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Archived questions from: 14 January, 2010 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

We've been together for three years and the spark has gone!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5227 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - I'm in need of help please. I truly love my boyfriend but we're going through a tough time right now and I'm in need of advice. We are both go to college, work, and to make things worse he's a 40 minute drive away. Sometimes we only get to see ...

Oh no! I have a new boyfriend but am falling for his mate!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - I fallin in love with my boyfriend's mate. I cant stop thinking about him. the relationship is new and am his first girlfriend. I need help like badly. what should a do? dump my boyfriend for his mate or forever dream about his mate?...

As soon as we walked out of the church he became a changed man -- and not for the better!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5227 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - Hi, I am 24 and my husband 20, we have been married for 6 months and I am considering divorce. We met in the military and got along great at first. Now that we are married (there has been no honeymoon stage)I dont really think its going to last. My ...

My ex calls me a slut, how do I deal with this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - I hate my ex, I completely hate him and wish something really bad would happen to him! He has given me crap about my past for YEARS, despite my being completely faithful, not even flirting or checking out other guys, despite my giving up friends for ...

We broke up because it wasn't working, but I miss him heaps

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5227 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - i think i miss my ex only problem is i don't want to be missing him. we go to the same uni so i bump into him and its hard not to see him around. we broke up because we agreed it wasn't working he made me feel like other girls were more import...

I don't know which is stronger, my desire to stay with her or my desire to go home to the States

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

14 January 2010 (M) - Hello all My situation is a bit complicated. I live in Spain and work in a Symphony Orchestra here. I met a girl, whom I care for very deeply. On many levels, I believe she has to be my soulmate. I love her very much. The problem is, I...

I am scheduled for an abortion but having second thoughts

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - I am nearly 19 and pregnant. I am about 5 or 6 weeks. I have a appointment booked for the clinic in 5 days to have a abortion but im not sure if i can go through with it..I have been crying and worrying about it for ages now about what I should ...

I lack confidence in the bedroom

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - Dear Cupid :) After being single for 2 years after a VERY messy break up, I've been dating a wonderful guy for 2 months and he is amazing. I've never met anyone more thoughtful or caring and I feel so so lucky to have him :) But there are 2 p...

I don't want a sexual thing, but do crave her attention

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - Okay, So I don't really know where to start with this. I have a friend, also a girl, and we're not the best of friends, but the way we act would make you think otherwise. We're not really into deep conversations or anything, a general cha...

I introduced two friends and they are now a couple, but she has never thanked me for it!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

14 January 2010 (?) - Two of my good friends are going out. I have known him for 6 or more years, and I've known her for 4 years. She's 15 and in my year at school, he is 18 and is in his last year. Well she has been spending all of her time with him and not our litt...

Since I started this relationship all my bad body image fears have come back!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5227 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - Well....I've decided to stay single and out of the spot light for 2 years until recently. I've had bad relationships in the past and they sent me from hell and back so decided to allow myself time, healing and to regain my independence. I have met a ...

I come across as possesive and clingy!

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14 January 2010 (F) - Hi everyone, Basically I'm just looking for some tips because recently I've started thinking that I'm perhaps quite a possessive and clingy girlfriend. I don't ACT super possessive and clingy as I don't want to come across that way and freak ou...

I thought he was flirting with me but he says he has a girlfriend

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5221 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - I have just separated from my husband because he cheated but still live (separeted for 3 months) toguether because of debt and our 2 year old daughter. I recently been flirting with this guy at work, he is always flirting and is extra nice to me co...

My wife cheated, we split, I married,my wife a druggie, my ex wife split, I still want her and my family!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5223 days ago

14 January 2010 (M) - Hello. Three and a half years ago, my wife of nearly 8 years had an affair and wanted me out of the family home so she could move in her new partner. At the time our children were 4 and 3. In a whirlwind i left and started a new relationship. I was ...

Although she knows I love her with all my heart she broke up

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5227 days ago

14 January 2010 (M) - Here's the situation, my girlfriend and I were together for about 2 and a half years, we are both 24 years old now. We fell madly in love with each other and literally got along amazing, had so much fun together, and really could not get enough of ...

Torn between the two and not knowing who to choose

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14 January 2010 (F) - Im 17 and ive had alot of bad relationship experiances in the past I started seeing this guy who i work with, his really genuine but he prefers his mates over me and convocation is limited. Theres this other guy that ive liked ever since i can reme...

I am just fed up with some of the guys I meet!

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14 January 2010 (F) - Hi Ladies and men .... i have a dilemma i need some input into! I am just fed up of some of these guys i keep on meeting! So I met this guy we work near eachother and would always chat when we saw eachother (i cant really talk good to people i fancy ...

My boyfriends behaviour has changed and I am skeptical about his reasons

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - I'm a little skeptical about a few things that have been going on with my boyfriend recently; am I in the right to be skeptical, am I just overly paranoid, should I consult him, and if so, what is the best way to go about that? A little bit of ba...

Since I asked him out on a date, he now ignores me! What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - Im fustrated with this and hope someone can help. Im friends with this man, that ive grown to love. We use to get along so good, always flirting and helping each other out even talking a little online. (we're co-workers) Ive asked him out before and ...

Is he braggin? Or is it true what he says?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - Dear cupid; i am soo sooo confused i have been with this guy for almost a year and a half...but i dont really feel so sure about our relationship. i have his email password and once i checked his email. i know it is wrong. but when i did it i found ...

I'm pregnant and the father has ADHD and anger issues. How do I deal with this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - i am only a teenager. I am Expectin a baby. The Father and i are friends at school. but we fall out a lot. there is 2 reasons for this. he was adhd. lets call him lil for now. lil also has anger issues. as we are both just 13 we are worried. he cant ...

My bf has anger issues, he has cheated and he's hit me 3 times! Stay or go?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5185 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - hey guys. well i will start with the basics. i'm going out with a boy who is fifteen (the same age as me) and we've been basically going out since year eight (seventh grade) so over the years we have obviously become very close, but we have been ...

Will he ever ask me to marry him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - Ok so I am stumped on a big life scenerio. I am 25 years old and have 2 beautiful boys with their dad (we will call him John Doe). We have been in a relationship since we were both 15 years old...we did split up for about a year and a half when we ...

One last text to make him feel bad

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5220 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - i actually thought he liked me.. made me feel so Special and pressured into sex.. and i gave in and i regret it and hate myself SO much:( he didn't even ring to find out if i got home safe or not..it was yesterday and i dont think hes e...

She says she's too young for a long term comitted relationship

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

14 January 2010 (M) - What does it mean when your girlfriend says she feels too young for a serious commited relationship, that she feels trapped, she doestnt like the idea of long term relationships? also what does it mean when she says that because ur her first off...

My husband got laid off and has turned into a couch potato!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5222 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - Ok please help me understand. My husband has been laid off for 3 or 4 month now and he has be come a couch potato. He is so lazy even our daughter sees it. She will say daddy you are a lazy butt. He sleeps till 11:00 or 12:00 every day and then ...

My best friend dumped now I love him and she's trying to get back on with him

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5226 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - I know how bad being in love with your best friends ex sounds and I know people will think instantly "Don't go there. You're risking yuor friendship" but it seems different to me because SHE was the one who messed up their relationship. They'd be...

Despite our 14 year age difference she wants to take it to the next level

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4943 days ago

14 January 2010 (M) - I guys I was trying to ask google for a answer to my heavy heart when I found this community. I met this girl on-line a while back. We became very good friends. And with time we got very close. When we met she was going through a crisis or ...

My LDR can be really nasty to me sometimes

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - I could do with some advice please. I don't know what to do right now about my life and relationship. I have been with my boyfriend for 1 year and 10 months and i thought everything was going as well as it could be. We are technically in a...

How do I help my guy friend get over being rejected by a girl?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - ok so i'm best friends with this guy. we hang out everyday and ignore the rumors that spread. problem is, he's liked this girl for over 8 months and found out that she really doesn't like him. at all. he's crushed. i care about him allot and i hate, ...

I have never felt so lonely and lost before

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5226 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - My heart is so empty. I am 54. My Mum, Dad and brother all died within three months of each other six years ago. My best friend died a couple of months before that. My Mum and Dad lived with me and we were very close. I loved them all so much and ...

My b/f's friends are into weed and I am having trouble accepting it!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - Hi - I have just moved countries to be with my boyfriend and I am just starting to get to know his estabished friends most of whom he knows through sport. He has been cagey about me meeting them, even though I was really looking forward to it, and ...

I have met my perfect girl and yet am unable to perform!

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14 January 2010 (M) - Why can?t I stay hard? I bet you?ve heard a lot of questions like this, but I?m at my wit?s end. I?m a healthy, active 22 year old male. A month ago I got out of a 4 year relationship with a woman who I loved, but felt nothing for for over 6 ...

MY fella broke up with me, and I don't know what to do

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - i was with my fella for over 3 months and we have known each other since we were 13, we got on like a house on fire, no disagreements nothing bad, he has had 2 bad relationships and he had to do as he was told all the time and had arguements 24 7 ...

His mother is creating a massive wedge in our relationship

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - I need some help determining if I have a reason to feel the way I do. Boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years, we have had some rocky patches mostly due to his divorce (which is now final). In the beginning we moved things far too q...

Finally, I am going to meet my LDR but he is worried about his sexual inexperience

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - I leave to visit my LDR for 3 months in Africa next Monday (yaay!!). I'll spare you all of the other details of our relationship except to say that we're both open to sex if the right time comes. ...but here's the thing--one moment he's exci...

My friend can't see that he is not good for her!

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14 January 2010 (F) - My friend has been dating a guy for about a year now. He was nice and sweet at first and they made a cute couple. But then he started to be a jerk to her and her friends. He's been trying to pressure her into sleeping with him even though he knows ...

When she was married we communicated all the time, now she is a single mum, not a peep!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

14 January 2010 (M) - Hi folks, my dilema is this. I have known this women for nearly 3 years now. We used to work together, we go on well. She was married at the time. Any way i moved an hour away to Cape Town, but we stayed in touch via sms and i used to pop downand ...

I am so lonely I cry and cry every night

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - The guy I dated for several months moved away and I'm so heartbroken. I was always independent and never had a real relationship til this guy, and now I can't stand being alone! I feel so sad and lonely all the time, and would do anything to meet ...

I really want to be with him, or be his friend, but worry he might not want to even talk to me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5228 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - My cruch and I went to high school together and we were pretty good friends then. I didn't get to talk to him as much as I wanted to though because his girlfriend saw to that, who I was friends with. He and I were also really shy around each other ...

I know he loves me but I don't know if it's enough

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5228 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - For the past few days me and my bf of 8 months have been arguing. Like any relationship we have had our ups and downs but for the most part we have had the most beautiful loving relationship. but for some reason i can't seem to get over this ...

She left me because she wanted to 'grow' as a person

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

14 January 2010 (M) - My first post here.. sorry for making it sooo long.. Everything was perfect and I was the happiest bf ever We would say "I Love You" and we are the type of people that don't toss around "I Love You" like if it was nothing. We would talk...

I am crushing on my same sex friend

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - I'm 14, female, and bisexual. So, I guess you could say I've totaly fallen for my closest friend who's a girl. I've fallen hard too, because I've never liked someone this much, ever. When me and her hang out together by ourselves I am fine, I can ...

Could my man be in the closet?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4943 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - How do u know if your man is in the closet? (gay) I mean I don't want to think stuff like that, but he has sooo many male friends its ridiculous. I mean new people poppin up here and there. Yet, this newyears I don't think he invited none of these ...

I did what she asked and now she beats me up

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - I'm am very upset. A couple of months ago my friend told me to tell the guy tht she liked tht she liked him. I told him and she got mad at me. At first she just ignored me. Then she started bumping ke and tripping me in the halls. Then she beat me ...

I have ugly feet and keep them covered all the time

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - Ok I have a problem..I never showed any of my boyfriends my feet because I'm very insecure with them.I love my boyfriend and we are about to move in our own apt. He never seen them. I would like to do all tha fùn things with him that all the girls ...

I lack self esteem and it hurts my boyfriend!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5228 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - i have a problem that hurts my boyfriend...... its wierd the way i act when im with my boyfriend and we are out in public for example we are eating out for dinner lets say well if a girl sits beside us i feel lets of a woman when i see their bodies ...

How much space do I give her?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

14 January 2010 (M) - How much space do i give her? Summed up, ive known her for about 5 months now. We have been serious now for the past month. All of a sudden (like 3 days ago) i start getting a bad vibe/attitude. Really short replies on everything. Come...

How can I get him to communicate more?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5228 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - hey i really need advice, my boyfriend does not like to talk or show any emotions or affection however i am a very emotional person and i love to show him and talk to him about my feelings but he claims he doesnt like talking about his emotions or ...

Is my fiance in denial about drugs?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5227 days ago

14 January 2010 (F) - Hi First of all thanks to all of you who answered my first question okay I am letting my fiance stay until the first of February but to me he is in denial or should I say trying to break me and let him continue to live with me I ...

Would you call this cheating?

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14 January 2010 (M) - I'm 26, not exactly a teen any more, and my gf is 24, we've been dating for year and a half now. She recently started a new job 3 months ago. But shes been acting really distant the last few days, shes been dressing up really nice, hardly calls me ...