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Can a school bully ever have redemptive qualities?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 993 days ago

30 June 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - When I was in 10th grade, the 11th and 12th graders were hazing and initiating us even though it was against school rules. I thought it was just a guy thing but then had an 11th grade girl tells me I was her initiation assignment. I had training in martial arts and was a black ... (264 words)

What would cause someone to act like this?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1028 days ago

30 June 2021 (F)

age 18-21 - Hello, I have a confusing problem with a guy at work. I think he greatly dislikes me, although I have no idea why. This guy, was recently hired about 2 months ago. I was friendly to him like I am to everyone, but he avoids me every chance he gets. I don't know what his i... (168 words)

My boyfriend told me he needs to find a new girlfriend after an argument. Is he being abusive?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1030 days ago

30 June 2021 (F)

age 51-59 - My boyfriend, after an argument, told me he needs to find a new girlfriend, that I drive him crazy. We were having a disagreement about his male friend. His friend and I got off to a bad start. He doesn't like me. My boyfriend and I were driving around today and his friend ... (399 words)

My girlfriend has become a different person

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1030 days ago

29 June 2021 (M)

age 36-40 - My girfriend changed. Itz a completely different person than who I met 3 years ago. She is 27, I am 35. We are planning to get married very soon. Now I dont even know anymore. First I didnt really pay that much attention but now it's obvious. Couple months ago I suddenly r... (462 words)

He acts like a boyfriend but will not commit

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1031 days ago

28 June 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - I've got myself into a situation and think I need to walk away but it hurts too much. I've fallen in love with this guy. Id class him as a mate. He's picked me up when I've been at rock bottom and we message all day every day. We were supposed to be a casual thing but we hav... (404 words)

Has she outgrown our friendship?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1028 days ago

28 June 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - So I’m a little confused with how my friend has been towards me recently. We’ve been friends for 14 years and also colleagues. We were both each other’s bridesmaids at our weddings. Every year we exchange birthday and Christmas gifts but last year she didn’t bother g... (372 words)

I don't trust my boyfriends actions on the cell phone

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1030 days ago

27 June 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi and thank you!! Little background. I have been dating for about 2 years. At times it's been a roller coaster. My boyfriend has been caught on hook up sites, ( he denies it's his, apparently it's his friends) of course I don't buy it. I have found very flirtatious... (221 words)

Loves to Fly Solo Doesn't Want Partnered Play

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1032 days ago

24 June 2021 (M)

age - Hi. My wife and I have been together for over 37 years. We have a contentious relationship, but used to have a great sex life. In the last 10 years it has been decreasing steadily to a frequency of once per month if I lobby hard. She typically says she's not in the mood, is too... (190 words)

Plummeting Sex Life and Loss of Sexual Confindence

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1035 days ago

23 June 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey there. I’m not even sure how I found this place, but it seems to be what I needed to find... I rarely ask for help but I need to get this off my chest. From the beginning, I tried to make sure my wife and I were sexually compatible. I asked her outright what her sex dri... (1085 words)

Should I act on my feelings for my friend or continue dating the new girl and see what happens?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1033 days ago

23 June 2021 (M)

age 36-40 - I’ve got myself into a sticky situation and I don’t know what to do - please help! I have this female friend I have known since we were kids. I’ve always had a slight thing for her. She’s stunning, a genuinely nice person and an all around good girl. I know she has had a th... (658 words)

It is normal to be horny during my period?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1033 days ago

22 June 2021 (F)

age 22-25 - Hi,i really feel so horny during my periods,is it normal... (10 words)

I got drunk and woke up naked in bed with my flatmate

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1033 days ago

22 June 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Last night I was drinking with my flatmates and they gave me beer - me: female 31 and them: males 38 and 39 and I just went through a breakup. So I woke up this morning in my flatmates bed naked. I don't find him attractive at all. Infact I was grossed out. I asked him what did ... (191 words)

I have resentment towards my parents and I know I shouldn't

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1035 days ago

22 June 2021 (M)

age 22-25 - Hi everyone, its been a while since my last problem and i still dont know how to start these questions. Thank you all though for the help My problem this time around involves my own parents and siblings. My parents are amazing as parents. Through out my life i cant think... (522 words)

Should I start a friends with benefits?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1035 days ago

22 June 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - Afew months ago, one of my ex-colleagues who is muslim asked me on facebook if he wanted to be friends with benefits, which I declined because we were work colleagues - its very awkward! He ended up leaving the company and I am reconsidering this offer. My parents have alw... (354 words)

Are Nicer Guys Attracted To More Natural Looking Women And Players To Less Modest Ones?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1028 days ago

21 June 2021 (M)

age 22-25 - I recently "blocked and deleted" a guy who tried to neg and pit me against "high maintenance" looking women - the Instagram model types who wear a ton of makeup, etc. He would always bring up how hot he found women with what he called the "Instagram whore" look - he was also a ... (336 words)

Lack of boundaries or opportunists?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1028 days ago

21 June 2021 (M)

age 36-40 - I have this friend she always asks for help with a lot of things. I feel her mentality is along the lines of "there's no harm in asking?". My nature is that I feel uncomfortable being asked for things too often and I have a need to support my friends. She leaves me sometimes ... (174 words)

Adult separation anxiety

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1036 days ago

21 June 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, is there anyone here that suffers with separation anxiety from their partner/spouse? For the past 2 years I constantly worry Incase my husband dies and im left alone (we have no children and I don’t get in with my family and he has no family). It all started wh... (264 words)

My wife is having an affair with my father

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1036 days ago

21 June 2021 (M)

age 41-50 - I have been married to my wife Lisa for 14 years, we met in April 2005 when I was 24 years old and she was 23 and began dating 6 weeks later. We have a 6-year-old son, Simon (not his real name). I recently found out my wife has been cheating on me with my dad and s... (599 words)

I am 15 years younger than my partner. Am I still not young enough for him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1033 days ago

20 June 2021 (F) age 51-59 - I am 53 and my partner is 68. He looks at younger women. I realize I too, am a younger woman to him but it does bother me. As good as I look for my age (I have been told I look at least 10 years younger), it still doesn't stop him. Today when he was outside doing yard w... (259 words)

Did he give me a fake number on purpose ?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1019 days ago

20 June 2021 (F)

age 18-21 - So I was talking with this guy on the elevator he already knows me we live in the same building too. First I asked him if he has a PS4 he said he didn't so I asked if I can get his number he said yeah. So I made him write it since I left my phone at home . He wanted to take my ... (86 words)

My partners brother is a bad influence on my partner and I don’t know what to do about it.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1039 days ago

20 June 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - My partners brother is a bad influence on my partner and I don’t know what to do about it. So his brother is married with two children, but has openly admitted he isn’t happy and felt he was pushed into marriage but a divorce is too expensive. Whenever I’m around him he makes... (254 words)

I'm fed up trying with people

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1033 days ago

20 June 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - It’s been a tough year, I was heavily depressed during lockdown however things are getting better and I planned a camping trip in the mountains with a a group of friends. Our transport and other arrangements were booked, I spent a lot of time planning and organising. Only to ... (358 words)

Is it normal to suddenly develop attraction to someone out of the blue like this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1039 days ago

19 June 2021 (M)

age 22-25 - I've had a friend who I've known for a long time (10+ years) but recently I've started to feel sexually aroused whenever we talk. It could be about any mundane topic, but every time she speaks I just feel my heart beating a little faster. My mind gets taken over by thoughts... (82 words)

I am really in love with my male teacher. should I date him?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1042 days ago

17 June 2021 (F)

age 22-25 - i am really in love with my male teacher. should i date him?... (13 words)

When should an adult stop having crushes on people under 18?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1040 days ago

17 June 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - When should an adult stop having crushes on people under 18? Im 18 years old and crush on people younger than me at my school. Obviously this is fine, but will it still be weird to be crushing on people in high school say when Im in college and 20+? I ask because I find people ... (74 words)

How do I make her see I can't always be giving her attention?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1041 days ago

16 June 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - My girlfriend is very clingy. She was not as bad earlier in the relationship. It was more tolerable. Now it's like call me or we don't talk enough meanwhile I text and talk as much as I can. She keeps track of dates, times we talk and the duration. I don't like it. I ... (168 words)

3 of my friends like me and I don't know what to do

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1042 days ago

16 June 2021 (F) age 18-21 - I am a fifteeen year old girl who has recently had a lot of guy trouble. Three of my friends like me and i have no idea how to handle the situation. i'll start by explaining the situation with each one of them individually. 1, W (i have no interest in him) W and i have be... (308 words)

I am sad that I don't have a good relationship with my children

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1040 days ago

16 June 2021 (F)

age 51-59 - Dear Cupid, Im here to open up my sadness regarding my own children. I have 2 children, 1 daughter and 1 son. They have diffirent father as the father of my first one ( daughter ) cheated on me when my daughter still in my belly. The father of my son, just made me pregnant... (1039 words)

Can't stop thinking about my assistant after love confession

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1042 days ago

15 June 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - I can’t stop thinking about my assistant at work after he told me he loved me. The problem is though I’m a married woman. I work in the offices for a manufacturing company and basically deal with all the admin work. I’ve been there for 14 years. Throughout this time I have... (1042 words)

The pandemic has made me question my marriage and ponder divorce

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1043 days ago

14 June 2021 (M)

age 41-50 - Since March of last year I have been full-time telecommuting. My spouse is unemployed and has been for a few years now although she always worked before. She quit her job because it was stressful to her and I make so much more money than she does that we could afford to have ... (941 words)

I want to help my ill brother but I don't want to be a part of his life

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1047 days ago

14 June 2021 (M)

age - My brother and are not close to the point that we haven't talked in over 30 years. My parents and I are barely on speaking terms. I don't need my brother in my life and I don't want him in my life. My parents told me that my brother has cancer and needs a bone marrow tran... (132 words)

Do I expect too much of my 11 year old stepson?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 1044 days ago

13 June 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - My question is child related. My stepson who lives with me and his dad for 3 years now . He came to me at age 8/9 is now 11/12 . Now I wonder if I expect to much of him .. I ask him to put his washed dried and ironed clothes away but most times he chucks them on his sof... (214 words)

I have lost the support of my father since he passed away. I don't think my mother will allow my future to happen

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1046 days ago

13 June 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello. My Father passed away on the 10th June 2021. We had our ups and downs like any child parent relationship. My father was not Thee Best out There but he was still a great provider and did his best to give us what he had. My mother who is a negative ass has been reminding ... (288 words)

Why is my ex friend lurking around?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1046 days ago

13 June 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - My ex friend and myself had a falling out afew months ago surrounding the efforts put into the friendship as well as how they were treating me. Now I feel like they are lurking or keeping tabs on me to check to see what I am doing. Our falling out was mainly about how he was... (749 words)

Why does my friend act this way? Is she trying to make me jealous?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1046 days ago

13 June 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - When you’re day-drinking with a friend and she gazes over at you and asks “why did you have a crush on ____ instead of me?” looking like she’s going to cry (when you in fact have been madly in love with this friend for years and there’s no way they don’t know that), you tell ... (110 words)

I'm shocked at how blinded I was by online man I gave money to

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1044 days ago

12 June 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi and thank you!! So I'm dating a man who unfortunately is consumed with money ots money this, money that. Huge turn off to me. Sure we all need it but it doesn't consume me. Seems hes always broke always needing something. I need groceries, I need to pay bills a... (280 words)

I am furious at my boyfriend's female friend!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1044 days ago

12 June 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - So I have been with my partner 3 years now. Over that time he has had a friend of the opposite sex. That he had known for years but not seen in person in a long time, think social like 3x in the time he has known her, long before he met me. My gut feeling was not to trust he... (509 words)

What if my worst memories are false?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1047 days ago

12 June 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear Agony Aunt and Uncles, How do I deal with the idea that some of my most traumatic memories may not have happened or maybe they did happen, but they may be my own fault? I really am asking for help, so I will be as nongraphic as possible. I have bad memories from being in... (692 words)

My boyfriend is still communicating with the women he cheated on me with

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1047 days ago

11 June 2021 (F) age 30-35 - Hello and thanks So my bf and I have been together about 3 years. In the beginning he was cheating and I found out and he apologized and I had to regain my trust in him. Unfortunately he was an Instagram account and hes got the woman he cheated with on there and they a... (129 words)

I bought a house abroad and now I'm worried I made a bad decision

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1048 days ago

11 June 2021 (F)

age 51-59 - I am a. 53 year old woman who split from my long-term partner a few years ago. Without going into detail my life has been very tough, there is no 'family wealth' and I spent most of my life caring for others whilst trying to make some headway career-wise. I was diagnosed with ... (1005 words)

My Sister's Need For Online Sexual Validation Is Worrying Me, HELP!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1049 days ago

9 June 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - My younger sister and I both live at home with our aging parents (we both work, though, and are just doing it to save money). We were both also raised Muslim, though I am not even Muslim any more and our parents, family are OK with this. Like, my sister too wears loads of low ... (643 words)

My husband can't get his ex out of our lives and wants me to play matchmaker

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1047 days ago

9 June 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been married to my husband for 7 years now, met him in March 2014 when he was 36. No kids, we live an OK existence, not mega-rich but not in major financial struggles even with covid. A bit wealtheir than middle-class, but not living in a McMansion. I love my husband,... (714 words)

Is more desire & creativity a realistic expectation?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1049 days ago

8 June 2021 (M)

age 36-40 - I've been married for 6 years and together for 7. We have four kids youngest is almost 2. I work full time and my wife has chosen to stay home with our kids till our youngest gets in school. I say all this just to say I know we are busy between work and managing a house and ... (235 words)

Am I just too slow to move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 970 days ago

7 June 2021 (M)

age 18-21 - Hi, just looking for some advice. So about 2 years ago, I met someone and we worked well together, so eventually we began a relationship. She was my first and only girlfriend so far, and it lasted for only a few months before she left me for another guy. Ever since I have not... (160 words)

I had a threesome with my roommate

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1048 days ago

6 June 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - I am 25 years old this year. I had my first threesome last weekend with my female roommate (who is now ex roommate) with his male "friend". We fought not because of a threesome but because she took my keys without telling me and spent the whole day somewhere else with some guy ... (355 words)

I need to understand why I cheated on my boyfriend when I'm so against cheating

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1048 days ago

6 June 2021 (F)

age 22-25 - 2 days ago I cheated on my boyfriend with his best friend. I know relationships are never perfect, and ours isn’t either, we’ve had so many ups and downs, but we always work through them. we never give up on each other. he’s fucked up and he worked through it and vice versa. ... (779 words)

He seemed like a nice guy we met and he's acting strangely and I'm scared

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1050 days ago

6 June 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - I met a guy online and we communicated for 6 months. I just got out of a relationship and the guy seemed perfect for me. We had all the same hobbies and interests and we started to really like each other. He's 29 and I'm 33. He was so kind and nice and sweet and I felt so safe ... (700 words)

What to do about clueless husband and my toxic father

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1042 days ago

6 June 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - My life is a Mess. It started when I lived with my in laws. We had an unplanned pregnancy and my daughter is now 7. I didn’t know how controlling my in laws were going to get. My husband and I lived with them. They got controlling. My sister in law moved back in . She did ... (186 words)

Whats in a name? a title?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1054 days ago

6 June 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - My husband has a younger brother, Justin, that is an amazing uncle with his nieces and nephew. The problem is my brother, Phil and his wife have a son and Justin doesn't want my nephew (Phil's son) to call him "Uncle Justin". Justin has stated "Why would I want who I am no... (149 words)

My Narcissistic Mother Just Told Me To Stab Myself. How Do I Deal With Her Nasty Comments?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1054 days ago

5 June 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - She recently sprained her ankle and can't walk or do much herself. I live nearby temporarily, so went round to hers and we were cooking together in the kitchen. I asked her jokingly if she wanted me to show her how to chop the garlic. She replied back, as though it was a ... (391 words)