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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I feel so lost. Please help.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm so lost at this moment. Me and my hubby met back when I was 18. We met in college and we fell in love. We soon after got engaged and we married the following summer. We married because he was wanting to go into the military and his tentative date to go in wa... (432 words)

She doesn't want to have sex cause she thinks I'm too young

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 5567 days ago

22 January 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - hey, i'm 15 and my gf's 16. The problem I'm having is that she doesn't want to have sex cause she thinks I'm too young, but I've already had sex and she knows but she still thinks I'm too young, what do i do?... (44 words)

I'm kinda thinking at this moment that he doesn't care for me any more

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Hiya, this is a question 2 anyone but mainly guys, me and my ex still talk every day, he tells me about all these girls that he is shagging and I just go along with it and laugh, he nows I still like him, anyway speaking 2 someone 2day they said he doesn't care about me if hes ... (144 words)

I feel guilty about not being a virgin, help!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5565 days ago

22 January 2009 (?) age 30-35 - Hey, its very simple, I lost my virginity at 16 with my 2 year boyfreind and Im a catholic who wante tdo wiat for marriage. thing is things got complicated and we broke up. Now I'm with this new guy for three months. he is nice and sweet and a virgin. but everytim i think... (120 words)

Help! How do I get my sex drive back?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm 23 had a baby 5 months ago to start of my sex drive was their but now it's not. I'm working so am always tied to do it then when i do i get to wet and it puts me off. How do I get my sex drive back????????... (50 words)

A little advice from guys out there??

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5572 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - A little advice from other guys out there... how can a woman ultimately spice up things in the bedroom? I know every man is differant, but how would like your wife or girlfriend to spice it up? My husband doesn't share his fantasies with me, so I'm trying to figure out ways to ... (83 words)

Can I be fined for my first offence?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5572 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - This has nothing to do with relationships or anything like that... I just had a serious question. I got a ticket today for the first time. This was my first offence. The officer who gave me the ticket didn't tell me it was a warning or anything. He just made me sign a paper ... (71 words)

Hurt after being lead on and cheated on, how do I move past this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - How do I get over this guy who just wants me for sex? I fell hard for him and he lead me on with dates and gifts and texting. I found out he was seeing two other girls at the same time and when he got into a relationship over the summer, he cheated on her after one month.... (120 words)

Please tell me the solutions to break down this illegal affair

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi All, This is Smith, I know one of my friends where she is facing problem with her mother, where she is having sex with one of his uncles and it have been known by his father but he is not bothered about it because he wants to live his life very calm and cool so he won't qu... (152 words)

My jealousy is killing our relationship I can see it but I can't do nothing about it.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I have a problem with jealousy. I have a boyfriend and we're dating for 2 years and I still can't believe him. My jealousy is killing our relationship I can see it but I can't do nothing about it. I'm jealous when he goes out with friends especially if the friends are girls. ... (85 words)

I am completely heterosexual but I get these random urges, that range in strength, to go down on a man.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - I am a 25 year old male, I am in a relationship with a woman and feel completely heterosexual but I get these random urges, that range in strength, to go down on a man. How weird?... (37 words)

Does he seriously want me back? Or like my friends said, Is he just lonely for now?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend brkoe up with me about 2 weeks ago. We only went out for 2 months, but this breakup hurt me espeically since it was my first serious relationship after a bad experience. (My ex-boyfriend hit on one of my friends and lied to me when I confronted.) We both stoppe... (525 words)

Female with a very prominent bony chest...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5555 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - hi, I seem to have a problem and hope someone in here can help me. I am a female, 25 years now, with a very prominent bony chest, and small boobs 34b which make me look like a little gal sometimes. I have a very good personality, and I am naturally bony, though a bit spo... (119 words)

Any info about the morning after pill?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5563 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I'd like some info on the morning after pill... I took Levonelle at the beginning of this month after the condom broke and my bf came inside me. I took the pill within 4 hours of this happening. I read up on it and it said there was a 95% chance that it would stop a pre... (214 words)

I was wondering if when a boy teases a girl, does it ALWAYS necessarily mean that they like the girl?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey, I was wondering if when a boy teases a girl, does it ALWAYS necessarily mean that they like the girl? Or can a boy just be naturally annoying. Because there's a boy in my class who always gets up in my face and just says little things to me that are pointless, but it just ... (209 words)

I think I'm falling for my partner's mate!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been with my partner for 7 years, I love him but for at least 6 of those years I have had really strong feelings for his best mate, I've tried to get over these feelings as I never thought I had a chance with my partner's mate, but I have found out that the last 4 years ... (106 words)

Problems in the marriage...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5572 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - My name is queen. I hope you will help me. Basically I am an indian, one year back I came to london. When i was in india at the age of 21 Ii have got married. I have got one kid but he used to drink and smoke too much. He died after one year of marriage. I use to live ... (359 words)

Lost and Confused...Aries and Aquarius!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Here is the gist of the story. I met this guy in Cali I don't live there but visit often for the past 10 years. He is a friend of a relative for six years and we've never formally met each other but had to have passed by each other countless times. I was near the end of a 9 ... (523 words)

I'm in love with a female teacher, I'm female too, what to do?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4158 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - When i was in year 8 I had a teacher for english. although i hated her then she grew on me. although she isnt my teachwer anymore i still see ehr everyday in school. she is always nice to me and she makes my stomach flip and my heart beat faster when i see her. i've never felt ... (210 words)

How do I let her know that this isn't just grabbing dinner again as friends?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - I've been seeing this girl a lot and it's pretty casual, we hang out and talk about a lot of stuff but we also casually hook up a lot.friends with benefits kind of... The other day I asked her if I could take her out on a date on the weekend and after talking about it I ... (179 words)

My BF's parents hate me, should I stick it out and fight for him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5276 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Thank you for reading... Well I've been with my boyfriend for four months now and things were going amazingly well. We're happy together and truly love each other more than anything... But there's one major problem... Recently my boyfriend's parents started hati... (170 words)

To trust... or not to trust?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Well, for the first time here, I have a question non-sexual related... So, I´m dating this guy for almost a year. This is the 3rd serious relationship I´m in, but this one is making me change, I am really crazy about him. Not only because he´s my friend and we have fun together... (270 words)

I want to keep our relationship a secret but he wants to tell everyone!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Please help as soon as possible please. Well the thing is, i have a boyfriend and i do love him so much, but the thing is its a secret relationship and he has told a lot of people and he's making it dead obvious by putting it on his msn name that he(L)me, and on his personal... (537 words)

Problems with friend and family!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4998 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I started seeing this guy about a week ago. We went on our first date and it was awesome. I just have a couple of problems. 1) My best friend is heavier and is jealous of me and my bf. What should I do? 2) My mom is super strict, and won't let us hang out alone. I'm temp... (75 words)

If I see him with someone else at the part I'll be upset so don't know whether to go or not.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I was seeing this guy for a while who I work with, he took me for lunch, cinema, dinner etc. He used to hug me and massage me, everything was great. I text him telling him that I liked him on new years eve but he never said anything about it, and I know he got my text beca... (177 words)

How do I gain mutual respect in this relationship.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5572 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, my boyfriend is 21 and I'm 20 this year. We have been together for almost 2 years and recently we have been having lots of problems, from 5 months back. My boyfriend was enlisted in army for 2 years, and right now, he left 1 year to go. We only have the chance to see ea... (587 words)

What do you honestly think about a girl who fools around with her friends?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - hi ok im looking for answers to two questions to see how they differ, please answer both honestly ... 1)what do you think about a girl who fools around with her best guy friend? by fools around i mean that he fondles her breasts, and she gives him hand jobs and uses her boo... (99 words)

He is cheating on his GF with me...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Hey guys Well let me tell you about my situation. I am 21 years old and I met my first love when I was 18. Everything was great. He was my first everything. We were together for about a year and then he started to act funny wasn't coming around much not even calling stuff like ... (287 words)

How painful will first time sex be and how can I make it less so?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - ok ive been with my boyfriend for five months and hes been my best friend for ages.Im a virgin but Im sure that i want to have sex with him but im slightly nerous about two things.The first is how much pain it will cause me.From experience how bad is it?and is there anyway to ... (93 words)

I need some (non-abusive) abortion advice, please.

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 5570 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I guess i am remaining anon because i am ashamed... Im 16 soon 17 in my first year of college studing for my A levels live a life with good people in it such as my friends and a very lovely boyfriend. Ive been with my boyfriend for a few months now and we started sleeping... (458 words)

In love with a female teacher and sinking into depression.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm in love with a female teacher at my school. I kno I can never be with her, I've accepted that, but it doesn't change anything. I'm finding it impossible to move on. I spend every moment of my day thinking about her, and ways to bump into her, impress her etc. As a resu... (171 words)

How long should I wait for her to get that old spark back?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

22 January 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - I have written in before but my question has now changed. My wife had a tough child hood, her parents were not around, she had to take care of her brothers and sisters and then at 16 she had kids. I have been with her for 6 years, we have been married for 2. I am a guy who ... (204 words)

Questions about kinkiness, am I a pervert?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5547 days ago

22 January 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - I want to ask a question about kinks. I've seen some videos that's got women doing men with strap ons. I'm not gay and have got no interest in having this done to me but watching a woman do this is really kinky and gets me going. Is this freaky? I also enjoy watching lesbian ... (85 words)

He's amazing but he's a total manwhore, what do I do?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 5544 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age - k to start off, i'm 17 (grade 11) and my boyfriend's name is kris, he's in grade 10 (16) but verrrrry cute:) i think he's amazing, basically perfect. since he's extremely popular, amazingly hot, a gentlemen, good listener, caring and the whole package.. but i have one problem... (206 words)

Two dates later, should I start leaving my weekends open for him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Ok, so I just started dating this guy about a week ago. He's like when do you want to go out again, Friday or Saturday? I answered, "Saturday." I'm thinking we're not exclusive yet..not sure. I don't want to ask him. But the thing is he didn't say, "Let's hang out on Frid... (206 words)

Why are women sluts if they sleep around and men Gods if they do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5421 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - why is it that if a woman sleeps around she is a slut, but if a man sleeps around he is seen as a God? this is just something that my friends and i were talking about and made me think that it would be good to get a guys perspective. ... (58 words)

Married but pregnant with my exes child, what should I do now?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5551 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been in this relationship with my husband since I was 17 years old. Last year we started having problems nothing too major, but big enough for me to reach out to an old friend. Long story short I broke up with my ex to be with my now husband 12 years ago. I lost touch ... (503 words)

I want him back. What should I do??

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5572 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I have met this guy 7 months ago. Everything was perfect and I know we were in love. He did everything for me but apparently there were things that annoyed him and he didnt talk about them til last week. He said I act bad about things and I have attitude. All what happened is ... (246 words)

How can I discuss things with my Mom's cousin?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

22 January 2009 (F) age 36-40 - I used to have a crush on my mum's cousin, i'm not sure if i still do, since i havent seen him for afew years, but we are intouch online, although i havent spoke to him for afew months. I recently read that he wants to patch things up with his half brother, his parents didnt ... (457 words)

Do I trust my gut feeling or my head?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been reading a book in order to help me with my confused mind. I am currently with my man of 4 years, he does everything right, and everyone around us thinks we are very happy together. I am however constantly thinking about another man, and my gut is telling me to try ... (118 words)

Getting ready to tie the knot, but want marriage advice/insight first...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5568 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

- My guy and I are planning on getting married soon. We've been together 3.5 years, lived together for 2... we have a great relationship. He's 26, I'm 22. I really don't think I could find someone who makes me happier, who I think would make a better husband, partner, father. ... (400 words)

Is it safe to combine Mefenamic acid and Paracetemol?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi there, I was wondering if any other women out there can help me? I have been prescribed Mefenamic acid tablets by my doctor for painful periods, and I was wondering if anyone knows if its ok to take painkillers (specifically paracetamol) along side it? As I know its an ... (111 words)

How do I work out my trust issues?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4841 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - hi just wanted some advice. im in a relationship with this guy for over a year and a half but i have trust issues with him, and i feel like that cause my past relationships ive been cheated on and he says thats the reason i dont trust him he tells me he loves all the time and ... (139 words)

How can I discuss his overspending with him without getting his kids involved?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5485 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age - My husband and I are recently married. He has adult children and 5 grandchildren. I have none. We have a joint bank account into which both of our paychecks are direct deposited. Unfortunately, both of us are spenders. I buy clothes, etc, because I work with the public ... (526 words)

Assholes and Rebound Guys, how can I break this cycle???

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I need and want a good man to settle down with...etc but every time i meet one that wants the same i get scared and end up with an asshole again. Assholes say they want kids, fam...all that stuff, but LATER, nice guys give me this vibe that they want it NOW! i really want to ... (125 words)

Should I tell her that I actually DO like her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - I like this girl who is in my year at school, but when she asked me if i liked her i said no in case she didn't like me. Im confused - should i tell her i like her or not? Thanks For The Help much appreciated.... (50 words)

Would asking him to get STI testing offend him? Will just a condom be enough?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5572 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been seeing my boyfriend for about a month now (we haven't had sex but I feel that we care about each other and trust each other enough to perhaps eventually make that step). I'm a virgin and he's had two sexual partners before, so I am slightly concerned that if we do ... (157 words)

9 months later, I still miss her horribly...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - I miss her so much !!! With 25 Jan it's gone be 9 months that we broke up. Omg its so hard to get over and i know that the life's goes on but after every day its get in worst. anyways i just need some advise from someone. I just still could believe that I lost her fore... (212 words)

Does my boyfriend want me to dress girly for all ocassions?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5556 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - He mentions 'It's a huge turn-on for me when girls wear dresses or skirts.' Here's the thing..I'll wear them like to church, wedding, maybe a nice dinner. But he's like even if we go shoot pool you can wear a knee-length dress or skirt. But at the end said, "it's ok though." ... (197 words)

Is there a chance he will fall in love with me after all this time?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5547 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I am the one who has the boyfriend of four and a half years. We have been living together four of the four and a half years. I am so in love with him. We never fight. We have alot of fun together.We have alot in common. He has been the best boyfriend I have ever had. I honestly ... (130 words)

I'm so confused and messed up, please someone pull me out of this!!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I am in desperate need of help. I have been so over anxious about my relationship the past week that I have almost been making myself sick. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 and a half years, and have lived together for about 10 months. We have come through ... (428 words)

How can we reignite the spark in our relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 2 months now, and now it just seems kinda boring and we dont really have that spark that we use to have. and i dont want to loose her cause i really like her alot. But maybe u can help me recreate that spark again? like when we ... (87 words)

Now she's a lesbian! Could dating me have been so bad that I've put her off men altogether?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5562 days ago

22 January 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi, I recently dated a bisexual girl from my college. Our relationship was "okay" at best, but I never felt like she was interested in giving us a proper go. In the short time we dated, she canceled on me on several occasions, usually saying that lack a lack of money was to ... (245 words)

How can I learn to relax with someone I care about without alcohol?

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22 January 2009 (F)

age - How can I learn to relax with someone I care about without alcohol? I guess I'm really afraid of rejecton, I know if I could be myself and just enjoy sex and be able to relax I wouldn't get regected but I feel like I can't breathe, let alone relax. I haven't dated for a long ... (77 words)

On the pill and I'm getting lower back pains and lower stomach pains every day.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been on the pill for about 2 months now and I've since noticed lower back pains and lower stomach pains every day. I've only ever missed my pill once and that was in the first pack and I still came on so I highly doubt I'm pregnant. Is this normal it's really annoying me ... (111 words)

This is the woman who had the ring question...

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - (This is the woman who had the ring question) And don't even get me started on his spending. We had a joint account and he claimed that someone came and stole our money. He had spent half of my bond that I got from my grandpa of about six hundred bucks on eating out by himself ... (329 words)

Have I lost perspective on my wife's sexual past?

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 5566 days ago

22 January 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - Have I lost perspective on my wife's sexual past? When we first started dating, we told each other about our past. I had a 2 yr relationship. She had dated in high school, and did some heavy petting. Then just a month before we met, she dated a guy that just wanted to use her.... (616 words)

Should I just buy my own engagement ring instead of listening to hubby's sarccy comments?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been married for six months, and I've been wanting an engagement ring. I want one carat diamond, but my husband is always making jokes about it like oh that's a car payment, or bump that that's a whole car! Then he made a sarcastic comment towards me. He says that he was ... (499 words)

Do boys see girls who give blow jobs as easy or slutty?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5025 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Do boys see girls who give blow jobs as easy or slutty?... (12 words)

Will the age difference be a bother to us later?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi, I am 22 years and my partner is 29 years old. We are planning to get married soon but I sometimes feel that the age difference is somehow big and it can affect our relationship because sometimes I do things and he sees them as childish since he has outgrown them. Will the ... (66 words)

Most of his pleasure is knowing I'm happy??

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - So I stayed at this boys house last night but i was on my period. Anyway I refused to sleep with him because of this but then we decided to try anyway. He was on top of me and kinda decided just to stop after a few minutes. he had a condom on and said arr i hate condoms, so i ... (154 words)

Pretty girls.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - When a pretty girl wakes up next to you in the morning and her face doesn't look so pretty and her hair's a mess, does it bother you boys? or if she's always doing her make-up does it make her seem insecure? curiosity... (47 words)

Does romance really fade away so fast?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I am 26 years old and I've been married for a little over a year. We've known each other for 10 years and had several ins and outs with our relationship. He was my first serious relationship at 15 and I've loved him ever since..We have a son whose a year old now and yes I got ... (240 words)

Shall I just move on? My gut instinct says that he is avoiding me.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - My ex boyfriend contacted me 4 months after breaking up with me and wanted to see me, we met up a few times and ended up sleeping together. I am not over him and he knows that He told me I am beautiful and that he still thinks of me especially when he thinks of children and ... (161 words)

Live-in boyfriend of 3 years needs his space?!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. We have lived together for 2. He told me 2 nights ago that he wants to get his own apartment because he needs his space. He goes on to tell me that he is still in love with me and still wants to remain together. I am super mad and ... (119 words)

When a guy gets close to me, I back off!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5543 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I am 23 year old girl and my most embarressing problem is that I've never had a boyfriend. I've had problems in the past with me having been sexually abused when I was 9 and really bullied at School. I have been asked out by lads before but found out that they've only asked me... (296 words)

Its different tonight and I want her to know I feel that way

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5563 days ago

22 January 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - I've been seeing this girl a lot and its pretty casual, we hang out and talk about a lot of stuff but we also casually hook up a lot.friends with benefits kind of... The other day i asked her if i could take her out on a date on the weekend and after talking about it i realized ... (178 words)

I think she deserves a bit of her own medicine

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - Here is my situation, first the background information: I've been talking to this girl for about 3 months now, shes 20 and I'm 27. She lives with her parents about an hour and a half away from me so I've only went out with her twice. The first time i was with my little cousin ... (607 words)

What does she mean --would I fight for her?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5569 days ago

22 January 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - My girlfriend and I have been together over a year. She always asked me if we ever broke things off whether I would fight for her. What does a woman mean by that? Her and I are both Christians. I had promised her thoughout the relationship that I'd spiritually ... (187 words)

He was hot, but now running cold

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5573 days ago

22 January 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - He was full on to begin with and was really into me and the situation then he backed off because he was confused with what he wants. i have fallen for him big time and dont know what to do! Any tips?... (42 words)

I don't think she is showing me her true self, her true life?

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22 January 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - hi there, first i would like to thank you all for your previous advises to heal my inferiority complex...this days something has happened to me...there was this girl whom we are working together in a bank...we begin it as a friend, we discuss on many issues especially her life; ... (167 words)

Why won't he talk to me online?

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - why isnt my boyfriend talkin to me yes i know hes just someone online but i really love him . the past 3 days he hasnt been talkin to me b4 dat his comp wasnt workin for about a month or somethin wen i contacted him again he was fine but then i sent a mesg saying i wnt to talk ... (94 words)

I feel trapped in this situation but don't want to hurt him

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello everybody i have a huge problem. I met this guy while home on winter break. He lives in New Jersey and I go to school in Florida. We dated and basically fell in love with each other. I love him very much and care for him deeply. I went back to school and i am very busy. I ... (539 words)

What does "wearing your heart on your sleeve" mean?

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22 January 2009 (F) - Hey there Am justing getting to know a guy off the internet and he seems really lovely and funny. We were talking about relationships etc and he says he seems to get trampled on cos he wears his heart on his sleeve... what does that exactly mean... and does that mean he wil... (64 words)

Was dropping out of uni the biggest mistake of my life?

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - hi, im 21 and last year in january i dropped out of university. i have a lot of problems at home with my mum. she wants to control everything i do and she drinks a lot. she messes with my head so much. i convinced myself dropping out was the right thing to do. i actually t... (249 words)

Should I wait for my 1st love or walk away?

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been reading the different stories on love and married men however; I haven’t come across one which is similar to mine. So here I am asking for help! My married man is my first and only love...We met ten years ago when I was 17, we dated until I was about 20...o... (513 words)

Does she love me or am I just a friend?

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22 January 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - Well I like a girl in my own office. I have already proclaimed my love to her once, she rejected it. Then afterwards we didn't even talk to each other till new year when the dead lock was broken. since that day on we began for talking for hours on phones and sending sms on. ... (157 words)

How can I make him believe that I was a virgin?

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - hi,after i had sex for the first time, i realised i wasnt a virgin. my boyfriend does'nt belive me when i tell him he was my first since i wasnt a virgin. i think the cause of loosing my virginity is riding bicycles alot since it was one of my hobbies. can riding bicylces... (101 words)

How can I make her appreciate and love me again?

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22 January 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello, i've been with a girl for over 15 months and recently we split up. I used to pratically live over there and seen her almost every day for 15 months. During this time I grew a mass of feelings for her, we even nearly had a child. Due to me recently being unemployed... (443 words)

I want to be pregnant and have a baby too!

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I really hope someone can help, I'm about to give up on motherhood! Everywhere and everybody is getting babies, and it breaks my heart to be near friends that have them. Even my brother had an unplanned pregnancy (not married) its so unfair! they dont have money for a child, ... (189 words)

My friend was offended & is depressed. How can I help?

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - dear readers, good day. a friend of mine encountered a problem. a problem that made him angry to a certain group of people in a state. the story is this. he tries to answer all the questions in a site that is made to ask questions about relationship. then, after answer... (221 words)

I don't want to hurt him, but at the same time I don't want to get hurt any more

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello there....I really need advice from somebody else other than my friends or co-workers. I recently broke up with my boyfriend, which we were together and practically living with each other for 2 years. the reason for the final break up was because our fights were getting ... (957 words)

When are my "safe" days???

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi, I have a boyfriend that I have been dating for 3 years and we started having sex like one and a half years ago. My problem is that I still don't know my safe days so am forced to use emergency pills which I believe are not advisable to use often. Please help on alternative ... (97 words)

Facing 30 and very unhappy about it. Unlucky.

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I grew up with very little opportunities in life, I grew up poor and in a badly made house with no heating and no hot running water. I also have asthma, short eye sight, learning diffculty, depressing and low self estreem, so I found school very hard and I was also bullied. I ... (334 words)

I feel sex is so one sided with us...

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22 January 2009 (M)

- My boyfriend and I have been having problems that have almost split us up twice. I have a higher sex drive than he does but I have never been pushy, asked for sex or demanded it or anything like that. I have backed off so much trying to make things better but he still always ... (166 words)

Having sex with your partner when you don't feel the sexual desire to...

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22 January 2009 (M)

- Having sex with your partner when you don't feel the sexual desire to -- is it an act of care and love OR an immoral act that should never even be suggested??... (32 words)

Should I send him a message apologising for my friend?

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - I was upset with my online man cause he wasn't acting the same then my best friend got really upset and sent him a message saying I was crying for him and that if he cared about me he should talk to me. I told her not to send any messages to him and he hasn't been talking to me ... (92 words)

Friend... or boyfriend?

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I am 19 and he was my classmate. We became very close recently. We will send messages and phone each other almost every day. It is starting to become a habit. I know something is not right about us. I don't think normal friends do that. But our conversations are just about ... (81 words)

I don't feel anything during sex!

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I have had sex with 5 men and it's always the same. I can feel the penis inside of me but, it doesn't really feel like anything. I doesn't feel good or bad. It's like if someone puts their hand on yours, nothing but touch. I'm married and I have one child and one on the way. I ... (155 words)

My online hotty is turning cold...

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been seeing this guy that I met online about 3 months ago. We have been out 2 times so far and he wants to meet up again this weekend..where he wants me to go over to his place for dinner. He never rings me though.. I'm always the one doing the ringing or texting...so i ... (202 words)

All I want is some space to be left alone for a while!!

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I have this ex girlfriend who's gone completely raging psycho on me. I mean, completely off the deep end. We broke up about 3 months ago, but she is still expecting me to treat her like she's my girlfriend and that's completely flustering to me. She calls non-stop, and when ... (279 words)

She broke my heart and all I want is to help her...

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22 January 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - So, my most recent girlfriend just broke up with me, she says it's because of the distance, she lives 5 hours away, but the distance has never really bothered me, and now she's very very depressed, she's started cutting herself, I still love her, and she says she still loves ... (101 words)

He accused me of chucking a little old lady on to the street...

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been with my boyfriend for over 5 years we have a 2 year old little boy we both work full time. My problem is when we met I owned my own house with a mortgage he also owns a house jointly with his mum, his mum put half towards the house and he got a mortgage for 25 ... (171 words)

What can we do to stop fighting?

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22 January 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Well thanks to all that gave me wonderful advice. :) but I have another question... Okay well I'm 17 and my girlfriend is 15 and we have been together for seven months now and we have a lot of problems. We always seem to fight. So my question is how do I stop this? Oh and one ... (88 words)

How can I win his trust in me?

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I met this guy 3 weeks ago at a party and we really hit it off. He calls me and texts but he let me know yesturday that he was really hurt and he doesn't trust any female, not even me. I really like him and I have been really hurt in the past to and he knows that. He is not ... (100 words)

I need advice on how to pull away, to stop loving a married man.

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - I need advice on how to pull away, to stop loving a married man. He told me when we met that she had moved back in due to money issues and he proceeded to be very attentive with emails and texts. Its 1 year later and the texts are few and far in between, albeit he still says he ... (215 words)

What's bad is good what's good is bad?

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22 January 2009 (?) age 36-40 - Why is the world like that? I'm just wondering. Especially on the internet. They glorify teen pregnancy, drugs and underage sex and partying and drinking. while they make fun of or condemn the virgins, pure and moral people...people who are not divorced, etc. While what's ... (90 words)

Friendship and Hurt Feelings

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - I have a couple who I consider friends, and I thought they considered me a friend. We do not have any long history of being friends, but our girls are in the same grade at school. We have done casual things together, Girl Scouts, etc. I have done lots of favors for her. ... (371 words)

Why does my husband constantly lie about the little things?

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22 January 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - My husband lies about stupid little things.... For example: John has a huge addiction to looking at "free" items on "Craigslist." I have no clue why, something about that site he just loves. It becomes too much when I ask him to stop so we can move on to something else li... (459 words)

Is this normal in a relationship??

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I've fallen for a good friend of mine (we've known each other for about five years; I'm in my mid-20s and he's around 50 - he's not marred and not in a relationship). We've hung out sometimes for lunch or coffee and are really flirting back and forth: he's always looking a... (251 words)

Double standards about masturbation

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22 January 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - Some people have the double standard that masturbation is ok for guys but not for girls. Is there anybody with the opposite opinion? It seems like many of the opinions about masturbation or porn say it's liberating for women, but sleazy for men. I'm not looking for a fi... (57 words)

I've pretty much lost all intrest in sex

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22 January 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - so... I'm not really sure whats going on... I've pretty much lost all intrest in sex.... sometimes i get horny but its rare.... im losing all intrest.... sometimes my dick wont stay hard.... what the heck am i to do? and i've read some of the other forums and i don't wack it ... (104 words)

Do you think this relationship could ever work?

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22 January 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - ok so there is this girl in my class who is probably the most perfect thing in this world..popular, athetic, beautiful, super religious, super nice, great everything and we are in the same class together. we have said hello and stuff and talked slightly untill now where it is ... (126 words)

I need to walk away but something is holding me back

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Here is my issue: I had a boyfriend who I was with for about 3 years. Our relationship went down the drain after fighting constantly, day after day.. about stupid things. So me and my boyfriend went on a break. But even though we were on a break, we still talked, and fought.. ... (393 words)

Is he for real or not?

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I really like this guy, we both DJ and we're are both Aquarius's. When we lay in bed it feels like were one and the world could end around us but we would never notice. He brings me over to his friends house and when we are together he makes me feel like I'm the most important ... (127 words)

Do I get him something for Valentine's Day?

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I know its really early but I have been dateing a guy for about 2 months and I've known him for about 5 months should i get him anything for valentines day? if so, what should i get him, something small for sure but what? ... (46 words)

Twisted relationship with cousin

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I have had and am having sexual relations with my cousin. He is my age. We are both 16. I have always kind of liked him but never said anything because he is my cousin obviously. So nobody ever knew. The summer before 8th grade he started feeling the same way. He would always ... (489 words)

Should I give her another chance?

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22 January 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - for what happened the second time this is the link i ended up giving her another chance but im not sure if i should give her another. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-really-dont-understand-her-actions.html well anyway when i first met her she told me she was a virgin and... (335 words)

Is he being honest? Does he like me?

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm not talking like romantic only but really honesty. I've been having an email friendship with a guy I met 2 years ago in a military duty when he was here in NC. He was stationed in Korea at the time, so he flew a week later. I contacted him and he replied immediately one ... (217 words)

I want to have a relationship and it be sexual but I have problems

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22 January 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - Hello I'm 30, male, divorced and I have a dilemma. I want to have a girlfriend, and I would like the relationship to be sexual. The problem is that I also don't want to upset any girl if I like her enough to be interested in her. I have no attractive qualities, and I k... (620 words)

Sex doesn't feel good to me

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - ive been with my boyfriend for almost a year and we have had sex countless times. i lost my virginity to him but my problem is is that it never feels good. weve used lube before, different positions, everything. all it feels to me is pain when it first goes in, and when the ... (89 words)

Torn between the two--which one to chose?

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - I like two guys. One was my best friend i was in love with him he didnt like me we hung out alot and i thought he liked me but i saw him kissing another girl the other is another friend he is like perfect. i just transfered out of school with them and the guy w... (204 words)

What does birth control actually do?

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22 January 2009 (?) age 30-35 - ok,, idont understand..please explain to me what does birth control actually do for a girl.. and whats the difference between an abortion ??... (28 words)

He says his heart isn't in it

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been with this guy for 14 years. We have 3 kids together. Now in our 14 years together we have had alot of make up break ups. and we were apart for almost 2 months he was in another state and called me to say he messed up and wanted me back. so we got back together and ... (412 words)

My g/f is sad but we don't talk about it

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22 January 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello i need help, me and my gf have been dating for 2 months now, and now she is sad and she says its something that she doesnt remember but every time she forgets it she feels it in her heart. When i called her she talk abt it and then she got mad because i didnt talk muc... (144 words)

I don't know if he has a crush?

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - ok, there is this one guy at my school, he is 15 and im 13 (dont question this just answer i know what yall think about 13 and 15 year olds in 8th grade) and we live in the same neighbor hood ok? so me him and my cousin hang out all the time i used to be like just the third ... (165 words)

I want to leave him but I'm afraid he won't come after me

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - SO I have been with my boyfriend for six years. When we first started dating he was amazing. He still is an amazing person works hard, and I know he loves me. Everyone who meets him loves him and thinks he's a great guy. The thing is things are different know and we spend so ... (319 words)

I feel alone and abandoned and we play mindgames on the phone

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22 January 2009 (F)

age - hi ,im divorced and met a man 16mths ago,he is the same divorced also .at the start he wined and dined me,but after all the breakups we have he is not the same,he lives away a few miles from me and as im the one with car he wants me to go to him.he is good enough when ... (152 words)

Living with his mom its driving me crazy!

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - hey, i don't know from where i start. i was in relationship for more than 2 years,and i just get married lately. my husband was living with his mother,she is at the sixties,to take care of her,because his sister never want to take care of her , anyway before we get married h... (380 words)

6.5 years and she's not being honest with me? Move on?

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22 January 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - My girlfriend of 6.5 years is lying to me. She got this new job more than a year ago and last year I stared to notice some changes in her. Last year we were in the process of buying a house together than soon get married. However, I was not happy with the changes that were ... (531 words)

Friend flirting with boyfriend

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - my friend has a friend that like to flirt with her boyfriend ...what can i do? i want to do a favor for her because she has done a lot of favors for me and i want to return that favor??...thank you!!... (43 words)

How should I talk to him?

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - hello to everyone! k my problem okay its not really a problem, There is this boy in my global studies class and he has this mysteries arua to him that draws me in. Every time we speaks he amazes me. He has so much to say about everything and he speaks with such knowlegde. Every ... (162 words)

Struggling between my b/f and an older man

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm in love with my boyfriend whom I've been with about a year and a half or so, and it's perfect together. but recently i've acquired this gradual adoration for an older man that i work with. im 17, and this man is 37- but we click! all day we talk and smile and laugh and we ... (162 words)

Should I stay or go to the function?

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22 January 2009 (F)

- My ex ended it because he said anything between us was doomed to disaster. To add insult to injury he said we should not communicate at all except in a group setting with others around. Needless to say I never want to be bothered with him again...knee jerk reaction. There is a ... (200 words)

When will my hormones calm down?

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Ughhh! I'm tired of hormones! I got my period two years ago, and ever since they've been amping up. When are they going to calm down? I don't enjoy being all moody and angry, etc.... (35 words)

How much time should go by before proposing?

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22 January 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - I am wondering , What is the ideal amount of time before you propose marriage to a woman? I am madly in love with my girlfriend and cant imagine my life without her. I know its too soon, but i want some feedback to what amount of time of dating is a good amount before marriage?... (56 words)

I miss her so much I break into tears

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22 January 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - hi, i was just wondering if anyone had any suggestions to my current situation. About 6 months ago i met this gorgeous young lady from italy who i immediately fell for, but the problem is she lives in italy and i cant stand being without her now that i met her in january just ... (223 words)

How could I flirt and win his heart?

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello, ohkay so my crush used to flirt with me like crazy. But now he is kind of with another girl. butthey arent goinq out or anything. but he said he loved her to death. however, sumtimes he acts like he likes me nd ill explain later. but how culd i flirt and win his ... (104 words)

Possible sexaholic

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22 January 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Alright, so I've been wondering lately if it's possible I'm a sexaholic. My girlfriend is a psychologist and she seems to think we both may be. The only thing that makes me wonder if it's not the case is that we both remain faithful to one another. But we have sex usua... (129 words)

Red rash all over hands

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22 January 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Just a quicky, i regularly get this red rash all over by hands in some areas its solid red and in other areas blotchy. i have ecxema do you recon its just my excema playing up (i'm awfully sorry i can't spell excema/ecxema?!?) it isn't itchy, it just doesn't look to hot. any ... (63 words)