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writes:I am in love with this guy, he has been through a lot in life, he had a girlfriend who was with him for 10 years she destroyed him and also his marriage. He is emotionally scarred, he visited a psychiatrist and with medication is fine now. He keeps giving mixed signals and I dont know what he wants, he knows I love him and will stand by him but he keeps saying we are friends and then he behaves like we are lovers. I am so confused I dont know what to do, this blow hot and cold is destroying me. I love him so much and do not know how to sort this out. Please help because I am in a real bad place right now... Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much... I am trying to be positive and talk to him but I find myself becoming more and more negative. I am in such a bad place right now that I am contemplating some real horrible stuff and I do not feel anything while doing this...Should I dump him? But I love him so much. its like my brain is scrambled and I do not know what to do....Help !
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reader, ecstasy  +, writes (12 January 2009):
 hi....
what i understand of your situation is....you love someone who has been through a lot personally and looks like needs unconditional love... question you need to ask your self is, are you ready for such a demanding relationship? can you be so self less, because due to what has happened with this man in his past he will always think twice before getting into any relationship... thus the fluctuation in his behaviour. the only way to sort this out is become aware as to what you want from this relationship because from the looks of it ... you will be the one at the giving end till things get better all you need to know for yourself is do you love him so much!? think about it!
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reader, Spanner28  +, writes (12 January 2009):
 I understand completely. My ex who i left 2 weeks ago let his past haunt him and it put a real strain on our relationship. One minute he would be all over me like im the only great thing in his life, then he would avoid me like the plague. Unfortunately there is abseloutely nothing we can do to help them except be supportive which is exactly what you are doing.
I do feel though that you may be at a dead end with this bloke. If he is blowing hot and cold with you it could last for an extremely long time and all that will do is test your patience. I dont doubt you have strong feelings for him but there is a limit to the amount of support you can give someone, especially the ones who let their past destroy their future. I think you need to give him some space so that he will realise just how loyal you are to him and his feelings, once he susses that you arent paying him the attention you have been doing he will realise he is pushing you away
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