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writes:My problem includes three people, my frend, the guy we BOTH like and me. I told my friend I don't mind if she asks him out. He said yes, but it was only to not really hurt her. So that's not really the problem, it's just that that lead to him not talking to me or her. However - now she's like still obsessed with him but I'm just chilling and like whatever. He is sitting behind me in classes and he talks to me when she's not there. I think I still like him. Today he text me from his friend's phone and said he loves me still. What should I do? I'm so confused and a lot of people say he still likes me... HELP PLEASE
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reader, Original shiraz!  +, writes (16 April 2009):
Count yourself lucky. The guy cant make a descion and so is almsot playing games, hes in a relationship yet hes telling you he loves you, if he really liked you he would of said no to your mate surely? He may actually like you but do you want to be with somebody who cant make up his own mind and even when hes in a relationship hes texting other girls sayin how he really feels? Until hes sure himself and he can stand his own ground and stick to what he says i wouldnt do anything just yet. There isnt a lot you can do, if you did it would probably make the situation worse so for now id give it space, space and time for him to realise what he really wants and how hes going to go about getting it. Your mate has obviously fallen deep for him so be gentle around her feelings at times, shes constantly going on about him as a way of looking for support and for you to be 'cool' with the idea, its a mate thing you always need the mate approval kind of thing. Its up to him and until he decides theres not a lot you can do. Also if shes a good mate then remember for the future that a guy should never end a friendship.
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reader, FLAgirl1113 +, writes (16 April 2009):
Well, no one will care about how you feel until you do. Meaning, you're in this situation because you're not up front and honest. You're also in this situation because he's not up front and honest. Bottom line. Before you can be honest with anyone, you have to be honest with yourself. What are you hiding from? You only have one life. So many people pass up opportunity for a great relationship because they are too afraid to speak up. Speak up for what you want. Don't be passive about love. So many people are looking for love...and you have it sitting behind you but you're too afraid to speak up. Come on. Get the nerve. If the girl is truly your friend, she may get upset, but she'll be your friend in the long run. If she is not a true friend, she'll turn away from you...but that will only prove that she wasn't a great friend from the start and you don't need a flaky friend in your life anyway. It's all in your hands.
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