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Archived questions from: December, 2020 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I feel so alone and being controlled by my husband

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1209 days ago

31 December 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear cupid I have been married for past 3 years and dated my husband 3 years prior. Lately i feel so alone and being controlled by my husband. Its always his way or high way, never seem to take any of my input though we both own the house , i earn more than him. He decides ... (238 words)

Should I keep fighting for us and the man I love or simply let go of him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1210 days ago

30 December 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - I broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years back in July, as for the last 2 years I felt extremely neglected. He had all the time in the world for everyone else apart from me, he put everyone’s needs and emotions first before mine. I tired to communicate how I felt on numerous ... (404 words)

Gf of 2.5 years abruptly moved out - unclear whether I should give up or try to work things out

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1206 days ago

30 December 2020 (M)

age 36-40 - I am at a loss for what to do with this one. I dated a girl who was 7 years younger than me for over 2.5 years and we lived together for about 7 months. Aside from an issue I have with snoring, things seemed to be going well. 9 days before she moved out, she told me she was ... (683 words)

Is the relationship worth it or should I end it?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1209 days ago

30 December 2020 (M)

age 51-59 - Here is the short version for those who don't want too much background: In a relationship for 10 years. Relationship is good 95% of the time but any time conflict arises and my girlfriend gets mad she breaks up, says she doesn't want to be with me anymore because "it shou... (1572 words)

I don't like the choices my girlfriend made in the past getting involved with someone who was involved with someone else

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1212 days ago

29 December 2020 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi, Need advice Bit of a tricky one. Been with my girlfriend for seven months Everything is going well. A couple of months ago my girlfriend told me about a past fling/relationship she had with her cousins brother in law she met at a family function. This happened prior t... (419 words)

Do I reach out to my ex when I know he's having a hard time?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1212 days ago

29 December 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - I recently discovered that my childhood sweetheart is having a pretty hard time due to losing his job and his relationship breaking down due to all the pressure of the pandemic. Now I’m happily engaged to be married next year, but I am worried about him and I want to reach ... (102 words)

Why do I end up being the side chick

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1214 days ago

29 December 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - I am 26 years old and I know there is nothing wrong with me ,but for some reason men who are in a relationship always find there away to me . It’s not that I look desperate or something I am no longer doing online dating etc or looking for a relationship. Like meeting new ppl ... (322 words)

Do I chose between 2 men that don't have all the qualities I want or wait for the whole package?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1212 days ago

29 December 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay, so I am knee deep into online dating right now apart from the matrimonial search my parents are on. Until now I have either fallen in love in accidental ways or intensely dated one person at a time. I don't have enough experience to observe my own pattern of makin... (502 words)

I am struggling with how to handle her mood swings, any advice?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1215 days ago

28 December 2020 (M)

age 51-59 - Please can someone offer me some clarity and maybe some advice. MY wife and I have been married 10 years, we have a 7 year old boy who is pretty much perfect and no trouble at all. I have an older daughter in her early 30's lives away and she has a younger son who also liv... (609 words)

I’m trapped in a love affair!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1213 days ago

27 December 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - What to do if you are trapped in a relationship 3 Well I meat a guy online on a dating side went on a date etc Hit it off pretty well I asked him about his past relationship to make sure that he is really single, and how long he has been single So he respond with that h... (558 words)

How do you process the death of a parent.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1215 days ago

26 December 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - In 2017, I lost my father to cancer. We fought a lot, he was really over protective even when I was an adult. I can’t look at his photo. A pain shoots through my chest. I tried anti depressants to see it will help it has not. I tried therapy it doesn’t help me. In that same... (258 words)

Why does my girlfriend need to talk to this older guy?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1210 days ago

25 December 2020 (M)

age 30-35 - My girlfriend talks to this older guy. She is 24 and he is late 40s. When I found out, she said I don’t need to know what i don’t need to worry about - she is very loyal to me. I did not like the fact she spoke to him daily. I became increasingly concerned when she would video ... (298 words)

How to rebuild our friendship? She misunderstood concern for being pesky

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 1215 days ago

24 December 2020 (M)

age 41-50 - Hello I am writing to get your help to resurrect my friendship with a work colleague who works for me. Basically we got to know each other since she had some problems at work and I helped her resolve it. She also had some issues with her present neighbour. Hence she decide... (527 words)

Should I feel like a slut?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1210 days ago

24 December 2020 (F)

age 18-21 - Should I feel like a slut?? Ok backstory, I (16/F) I met this guy (16/M) that was attractive and I wanted to get to know him. For a good week we would see each other every day and play basketball and exchange glances. At one point it was night and we were sitting and he k... (165 words)

We broke up and now I'm not invited to the wedding where my daughter is to be the bridesmaid

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1218 days ago

24 December 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi I broke up with my partner in June and moved out as he wouldn’t we are still on speaking terms and get on better now than we did we have 3 children it was my birthday last week and his family didn’t even get me a birthday card I still get on with them all so I let that go ... (132 words)

My Mom Feels Trapped With Her Psychotic Husband, Help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1214 days ago

24 December 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - TL/DR; My stepdad verbally abuses my mom, lives a double life (straight married man to cross-dressing gay man), and my mom is scared to kick him out because he's psychotic and has a history of making bombs in his earlier years (She's afraid he'll bomb her house.) Any advice is ... (410 words)

Where do I begin to find the children I gave up?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1215 days ago

24 December 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - My alcohol history started in my teens and I remember being interested in alcohol, cigarettes, bikers, punks, gay people. drugs, sex, masturbation as soon as I heard of them. I thought God, Jesus, Mary, all the saints and apostles and angels were watching me.I was interested ... (558 words)

Why does My Mum’s boyfriend blatantly lie all the time?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1218 days ago

23 December 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - My Mum’s new boyfriend talks so much BS I can’t tell if he’s just joking around or being deadly serious about it. Anyone who is familiar with the Inbetweeners, he’s basically Jay but in his early fifties. He reckons he’s done so much in his life or can do this and that; he ... (569 words)

My always broke boyfriend asked for money and when I offered him some he said it wasn't nearly enough

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1213 days ago

23 December 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello So I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and hes always broke. Always some scenario happening. I have grown tired of it. His most recent request is hes broke can I help him. I offered 80.00 and he declined. He said it's not enough and he needs about 500.00... (120 words)

My nephew came out as transgender. I am not happy about it. How can I be supportive?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1221 days ago

23 December 2020 (M)

age 51-59 - My nephew turned 24 years old this year and he announced to everyone via Facebook that he is transitioning to a woman. He has started hormone therapy, growing his hair our, and dressing like a woman. His mom (my sister-in-law) claims that he is being advised by a therapis... (607 words)

I think I outted myself for no reason and now unsure of what to do

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1220 days ago

23 December 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Told my bf of 6 years and my sister that I am bisexual while drunk and now I feel ashamed and disgusted with myself. My sister's reaction was just is that it ? Because I said I have something to say. My bf reacted by saying I could sleep with women and seemed turned on by it so ... (127 words)

My boyfriend loves to travel but I don't. How do we get past this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1221 days ago

22 December 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend has a longtime passion for travel. He has flown to many places all over the world before we met. I, on the other hand, don't need to travel to be happy. And I don't share his passion. I am also terrified of flying. He is now planning trips for us in the new year. ... (72 words)

My daughter is fragile and pregnant but her behavior of not remembering the past the way it actually happened bothers me

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1220 days ago

22 December 2020 (F)

age 51-59 - I would appreciate advice, please, about an issue related to my daughter who is now 32 and in a steady job, has a long term partner (7 years) and who I generally have a good relationship with but who I am concerned about. I may be enabling disrespectful behaviour towards me by ... (1557 words)

My hot wife won't stop shopping and her provocative dressing

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1219 days ago

21 December 2020 (M)

age 36-40 - Wife of 8 years loves to shop and in recent weeks has been wearing more and more provocative clothes when when she goes out. It all started with a diet contest with one of her friends. She always lost to her friend and said no matter what she would win the money bet. Eight ... (155 words)

Is depression causing my low sex drive?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1220 days ago

21 December 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello Aunts I'm 28 years old and have severe depression. (It's the functional kind, which means I seem like I'm okay on the surface except I'm very emotionally numb). I have been having very low drive sexually (I'm single and was in a long distance for some time). Even th... (194 words)

My ex got married is pregnant and is now back in my life

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1218 days ago

21 December 2020 (M)

age 26-29 - My ex gf of 9 years, broke up with me recently. She jumped into a relationship right away and did not take the time to get over our relationship and properly move on. We had a good relationship, but it was not really moving anywhere, so she felt that she found love somewhere ... (262 words)

Need help approaching a potentially suicidal friend.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1217 days ago

21 December 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - I have this "friend" who I met at work when I was 17, he developed feelings for me whilst working together and I flirted with him a little but he never did anything about it. I have recently been talking to a friend who knows him quite well and he still has feelings for me, but ... (208 words)

I'm not interested in having my husband's baby. He won't accept no as an answer

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 1221 days ago

20 December 2020 (F)

age 51-59 - Hello all happy holidays I just got engaged and now my husband to be is talking babies already.I did mention I don't have the desire of becoming pregnant again even for him.Im feeling like he is not trying to hear anything I say he wants to adopt also but I still don't want to ... (149 words)

Is it ok for her to act like this when she has a partner?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1222 days ago

20 December 2020 (M)

age 41-50 - My partner and I are both 40. We’ve been together for about 5 months. She’s a fairly recent divorcee who I was friends with for 10 years before we got together. I adore her, but she flirts with other men and it does my head in. She was abused by a former partner who d... (151 words)

I know it wouldn't work but I can't seem to move on

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1221 days ago

19 December 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - I broke up with my ex around 5 months ago which I know deep down was for the best. Although we had a lot of ups in the relationship we were like best friends, we made some amazing memories in a year and I did and I believe I still do love him but he has some underlying mental ... (425 words)

I feel like I lost a lover even though we never met in person

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1215 days ago

19 December 2020 (M)

age 26-29 - Hello I've matched with a guy on tinder and asked for his WhatsApp number and we started chatting we both agreed on first getting to know each other better, we have a few things in common both introverted and both the boring type eg.dont have a social life or friends drink ... (631 words)

I don't think our relationship is going to last since he doesn't even want to try

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1225 days ago

19 December 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - Myself and my partner have been together for just over 7 years. We have an 18 month old son. This year has really tested our relationship, well I’d say we started having arguments and stuff since having our son. The sleep deprivation was and still is tough, and has a massive ... (291 words)

I can't be the only reason someone lives or dies

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1221 days ago

19 December 2020 (F)

age 22-25 - I am in a fairly new relationship however me and this guy have been great friends for the past 2 years so it feels like we have been together for a lot longer than 4 months. Recently he has become really clingy and shown some things I think are unhealthy in a relationship for ... (216 words)

In this relationship, is talking - and maybe flirting - with other men cheating?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1221 days ago

19 December 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - have an ethical dilema......is it cheating if I am in a relationship that is more like a friendship( he sleeps in one room, I sleep in the other, he has no intention to marry me because I won't give him kids, I cook for him and take care of him emotionally and we split the ... (75 words)

I'm unsure of who is the father due to the doctor's calculations

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1224 days ago

18 December 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - I had sex with my ex boyfriend in August cut off ties right after. Took time to myself and in October began seeing someone. October 13, I had 4 days of heavy cramping and then a heavy period for couple days. Right after that, the new guy I was seeing and I finally had ... (258 words)

How can I help my boyfriend get past the guilt of leaving his wife for me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1222 days ago

18 December 2020 (F) age 51-59 - My boyfriend left his wife for me. It was a 30 year marriage. His children are grown and have families of their own. He is happy with his decision but can't help feeling guilty for what he's done to his wife, kids and grandkids. He was not happy in the marriage (sexless for 20 ... (182 words)

He can't get hard anymore

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1224 days ago

18 December 2020 (F) age 26-29 - I’ve been dating a guy for about five months will call him, Richard The first two months we weren’t physical and then the second two months we started sleeping together. No issues except he is on antidepressants and if any of you have ever been on them you know that often ... (153 words)

Is anyone ever too busy really if they are interested in more than friends?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1223 days ago

18 December 2020 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi! So basically I'm very interested in a girl, we seem to match well, we have fun when we meet, but I feel it's not really progressing. Whenever I talk to her, she is very warm, thoughtful, asking lots of questions, suggesting things we can do when we meet, and she com... (363 words)

Is he hiding his true feelings?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1218 days ago

17 December 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello my favourite advice group. I used to write here in the past , and even was a moderator but it’s been a long time and I’ve forgotten my username. Anyway , I am writing about this guy i met online about a month ago. We started texting and talking on the phone , t... (1658 words)

I believe he is a scammer. Your opinion?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 1215 days ago

17 December 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello and thank you ! A man contacted me on Instagram. We've been chatting a couple of months. Seems nice and sweet but I've been very cautious. We're from different countries, different cultures and an age gap. He says he works but whenever I come online hes onl... (226 words)

Why am I so fixated on him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1227 days ago

16 December 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - I need help. I am a 35 year old woman who has a ridiculous crush on someone who is totally uninterested in me and I cannot for the life of me stop thinking about him. We met over a year ago and had a bit of friendly banter. A few months later he asked for my number and we we... (311 words)

Is this a toxic relationship?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1226 days ago

15 December 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - I’ve been with my significant other for 13 years, and with my history of questions I’ve posted here, you can see it hasn’t been all paradise This pandemic had showed me a lot. I work In healthcare so when the pandemic happened In March and things began to shut down, I , on the... (497 words)

What should I do when subordinates start crying?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1228 days ago

13 December 2020 (M)

age 41-50 - I am a manager of a team of about 15-20 people. Most of them are men. I have only been in this role for about 3 years so I am still getting acclimated. One of the things I struggle with is what to do when faced with the situation where my subordinates (always wom... (260 words)

Is he just taking it slow?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1228 days ago

13 December 2020 (F)

age 51-59 - I met a guy from a dating site a year ago. I am still on the dating site and so is he and he sent a messsge to say that we tried before but I got nasty with him. I told him I could not remember why and I just thought he wasn’t interested in me. He said that was ok and how would ... (228 words)

My husband since 2002

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1229 days ago

12 December 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - My husband has admitted to me he's been depressed since 2002, but pretended to be happy. We met in August 1999 aged 24, married 3 years later, but since then he said everything's been dull for him, even the sex, it wasn't as fun as when we were dating, and that he's also b... (193 words)

I cringe when my boyfriend touches me

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1230 days ago

12 December 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - Me and my bf have been together for 7 years. I'd say 3 of those have been really happy. The last four years have been trying due to family problems on my side. It's been very stressful. I ended up having panic attacks and severe anxiety. I went to a therapist a couple of times... (402 words)

Girlfriend still in touch with ex her friend with benefits

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1230 days ago

11 December 2020 (M)

age 26-29 - Hey there. So I have been seeing this girl for 7 months now (in a relationship for 4 months). Around 2 months into seeing her she mentioned she had a Friend with Benefits that she stopped seeing when we started dating. Im completely fine with that. However, 2 weeks ago I foun... (84 words)

How do I help my son out of his toxic relationship?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1229 days ago

11 December 2020 (M)

age 41-50 - I’m really not sure if anyone can help, but has anyone ever been in a toxic relationship and know what to do to get someone away from one for good? My son is currently in a joke of a relationship with his girlfriend and they just seem to be going round in a vicious circle of ... (1387 words)

How do I keep my distance from this cousin?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1229 days ago

11 December 2020 (M)

age 36-40 - When I was 13 years old (I am a male), my second cousin, who is the same age as me, pressure me into having sex with her. Over the years, until I went away for college, we would have sex once every few months. I am embarrass that I lost my virginity to my cousin. I am emb... (267 words)

Did this old friend ever even like me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1228 days ago

10 December 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - This is one of the harshest and most disappointing rejections I have ever experienced. Before reading, please keep in mind that I was not aware of what I found out later on and yes, I may have been too forward, I don’t know.. I have know this guy since I was a child and even... (1349 words)