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writes:i`m 24 years old and i`ve seeing somoeone for almost 8 yrs now and we`ve got a 2 year old daudgther. the thing is i don`t think my bf still loves me anymore cause we always fighting and this has been going on for months now, to tell you the truth i hardly see him when he comes around he wont even stay for an hour atleast, he`s always busy or he is with his brother and his brother`s girlfriend they would go to parties just the three of them and leaving me behind in most cases. so i really don`t know what to do, i sometimes feel like breaking up with him but i love him so much. i think his cheating on me we would talk on the phone but end up arguing. please guys i need your help should i stay with him or let him go? Reply to this Question |
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reader, ecstasy  +, writes (12 January 2009):
 Hi,
from what you have mentioned about him.... he doent seem interested in your lives... but then may be cuz whenever he comes around he gets no response from you!? is it so? do you sit with him, talk to him when he comes to visit you and your 2 yr old? if you do and he doesnt respond....you have every right to demand an apology for his behaviour.... you are the mother of his child he owes you respect and his time....try speaking to his brother now and then that way you will know what they are upto and will be in a better position to take any decision on this!
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reader, NurseBetty85  +, writes (12 January 2009):
 Hello,I know how you feel. I been threw that with my ex-boyfriend of 4 years. When the relationship got rockey with us fighting all the time, that's when he was starting to hang out all night with his brother, friends (some female friends), and family gatherings with out me. He was lossing interest for me, and this was his way of showing it. I didn't want to believe it, but it was true. Months later I caught him in the act with another woman. Just keep your gard up, and watch out for any direct signs.I know it's hard when you fall in love , he was my first. I didnt want to let him go, but I could'nt continue to be treated like that. It was a hard break up, But moving on would soon get easier to do. If you want to work it out, talk with him to see why is he acting this way. If you continue to get negative feedback, it might be best to walk way before you truely get hurt. That will be hard because you have a child with him.I wish you the best of luck. Be Strong..
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reader, Ginalolabridga  + ♥, writes (12 January 2009):
 If you have been with him for 8 years and have a 2yr old to him i would have thought his place is with you and her not going partying with the brother and his g/f? why does he not stay with you and your daughter?
If you are to be a couple that is the first thing that should be addressed because first of all he has a duty to his daughter to be there and to take care of her and he also has a duty to you who is the mother of this wee girl and his g/f so i don't get why he can swan off like he does?
If you love him more than he does you and that seems to be apparent (sorry) then you have to talk this over with him to find out where this relationship is going because he cannot be seen to be disrespecting you in this manner and acting like the single guy when he has duties he has to see to you.
I would be discussing this and if he feels he does not want the same as you then make sure you speak to the child support agency to get all the help you can for your daughter from him he can't shrug that forever. If on the other hand he wants to make this work then great make it work put the effort in that is needed to turn this around and one thing i would be putting my feet down about would be his leaving you on your own with your daughter while he parties! If you also think he is cheating come right out and ask him and if he is making you feel he is cheating by this partying then that is why it stops dead! Speak with him discuss all of these things and tell him it takes two to make a relationship work it also takes two people to be in it not one! see what he says keep us posted.
Gina
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reader, babes-x +, writes (12 January 2009):
 Hey there seems like hes being a total dick to you to be honest.if i were you i would let him go. seems like hes after his brother's girlfriend they way hes always with her and stuff but its up to you .. you should sit down and talk and see what happends hope i helped :)Xxxx
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