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Archived questions from: November, 2021 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Is my fiances best friend gay? Bisexual?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 875 days ago

30 November 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been with my fiance for 5 years, but we've only been engaged for 2 years now, the wedding delayed due to COVID-19, lockdowns and social distancing, we were meant to have 150 people at our wedding. However, it's not our wedding that's the focus, but my fiance's best fr... (414 words)

Do I have relationship anxiety?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 878 days ago

30 November 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - I am with a partner who I believe is long term. For context: We had a period of long distance, starting around 2016, where we were on again off again, and when he moved to a neighboring state around 2018; I thought it was fully over. In 2020, I took a leap to reunite with him ... (635 words)

My girlfriend had sex with my friend bought a plan B from pharmacy. How do I talk to her? She doesn't know that I know

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 859 days ago

30 November 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - My partner and I have been together for 2 years now, and it's been pretty great. But in the last year our sex life started to be less frequent. We've been playing some kinky games in the last number of months, where she would talk about her flirting with other guys. I think my... (405 words)

My mother-in-law hates me but we need her help

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 876 days ago

29 November 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - I need help I got pregnant in 2020 and I was living with my mother in law , brother in law and father in law ( my mil and fil live in separate rooms) From the day I got married I felt like she hates me , She would not eat the food I cook, my brother in law is her favourit... (282 words)

Is it normal to talk about sex with a platonic friend?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 878 days ago

29 November 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Work is work, but for me it's more of a day job, because I am a writer. Specifically, I write erotica. I'm not particularly ashamed of it either, all my non-work friends know, and are always asking me for sex advice. Every time a guy friend finds out I like to write it though, ... (225 words)

My soulmate lied then ended things but I miss her

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 878 days ago

29 November 2021 (F) age 22-25 - I'm not sure if this counts as a question. I'm sorry, I'm just really frustrated. So. I accused my girlfriend of cheating. I had proof.. solid, even. In my head. I knew it, I had the phone number, account and everything. Of course, long distance comes with its doubts, so comin... (197 words)

Is 6 months after a divorce too early to date?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 874 days ago

28 November 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - I met this guy from my softball team about six months ago, that's right around the time he got divorced. He's 15 years older than me and has been with his ex wife for about 20 years, they share children but they are fully grown and do not live in our city anymore (neither does ... (312 words)

My friend is all about her boyfriend

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 879 days ago

28 November 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - My friend is all around her new boyf. Her joy is overly as she calls him more than normal. i sound jealous but its true.... (25 words)

My mom doesn't want me to date till I am 20

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 878 days ago

28 November 2021 (M)

age 18-21 - Hello! My mom says i shouldnt date until am 20above But how can i show her am matured enough to handle a relationship?... (25 words)

My boyfriend loves drugs and alcohol

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 880 days ago

28 November 2021 (F)

age 22-25 - My bf is madly inlove with alcohol and also,takes drugs but at minimal Ive tried talking sense into him He doesn`t care!... (22 words)

Is it wrong to have sex with a married man to get a baby?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 880 days ago

28 November 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid, Am I wrong to have sex with a married man just to have a child? I am 41 years old and disabled, religious and quite successful in my career. I have met wonderful people during the course of my career, however, my love has never been requited. I recently (6 mont... (283 words)

How long do you wait for a man to propose?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 880 days ago

27 November 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - How long should you wait for a man to propose before accepting that it is not going to happen and move on? I'm in my early 30s and my partner is 40s wee have been together for almost 3 years now. I would say he is a good partner, good to my kid too. I have never been married ... (355 words)

I thought my husband was having an affair. He was sneaking out to eat fast food

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 881 days ago

27 November 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - My question is basically "Was I so wrong to be this concerned?" Been married for 13 years; we married after 2.5 years of dating, married mid-2008. From mid-August to last month, I suspected my husband was having an affair, he'd always go out in smart suits at night, nev... (607 words)

Do I confront my husband about his work crush?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 881 days ago

26 November 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - I have no idea if I’m overthinking this so I need some advice please. 3 years ago a new girl joined my husbands workplace. He would sometimes mention her but not excessively. She is in her 20’s and very attractive (engaged) so I kind of knew my husband had a crush on h... (424 words)

My wife accuses me of cheating when I don't the says she will cheat to get even

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 882 days ago

25 November 2021 (M)

age 51-59 - Hello, I work as a sales manager for a company where we sell a certain type of industrial product and sometimes I have to assist customers with on site repairs and solving issues. Today, I had such a problem. I told my wife when I left at around 9 am that I may not get b... (273 words)

Am I right to dump her now that she is in prison?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 880 days ago

25 November 2021 (M)

age 22-25 - My girlfriend has been sent to prison for the next couple of years at least and I don’t know whether or not to just throw in the towel on our relationship. I really don't think I can wait for her. Plus I’ve really started developing feelings for one of my old friends. We’v... (979 words)

I can't keep up wife my girlfriends entitlement

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 879 days ago

25 November 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello My gf and I have been together 2 years. All is well unless money comes up and then arguments begin. She has the tendency of over spending and expects me to cover her bills. Were not married and probably will never be as I see a very greedy side to her. She... (161 words)

Is it too soon to suggest moving in with him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 883 days ago

24 November 2021 (F)

age 22-25 - I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months and am spending more nights at his than I am at home. Is it too soon to suggest moving in together? On the one hand I genuinely think he'd jump at the idea as we hate being apart but on the other I'm worried he'll think we're movi... (551 words)

A friend cut me off and now wants back in my life

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 879 days ago

23 November 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - A good friend of mine cut me off a few months ago because she didn't like a decision I was making (See previous question for more details). She just texted me apologizing for what she did and hopes I can forgive her. And I'm not sure how to react. On one hand, I've missed h... (114 words)

Is my girlfriend using her friends to control and manipulate me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 880 days ago

23 November 2021 (M)

age 22-25 - Me and my girlfriend have been together for just under 2 years but she’s letting her friends stick their noses into our relationship and it’s really starting to annoy me. I’m also beginning to think I’m being controlled and manipulated. Am I just over-thinking or are the signs ... (958 words)

Does my wife secretly hate me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 880 days ago

23 November 2021 (M)

age 41-50 - I caught my wife spitting in my food the other night. She’s been in a constant mood with me for months on end and I can’t deal with it. I’m fed up of treading on eggshells around her all the time. The problem is she won’t ever admit anything is up. I’ve asked her countl... (628 words)

Did he e d things?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 883 days ago

23 November 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello, Aunts. I’m in a relationship since last 2 months and things moved pretty fast with this guy. We are of same age and both financially well off. Since last 2 weeks he is behaving pretty aggressively and responded with cold behaviour post the second last argument. Things ... (364 words)

My husband is having an affair

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 879 days ago

23 November 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - I recently found out from one of my friends that my husband was cheating on me after they sent me an email with a link to an influencer's post which showed my husband cuddling up to this young woman wearing a crop top and the text: #couplegoals. CHRISTMAS IS COMING. HOLIDAYS... (694 words)

I would like our one night stand to be more. We work together

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 884 days ago

22 November 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - So. A few months ago me and a younger co worker went out for some friendly drinks. We ended up having a one night stand. We never spoke about it. Then a month or so ago we ended up kissing again. But nothing else. But We havnt spoken about it since. And things between u... (149 words)

I am beginning to wonder if my marriage or myself can be saved

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 885 days ago

22 November 2021 (F)

age - I moved from America to India to marry my husband 7 years ago. Things had been going well, but after almost 2 years in lockdown (very strict in Mumbai) I'm losing my mind. I don't speak any local languages and even if I did, I'd never have anyone to talk to. For ... (123 words)

My husbands children are rude and mean

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 885 days ago

22 November 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - I live with my husband My son whose 14 and my husband son who is 12.... my son is severely disabled... My husband has older children in their 20s and they are always crude when we see them we carnt do right for wrong the last meeting we took them out for lunch... yet they sat... (173 words)

I feel like I am losing a good friend and don't know what to do

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 887 days ago

22 November 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi I'm wondering how grief can affect your thinking and maybe make you lose perspective. My friend recently lost a close relative.. Since then he doesn't seem to care about our friendship, starting telling me lies, going to night clubs and getting wasted and also on a dating... (234 words)

My boyfriend likes to do sexual things I am not comfortable with

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 880 days ago

21 November 2021 (F)

age 18-21 - Hi I have been with my BF for over 4 years and most of the time I am so happy, but he can be when we are making love be a little rough and demand stuff.He kina wants to do stuff and one thing I do for him often is let him come over my face. I know he likes it so I just pre... (188 words)

My husband left me to live wit his male friend

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 885 days ago

21 November 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - This is a strange situation but I'll ask anyway. My husband just upped and left me after 4 years of marriage (we've been together 9 years as a couple), went to live with his best friend, a 28-year-old, and now says he wants our 5-year-old daughter to live with them. I say... (465 words)

I can't stand the fighting with him anymore

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 885 days ago

21 November 2021 (F)

age 51-59 - Ohhh pleeeaaaassseeee help meeeee.... I am really on the point that i wanna leave him... inside of me is already shouting and crying.... my partner for 6 years is soooo much talkactive and he looove discussion sooo much and this turn us almost everyday into a fight because ... (322 words)

He only sees me when it is convenient for him

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 885 days ago

20 November 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi Aunts and Uncles. I’m hoping you can give me some advise. I met an older man a few month ago. He has two children and he sees one of them quite often which I fully understand and I never say anything to him about when he sees them. We both have jobs that involves a lot o... (214 words)

Cowgirl with wide hipped man

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 882 days ago

20 November 2021 (M)

age 36-40 - I want my wife to be on top more often. We have a problem, I have wide hips, my wife’s are smaller. It is uncomfortable for her to ride me. Are there any suggestions?... (34 words)

Do I delete her on facebook?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 882 days ago

20 November 2021 (M)

age 26-29 - Hi aunts need your help with this one as it’s a strange situation to find myself in. so recently I bumped into a female from school who I’d known and she used to have this crush on me or so she says. we never got together at school, as I didn’t want to pursue anything ... (180 words)

Menopause causing sexual problems and I am afraid of losing my husband

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 887 days ago

20 November 2021 (F) age 51-59 - Hi, I have been struggling with a really difficult situation and I could use some help here. I have been married for 10 years. My husband and I have always had an awesome sex life. He brought me to orgasm multiple times. I used to masturbate myself and there was no problem.... (625 words)

Can I save my marriage?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 851 days ago

19 November 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello, So i got married in August 2021. I have been questioning the marriage/relationship for the last three months. So in September me and my partner decided to break up because both of us said we didnt think we were happy anymore. I left the house and went to my pa... (700 words)

Why do men have dalliance a but never leave their partner?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 889 days ago

19 November 2021 (F) age 41-50 - Why do men cheat on their wives or girlfriends and tell them that they love them? And do their best to treat them well even though they are hurting them behind their backs? Even though they have side dalliances, why do they wish to never leave their full time partners? Why do ... (79 words)

Why does it make me horny thinking about my girlfriend having sex with another man?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 887 days ago

19 November 2021 (M)

age 41-50 - Why do I get so horny thinking about my girlfriend being pleased by another guy... (15 words)

I helped my family but now they won't help me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 888 days ago

19 November 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - Years ago my parents were short on money and i helped them out and paid £500 for washing machine and dishwasher and various things from amazon over the years cds, computer games, chargers, food hampers, hair accessories, food vouchers lots of things! Later on they told me ... (286 words)

Why did she act this way? A boyfriend back home?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 890 days ago

17 November 2021 (M)

age 26-29 - Hi everyone I just wonder what people think about a situation I've found myself in as my instincts are telling me one thing and I'd just like to know if anyone comes to the same conclusion. I met a girl a few months ago, we got along really well. She is an internati... (374 words)

Long distance relationship and I can't keep the closeness feeling

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 888 days ago

17 November 2021 (F)

age - This is so obvious a problem, that I should know how to deal, but Covid and all the isolation, etc. has so blunted my feelings that I'd like to ask for help. Basically, my boyfriend has been working 1,000 miles away for several years now, and even bought a house t... (134 words)

Does God notify all women that I am gay

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 888 days ago

17 November 2021 (M)

age 36-40 - I asked a friend from school who I’ve know for many years about a lad who was really strange and asked what his name was, as I remember certain things. he didn’t seem to know if he was gay or not and he can’t think why he came to mine or what the purpose of the visit was. I ... (158 words)

Soap star won't acknowledge Facebook message

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 888 days ago

16 November 2021 (M)

age 36-40 - I’m friends with a soap star on facebook, I sent her a friend request as a joke and it backfired on me as she accepted the request. I’ve tried to talk to her a few times. she doesn’t seem to respond and only sees messages I send and doesn’t reply. what should I do?... (58 words)

Is My girlfriend taking me for a fool?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 859 days ago

16 November 2021 (M)

age 26-29 - Hi guys, you’ll have to bear with me on this one. It’s complicated to say the least. Just before Christmas last year my girlfriend cheated on me with another man. She aborted his baby as well just to add to the mess. I found out back in September when it all came out and after ... (1477 words)

My wife's obsession over bills and no sex has lead me to having an affair

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 890 days ago

15 November 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm a 33 year old man who's been married for 5 years. I am writing in embarrassed but I caused the problem and don't know how to get out. I've been having an affair with a 24-year-old woman since September and this has all been because of my wife's behavior. My wife's... (622 words)

My wife won't go topless at a nude brach

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 890 days ago

14 November 2021 (M)

age 51-59 - my wife and I have been to nude beaches and she likes looking at nude men and I would like her to take herr top off but she refuses...I don't understand why... (34 words)

I am insecure about mty partner still being close to 2 exs

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 892 days ago

14 November 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - How can you tell if you're seeing red flags, or you're just blowing things out of proportion because you're scared... and you've doubted yourself from the very start of your relationship? I've been insecure in my relationship (of approx 2 years and very nearly moving in... (1516 words)

How to deal with uncomfortable personal questions at work?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 893 days ago

13 November 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - I am asking for further guidance on a work related situ. I am a 30 year old female who has recently started a new job in the health service, I have an approachable management team. I am saving up to move out of parents household and I desire to thrive in my workplace with tas... (172 words)

How can we help our daughter with dating?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 891 days ago

13 November 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - My daughter is 16, and she came out as lesbian during the pandemic to us, in May 2020 when she was 15. We've no issue with her sexuality. What the issue we feel we're struggling to help her with is finding a partner, as she's asked us for help with dating. She's told us s... (345 words)

I am ashamed to admit that I am in an abusive relationship

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 893 days ago

13 November 2021 (F)

age 22-25 - I'm ashamed to be in an abusive relationship. It's less the abuse and more keeping the secret that is killing me slowly. I feel that even if I managed to make up my mind and leave, I would wilt under the reactions of my family. For the past couple years, my entire life and ... (198 words)

How can I tell if a married man has feelings foe me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 890 days ago

12 November 2021 (F)

age - dear cupid, How can I tell if a married man has feelings for me or is just being kind and caring to a lonely, single, bereaved woman? We started chatting a year ago and are the same age. He "tested the waters" with me and I said no because he has a wife, so we just chat whe... (493 words)