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writes: My biggest fear,that my husband will come up with a secret ,one day. He stopped having sex with me years ago, and I know, something is ''not ok with him'', but, I don't know what, as he knows very well how to hide his feelings.First he worked 24/7. Than he became impotent.. FOR NO KNOWN REASONS...Now, this is enough indication for me to think, that he is hiding something ,you know what I mean. But I guess, nothing can push it out from him, untill he is not ready to say it.I would be very interested to know, how a secret ,won't stop you from functional living? What is the main reason to keep a secret? Is it fear? Is it shame? And how is it possible, to live in secret land for 20 years or more? WHY does it happen all the time?I don't get it ,as I don't have anything like this myself, and if I do have e secret, I feel it needs to be cleared out/ It is so damaging for marriages, I see this here on this site that people are coming out of the closet all the time , why does it take so long? What do you think? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): What is your biggest fear in this? That he's gay, not in love with you? Maybe he really cant.. make it happen. Tho this seems highly unlikly, as most any guy I know would go to th Drs. I would gently confront him about this ..abstinence. Let him know you think he's hiding something from you, and that under no circumstance is NOT okay. Best of luck. xx Kelly
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