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writes:Okay, now I don't know if I'm going off topic or something just tell me why do so many people I know who are in LDRs always complain when there only two or 3 hours apart from each other while me and my gf are 18 hours? It bothers me with a passion because AT LEAST you have the privilege to see him or her... It just bothers me a bit .. Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 October 2011):
 I'm sorry you guys are so far apart.
I have spent the last year in an LDR... only a 2 hour drive and I'm old enough to be able to go when I felt like it... now we have closed the gap and are together full time.
what was very manageable for us (because we had the funds, the means and the time to be together as often as possible) short term situation was still difficult at times. The more we were together the harder being apart got..
I felt guilty at first whining about a 2 hour drive distance when so many others had 17 and 18 hours of FLIGHT time... and I was told at an LDR website "it does not matter how far your distance is, if you are not together and want to be together you are welcome here"
I am betting if you and your girlfriend lived in two different states and were a two hour drive apart you still would have very little time together based on your age....
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2011): I live 4 hours away from my boyfriend, and although I "have the priviledge" to see him, it's not ideal because all the travelling, on top of a full time job, is very tiring. The trains are often late and overcrowded and the luggage racks full, which is very stressful. I have to run to catch the train on a Friday directly after work, and leave on Sunday afternoon in order to get home at a decent time to get any sleep before work on Monday. The trains aren't at convenient times. All these are reasons that make me want to complain, but complaining doesn't mean I value the relationship less or I'm not dedicated. If I wasn't dedicated I wouldn't bother. And I'm certainly not going to say "Oh, all this travelling makes me tired and stressed, but actually I'm lucky because someone else lives 18 hours away from their partner; I should spare a thought for them".
People complain because it isn't ideal; who, given a choice between a long distance relationship and living near their partner, would choose long distance? Whether you live 2 hours or 18 hours apart, it's still rubbish. But you don't have more of a right to complain the further apart you live and you can't stop anyone else complaining just because you're worse off than them. Everyone has the right to complain about their own lives and their own relationships. I'd stop worrying about other people's relationships and concentrate on your own.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2011): Perhaps they just do not have the dedication to bein their relationship at all. I understand how this would frustrate you, my first gf dumped me because I moved 2 hours away and though I came to visit as often as I could, she couldn't be bothered to take the time to see me.
It really is their choice and their perogative, but yes it is bothersome to see the trouble some people go through to keep a relationship alive, while others just bail.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (26 October 2011):
 People have different understandings of what makes a long-distance relationship. I've come across several that think a 30 minute drive makes it long distance. As if unless you are neighbors and within walking distance it's classified as long-distance. It really isn't. A 2 hour drive barely qualifies even.
But that's just people. What can you do? People have different ideas about how far is long-distance, just like they have differing idea about everything else.
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reader, Claraw1  +, writes (26 October 2011):
 I don't know why people complain about being only 3 hrs away from their LDR, I know that it annoys me greatly as my LDR is in England and I am in Australia, so it really gets under my skin. It takes a lot for us to be able to see each other. I can understand what thealmightyduck is saying, but it can really annoy people who have to work extremely hard to be able to see the person they love.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (26 October 2011):
 Well you have got to take into concideration if someone maybe doesn't have that much money or traveling for them is really unconnvient or if they have a really difficult time period to work around.
But for people who do not and they simpley have to drive up to where there other partner is and still moan about them being to far away and where the relationship is going and they can't be bothered to go see them.
Then the solution is simple LDR aren't for them or the simply can't love there other partner as much as they claim to.
Oh yes also for the record i once new a guy who's girlfriend lived just 45 minutes away from him and he lived on a corner opposite a bus stop yet he still dumped her for being to far away. lol
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