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*Mnieves
writes:I have lost my sex drive completely. I have an amazing fiance of four years, and we never have sex anymore, b/c I don't want too. I'm only 20 years old, and I don't care for it. As of right this very moment, i don't care if i EVER have sex again. At the beginning of our relationship it was sex every day, multiple times a day. Now...Its maybe...once every 3 months it seems. I did enjoy sex with my boyfriend, and I got alot of pleasure out of it, so..its not because im not getting anything out of it. Just the thought of sex or anything sexual grosses me out! I want to puke if he says something dirty too me! I'm not taking any medicition or anything..so i know its not because of that...some of my family says maybe I don't love him anymore, but i do love him...We took a break for awhile, and it kinda worked...when he came back we had sex every day for two weeks, and then..it went back to "normal". We have tried spicing things up by doing NUMOROUS of things...nothing works anymore. :/ i need help!How do i get back my sex drive?
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reader, adamantine  +, writes (1 November 2011):
 Are you on any form of birth control? This can affect your sex drive.
Are you still attracted to him at all? Do you think about sex with other people and get turned on?
You could try seeing your doctor, because it could be an issue with your hormones, if it's none of the above.
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reader, baby-blue-eyes  +, writes (30 October 2011):
maybe you love him but are not in love with him :\ are you still physically attracted to him? does he still turn you on?
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (30 October 2011):
It's actually quite normal at your age to not care too much for sex. But if sex is disgusting to you like you described, then it could be something else. Otherwise, there is nothing really wrong with you. Plus you're probably comfortable with him so the need for sex isn't high on your list of priorities.
You'll get your sex drive back in a few years. I didn't care for sex at your age either, now I'm 27 and my sex drive is much higher than it was back then.
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (30 October 2011):
 I experienced this as well when I was around your age and yes, looking back it was because the relationship was getting stale and although I loved him so much, I was a little tired of all his crap and a bit bored with "us" as well. If you are not on any meds then I can assure you that it will come back and you'll be fine if u work out all the problems in your relationship or if you meet a new guy you are totally into. Maybe you need to take a longer brake from each other( a few months or a year)and move on with your lives separately before reuniting and trying to make it work again
Hope it works out for you guys.......:)
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