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Archived questions from: November, 2020 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

How can I be 15 weeks pregnant when I calculate it at 13 weeks?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1240 days ago

30 November 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi all, i am pregnant with my first child but with the current covid situation itd really hard to get the attention and questions answered by the docs and nurses. So I am hoping someone here is able to help. I just had my 13 week scan only to be told that I'm actually... (107 words)

How do you respond to a break up with a gay guy?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1240 days ago

30 November 2020 (M)

age 36-40 - Dear Aunties, Good evening from Nairobi Kenya. I had previously asked a question about this guy younger than me who we have been having an intimate relationship with. How do you respond to a break up with a gay guy? I am 36, he is 22. We have had sex once. We live toget... (233 words)

My husband is taking out loans behind my back

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1239 days ago

30 November 2020 (F)

age 51-59 - My husband and I have separate bank accounts. years ago we had a joint one and I think it was me who decided I didn't want one anymore with him anymore as we were going through a bad time, I had trust issues with him about dating sites I had found and I wasn't sure I wanted to ... (284 words)

Sex once a month... no baby... lazy husband. What's he not telling me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1240 days ago

30 November 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - My husband has 2 children to a previous woman and we are happily married with a little girl. We have been together 10 years and I really wanted another baby, but it hasn’t happened (we are both 40), Anyway, my husband has really hurt me. He doesn’t communicate with... (263 words)

He's more opposite and terrible in bed... help!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1238 days ago

30 November 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now. Its obviously been a very weird year for everyone, and it's been very weird having a new relationship through this time. We get on pretty well, and I have very strong feelings for him.. Sometimes I think it's definite... (428 words)

How are others dealing with the anxiety caused from the pandemic?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1240 days ago

30 November 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - I know I am not the only one experiencing problem with this ongoing pandemic but I'm wondering if any of the wonderful aunts and uncles could give me some advice that perhaps I haven't tried or thought of? I am having such a hard time just trying to live a "normal" life. I... (259 words)

Why doesn’t he seem to want to talk on the phone or meet up?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1234 days ago

30 November 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Been talking to this guy for three weeks. Met on a dating app. He canceled our first meet up do to covid but says he wants to see me and we will meet soon. I told him I want to hear his voice but we have yet to talk on the phone and video chat. We text everyday and he never ... (199 words)

Should I stay in contact with these friends under these circumstances?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1242 days ago

29 November 2020 (F)

age 51-59 - Thank you for all who respond here. Always good responses on this site. Since the pandemic began I feel I have changed. I would think this is true for many. I think I am only realizing now that I would hear from friends primarily when they needed to vent. I dont think that ... (372 words)

What are the things to do to start enjoying my sex life with my partner?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1242 days ago

29 November 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - I've been in a relationship with my guy for almost two years now. He's adorable, caring, loving, you name it. I enjoy his company a lot. One thing that really bothers me is when it comes to our sex life. He's not that good in bed and due to that I don't enjoy making love to h... (298 words)

What does it mean that I'm thinking about this colleague?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1183 days ago

29 November 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - I have a co-worker who is flirty at work. I told him to stop as I'm in a relationship which he mostly has. But I still see him staring at times and he makes little jokes like "if you aren't texting me you shouldn't be on your phone". I laugh it off and roll my eyes. This g... (212 words)

My family doesn't know about my biracial daughter

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1240 days ago

29 November 2020 (M)

age 36-40 - When I was 20 years old, I was dating a black girl (I am white). We did have sex and she ended up pregnant. Due to different reasons, we agreed to put the baby up for adoption (open adoption). My ex-girlfriend stayed in contact with the family (the family mailed her letters and ... (146 words)

I'm horny and think my daughter in law might be interested

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1245 days ago

27 November 2020 (M)

age - Hello and I am a 75 yr.old man who horny all the time. My daughter in law is 52 yrs. old. She pretty and loves to dance. Not too long ago she and I were dancing a slow dance when I got a hard on, she felt it and smiled at me. About a week later she came to visit my 80yr.old ... (143 words)

Is it pointless for me to search for a partner?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 516 days ago

27 November 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Long story short, I've lived in a toxic home my whole life for almost 3 decades, and after finally breaking away, I feel better than before. In a nutshell, living alone is the most amazing thing ever. I don't yearn for there to be anyone there by my side 24/7. Doesn't mean I ... (305 words)

How to say no to a friend?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1245 days ago

27 November 2020 (F) age 36-40 - How to say no to a friend? My childhood friend wants to come for Christmas with his new bf. Due to the COVID pandemic, this is not OK with my husband and me. Otherwise we would be happy to have have them stay with us over the holidays. My problem is that people around me... (349 words)

It gets me down that I'm the only one making the effort for the family

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1244 days ago

26 November 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been with my bf for about 5 years. I've been thinking back on our time and have realized a few things. First, we've never had a happy holiday season. 4 years ago, we were broken up. 3 years ago, we were fighting because his ex sent me msgs where he was behaving inappro... (422 words)

I'm not sure how to handle my insecurity and paranoia about my boyfriend's social media account

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1245 days ago

25 November 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - Here goes my insecure, slightly paranoid post. My boyfriend and I have been together nearly 2 years, we live together, have a puppy together and want to spend our lives together. However I keep getting caught up in things, mainly social media things. My boyfriend is into b... (172 words)

What's going through the head of this man when he responds strangely to me pointing out him being married?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1245 days ago

25 November 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - There is this man who works in the same building as I do. He is not a coworker but works in facilities. Not knowing be was married, we would sometimes flirt with each other. However, after 4 months, he recently slipped into conversation that he has a wife. Today he came t... (288 words)

When do I tell my boyfriend I’m pregnant

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1248 days ago

24 November 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - When should I tell my boyfriend I am pregnant I’m a little over a month, and I just found out today I am not sure if to tell him already or if I should tell him on our two year anniversary, we’ve been trying for a few months now and I don’t know if to tell him now or wait ... (93 words)

He dumped me for no reason and now won't talk to me. Help me fix it.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1249 days ago

24 November 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - We dated for 3 weeks. Everything was amazing. We spent a lot of time together and talked for 7 to 8 hours a day about everything. When we were together it was like we has known each other our entire lives. He told his family, friends and son about me. He told me constantly how ... (209 words)

My husbands hurtful remarks towards me working part time make me want to leave him

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1238 days ago

23 November 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - i’ve been a wife and mother for the past 25 years, this has been my main job in life especially since i have 4 kids and my eldest is disabled, i’ve worked PT all the time but made sure i was always home when the kids were, i work as a nurse but only 15 hours a week , my ... (409 words)

I got intimate so fast and now I'm feeling badly about it

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1245 days ago

23 November 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been single for 6 months now and quite recently I decided to use a dating app just to see how I will get on, I'm not particually looking for anything too serious but if it happens it happens, anyway.. I matched with this guy and we have been chatting, texting and having ... (382 words)

How do I help my boyfriend improve his feelings of self-worth and convince him I'm not going to leave him

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1247 days ago

23 November 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - I(24F) have been in a relationship with my boyfriend (23M) for three years and I absolutely love him to bits. We met whilst I was at university working in retail. I have now moved onto train to become an accountant whilst he still works there. When the first lockdown was imp... (400 words)

Am I able to be in a relationship right now?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1247 days ago

23 November 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello. I have been in a relationship with a man for two months. He is a really lovely person. However, I am struggling in the relationship. I have complex post traumatic stress disorder due to things which happened during my childhood and teenage years. Due to this, I really ... (190 words)

I have a boyfriend but can't help being intrigued by a Secret Admirer

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1246 days ago

23 November 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Cupids I need help! OK so about a month ago I got a random email from a man who claimed to have known me in the past, telling me that he 'had to get off his chest' that he really fancied me and was crazy about me and that even YEARS later since we last supposedly had a... (384 words)

Husband wants sex less and less. How do I help?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1246 days ago

23 November 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - For the past few weeks my husband's been wanting sex less and less, but unlike some questions, I know the reason why... my problem is how to help him. I'm 34, and he's 36. He's admitted to me to spending HOURS downloading "big dick porn" and also buying old copies of Pl... (206 words)

He's declaring his undying love for him even though I have expressed I don't feel the same. I don't want to lose him as a friend! What can I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1246 days ago

23 November 2020 (F)

age - The guy i’m ‘seeing’ is overbearing with his declarations of love for me. It is unbelievable how much we have in common, and how alike we are. Hard to believe there is someone out there the same as me. He makes me very happy, and i’d dearly love to have him as a companion to ... (467 words)

Should I try to get away from my boring condescending male supervisor?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1250 days ago

23 November 2020 (F) age 36-40 - This is regarding an academic relationship. I am a female masters student and my supervisor is male. There have been instances over the past 18 months where comments he has made have made me feel uncomfortable such as 'don't be a burden' and 'I hope you don't think I am ... (586 words)

I'm feeling guilty for ending a relationship

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1246 days ago

22 November 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - So I was in a relationship with someone until Friday. After thinking about everything between us I choose to end it after just under one year. I felt in a lot of ways wee weren't really compatible and tbh wee would be better as friends. I tried explaining this and my reasons ... (340 words)

Boyfriend furious with me that I don't trust him that nothing is going on with him and a lady who wants him to do work for her

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1248 days ago

22 November 2020 (F)

age 51-59 - Boyfriend of 10 yrs standing is extremely furious with me because a woman nearby he does work for is always ringing and texting with all sorts of jobs for him. He absolutely assures me nothing is going on and the extra money is welcome. The last time she texted I insisted I ... (103 words)

I want to end it for good but how do you pull away from another person who your so physically drawn to?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1239 days ago

22 November 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - 25 years ago i met my hb, he was 10 years older than me and always seemed so grown up and sensible and i needed that in my life, i’ll never regret marrying him , about 5 years ago we had a “showdown” talk about our marriage it had kind of gotten in this strange place where we ... (401 words)

My best friend isn't happy that I got back with my ex

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1211 days ago

21 November 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi aunt and uncles! My best friend who is like family has had me as part of her circle during the pandemic. I’ve been pretty depressed and talking about wanting to get back together with my ex with my best friend a lot. I’m not unsafe with the pandemic I still work, but prac... (280 words)

My boyfriend of 4 years will not marry again so I broke up with him

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1251 days ago

21 November 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, I could do with some advice as I really have no idea on the best way forward. I was with my boyfriend for nearly four years, like a lot of couples we have had our ups and downs but I did always think we was on the same page in that we loved each other, felt lucky to have ... (657 words)

How do we deal with our hellion daughter?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1250 days ago

21 November 2020 (F)

age 51-59 - Sadly 2 years ago we had to ask our then 20 year old daughter to leave our house and move in with her bf, since she turned 14 she was a total nightmare, always in trouble always testing boundaries and generally had no respect for anyone let alone us her parents, the decision ... (436 words)

My husband's baby mama drama is driving everyone crazy

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1245 days ago

21 November 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Im married to a man ive never met the 2 children of. Ones 3 and the other is 11, both boys. I also have an 11 year old, a daughter. His baby mom, who has been seeing her boyfriend since about a year before i met my now husband we'll call T, hates that hes moved on so dang much ... (799 words)

How do I deal with loss and stop thinking negatively?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1252 days ago

20 November 2020 (F)

age 18-21 - I am teenager who unexpectesly lost her mother.I am fearing all the things in life right now Earlier I was fine but out of nowhere I am fearing death and just seeing negative Of each and everything i see and spmehow correlate ot with death.Do u know any psychology trick to ... (153 words)

Married man says he isn't going anywhere. What does that mean?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1251 days ago

20 November 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - met him at work and we are both attracted to each othe r but he says he has been married for 7 years and have visited just twice,which my gut instinct tells me it a lie but respected that and decided wanted to move away from him but he says he isn't going nowhere.what does he ... (57 words)

I have always been Heterosexual, but last couple of years I have been sort of bi curious, Is this normal as we get older?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1251 days ago

19 November 2020 (M)

age - I have always been heterosexual but for the last couple of years I am somewhat bi curious, never been with a man, I have been in several 3somes, ffm, and mmf. But never even thought about it. Is this somewhat normal as we get older?... (46 words)

My husband admitted to having sex with a prostitute twice earlier this year. Where do we go from here?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1211 days ago

19 November 2020 (F) age 41-50 - Can any of you tell me how your husband could claim to love you when he had sex with the same prostitute twice while away on a business trip? He has always been there for me throughout our 10 year marriage. My best friend, my lover, my protector, the father of our children.... (237 words)

Mortified after period sex 'accident'

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 1252 days ago

19 November 2020 (F)

age 22-25 - I had sex on my period the other day and leaked all over my boyfriend's lower regions and our bed. He insisted he wasn't bothered at all and told me not to worry about it but I can't help it. I can't even look him in the eyes without feeling embarrassed. He'd been away for 3 ... (333 words)

Boyfriend is angry that he found a porn site I went to

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1251 days ago

19 November 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok , so yesterday my bf went through my history and found a porn site that I went on , he got so upset that hes making the biggest deal out of it . He says that it's a broken promise , because I promised I would never play with it again . Is that right for him to be super angry ... (87 words)

My girlfriend wants me to undress her

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 1251 days ago

19 November 2020 (M)

age 18-21 - My girlfriend really wants me to undress her, i thought for a moment and then agreed to doing it next time we're at her house. We're going to take turns undressing each other but how fast should I undress her, what do I take off first, and what actions do I do while taking her ... (93 words)

Boyfriend wants to kiss but I don't know how

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19 November 2020 (F)

age 18-21 - Me and my bf had our first kiss last night at his house and it was amazing. He wants me to come to come back tomorrow night and I think we might make out. But I don't know how? Help!!... (40 words)

Am I reading something wrong here? Am I attracting hostilities ? Is there a missing piece ?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1253 days ago

18 November 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear Aunts and Uncles, want your insights on something weird that seems to have repeated itself twice. Let me describe the two instances below: Instance 1- 10 years ago. I was an intern at a firm. It was a assignment with a 5-6 member team that included me and this older f... (689 words)

I told her that we were done but she still kept texting me

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1253 days ago

18 November 2020 (M)

age 26-29 - I was seeing this girl for a few weeks and decided she wasn’t for me so text her to say I wasn’t feeling it and could we leave it there She’s text me a few times since but I’ve not replied because As far as I’m concerned I finished it and that was it done I’ve seen her arou... (116 words)

He’s done nothing wrong but I’m just not that into it. How can I break up in a good way?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1253 days ago

18 November 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - So I need some outsiders help. I’ve been seeing this guy for a while, we met online and couldn’t meet because of lockdown. We finally meet and things have been okay for the 3 months we’ve been physically seeing each other. But that’s just it, they’re just fine. I don’t ge... (201 words)

Men, when you see your crush, how much do you think about her afterwards?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 1254 days ago

18 November 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - There is a man I see around my building every now and then. I have a crush on him, so I think about him all the time. When a guy sees a girl he has a crush on, does he think about her after seeing her? Does it only last a moment or for quite some time after? Does he o... (84 words)

Help! Stuck in my marriage for financial reasons

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1192 days ago

16 November 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - I am in love with someone else and yet I am married ..but I can’t afford to leave the marriage because I have 2 kids with my husband and my financial security is not stable...the one I am in love with is also not financially stable ...but if I stay in this marriage I will ... (136 words)

Hurt by my fwb fella sexting during lockdown

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1211 days ago

16 November 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, So around 3 years ago I entered a friends with benefits relationship with a guy I know (let's call him Jack). We ended up becoming best friends who also had sex. Over the last 18 months, we've become very close. As both of us are still studying at a uni doing our second ... (269 words)

Online dating and covid query

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 1224 days ago

15 November 2020 (M) age 26-29 - Hi sorry for the long post, so to start of me (m25) and my girlfriend(f22) started seeing each other ONLINE since late April, we've both live in different countries and planned to meet each other in December, but due to travel restrictions and quarantine complications its ... (837 words)

I’m so exhausted and I just don’t want to be intimate with him

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1258 days ago

15 November 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - I’m sitting here at midnight writing this because I can’t sleep. My partner is acting so strange. I feel like it’s my fault... Our relationship used to be good, we used to be intimate, kiss, cuddle etc. Then we had a baby. My sex drive has never been the same, my self confiden... (606 words)