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Archived questions from: September, 2022 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

My boyfriend is unmotivated

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 571 days ago

30 September 2022 (F)

age 30-35 - I am 32, I have been with my boyfriend for coming up to 3 years, he is 36. I have my own house/mortgage, he lives with his parents but had previously been living in NZ (Came back coz his mum is ill). Although we'd not been dating long he moved in when covid happened coz I w... (1044 words)

Friendship Woes

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 572 days ago

30 September 2022 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello all, this isn’t necessarily a love/dating question, but a friendship dilemma in need of advice. I don’t know who to ask because I’ve only got a handful of people in my life and they’re mostly guys and don’t really have any solid advice. Anyways, I’m a female, in the US, ... (924 words)

My online African boyfriend keeps asking me for money

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 568 days ago

29 September 2022 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello I met a man online. We talked for several months then he began asking me for money. He's from Africa, he said he's poor. I felt bad and sent him 20.00 for some food. Now there is always some issue. He needs for food, for transportation, for clothes, for data. I hav... (116 words)

My girlfriend is disgusted by my arousal

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 566 days ago

29 September 2022 (M)

age 18-21 - My girlfriend of one year who is fifteen year old feel disgusted when i have a boner. I get boner when i am around her and when she touch me even though she said she is not ready for sex. Is it wrong to have boner as she always tell me and that i am not a man if i don't stop ... (81 words)

I developed a crush on him but he wants to remain friends

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 576 days ago

26 September 2022 (F)

age 26-29 - around 5 months ago i got talking to someone who i recognised, as he is a school friend of my siblings. i had never spoke to him before but just recognised him and started speaking to him, just outside a nightclub where we had both been I thought he seemed a little odd at fi... (302 words)

My boyfriend is unnecessarily blunt

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 576 days ago

26 September 2022 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend is so blunt to speak that he talk whatever he wants without thinking. It's so hurtful some time . No doubt he is loyalbut he has controlling behaviour like I want to do jobs he said ok u can do but at the same time he said there will be lots of guys in your ... (131 words)

My boyfriend's family reunions

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 568 days ago

26 September 2022 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been together 3 years and live together. Both 28 and Asian American. I only have immediate family in the USA, whereas my boyfriend’s entire extended family is in the USA. Long story short, they had their first family reunion last year in which all fam... (919 words)

My brother refuses to have anything to do with my former mistress

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 576 days ago

25 September 2022 (F) age 41-50 - My brother doesn’t like my life partner. We started out as an affair. We’ve put it behind us and are moving forward with our lives. It took us awhile and a lot of therapy to get to this place. But my brother is holding a grudge against my partner and he will not budge. We’ve ... (639 words)

Straight but fantasizing about gay men lately

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 568 days ago

24 September 2022 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey I’m 32 and always thought I’m straight but recently found myself very attracted to older men around 50. I have fantasies of pleasing them. Do you think this fantasy is left alone or should I find someone. Idea of cuddles turns me on and to submit to them. Any suggestions ? ... (53 words)

I'm a bored, married woman and I'm attracted to someone

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 578 days ago

24 September 2022 (F)

age 36-40 - There is no justification for what I'm about to say so feel free to give me a piece of your mind . I'm a bored 38 year old married woman, mother to a 6 year old . I have an amazing husband and no problems in my marital life. The only problem is that I'm thoroughly bored... (309 words)

Is it wrong that I am barely on speaking terms with my parents but I am on good terms with my cousin?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 572 days ago

23 September 2022 (M)

age 36-40 - When my 1st cousin and I were 15 years old, she became pregnant and gave birth to a little girl. She claimed that I was the father but I was a virgin. Come to find out, her dad's best friend was molesting her since she was 12 years old. Due to fear and embarrassment of being ... (325 words)

Why texting every once in awhile

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 581 days ago

23 September 2022 (F)

age 30-35 - My ex-fwb got distant after I confessed that I had strong feelings for him. He said he didn’t and does not want anything serious. I said that’s fine. I accepted it and didn’t push him to start anything with me. I started moving on with my life and being busy and we’ve kind of ... (299 words)

Should I cut ties completely

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 579 days ago

23 September 2022 (M)

age 30-35 - Not sure what I should do here. The quick synopsis is I met a girl where I worked years ago, maybe 5 or 6 years ago, I asked her out and we hung out a bunch. I asked her out and she said she wasn’t really ready and wanted to be friends. ( I’m used to this being a polite way ... (423 words)

Big question how to get over someone

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 577 days ago

23 September 2022 (F)

age 26-29 - How do you get over someone? So I’m not even allowed to be sad as we were never official but for past 4yrs I’ve been sleeping with this guy (yes judge me) I was lonely and it became a regular thing dinner and drinks staying over one or two times a week. We talk every day a... (212 words)

Drunk friend texted me

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23 September 2022 (M)

age 36-40 - So the other night my best friend of almost a decade was drunk and started sending me some pretty racy texts, including a picture of her boobs and vagina. I'm 37 and she's 28. Out of the blue she just said im going to send you my boobs then after she did said, "I wish yo... (636 words)

How do I make my boyfriend calm down?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 580 days ago

22 September 2022 (F)

age 16-17 - This is about my boyfriend Cameron who is a good person but keeps annoying me. He said he understands I do not want to have sex and he said he will be a virgin with me and not put any pressure on me to have sex. He says the right things but his body is saying something ... (474 words)

When is enough enough in regards to cheating

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 579 days ago

21 September 2022 (F) age 51-59 - A man I met once last summer got in touch with me a week ago. He wanted to meet for sex again, we are both married. He had got in touch earlier this summer and said about meeting up and I agreed then didn’t hear from him until now. He said it was a work thing and had shit... (398 words)

The sex used to be incredible but now I have lost interest. Can I ever get it back?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 584 days ago

19 September 2022 (F) age 41-50 - I had an affair with a married man. He left his wife and now we are married. We have been married for 2 years. The problem is that I feel I need to keep being a mistress to this man. It feels like if I get too real or drop the ball sexually, he will leave me. He says he l... (400 words)

Great husband but sex life lacking

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 584 days ago

19 September 2022 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm 10 months into a marriage where my husband is great in every way. Except, we don't have a good sex life. He has a physical condition and is also addicted to masturbation. I'm really frustrated with this overall. It infuriates me when he has every interest in mast... (289 words)

Should I continue this FWB?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 584 days ago

18 September 2022 (F)

age 30-35 - I dated this guy for a couple months 5 years ago...I really liked him but he had alot of stuff going on at home so he broke it off, about a year ago we matched again on this dating site and we have been seeing eachother ever since. He recently told me he wanted to be more, ... (225 words)

Do I just let him go?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 583 days ago

18 September 2022 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone, The reason I am asking this question here is because I honestly don't have anyone to talk to and I'm very upset and don't know what exactly I should do next. Please don't be harsh, I would really appreciate some kind advice. I have posted other questions relate... (1357 words)

Boyfriend cant stay hard

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 560 days ago

17 September 2022 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, new here so thanks in advance. Been with BF 15mths and he reckons to love me.kind , generous but proper sex does not happen and why am I asking cos really I'm sure the problem is Stella Artois!! However he hardly snogs me now and and I rarely see an erection!! God am I that ... (107 words)

How do I deal with my wife's increasing quirks?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 576 days ago

17 September 2022 (M)

age 41-50 - I am a 49 year old man who has been with my wife for 30 years, married for 21. She is a couple of years older than I am. My problem is that over the years she has developed an ever increasing set of quirks. I might even call some of her behaviors obsessive compulsive. Whil... (1570 words)

Friends never reach out

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 586 days ago

16 September 2022 (M)

age - This is probably a dumb question, but we have some friends whom we've know for about 10 years. The thing is, they never reach out to us. We are the ones who always initiate. When we do go out to dinner or something they say "oooh, so great to see you guys!", etc. I guess w... (110 words)

Why did my girlfriend buy sexy clothes

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 586 days ago

15 September 2022 (M)

age 30-35 - Im dating my ex who I broke up from for one year break. Things are going great. One concern is that she has ordered sexy clothes, with mask, gloves. As if it’s a fancy dress full costume for party. I only know this because I got a notification from her online shopping account ... (257 words)

My partner is going to join his ex on holiday

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 589 days ago

15 September 2022 (F)

age 41-50 - My partner of almost two years has as three and half year old son with his ex wife. They split up when he was one and are divorced. I’ve never met her and I have to go out when she drops off her son. I have a really good relationship with him. My partner has told he he’s going ... (180 words)

Sex and being loose

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 518 days ago

14 September 2022 (F) age 22-25 - i had my first sex at age 22, and only once i tried.i dint cum too, i stopped him there as i felt no friction. i was too loose i dint feel any friction even him, i gets too wet, arous soon. how can i stop getting wet and feel my first sex.... (53 words)

Bad dating luck really getting me down

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12 September 2022 (F)

age 30-35 - I (30F) matched with a guy (31M) on Hinge, who lives about 1.5 hours away from me. Originally I thought it might be too far away to try and establish a relationship, but after thinking about it a bit more, I decided that there’s no harm in trying. I have two close friends who ... (1174 words)

How do I make carpooling less awkward?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 588 days ago

12 September 2022 (F)

age 22-25 - I’m looking for some advice on an awkward situation. Basically I’ve started carpooling with one of my colleagues from work. He is a really nice guy but he’s also really shy so the journeys just always descend into silences. We both run out of things to say after a few minutes ... (460 words)

Mixed signals from a gay crush

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11 September 2022 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello, Iv had this crush on someone online for some time and we have spoken the odd time on different dating apps. He messaged me but always takes ages to respond. Now that’s fine as not everyone is on these apps all the time however I notice that he signs in often an... (231 words)

We want to live with the family member who took care of us when our parents couldnt

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 592 days ago

11 September 2022 (M)

age 16-17 - When I was 6 years old and my sister was 8 years old, our parents were arrested (they were using drugs themselves, making drugs and selling drugs). My parents siblings couldn't take us in dye to different reasons and all four of my grandparents couldn't due to age and health ... (295 words)

Should I stick it out or just quit?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 591 days ago

10 September 2022 (F)

age 30-35 - So, I started this job at the start of Summer. I left my other job of a few years because this one paid a significant amount more than the previous one. The owners live in other states. However they got into this business three years ago. The owners know nothing about the ... (318 words)

How do I deal with shame of video being exposed?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 589 days ago

8 September 2022 (M)

age 22-25 - I am getting legal advice on this but I also need some personal advice on how to manage a nightmare I have created with a really bad decision. On a dare and because of my own insane vanity, I auditioned for a pornographic movie. It was very sketchy in a crappy motel. I ... (762 words)

Vacation repeat 1

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 596 days ago

8 September 2022 (F)

Fell in love with fwb partner

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 593 days ago

7 September 2022 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi so I know I did a stupid thing. I fell head over heels in love with my FWB and he kept giving me all kinds of signals that he likes me too. It was quite obvious to everyone that he was interested in me more than a friend. Before we became FWBs, we were very close, best ... (271 words)

Just be grateful and appreciate his friendship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 596 days ago

6 September 2022 (M)

age 13-15 - I am looking for like an outsider honest take on something about my relationship with another guy. It has some definite homo vibes and I am straight, but maybe I am way misinterpreting and maybe being homophobic by being paranoid about something that is not really gay and just ... (1694 words)

How do I repair insult to my friend?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 594 days ago

6 September 2022 (M)

age 22-25 - I messed up with a friend of mine who is gay and we got in a fight over something stupid and I called him a faggot and not in a joking way but an angry way. He got real quiet and said “there it is” and just left. I don’t blame him. Based on his face I think it hurt him. I ... (350 words)

Should I disclose my health issues at work?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 596 days ago

5 September 2022 (F) age 41-50 - Hi guys, I've written here recently about my husband's anger concerning the lack of help and my cancer diagnosis. This time I need advice on another subject. I don't know what the rules are. Should I disclose my health issues at work? And I'm not talkig about chit-chat... (305 words)

I am annoyed of husbands new eating pattern

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 596 days ago

5 September 2022 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear Cupid I have been with my husband for 7 years and we have our ups and downs. We go out bi weekly once and mostly eat home cooked meals. Not microwave food, actual home cooked meals and for last 6 months we started having salad for lunch and fruits for breakfast. ... (249 words)

I'm beginning to wonder if we are right together.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 599 days ago

5 September 2022 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been in a relationship with my partner who I live with for 6 years however after working away for a while I find I'm beginning to wonder if we are right together. I met someone whilst I was away, nothing physical happened however have been keeping in touch on a daily basis ... (109 words)

Partner going on holiday with his ex

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 599 days ago

4 September 2022 (F)

Is he an abuser?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 597 days ago

4 September 2022 (F)

age 22-25 - I've been dating a guy for a month now, and when we had sex last time, which was the first time with him, he bit me multiple times in multiple places (arms, shoulders, necks, breasts, thighs, legs) and next day I noticed he left so many bruises all over my body. When I screamed ... (193 words)

My wife will not take the lead in the bedroom

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 579 days ago

1 September 2022 (M)

age 51-59 - Hello all, My wife of 20 years and I are both pretty submissive in the bedroom. I tend to take the lead in most areas and have had the desire to be a follower in the bedroom for sometime now but not able to get her to take it seriously. Seriously would be to do some resea... (129 words)

Am I looking for a,reason to leave?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 602 days ago

1 September 2022 (F)

age 26-29 - I've been in a relationship for 8 years with my partner but recently have been having doubts about our future. There has been changes over the last year or so with lack of affection/intimacy and I find myself thinking if I'd be better alone for a while. I find I'm gravitating ... (99 words)