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I am crushing on my same sex friend

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Question - (14 January 2010) 4 Answers - (Newest, 14 January 2010)
A female United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I'm 14, female, and bisexual. So, I guess you could say I've totaly fallen for my closest friend who's a girl. I've fallen hard too, because I've never liked someone this much, ever. When me and her hang out together by ourselves I am fine, I can keep eye contact, I don't blush too often, and I have no trouble talking to her. When it's me, her, and other people I blush constantly, I cannot keep eye contact and I have trouble talking to her, and I'm always smiling around her, like non-stop! Why am I like this?

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A female reader, jodaii United Kingdom +, writes (14 January 2010):

First you need to find out what way shes orientated sexually. I have recently been through the same thing with my best friend, about a year ago I realised I was gay and that I liked her, she told me she was bi and about six months later I told her I liked her. I recomend to you to take your time, do not rush things at all, and if she seems at all uncomfortable just back off. After I told my mate I liked her it got really awkward for ages and she messed me arround a lot. Eventually we got together, lasted about a week when she cheated on me. Fortunatly, after a horriblily long period of silence and hate between eachother we are back to being good friends. So, take your time, dont rush anything and just remember, whatever happens in the end you will still have youre friend in the end. Just be prepared for a bit of pain, and remember not to blame yourself at all! You cant help being attracted to someone, you cant choose who you like, its a natural thing, so dont beat yourself up about it! PM me if you want anymore help :) Good luck and I hope you find happiness!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2010):

This is verified as being by the original poster of the question

She knows I like her, my friends all know I do and that I'm bi! Sorry i forgot to add that

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A female reader, xo.diamond.ox Canada +, writes (14 January 2010):

xo.diamond.ox agony auntmy advice to you would be to maybe change your ways, like guys more. This girl u like might not b into the bisexual thing. its just not a good idea. if u change ur ways. things will b alot better.

all the best

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A male reader, The Realist Canada +, writes (14 January 2010):

The Realist agony auntIt sound like you are attracted to her, plain and simple. Now you have to make a difficult dicision between letting her know and possibly making a friendship really awkward or not telling her and having to keep your feelings bottled up.

Look for signs that she might be into to you or bring up the bisexual thing and see what she says. For all you know she could be interested and if she is totally turned off of that idea then don't ask.

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