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Archived questions from: 21 January, 2010 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

My ex bf is messing with my head but I can't let go! Help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5219 days ago

21 January 2010 (F) - i broke up with my ex tim* 4 months ago (we were together for a year and a half and completely in love) because this is our senior year and i felt like i missed out on having fun with my own friends and i felt like i was in a committed relationship ...

Am I investing my time for it all to end anyway???

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5215 days ago

21 January 2010 (M) - I am in love beyond what I ever thought possible. I was once married (for almost 10 years), and left that relationship a hollow (cynical) man. I spent a lot of time learning about myself, my needs, and ultimately what I wanted. At about the time...

Discussing marriage with my bf...greatly upsets him. What should I do?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5215 days ago

21 January 2010 (F) - I have been dating my bf for 4 years. Whenever we try to have a serious discussion regarding our future (marriage) he gets extremely upset with me (i.e. yells, shouts, HUGE arguments). I try very hard to do special things for him. I cook, clean, ...

I still love him! So how do I salvage this relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5219 days ago

21 January 2010 (F) - Hey aunts and uncles i need advice ive been having problems with my boyfriend and i cant seem to get him off my mind. he took my virginity and he did confess to me that he had female friends. but i believe its more. however i have male friends and a ...

Scared of this gang girl who is mad at me! What shall I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5218 days ago

21 January 2010 (F) - Ive some how been involved in a bit of trouble with this girl. Apparently I've been sending some slutty pictures around.[which I HAVEN'T]. She is the type of girl you dont want to know. She texted my mate to say "when i see her (me) she's gonna wish ...

H's bashing me to other people, on this dating site! What is his problem?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5219 days ago

21 January 2010 (?) - I dated someone who is now on match.com and is bashing me to the women he is now communicating with. A friend on match.com found this out through her community of members and told me. I texted him and let him know i knew, which of course he denied. ...

He turns angry and aggressive when I attempt to leave him! What should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5213 days ago

21 January 2010 (F) - hi sorry this is going to be a long post but i will shorten it as much as i can. i have been with my partner 5 years - we no longer live together - i dont want to be with him anymore but am scared to leave him. He has been violent and ...

How do I ask him back? Its my wrong and I admit it.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5219 days ago

21 January 2010 (F) - i broken up with him 3 months ago. I wanted him back after a week of breaking up but he refused because i hit him and scolded him in front of some people for some other thing he did. I was asking myself is pride so important? Then only recently i ...

My best friend's in love with me! But I don't see him that way.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5219 days ago

21 January 2010 (F) - I met him two years ago.. (He's two years elder to me and we're in the same school) Since then we've been best friends. We used to hang out all the time, and talk the whole day. And he kept on having a crush on me. I didnt know about it till my ...

Am I wrong for getting upset at the way my bf disrespects me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5219 days ago

21 January 2010 (F) - Ok, my and my boyfriend have been together for almost 5 years. I'm starting to question our relationship though because of the inconsideration he has for me and my feelings. Last night his nephews and niece had stopped by with his sister. His ...

I'm in love with my best friend but she doesn't love me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5219 days ago

21 January 2010 (M) - im in love with my best friend ive been friends with her for three years we have even kiss a couple of times and our other friends say we should go out and she the only girl that makes me happy and i feel like she the one but we're both in ...

Should I end my marriage to find real love, or just be happy that I have someone who loves me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5219 days ago

21 January 2010 (M) - Ok i get married to a wonderful lady to help her out of a bad situation. we have been married almost two years. i love her but am not in love. I am 54 years young. i think everyday about how to get out, but don't want to hurt her and dont want to be ...

Am I in the wrong for getting upset over my girlfriend chatting to men late into the night?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5218 days ago

21 January 2010 (M) - Hey everyone, I could REALLY use your independent opinions on a big issue I'm having with my GF! Help! Now, either I am nuts and the problem's all mine, or she's not treating me right! Please help me figure this out! We've been going out for...

I am a female with a confusing freindship with my gay male friend who I love

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5219 days ago

21 January 2010 (F) - Hello all, I am a female and I have had a kind of 'bi' male freind for the last two years ( Well, I say kind of bi he is gay at the crux of it - he has dated and slept with a few women in the past, but now men)Anyway,he is very nice, we are ver...

I cant stop questioning my boyfriend after he cheated on me while I was pregnant! How can I stop myself from doing this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5219 days ago

21 January 2010 (F) - my boyfriend cheated on me when i was 6 months pregnant. 9 months on we are still together but im still having my doubts. i keep getting the same dream of him and this girl every night before i go to sleep and its really starting to get me down and ...

I'm questioning the love of my boyfriend and I don't know why!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5219 days ago

21 January 2010 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for two wonderful years, and I couldnt imagine life without him. The only problem is, when he left to go to start some schooling I was lonely and made-out with another man, nothing more than that. I felt ...

I need some impartial views on my situation!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5219 days ago

21 January 2010 (F) - Hi Guys, I/we seriously need some help!!! A bit of background (some of you may find this familiar!) http://www.dearcupid.org/question/nothing-concrete-but-more-seems-to-be-going.html Anyway after a hell of a year last year, my husband and I ha...

I don't know what to do about our problems in the bedroom department!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5219 days ago

21 January 2010 (F) - I have been with my partner for 9 months, living together for 8 of those, I've found out lots of things about him that I couldn't have imagined, but I love him with all my heart and he loves me, my problem is that he doesn't make love to me, he did ...

I'm planning on leaving my wife some day because I don't find her attractive. Does the problem lie with me or with her?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4537 days ago

21 January 2010 (M) - Dear cupid, I have been married for more than twenty years now. I have children (two teenagers) and the youngest one is 17 now. The problem is I married my wife for ten different reasons and none of them is love. I don't like her, physically speak...

Should I finish with him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5219 days ago

21 January 2010 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend in a long distance relationship for 2 years. He lives in Bulgaria and I am in the UK. We have always been planning for me to join him in Bulgaria and we decided once he had a steady job there and somewhere for us to ...

I want to spend the rest of my life with my boyfriend but I cant trust him!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5219 days ago

21 January 2010 (F) - I don't no wat to do! im really in love with my boyfriend and I want to be with him for the rest of my life, but I can not trust him. we been together for 4 and some years andd we had our ups and downs and stayed with him at those times. but now I ...

How to deal with my boyfriend's anger issues?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5219 days ago

21 January 2010 (F) - I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and I'm in love with him but he has anger issues..he lost his dad when he was 5yrs old. He says that's why he's so mad all the time but he takes his anger out on me. Few weeks ago I spilt like a drop of ...

His mum's secret is haunting me and our relationship is becoming unbearable, what do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5219 days ago

21 January 2010 (F) - Dear Aunties. My problem is my fiance sucked and licked a strippers boobs on he's bachelors party, i wasnt cool about it and told him im not happy he says it was only a party meant nothing. sometimes i think about it the people that arranged it told ...

My marriage is falling apart after only a month, all because my husband wont stop his calls to this other woman!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5219 days ago

21 January 2010 (F) - Please can you help as my new marriage is falling apart. I am sorry but it is a long post. I have been married for under a month and things are not going well. Due to work we do not live with each other but see each other as much as possible...

Since I mentioned he needs to go to the fertility clinic he has started smoking cannabis and wont listen to my concerns!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5218 days ago

21 January 2010 (F) - I am 27 years old, i am with a lad who is 26 i have been with him for two and a half years. i love him and want to have a child but we need to go to the fertility as he has had a illness in the past which could make him infertile but since i told ...

Will these feelings for my ex ever go away? Its been 10 years and I still think about him every day!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4652 days ago

21 January 2010 (F) - Below is a letter I wrote to my former lover explaining how I feel about him. I have no intention of sending it, I just needed to get it out there because I felt like I needed to get it out of me. Plus the therapist mentioned it would help :) My que...

What shall I do when she has asked me to give her time?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5218 days ago

21 January 2010 (M) - I know this girl bout 3years from friendster and we started till then but that time we less msg but juz a friend.. started 2009 we really started to msg to each other everyday although we haven meet yet and really get to understand her bout 1 years ...

Partner is MIA and has me dumbfounded, grasping at straws!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5219 days ago

21 January 2010 (M) - I need help feeling secure, or am I fooling myself? Being unemployed had been placing a strain on my relationship of 7 months. Just before X-mas I was told by my partner that he felt that he was putting in all the effort for us and that he cou...

My boyfriend's ex keeps calling him, do you think they could still be involved?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5220 days ago

21 January 2010 (F) - my bf ex keeps calling him after so long whats up with that does she want something? are they involved? could he be lying to me?...

She has a problem with my drinking!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5219 days ago

21 January 2010 (M) - So last night i was drinking shots and i popped a couple of xanex pills to establish a buzz faster than useuall well i was having a good time, and i went to sleep.. well i wake up this morning, and everything in my room is broken, one of my walls is ...

Starting over with the same woman

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5219 days ago

21 January 2010 (M) - so me and this girl who i dated for for about 2 years broke up with me at the beginning of this school year we are in college. now we have started talking again and we are slowly trying to work things out and start a new relationship. the reason she ...

I broke up with him because I thought I couldn't handle a committed relationship, but then I realised how wrong I was! Now he wont take me back because he is enjoying being single too much!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5218 days ago

She's rude so how do I get back at her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5220 days ago

21 January 2010 (F) - hey one of my friends well not really friend... got my boyfriend number and texted him and told him things that weren't true so he broke up with me..he says would't have broken up with me if he hadnt heard that. so what should i do? i really want ...

He is such a flirt and it tears me apart...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5220 days ago

21 January 2010 (F) - Well I am 20 years old and I have a 4 year old son and a 23 year old boyfriend. I am 13 weeks pregnant with his baby, high risk pregnancy. We live with his mom and step dad cause we are both unemployed. Well anyway my boyfriend has cheated on me a ...

I can't bear my boyfriend's silent treatment...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5220 days ago

21 January 2010 (F) - Whenever we have a fight, he goes and locks himself away in our bedroom and doesn't speak to me. At first I thought this was just his "cooling off period", but he remains angry at me even after he has had his time alone. Once it lasted for 2 days - ...