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Archived questions from: October, 2020 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I cut her off. How will I ever know if she was interested?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1272 days ago

31 October 2020 (M)

age 22-25 - I recently unfriended a girl I had a strong crush on. I think she had a big crush on me also which makes me confused. We both were in relationships and were up front that we were, just general chit chat at first which led to this conversation. We met in class. My relat... (228 words)

My parents are making a big deal about me moving out? I am an adult.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1273 days ago

31 October 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello, I need advice. I recently told my parents that I am going to move out once I save enough money next year. They are now guilt-tripping me saying no one will be there when they die. I am the youngest of six and turn 25 soon. Surely one of my older siblings will be there ... (131 words)

I'm tired of playing games. Should I end it with my girlfriend?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1272 days ago

31 October 2020 (M)

age 26-29 - I asked my girlfriend to meet up for halloweeen and she said we can’t this year because of COVID-19. It’s Halloween, I am working and she has just told me that she won’t be around evening as she is going out. I’m stuck with work (as she told me we are not going anywhere s... (203 words)

How can I get over a 4 year old crush which turned into love.We’re on good terms but he’s married and he used to teach/tutor me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1272 days ago

30 October 2020 (F)

age 18-21 - I’m a 17 year old who’s in love with a married man with two kids who used to be my teacher at school but I still contact him whenever I need help with my studies(he tutors students after school cause he’s really the best at explaining . If you think this is messy than you ... (512 words)

Was I foolish and naive all those years ago ?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1254 days ago

30 October 2020 (F)

age - Do you think I was unreasonable when I was younger and do you think I’m being silly now and perhaps over reacting ? I get very upset about all this from my past: My first marriage was in 1981 when I was 29yrs old. A week after our wedding my husband started a new job 20 mil... (745 words)

Is it a good idea to pay an escort to date me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1272 days ago

29 October 2020 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello I am a male virgin who has never been on a date or kissed a girl. I have many friends who are women but never had a girlfriend. I'm not particularly handsome and I am chubby. I'm bald also. I basically look like a gorilla. I am socially awkward and have no idea how... (224 words)

Always the rebound girl, never the girlfriend!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1273 days ago

29 October 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Why am I always the rebound girl and never the girlfriend?! I don't know what it is about me but I always seem to attract or I'm attracted to emotionally unavailable guys and it makes me want to hit my head against the wall. I've never been in a long term relationship, I'... (458 words)

My male colleague distances himself when I told him my feelings. Any advice about moving on, and what I should have done differently?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1275 days ago

28 October 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - I am looking for insight on this situation of mine of a relationship that had dissolved. I am seeking a career change because it holds poor memories. I had a friendship with a male colleague for a year which I know he valued. I thought that he reciprocated my feelings but as s... (229 words)

My former superior made work hellish. I’m out of her oversight now but am wondering if I can stay at the company. Your advice, please!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1276 days ago

28 October 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear Aunts and Uncles. Would love to hear your feedback and insights on this one. I have been employed at this company for more than a year now. I was instrumental in launching a major product and major partnership last year thereby generating the first ever source of revenue ... (971 words)

The stars do align between me and my boyfriend, but there are some concerns with him as my future husband. Your advice?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1274 days ago

28 October 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear Cupid, I'm writing you to get your advice on my relationship with a man I've been involved with since March of this year. We have been exclusively dating since June and have built a healthy relationship so far. This was a relationship that grew over the course of the pa... (749 words)

What is an open marriage like?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1274 days ago

28 October 2020 (M)

age 51-59 - I have a problem with my sexlife. Usually it is the other way around but my wife always wants it and I dont feel like it. This has been going on for awhile. I think part of it is the stress from my job and just life in general but my libido is very low. We are going to ... (314 words)

I befriended a co-worker who has many issues and I don’t know how to end the friendship!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1275 days ago

27 October 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - I need help, I seem to have got myself into a horrible situation. First thing is first I would like to acknowledge my own short coming and my responsibility here. I started a new job with an office of 25-30 women in one big room. I'm not much for being part of the crowd or... (504 words)

It’s been an emotional roller coaster for me after the breakup! Any insights would be helpful!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1277 days ago

26 October 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - A couple of months ago, I broke things off with the first, serious possible partner I’ve ever had. It was fast and intense, with thousands of messages, calls, and video chats. Nothing like any prolonged dating I’d had previously. The first time we went on an in person date -... (1005 words)

I'm unhappy and not sure how to rebuild my life

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1276 days ago

26 October 2020 (F) age 41-50 - Dear Uncles and Aunts, I very much need your advice. You don’t have to read everything (I just realized how long it is) , this will do ;) Here’s how I feel at this moment: at 44 I’m married to a husband, whose behavior I don’t like, I have no friends or social contac... (1528 words)

How do I proceed? I'm in love with my ex who is in a relationship

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1278 days ago

26 October 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello, my ex and I broke up about six months ago, she recently got in touch with me and we began talking and I confessed that I was still in love and wanted to get back together. She is in a relationship and I told her I wasn’t asking her for anything but that this is where I ... (263 words)

Do I tell my friend about her teenaged son's attraction to me?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1277 days ago

25 October 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi I am 44 and I have been divorced for 6 months. The divorce was hard on me and I have very low self esteem and ended up having to move in with my friend and her son. Over the course of the months I have been staying with my friend I noticed her son staring at me and then t... (174 words)

My boyfriend is quite narcissistic! How do I respond to him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1280 days ago

25 October 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello, I feel like my boyfriend is narcissistic and I'm getting tired of his behaviors. Lately, when I talk to him about my day, he interjects with how he's doing. Sometimes, he'll only respond in texts with one word answers like "Okay" or "Cool". It makes me feel unheard. Wh... (233 words)

What is a nice gesture to re-ignite the spark?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1279 days ago

24 October 2020 (M)

age 30-35 - How can you re ignite a spark in a relationship. Ladies what would be a nice gesture or action after busy week of work. Can you guys give me ideas? Doesn’t have to be sexual as No point for the whole build up if she can only last 15 minutes in bed, and that’s it for th... (90 words)

My boyfriend has a very strange relationship with his mother! Am I overthinking or shoul I run?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1264 days ago

24 October 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Help! I have almost been dating a guy for a year. He has a very strange relationship with his Mom. She’s very possessive over him. He lives in a mother in law apartment with his Parents. He makes sexual jokes with his Mom. Once I was down stairs and he walked out of his room ... (246 words)

How to deal with a pregnant friend who is constantly seeking attention?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1270 days ago

24 October 2020 (F) age 51-59 - How to deal with a pregnant friend who is constantly seeking attention? Hi aunts and uncles, I'm looking for some advice on how to deal with a friend who's been constantly seeking attention and her recent pregnancy has made it even worse. We're in mid-forties a... (545 words)

My father-in-law’s illness has upended our plans!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 1280 days ago

23 October 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear Cupid I am married for 3 year and been together with my husband for total 5 years and we have 3 year old daughter. It is a good marriage with some ups and downs. We decided to get house few months back and found a house which we both liked and price was within our range... (246 words)

I made a huge mistake and now, what should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1278 days ago

23 October 2020 (M)

age 36-40 - So, there's a lot of history here and i feel like all the details are important so forgive this very long story/question. This girl [I'll call her X] and I have been messing around since we were teenagers. We're now in our 30s. We were a couple for about 2 years maybe 15... (1325 words)

Was he my friend or was I played?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1281 days ago

22 October 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Can someone please help, as my head is in a mess. I’ve being friends with a guy for the past year. I met him through work and we really got on well. We don’t work together all the time just occasionally. The past couple of months we’ve being messaging and talking nearly e... (331 words)

I want to buy a sex doll to be my gf

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1278 days ago

22 October 2020 (M)

age 41-50 - hi, im Owen. i'm 39 and i live in california. i have a thin 4 inch penis and haven't had sex in 15 years. i am also a premature ejaculator, and because of these things i am intimidated and nervous near women. i don't feel comfortable trying to date anyone so i am planning on ... (86 words)

What does "I don't see you that way" mean and how to change it?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1280 days ago

22 October 2020 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm a male virgin who's never kissed a girl or been on a date. Whenever I work up the courage to ask a girl out, I always get told "You're a sweet guy but I just don't see you that way." What does that mean? I always interpret it that I am too ugly. How do I change this?... (63 words)

Is this just a friendship? I don't feel sparks

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1282 days ago

21 October 2020 (M)

age 36-40 - So I've (34M) recently started dating with really cool person (37F) and got to the boy/girlfriend point. She is great - everything I think I could want in a girlfriend. We get on well, have a similar intelligence, personality, find her attractive, have similar outlooks on a ... (169 words)

I'm struggling with my co-workers English

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 1212 days ago

21 October 2020 (F)

age 51-59 - Hello all. Thank you in advance for taking the time to help me find a solution to my problem. I have just started a job after being flogged due to Covid. I love the job and the staff I work with are great the thing is many of the staff I take direction from speak in broken ... (239 words)

Whats the best way to find a therapist to talk to about depression

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1280 days ago

21 October 2020 (M)

age 36-40 - A few weeks ago, one of my friends who I known for over 20 years committed suicide. This week, I found out that my best friends 15 years old daughter's cancer returned (she been in remission for three years). I am very worried about her. I have been having nightmares for t... (121 words)

Is he making me out to be an idiot? I'm not sure he's over his ex

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1282 days ago

20 October 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - I would like some advice please. I have been dating a guy since June. At first I found out he hadn’t been in a relationship for 6 years since his ex (first relationship) she cheated on him with his best friend... I then find out he is still in contact with them both mainly her ... (437 words)

He says he just wants to leave things as they are. Does that mean he's not interested?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1283 days ago

20 October 2020 (F) age 30-35 - Guy I’ve been seeing has just broke it off saying he’s just not ready for a relationship at the moment and wants to leave things as they are for now. Does this mean he’s not interested at all? He’s had a lot on with work and his mum being ill but things were going so well. I’ve ... (74 words)

Girlfriend upset because I like instagram photos of fitness women

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1282 days ago

20 October 2020 (M)

age 22-25 - Hi, This may seem small but hear me out. Been with my gf for 6 months now. The other day she asks me why I like all these Instagram posts of fitness girls/insta models etc etc. She says I like alot of them and it upsets her. We follow alot of the same fitness peopl... (176 words)

Should I tell my boyfriend that I still like girls?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1285 days ago

19 October 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - I am a christian and I'm in a long term relationship and feel really disconnected sexually since I have a secret and it's gotten to the point where every time we sleep together, I need to fantasize about the opposite sex or I can't even get aroused with my bf. This has been ... (982 words)

How would other have handled the relationship I was in?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1282 days ago

19 October 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - I have the highest respect for the aunts on this website. So any tough love is more than welcome. A year back I met a guy who works in retail. Three years younger than me. I have a STD. He doesn't. So it seemed like a fairy tale. He earns much lesser than me. So I didn't m... (405 words)

Should I tell my mom that I think my stepdad is cheating on her?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 1256 days ago

19 October 2020 (M)

age 22-25 - I am a 19 year old male living with my mom and my step dad. I have a growing suspicion that my stepdad is cheating on my mom, or at the least watching porn behind her back, and here are some reasons why I think this: First, I have seen him take pictures of girls in bikinis at ... (267 words)

I cheated got my ex pregnant. Should I attend the birth of the baby?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1284 days ago

18 October 2020 (M)

age 30-35 - I cheated on my girlfriend months ago with my ex partner. My ex and I have a child together. My ex is pregnant and says its mine. If it is I will take full responsibility. My girlfriend has forgiven me. Under the circumstances should I attend the birth? Ex wants me to, ... (59 words)

Why can a guy cheat and it's ok but not ok if his gf does it!???

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1285 days ago

18 October 2020 (F) age 41-50 - Maybe somebody here can tell me why a guy who cheats on you when the opportunity comes up cheats on you but gaslights the hell out of you every time? Why does he do this to you? Why does he profess his love for you and try so hard to hold onto you? If he really loved you why ... (203 words)

My new love wants children or child I don't how can I tell him no and still marry him?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1286 days ago

18 October 2020 (F)

age 51-59 - Afternoon everyone, So I'm back in the dating world and my children disapproves of it especially my son my daughter acts happy but I sense differently.So me and my now love are engaged now we have plans to travel move in together and just living life.But he wants ... (163 words)

This old friend of his is getting on my nerves! Should I just let him block her?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1286 days ago

18 October 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay so I have been seeing my other half for around 6 months now. Everything is great between us however he has a female friend he has know for 20 years she is just a friend and married herself ect. However she is driving me mental now she mails or texts him daily all the time ... (380 words)

My girlfriend is happy with sex every 3 months. I want more!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1260 days ago

18 October 2020 (M)

age - Hello, in my early sixties, my girlfriend couple years younger, well it happened agin tonight, i wanted to make love, she just said go to sleep, only once in three months, she says i should be slowing down, been together three years, i still love sex, no problem down ... (119 words)

My boyfriend gets tired when he gives me oral. How can I encourage him to keep going?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1280 days ago

16 October 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - So what am I to do when my boyfriend says his tongue is tired when he performs oral sex on me? It takes me awhile with him. I am not sure why. I can take care of myself much quicker. But with him it takes longer. That is normal, right? I used to fake it with him and pre... (586 words)

My long term boyfriend ghosted me, had a fling and now has come back telling me he loves me. Should I believe him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1288 days ago

16 October 2020 (F) age 41-50 - Hi Aunts and Uncles. Long story short. My boyfriend of 5 yrs left me back in July. We were having some problems at the time except we always used to work them out. But that day, he just gave up on me and ghosted me. I couldn't even get him to talk it out. He seemed so final and ... (343 words)

He has ptsd how can we make things work

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1285 days ago

15 October 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi. Me and a friend decided to have a relationship 3 years ago. its been a bit rocky from after 2 month of dating things were always on and off with him and after a couple of years he started opening up about his past things I didn't know of and commitment was an issue. Ive ... (364 words)

My ex won't stop posting about me and is obsessed

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1287 days ago

15 October 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - First let me start by saying ive dealt with stalkers etc a fee times in my life. I had one that violently stalked me when i was 18 i had to get a restraining order against, he got wrapped up in other charges since and is now doing life for rape. Then another abusive boufriend 4 ... (532 words)

Dealing with my friend’s relationship drama is becoming draining

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1287 days ago

15 October 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi aunts and uncles. I’m having an issue with one of my friends which is causing me quite a bit of stress that I’d like your advice on. I love her to bits but she’s always acted like a doormat. It’s almost like she takes pride in being that way, like she’s the ‘nice one’ while ... (825 words)

New GF enjoys strip clubs and looking at other men whilst in a relationship

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1272 days ago

15 October 2020 (M)

age 36-40 - My new gf of 6 months told me that her and her friends have been to a few male strip clubs and that she enjoys them and would continue to do so. She also said that she enjoys looking at other men and does it even more so when she's in a relationship as it makes her more con... (194 words)

Old friend has been talking behind my back and is ignoring me. I don't know why and it's making me feel sick with anxiety

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1287 days ago

14 October 2020 (M)

age 36-40 - I recently met up with an old uni friend who I hadn't seen for over a year. He took a picture of us together and sent it to a group chat. It turns out that 3 out of a group of 4 of us from uni had set up a group but I hadn't been invited to it. He showed me the photo he'd sent ... (519 words)

I need to know if people are capable of change when it comes to cheating?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1289 days ago

14 October 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - I need to know if people are capable of change when it comes to cheating? I broke up with my partner of 10 years and father to my child 18 months ago. We had a good relationship. There were a couple of niggles - he was slightly stricter bringing our son up than I would ... (367 words)

I feel numb and can't get into relationships until they have ended. Am I depressed?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1289 days ago

14 October 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello Aunts and Uncles I’m in a rut in my life and need some help. Bit of a backstory I grew up as a child and in my teens around abusive relationships. My mom and dad divorced when I was young and my dad use to beat my mom. My mom then went through a long series of o... (941 words)

How do I cope up with my mom's death being a teenager?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1288 days ago

14 October 2020 (F)

age 18-21 - Hello I am 17 year old girl My mom unexpectedly died due to a sever cardiac stroke when I was hoping recovery.I had completed faith in God and believed very strongly my mom would be back soon Healthy.I myself am a tarot card reader and astrologer numerologist with veru str... (179 words)

I don't want to be in a relationship where I would be the one serving and then die not knowing what it's like to be cared for... should I just break up with him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1285 days ago

13 October 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello, My boyfriend and I are both in our twenties and have been together for a while now. We both had a discussion last night about how our future. I live with a medical condition and so I want to live a good life because I don't know when I would pass away. I told my boyfri... (138 words)