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Archived questions from: July, 2009 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Shes avoiding me now I told her I had a boyfriend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - i am a girl and i told my friend that i had a boyfriend..but like four months ago i told her i was lesbian..i just want to be concidered normal..but i am lesbian ..i just want her and others to accept me(i havnt told her) but now she is avoiding me after i told her i had a ... (69 words)

He put his penis inside me. Am I a virgin?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 98 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 18-21 - I was on my summer vacation and I was fooling around with the cutest guy and we got naked and all. He fingered me and one thing led to another and umm he put his penis in my vagina (his penis was maybe 9 cm long, I dunno and I'm a virgin, or at least I was...). Now I was a bit ... (211 words)

Falling for my best friend.. Do I risk telling her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (M)

age 16-17 - My best friend is female. We always joke around that one day we will eventually end up together. But lately I've been taking these comments more seriously, and it hurts when she tells me about other guys and her attraction towards them. I want to tell her my feelings and hope ... (127 words)

Should I let her name our son ayden even if I don't want it

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 113 days ago

31 July 2009 (M)

age 18-21 - i just got married and me and my wife r having a baby at first i was scared but now im up for the task but now we r fighting over names if it was a girl we had a name we both liked but we just found out we r having a boy and i like the names tristan, colin, conner, keith and ... (205 words)

Should I send another text or just hold my breath?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 45 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - For background, my first question was in March. It's called "We've been through more than anyone can imagine..." Thank you! Hi guys, i want to thank you again for all your help and kindness. I wish i had a happier update on the situation but i may be contorting the truth to... (687 words)

Question from a forum. What is my fault? I just want my money back from him

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (M)

age - Copied from the forum pages - not from me personally! Question to all males: My boyfriend always tells me that he has never met any female who has the kindest, most white heart he has known as me. (I am the only woman he seriously dated) I was always understanding to h... (260 words)

Love Triangle.. how can I forget him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 16-17 - my boyfriend he said he loves me and i love him but he now he does not and he love some one else what i can do now and i am still in love him?... (35 words)

I've been avoiding sex because I'm afraid of being compared to her other 30 partner!

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 101 days ago

31 July 2009 (M)

age 26-29 - I have a girlfriend and we have been official for just over a month now. I've known her for 3 years prior to getting involved with her. She is a lovely person, and I'm so glad we are together, but she recently confided in me that she has slept with around 30 men (mostly one ... (284 words)

He's not texting so is he not interested? Do I forget him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 18-21 - hi. i started talking to a guy i meant on a online site, and we exchange emails, and soon numbers. we texted everyday, with him texting me every day, and we would text alot throughout the day. we fell out a few times, but it was all forgotten, and started liking each other.we ... (117 words)

How can I make this not hurt?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 113 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 13-15 - heyy. my name is C******, and i am 15. okay here's my question. -i like to masterbate the same as everone else does. i only like rubbing my clit though. well everone else can go inside the hole, i cant. well i can but it hurts, why? help me ... ... (50 words)

I thought he was a player, so why is he obsessing over me??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 18-21 - I have been dating this guy for almost 2 months, on and off. it seemed like it was going nowhere, so I slept with this other guy I had just met not that long ago. He knew I was already seeing someone and He's kind of a player so I assumed he knew it would be just sex. I was ... (193 words)

He hasn't approached me for sex in a year, what's the problem?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I am really concerned about the lack of a sex life between my partner and I. We have been together for 2 years and are both in our early/mid thirties. We've only managed to have full penetrative sex twice since the start of the relationship as I was finding it extremely ... (261 words)

I broke up with the guy I had for the guy I wanted but he dosen't want me.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 16-17 - hi, i am phoebe and i am 17 years old. i was recently in a horrible love triangle and i haven't recovered yet. my friend set me up with this guy and he absolutely fell head-over-heals for me. but i didn't like him back. he was too sexual when he talked to me. but i absolutely ... (147 words)

How can I convince my fiance to perform on me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - My fiance has always told me " If it bleeds for 7 days and doesn't die, I'm not eatin' it!". Oral sex is something I personally have never experienced, and would like to. How can I convince my man of 20 years to try this with me, for it is a bad experience with another girl ... (65 words)

Cheating, Love, and Hate.. I don't know what to do!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (M)

age 18-21 - Me and this girl have been friends for a while and her boyfriend and I have been friends for even longer. I am talking many years and I would consider him my best friend. Anyway one day she starts to touch my arm so I start to do it back. This escalates over the next while a... (1351 words)

Do I risk the friendship by pushing him into romance?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - I am a single mother of two children, never married full time student and full time employee and he is a single father of a handicap child stay at home dad with a side job/hobby of window treatments. We meet on a internet dating site which was set up as a prank by my friends. ... (396 words)

Hes my ex, got my friend pregnant and we are teens!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 13-15 - ok, so me and my ex are friends, and he started dating my friend well they had sex and she preganant. and may i add this is on purpose they want a baby (he tryed to have a baby with me i said no) so yeah. well what i am saying is hes 16, she like 14. its not right! th... (135 words)

Please help me cope with this shame..

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) age 18-21 - i have a great girlfriend, i love her to the point of dying, though i have done something stupid, as i sit here i wonder what all of you will think of this but i really use feed back as a way to cope with everything. so me, my girlfriend who i am going to call angela and ... (481 words)

Please help me not to concentrate on sex so much!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 109 days ago

31 July 2009 (M)

age 22-25 - i am 22yr old guy and my problem is i just feel very horny all the time there is sex in my mind all the time coz of witch i just cant concentrate on any other work. i have a girlfriend and i have sex with her every time we meet but still i feel the thrust for sex many times i ... (95 words)

Could this be causing my premature ejaculation?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (M)

age 18-21 - I suffer from frenulum breve and phimosis. My foreskin can just about be pulled down past my penis head and then my frenulum starts to pull my penis head downwards. Could this be why i suffer from premature ejaculation?... (42 words)

He deleted his Facebook because of me!?!?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 18-21 - hey thanks so much for this im really struggling with something... alright, I met this guy on facebook a few months back commenting on my friends status and we added eachother and we hit it off as good friends you know? He is a famous pro wrestling and kick boxing champion... (1617 words)

I know that I can never have her but how the heck do I get over her???

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 16-17 - There's this girl and we've been frends for like 6 years but lately I've realized how totally in love with her I am! Theres only one problem, she's straight. We've kissed on dares and every time we kiss everythinng feels perfect and I never want it to end I know that I can ne... (67 words)

I truly love this guy and I cannot believe it has come to this. What do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 18-21 - Oh God, someone help me. So me and my boyfriend of 6 months broke up a month ago and I was devastated. In the month though we have been in constant contact, initiated by him. He even told people we were back together. This guy told me I was his soulmate, I was the first girl he ... (360 words)

Would you let go?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 18-21 - Hi, i have been in a relationship for 5 years, he was my first everything and now i just dont know what to do, he doesnt seem to care anymore, this past week when i didnt call him it was 4 days till we talked, apparently according to him thats normal and there is nothing wrong ... (223 words)

Should I send her an apology?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 35 days ago

31 July 2009 (M)

age 18-21 - hey I am kinda of a loner and I have been known to creep girls I knew out last year because I would send them messages on myspace-or at least most of them. I went on facebook and added this girl that I used to know in one of my classes. I said hi to her when she was on chat ... (189 words)

Are my nan's tarot predictions correct???

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Im 16 and had my period about a week ago, but now im worried im PREGNANT! I keep getting brown discharge in my underwear and feel quite bloated and keep farting a lot. My boobs are sore sometimes, on and off. Im on the contriceptive pill however and me and boyfriend didn't... (185 words)

Who should initiate things again when we are both afraid of the relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 22-25 - He was deeply hurt by something he thought I caused. Time has passed and now he knows I did not cause the action. We talked about it and he has overcome this and sees he was wrong. But his reaction caused me extreme hurt and I mean extreme and he knows that. I still love ... (253 words)

Is there any way to make the ex-factor go away?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 114 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 22-25 - My boyfriend is still friends with his ex and I feel uncomfortable about it although I do trust that their relationship is platonic. They were schoolmates and 5 of them (4 guys including my bf plus her) were like really really good friends for a period of time, especially when ... (531 words)

Should I stay with my bf in this circle of revenge?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 18-21 - Hi everyone. So I've been going out with my boyfriend for just a little over 10 months now. We have had two major problems throughout our relationship, otherwise everything has been great. In about the third month of our relationship he started to talking to his old high school ... (821 words)

I've done everything so why does my husband keep cheating?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 104 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - i have been with my husband 23 years and married for 18 years, in the past ten years he has had three affairs and he has always come back to me, but this last one has really got to me. he has been staying at his mums as she has mental health issues and his dad died a year ago ... (282 words)

I am pondering an affair because my husband won't initiate intercourse!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 113 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) age 36-40 - Thanks for reading my question... My husband has over the last few months lost interest in me sexually. At first i didnt notice, we are busy and all. But suddenly realised that it had been 4 months... I spoke to him and said hon, whats happening? And said , boy, has i... (303 words)

My husband told me he has feelings for my Dad! How do I deal with this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 22-25 - Last night I was shocked by my husband's revelation. He said "Sit down. We need to talk, it's important." I asked him what it was, and he said "I've got sexual feelings for your dad. I hate myself for having them, I mean, I've never felt this way towards any other guy." H... (126 words)

How long will it take for me to start enjoying sex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 16-17 - I had 1st time sex with my boyfriend last weekend and we plan to have sex again after a night out this weekend. I knew to expect a bit of pain and discharge 1st time so we used a towel to keep any mess off the bed (my boyfriend also wore a condom properly). Since we'll b... (96 words)

I'm dying with guilt! I feel like I cheated...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 22-25 - Ok this is kind pf complicated but ill try my best to put it in writing ….I was in a long distance relationship and we were totally in love .We meet and after a past abusive relationship I never thought id ever feel for some1 like I did now. His family and friends loved me. ... (874 words)

Will I ever be ready for BIG commitments?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 22-25 - Most of my boyfriends have been really nice, my current bofriend is no exception. He's the best by far and wouldn't ever hurt me. When we first got together, we had conversations about our future; moving in together, children and marriage. When discussing these in the beginning ... (191 words)

How do I speed things up with her?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 97 days ago

31 July 2009 (M)

age 13-15 - I have been goin out with this girl for about 4 months. But we have not kissed yet. They say let time take its pace but i wish time would go a little faster. what do i do in a situation like this?... (43 words)

He has a girlfriend but is there any way to get him to like me more?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 16-17 - Okay ... i like this guy , but theres quite a few problems , hes 3 years older than me , my friends have already reacted and called me a slut , but i like him too much to care , he has a girlfriend , but hes had a sort of 'crush' on me. He was always looking at me , his frie... (139 words)

What should I do to just relax and be able to have sex with my boyfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 18-21 - Well. Its been sometime since i had sex. Counting now i thinks its 4 years. And i want to have sex with my boyfriend but I'm afraid it would hurt and besides the fact im much bigger than i was before meaning weight size what should i do to relax and have sexual intercourse with ... (57 words)

I feel like our sex life is drying up. Any suggestions?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (M)

age 26-29 - Hi, i don't know if i have a problem or if it's just me, it's that i have been married to my wife now for 27 months and although i love her with all my heart, and i know she loves me, i feel like our sex life is already drying up. Before we had our baby our sex life was great ... (210 words)

How do I start over with a new life?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 18-21 - Hi everyone, Im 19 yrs old. I want to start a new life,with no controversies basically a peaceful life. Uptil now my life has been like a big circus. Sexual abuse by cousin, Boyfriends, bad friends, good friends, crushes,family issues,college issues. Basically all the problem ... (160 words)

Why is "No Contact" good for break ups?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 111 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Yeah I know I am smart and intelligent and mature enough for my age to know the answer to this but my heart is contradicting it. I have been 3 months apart from my ex, obviously, I still love him as this gives me the reason to write here. I have been told to cut contact with... (284 words)

Lonely and longing for friends but I run away when they try to get close!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 86 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 22-25 - I don't have any friends, and I tend to get quite lonely. However, I find it really difficult to meet people, and nobody seems to want to get to know me, even when I try to be friendly to them. I find it easier to connect with people on the internet. The problem is, ever... (324 words)

I love him amd know he can be a better man, but his past demons creep into our lives

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - I have been in a relationship for just over two years. The man I am dating has had financial problems from the very beginning. Of course I have helped him out but this has put a strain on our relationship. IN addition to this he has also lied to me on several occasions about ... (247 words)

What words do I use to not hurt her feelings, but to say that it's best that I move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - My ex asked me to write to her and I did, but now I regret it because I still have feelings for her, which I thought I was over and I had moved on in my life. She's been in a long term relationship and I've been alone for many years. I don't know what to say in an email that I ... (224 words)

I want my ex back, but I don't know if he wants me. Should I wait and see if he calls?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 110 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I can't understand this. In the past with my ex I was always the one to go running back and get him to talk about what happened and it worked. But this time I am waiting on him. We had a great time the other night but it has been a few days and he hasn't called. Was he just ... (255 words)

I try to break up with him when he's mean, but then he goes back to normal again. What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 113 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 16-17 - Why can't I make up my mind? I've been with my boyfriend for two years. Lately he's been acting weird- he's acting rude and careless towards me. So when he's like this I get so mad and I prepare myself to break it off. When I go to do this though, it's like he can read my mind ... (213 words)

Did my husband text her acknowledging a lunchtime blowjob?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 113 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi again everyone. Just an update about the 'situation' and more need for help. I am the wife trying to come to terms with the texting husband and discovered more texts on his old phone, one calling her a 'dirty little minx' but none of her texts saying anything as ... (452 words)

I have no confidence and I really like this girl! What do I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (M)

age 13-15 - I am 14 years old and am friends with a girl in my year who is also 14. We are really good friends, and can laugh about absolutely anything and everything. We never seem to stop texting each other, to chat as we live in different towns. The problem is, I think I've fallen for ... (151 words)

How can I cheer my cousin up?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 18-21 - Ok so one of my best friends was dating my cousin who is like my brother. I was against it from the start but I they're grown and I felt it wasn't my business to get involved. They've recently broken up and now there both being weird with me. My best friend won't talk to me or ... (85 words)

Will I have the same problem with my partner as I did with my ex when I'm pregnant?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F)

age 18-21 - im 20 just found out that im pregnant by my bf who is in love with me completely.i have a child by my ex boyfriend but whilst pregnant with my first child he cheated on me alot so after my child got over the age of 1 yrs i ended the relationship and moved on to my current ... (212 words)