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writes:Hi I am 26 years old and my and my boyfriend (also the father of my daughter) have been together for 6 years we have a 2 year old daughter... Hes a great dad and we get along just fine... We dont aregue very often normally if he gets upset or mad he jus ignores me for about 2 weeks or so ... In the past I use to try and get out of him watever was wrong but I have learned from experience jus to let him be and he will eventually come around... (which sucks because we never talk about an arguements its just dropped and we move on without ever really figuring out what was the problem... atleast for me) My question is what do I do from here? I love him and hes a great father but I am not IN LOVE im just comfrtable with where I am at... I feel like I need a break to figure out my life and myself but I kno if I tell him that it wont be a break for a little while it will be long term... Im scared that is I leave him and break up my family what if Im worng...? what if I want him back? what if after being alone I still cant figure myself out? Im just confused.. and I dont want to ruin my daughters family life in the process :(
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (22 January 2013):
 the fact that he wont' talk to you for two weeks or so is not healthy and it's not good for your child to see this as a coping mechanism.
I would ask him if he would go for therapy with you to figure out how to improve your communication as a couple.
IF he won't go, that alone should give you the answer you need.
His being silent for two weeks is NOT acceptable.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (21 January 2013):
 It "sounds" to me as if you and he believe that silence is a (good) form of communication.
Note: It's not....
IF you and he wish to make your marriage successful - and strong - then grow up and learn to talk to one-another... about things that are stressful....AND about the good things that are going on between you in life....
Short of that.... the silence will act like a thief-in-the-night and assure that you and he will, ultimately, go your separate ways.... When THAT happens, you will both likely say, "WHA happened????".... and neither of you will have a clue....
Good luck....
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