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writes:My bf and I broke up last year and I still can't get over him. Our relationship was very complicated and we both had issues. Still I go to bed every night wishing he would call/text or email me something. I have never felt this way. I feel alone even in a crowded room. I am waiting for him to contact me and tell me this has been a horrible mistake. He has moved on and lives with a new gal. I know for him it is over and I need to move on. I just ache for him. My whole body achesto be next to him. I realize I'm such a fool.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2013): You're not a fool! This is all normal feelings and you just need more time to get over him. You do have to accept it's over and allow yourself to move on. Don't contact him or try to find anything out about his new girl. Treat yourself well, reach out to friends, and make positive changes in your life.It takes time but eventually you WILL look back and realize how little he means in the scheme of life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2013): I recommend going to counseling. I know that counseling sometimes has a very negative connotation as being unable to deal with your own issues, weak, etc. but if it's been a year and it's obvious you want to move on, try it out. You're not weak for going; you're strong for admitting that you need some help to deal with a real loss. No one has to know and I think it can help a lot. These people are trained professionals and deal frequently with people suffering from severe loss (which you are). I really feel like in less than ten sessions, you'll be a lot closer to moving on. And, when you only have one life to live, why waste any of it grieving over something that ultimately isn't worth it? (And it's not, if he's not coming back.) You seem like too sweet of a person to be caught up in the past.They can help you find closure within yourself, discover new things that you like, and be a hand to hold that's been through these things. You deserve to be happy again. And as much as this community will support you (and we will!) we just might not be enough.
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reader, buzzedluv  +, writes (28 January 2013):
 I have been through the same exact thing. I know how painful it is. The thing you need to realize is that even though you cannot have him you can always have the love you shared and memories. If it was meant to be he would still be with you. There is another man out there just waiting to have someone like you and cherish the love you can give and never let it go. As hard as it is you need to close this chapter of your life. A new chapter will soon begin. As I was always told the only thing that stays the same in life......is change.
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reader, tibob  +, writes (28 January 2013):
 One year has passed and I think you know very well that your relationship is over but the problem is that your subconcious mind cannot accept it. When you say that you wait for his text etc, you are still keeping hope that by a miracle he comes back to you which obviously he won't. As long as you keep the slightest hope, you will always suffer. The first step in moving on is to lose every tiniest hope and accept that it's over. It won't be easy but when you do this, your subconcious mind will work wonders for you and you'll also move on and meet other men. Good luck
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (28 January 2013):
Your a warm loving woman and when their is a break-up its very very difficult. Any chance that you might join a mixed club, start a new interest.go on a holiday.It will take time to heal the hurt your feeling.But believe me it will pass and you will come out a stronger woman. Best Luck Nora B.
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