a fight on thursday he said sorry on friday and he gave me a long hug at break then he gave me a...

I don't know if I should break up with my LD b/f or not?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5517 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - I dont know if I should break up with my long distance bf or not. Now, usually, I am the type of person who is very determined and commited to making something work, especialy realtionships. I dont give up easily on things- I always try my ha...

Why are my ex and his friends accusing me of these weird things?

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27 February 2009 (F) - I broke up with my boyfriend of nearly 2 years at the beginning of this year, as our relationship has not been good since I started university in October, and we had serious trust issues. Unfortunately things did not end that well between us and we ...

Knowing how serious they were...I'm not sure I can be with him anymore!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5530 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - My partner cheated on me in 2007 but we got back together after 6 months, 4 of those months he was with the woman he cheated on me with. When we got back together he said that she'd meant nothing to him, that she just showed him some attentio...

She's sent a photo to him but says she loves me but there's things I know that she hasn't told me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

27 February 2009 (M) - Ok, Me and my girlfriend have been together almost 6 months. I love her i really do and i understand that females have guy friends and thats cool. She tells me she loves me all the time but i found a letter from one of her friends in prison and he ...

Will all of this that I have found out "blow" over???

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5527 days ago

27 February 2009 (M) - I just found out my wife cheated on me while we were engaged. I'm really angry and hurt. I don't know what to do. We were engaged and got married in Summer 2007. There was one time we had a big fight and didn't speak for 2 weeks, but didn't break up...

How can I win her trust back? I love her so very much.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5530 days ago

27 February 2009 (M) - At the start of our relationship, I made the horrible decision to talk with some ex's in a way that I shouldn't. It was completely online, and I did not cheat physically in any way. To be frank, I was scared of the relationship I am in. It was ...

Should I try and talk to him or just let him go?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - His jealousy makes him angry and he gets himself very upset. He is not one to handle any type of emotional strife of any sort. But instead of talking about things and working through it he would rather walk away. He says he cant have any roller ...

How do I know if he'll lie and deceive me again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - My husband has been having an affair for 9 months. Twice he said he would never see her again. The third time I kick him out. He has been living with her the last 2 months, lying and deceiving me. He was calling a dating service 13 years ago for 3 ...

I don't know much about her, how can I know her better?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

27 February 2009 (M) - Hi, I am in a strange situation and need your expert advice.I am 26, and well settled professionally. However I have never been in a relationship with a girl mainly due to my shy and introverted nature, moreover I always was of the belief that I ...

I have learned to live with my height!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5518 days ago

27 February 2009 (M) - Being short is more of a problem for a guy than a woman.I know because while growing up i experienced it happening to me.At school i was treated differently by teachers and the odd teacher used to point out my lack of height.There was a science ...

Found out that my ex cheated on me, and I feel guilty and have trust issues.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5531 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - i just found out my ex (broke up with me less than a week ago) cheated on me. i'm trying to deal with things in the best way possible. i'm not doing psycho ex stuff, or trying not to. i'm letting out steam by talking to my friends. i constantly tell ...

An unmarried woman calls my husband very often, I'm not sure how far can I trust my hubby in this case?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - Hi My husband and I got married one year back and ours was a love marriage. My husband is generally of humorous type and mingles well with everybody at work. But recently, an unmarried woman calls him very often and he also talked to her ...

What do I do? Where do I go from here?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5531 days ago

26 February 2009 (F) - Hey guys. Me and my boyfriend have been together for just over 2 and a half years now. I love this guy to pieces and he is the best. He is my first true love and we even lost our virginity to each other. We have created a really special bond that I ...

He says maybe when he has lost some weight we will have sex again!? I don't understand him.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5531 days ago

26 February 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfrined for 2 years now. Since september last year he has been acting strange and we havent been sleeping together. We have has sex 4 times since then. He isnt cheating on me i know that for sure because i am always with him.He ...

I can't stop snooping because I worry he will cheat, please help me me keep my family!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

26 February 2009 (F) - Hi everyone. I'm going to start off by saying I feel like I have really accepted that part of him, soemtimes anyways. But I just cant stop snooping. I worry all the time that he is cheating, why you ask becuase I was with a guy before him who ...

How can I win back my lady's trust?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5531 days ago

26 February 2009 (M) - I've been in a relationship for 20 years, my partners self esteem has hit an all time low, and she doesn't feel she can trust me. I've been working in a pub with a girl who I've got on really well with, I considered us to be friends but my partner ...

My fiance has a problem with her own past and I'm starting to feel like I'm held hostage in this relationship!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5531 days ago

26 February 2009 (M) - I've been in a LD relationship and have been engaged for just over nine months. I really love my fiance very much but we have recently been experiencing problems. We disagree on many issues and cannot seem to compromise as we both are stubborn. ...

How would she of gotten his email address if he wasn't a member?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5531 days ago

26 February 2009 (F) - i found a email from a girl in my husbands email box that had her email address. she claims to be from adult friend finder and it read this. hey its been like a month or something since we last chatted and I was thinking about you and decided to s...

Relationship Help! Cheating girlfriend, broken heart, sexual past.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

26 February 2009 (M) - I really need help people, im am in a mental and emotional dilemma that is eating me more and more everyday, and i dont know how much longer i can take it unless i get some advice to get over something. I read articles and articles, but i cant get...

Should I fight for my love for him or just go our separate ways??

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5531 days ago

26 February 2009 (F) - hi, i have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years... and i just found that there has been another woman in his life for at least 4 months.... what should i do??? should i fight for my love for him or just go our separate ways??...

I bought a ring to ask him to marry me..

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

26 February 2009 (F) - My boyfriend thinks I am cheating on him; he came home and I was hanging out with one of the people he works with; but we've all hung out before ;and I didn't think anything of it. All me and this guy did was talk about tattoos, concerts, some ...

Is there any hope for me and my former cheater husband?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5531 days ago

25 February 2009 (F) - Hi, Im wondering If anyone can help my sitation, I was I in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4yrs. He left me 2 months ago, I found out lasy year he was having a affair with a married women for about 7 months. Any way He pleaded with me to work ...

He has a GF but is really nice to me and I'm afraid she's gonna get mad!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5531 days ago

25 February 2009 (F) - i like this guy who's my senior but he already has a gf. Of course, i hope they'd have a good relationship but there's something that's been bugging me. For one, his gf keeps glaring at me in the corridor and he's been subtly being really nice for ...

Pregnant with his child, but suspect he's gay... I'm so confused!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

25 February 2009 (F) - Me and my partner are about to have our first child, although he's very manly ie:- sports, beer, sex, the usual, I've seen a few times now that he has been on gay porn for straight guys and shemales websites. It makes me feel sick but I don't wa...

My girl is skiing in Austria with her guy friends and I'm a nervous wreck.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

25 February 2009 (M) - my gf is in austria atm, skiing with skl. i kinda dont like her doing this cos i know that her mates (boys) will try flirting with her. its been 4 days since she left, and 4 days till she comes back. i have been a nervous wreck for the last week, ...

I think she's cheating as she's alot wider down there than she used to be...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

25 February 2009 (M) - i think my girlfriend may be having sex with some one else. she is a lot wider down there than what she used to be, i have been seeing her for a year know and i dont fit aswell as i used to. am i write in thinking this way. can some one help me out ...

Insecure when GF doesn't show me attention. Change or breakup?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

25 February 2009 (M) - I am in a relationship where I feel my girlfriend has all the control. She is 21, and I am 24, we have been dating for 2 months. I feel like I love her, but its hard to be happy when I realize that I am soo needy in this relationship. My last ...

I found out my girlfriend had cheated in the past and is lying to me too....Can I trust this girl?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

25 February 2009 (M) - My question is similar to one I've read, but I want to post the question for myself. I'm in a relationship where the trust has been damaged, I've been lied to a few times. Each of these lies had a "purpose", or some kind of plausible reason...

I don't want her man!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5533 days ago

24 February 2009 (F) - I'm married and have been for seven months. I used to like this one guy. And he cheated on his gf with me (this is not the guy that I am married to.) This happened two years ago. Well, I have been trying to tell her about certain inci...

I have a mental blockage about sex since that night, how can I be less nervous?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5533 days ago

24 February 2009 (M) - I was going to have sex with my girlfriend of only 2 weeks, when I was 14, almost 15. I know this was a stupid thing to do, and I should never have even considered it, but I felt ready. It was my one chance, and I didn't want to muck it up. I was ...

Did she or didn't she

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5290 days ago

24 February 2009 (M) - my girlfriend confessed to having sex with another guy. she even gave some detail. after a couple of days she told me she made it all up! i dont know what to believe! my gut tells me that she did! what do i do?...

I'm insecure about my saggy clit, help?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5008 days ago

24 February 2009 (F) - mkkay well can you help me! i wanted ta know is it normal for your clit to be saggy? and is it a turn off? i didnt let my ex touch me down there because i as so insecure about it! i want to sex my boy friend but im afraid he will be freaked out by ...

He's jealous and always wants to know where I am!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5534 days ago

24 February 2009 (F) - Hi everybody Iam sorry this will be long but please advice me what to do. 2 start with is I was engaged with this man for over 16y I have 2 girls with my previous marage and a son with this guy, he never wanted 2 get married I was the one that alw...

G/f cheating on me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5533 days ago

24 February 2009 (M) - hi, i think my gf is cheating on me... we only been dating for a month and a half. but a couple of nights ago she went out wit sum guy friends and went home around 3am. then that morning she went to her ex boyfriends house because he's off to join ...

Should I let my wife wear spandex to work?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5533 days ago

24 February 2009 (M) - is it okay for me to let my wife out the house wearing tight spandex to work?...

I want to trust her while giving her space

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5534 days ago

24 February 2009 (M) - My girlfriend an I had only been together for a couple months when all of a sudden in december she just stopped being affectionate towards me wouldn't kiss me, barely look at me, let alone make love to me. We had made plans for christmas eve and ...

He's always flirting with other women

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5534 days ago

24 February 2009 (F) - My boyfriend seems to constantly be flirting other women, in particular with one of his very close friends (who is a girl and has a boyfriend). I also think he may have dated her a few years ago (though I have never asked him about it). The other ...

My man has a history of cheating on me and dating teenage girls. Now another one says he's with her, but he denies it. Am I wasting my time on a man that'll never change?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5534 days ago

23 February 2009 (F) - Hi everyone, I would like to make it clear that i love my man 101% before i go any further! I'm not sure how to put this but I've been with my man about a year and a half and all is good but in the early day's he did cheat on me with someone but...

She never says "I love you" first, what does this mean?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5534 days ago

23 February 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 months. She got out of a long term commitment last summer that was really hard on her. We've known each other over the years and we reconnected last fall. Our relationship has moved quickly and is very ...

How do I make my boobs smaller?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5534 days ago

23 February 2009 (F) - okay so im 13 years old and my boobs are ridiculously huge(about 44DD!) And i really hate it. no 13 year old should have boobs that big. I can't wear any cute clothes because my boobs are too big to fit in them. and boys are always staring at me and ...

Partner kept nude pictures of a one night stand, I'm not sure what to make of it all!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5533 days ago

23 February 2009 (F) - Hi:) My dilemma is a bit complicated but here goes! I was on my partner's PC looking for pics of a family holiday we had recently had. While looking for the folder they were in I came across a folder full of poetry and short stories he had written. ...

How to handle my husband's trust issues?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5533 days ago

23 February 2009 (F) - I am 27 years old, with three kids and a husband of 6 years. We have been together fo 10 years this April. Well, about 4 yeas ago i left my husband for several reasons the main was i was tired of being taken for granted. I stayed gone for about 3 ...

I'm worried that my b/f's ex wants to bring up their past, what do you think?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

23 February 2009 (F) - My boyfriend was with his ex for 5 years. They have been split up for 2 years now and me and him have been togeher for 9 months. When he split up with his ex they were still sleeping together and she got pregnant she got rid of the baby and my ...

I am very sensitive and take things very personally, help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5535 days ago

23 February 2009 (F) - well first i 10xs all that we are helping each us we can my problem is that i am so sensitive and my bf, he lives far away from me so we dont see each ather just talk by phone and he went out with his friends so i texted him that even that i am no...

My wife is chatting to hundreds of men online even though I have asked her to stop!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

23 February 2009 (M) - I've been married to my wife now for almost 5 years now. We met online in an animated avatar chat room called Habbohotel, and things on the whole are great. but... Basically, i have an issue with her talking to men online. When i knew her...