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Archived questions from: February, 2014 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I am in a long term relationship but having lustful thoughts of another!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3711 days ago

28 February 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been with my bf for 6 years. I've been happy but over the last year I have started to have lustful feelings towards a male friend. I wouldn't want to date him and I would NEVER cheat. But what does this mean? Does it mean that I don't love my boyfriend anymore? I feel I ... (79 words)

Natural birth questions

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3710 days ago

28 February 2014 (F)

age 26-29 - These questions are for mothers who chose to have a natural birth with no pain medications. I am expecting my first baby this summer and i want to do it with out pain medications but my mother thinks i'm not strong enough to and iv hear some bad stories about it so i was hoping ... (124 words)

Is it safe to talk about this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3710 days ago

28 February 2014 (F)

age 26-29 - To make it short there's this boy I met while in a school camp abroad and we both come from different countries.While there he told me he likes me and liked me since he first saw me and after he told me this I told him I feel the same.Then we spent the rest of the days there ... (260 words)

Am I feeling scarred by women in general or am I just gay?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3709 days ago

28 February 2014 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi Todd here, I posted a comment a few weeks back but only got one comment back, admirable comment, but only one. You can check out my initial question at this link for more info: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/am-i-really-... (140 words)

Email, SMS and call all in one day from ex-husband!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3710 days ago

28 February 2014 (F)

age 51-59 - What do I do? My ex-husband remarried very soon after our divorce. This was a couple of years ago. He has never totally let go. He has constantly stayed in touch every few months or so. This last call was very heart wrenching as he laid bare his feelings about the break-up... (190 words)

I am starting to get angry at his attitude!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3710 days ago

28 February 2014 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been dating a man for 3 years. I have stupidly "overlooked" some interesting behaviors on his part including: does he like and respect women? (Example: if it's breast cancer awareness month he goes on about how come its all about women? If during the olympics they ... (807 words)

She cheated on me with my cousin but now wants me back?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3710 days ago

28 February 2014 (M)

age 41-50 - My wife cheated with my cousin she said it was my falt i was in jail at the time she. said she didn't feel loved now I'm out she says she want me back i feel that she was lusting for him but now I'm hurt and don't no if i wanna be with her what should i do... (59 words)

My marriage was a huge mistake but I'm too scared to get out of it

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

28 February 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm too scared of what will happen after I leave my husband that I can't bring myself to do it. I got married at 21, and he was almost 24. We had been together for two years when we got married and had lived together for a year and a half. I thought at the time it was what I ... (282 words)

Do men find it difficult to cope with a very independent woman? And how can an independent woman prevent a partner from being needy?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

28 February 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi aunts and uncles. I wonder if someone can help? I have a mixture of two problems in one. Firstly, do men find it difficult to cope with a very independent woman? Secondly, how can an independent woman prevent a partner from being, for want of a better word, needy? My pro... (592 words)

What is your opinion on this? Should I give it a try with this guy or not?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

28 February 2014 (F)

age 26-29 - Heya :) Okay, so I'm a socially awkward person, but I'm gradually dealing with it better thanks to this new group of friends I've started hanging around with. I think this could also be the reason I've not had a proper relationship before. The problem is when I feel I'm getti... (266 words)

I want my ex back but he's not interested. What can I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

28 February 2014 (F)

- I still like my ex but he does not want to get back with me. We are both in our thirties, and our relationship was very complicated. He had kids, I have a child, ex-partners etc etc ......it was very difficult at times for us to be happy. We live in a small town where gossip is ... (248 words)

I recently read my old diary and now the urge to contact my first crush is driving me nuts!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3710 days ago

28 February 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - I discovered a diary recently from my high school days . Reading through it I became overcome with nostalgia. I had described my first crush in detail as teenagers do, and of course, with social media these days I looked him up online. I found that he lives near me now and the ... (150 words)

Why would she deactivate her profile after mine?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

28 February 2014 (M)

age 26-29 - Dear Cupid, I know I'm young. I know I've got my whole life ahead of me. But I was with my on/off girlfriend for a couple of years. Rumour had it she cheated. The usual stuff I guess when you're young. Anyway, things got a little messy. We said and done some horrib... (337 words)

Does he like me or trying to make me jealous?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

28 February 2014 (F)

age 22-25 - so im a teenager and here is a guy i like called 'sam' well i've kown him for months but recently we are much close than before. when the school started he started to treat me diffrently. like he always tease me and he jump from no where when im with my friends and he tries to ... (173 words)

My fab new BF ticks all my boxes but won't give oral

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 3710 days ago

28 February 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear all Please advise. I ve been dating this fabulous guy for around a monthnow. He is kind, intelligent, reliable, handsome and has loads of otger great qualities. We get on very well and I could not ask for more except he doesn' t do oral which I like! I gave him oral a c... (294 words)

Should I back off and forget him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

28 February 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - About a month and a half ago, I was at a local bar with my best friend and his younger sister and her friend. One of their guy friends came over to the table. I will call him Michael. I had seen him around before and thought he was good looking but never really knew who he was. ... (515 words)

Lying LDR boyfriend is having dreams of me cheating?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

28 February 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I recently found out that my LDR boyfriend have been pretending to be single. The girl he was talking to (I don't know her) messaged me out of the blue and sent me screenshots of texts where my boyfriend is claiming to be single and asking her out. My boyfriend has a long ... (396 words)

Could he have been right? Am I too close to my mum?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

28 February 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Am i too close to my mum? My ex boyfriend who i was with for 4 years and lived with recently dumped me becuase he said i'm too close to my mum. He's made me question myself, tourture myself, caused a gap between me and my mum and has made me hate myself in the last few mon... (961 words)

Why is it a big deal for my boyfriend and I to be 7 years apart?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

27 February 2014 (F)

age 22-25 - im 14 turning 15 and my lover has just turned 23 and we are pretty far apart in age but does it really matter? we do not have a sexual relationship and nobody except a close adult friend of mine knows, I feel the urge to tell my mother that im in love but I know that she will ... (86 words)

How do we deal with his crush?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3710 days ago

27 February 2014 (M)

age 41-50 - Hello Friends, I need a help. It is for my wife that I write. Her nephew is just 18 and very curious about things. He is very close to her and week back he asked his troubles to her. She being friendly explained as much possible. He during the course touched her and hugged h... (100 words)

How do I deal the stress of knowing my parents don't want me home for 5 months before I go back to uni?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

27 February 2014 (?) age 26-29 - I am an extremely calm and laid back person as a rule, but recently I have been struggling with a great deal of things: 1. My parents are having some serious issues with their marriage (I know there is nothing I can do but it is on my mind). 2. My dad has said he doesn't ... (363 words)

Is it ok to date a separated person?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

27 February 2014 (M)

age - I'm divorced and met a woman through friends who's married but living separated lives with her husband for financial reasons. Long story short, she invited me out for a date. Is it wrong to date a separated woman who's husband is already out there dating and having sex with ... (107 words)

Is she not interested? Was it too soon to tell her how I feel?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3694 days ago

27 February 2014 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello cupid Well, I am pursuing a girl for some time and dating for 3 months . Well, the other day I met her and told her how I feel about her ( i am attracted to her and why i like her) and she seemed shy for a moment and then she was very composed and collective. She talk... (160 words)

Pregnant and confused! What should I do?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3710 days ago

27 February 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - heya, my head is so confussed, i just found out im pregnant! im not in a realtionship and have slept with two boys this month with about 3-4days appart, so have no way in knowing who the father is. this isnt the first time iv been pregnant, but last time i was in... (210 words)

Should I tell my FWB I'm talking to someone else?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

27 February 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Should I tell my FWB that I'm taking to somebody else? It's not sexual with the other person, but it is something I see turning into a relationship with.... (29 words)

Should I tell him about kissing a guy when I was 22?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3712 days ago

27 February 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been married for a little less than a year to a man I love. I could never imagine betraying our marriage ever- I am completely and happily devoted to him. Before we got married, we dated for about 10 years since I was 18- long distance. During that time we were both very ... (254 words)

Dumping on a girlfriend for a man you hardly know!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3710 days ago

27 February 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - My american friend (girl) has been planning to come over for a ages and so I invited her to stay with me for a few nights. She's been texting me on her progress with planning her trip for months and I got my spare room ready for her, booked a restaurant and organised a lovely ... (230 words)

Can I ever really trust her after I found out about her threesome?

This question has 25 answers - newest was posted 3678 days ago

27 February 2014 (M)

age 41-50 - 6 months into our relationship my girlfriend went on holiday and I later found out that she had a threesome with two men she met in a nightclub while she was away. After she said it was just a crazy one off I forgave her. But I just can't get the thought of her with the ... (170 words)

Am I being unfair or irrational about his apparent lack of interest in making time for me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

27 February 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - My LT bf works long hours, every week day and then has to do work from home at the weekend. As a result, we don't spend a huge amount of time together, usually 8.30/9-10.30 (bedtime) a few days a week and then a few hours on and off at weekend. I have learned to get used to ... (209 words)

How can I help my colleague and friend? Afraid she's having a crisis and may lose her job.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3654 days ago

27 February 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, I have a frienship question. I work with a woman who has, over the years, become a friend. Though we don't really socialise outside work, we do confide in one another when we go for lunch etc. I am fond of her. Her home life has spiralled out of control. She is... (580 words)

Is it silly to date an ex? Has he really grown up and sorted himself out?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3703 days ago

27 February 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - My ex has changed so much in the past few months, it's like he is a different person. I can't stop thinking about him and now he wants to get back together but I'm still hurting from the way he acted when we were together. So, we were together for a year or so and we fought... (561 words)

I resent that his ex-wife expects me and my family to run errands for her!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3712 days ago

27 February 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - I am frustrated and unhappy and thinking of leaving my 3 year relationship. My live in divorced boyfriend's ex wife seems to think it is appropriate for everyone to run errands for her and thir child. She instructs him to tell me to pick up art supplies as I work in the area ... (209 words)

I am overreacting or is he purposefully putting me down?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

27 February 2014 (F)

age 51-59 - I am older than my husband. He is from a different country and keeps calling me old woman. This has been going on for a while now and I find it very irritatating and annoying and when someone persists in keep saying and doing something that you don't like than how do you deal ... (95 words)

Boyfriend has said "I'm a keeper" multiple times out of no where?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

27 February 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - So this past week my bf has said I was a keeper multiple times. Last night he tells me his boss wanted to meet me because he was telling her about me, he said "she's a keeper". Within the past 2 days he's said it 3 times. what does that really mean coming from a guy? He's never ... (71 words)

I feel intimidated and insecure due to boyfriend's female friends.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3712 days ago

27 February 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I’ve been with my boyfriend for just under two years and we had a distant relationship for the majority of that time, although we lived within half an hour of each other for about six months. Just over a week ago we moved into a flat together. I moved to the city he lives in. ... (266 words)

Partner hooked by a particular type of porn... and has acted on it. How secure is our future?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

27 February 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - I just found out that my boyfriend of a year has an addiction to SHEMALE porn. He has been watching now for about 10 years and he is about to be 30. Not only does he masturbate to it on a frequent basis, but he has actually acted on it a few years ago before we were together. ... (244 words)

I want this new relationship to go well. How do I make it work? Because I push people away to keep them at an emotional distance from me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3712 days ago

27 February 2014 (M)

age 30-35 - in my group of friends i always tend to be the one who comes up with the funny and clever comebacks insults and jokes mostly because i try to keep people at an emotional distance from me while still being "part of the group" (im actually very nice and generous to people who i ... (136 words)

What can I do about my Bf's extreme aversion towards contact with me when I have my period? His actions are hurtful.

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 3707 days ago

27 February 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - my boyfriend is good to talk to, not a great listener, but he is very passionate when he cares, is helpful, understanding and not egotistic and is generous. but when it comes to me been on my period, it is a whole different box of cookies, i cannot even so much as mention ... (313 words)

Does a past abuse relationship impact on my future relationships? I keep pushing people away.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3704 days ago

27 February 2014 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi folks, i have a problem. I was in a rather emotionally abusive relationship that i broke out of almost a year ago and ever since i have been kind of rude and pushing people away to keep from getting close to any women, is this normal? what should i do?... (52 words)

Do I need the hurt again? He's trying to get back with me. I still care for him. But I keep on rejecting him

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3712 days ago

27 February 2014 (F)

age 51-59 - It's so easy to say dont answer his calls or respond to his texts. I really love him and I want it to work but i know that he has to change. Someone said that he needs sex and that is why he is trying to talk to me again but i am pretty sure he was getting sex from someone... (293 words)

I need help with how to relate to my LDR, please? I don't know what to do to make things better.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3712 days ago

27 February 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I need urgent help. So this guy I met a year ago or a little more (in person) have recently started talking. We share a lot of things in common, we're both creative and both of us are in college although I'm in a gap year staying with my family at the moment. He is from abr... (454 words)

His home smells. Am I being petty. How can I solve this problem ?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3712 days ago

27 February 2014 (?) age 41-50 - I am in an LDR and every other weekend I see my bf. I love him very much but I hate his house. I know it sounds very shallow but it is a very very old house. The bathroom has mould growing in it and green bathtub...toilet etc. The whole house though is NASTY. It even smell... (113 words)

How can I break this way of thinking? I don't feel like I'll ever find the kind of relationship I want

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3712 days ago

27 February 2014 (F)

age 26-29 - The infatuation and excitement of a new relationship does not last for years and years, but a lot of people don't seem to understand that. I feel like I probably won't find someone who understands that long relationships are not rainbows and butterflies all the time, I feel like... (291 words)

Banned at work! Romantic relationships, what to do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3712 days ago

27 February 2014 (M)

age - I work at a place where romantic relationships between employees are banned. I know this woman there, we've both been there for many many years, been friends all this time. I know she has a romantic attraction for me and I am attracted as well. We have spent a little time ... (159 words)

I have never had anyone really love me, I feel rejected and alone!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3712 days ago

27 February 2014 (F)

age 51-59 - I am a gay female, I am not "super frilly or girly" but I am feminine and am attracted to the same in women. Im not the stereotypical gay female, I'm not into the gay scene due to not so good experiences in the past with nasty women. I know not all women are like t... (484 words)

I don't think I love him as much as he loves me, what do I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3712 days ago

26 February 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey its me again.I've been hurt by guys from time I started having boyfriend Which is at 19 .I have never had a real boyfriend before until now,I'm someone who likes older guys but this one I have now is only 20 and doesn't seem to be what I want. I gave him a chance cause my ... (242 words)

She's upset because I didn't change my FB status, am I in the wrong here?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

26 February 2014 (M)

age 30-35 - Thanks for reading - not sure who to ask so going to ask you lovely people :) I have been on a few dates with a girl - i am 26 and she is 24 and she is very pretty and when we had our first date, we hit it off. She gave me butterflies and to be honest, i usually meet a l... (405 words)

I'm in love with my son's ex-mother-in-law but our relationship is a secret. What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3712 days ago

26 February 2014 (M)

age - im in love with my sons ex mother in law and she loves me but she says that we will never be able to get together because of her kids and our mutual grand son. our relationship is secret from everyone. i help her with money. we kiss but i ask her i want to make love to her and ... (95 words)

Is he a commitment phobe?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3696 days ago

26 February 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been dating a guy for over four months now and, while he pursues me and makes all of the dates (1x weekly), our relationship hasn't really progressed, and we haven't had the whole, "exclusivity" talk. He doesn't ask me about my hopes and dreams, or much about me at all. ... (378 words)

His drinking is affecting the way I see this relationship

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3712 days ago

26 February 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi, I've been dating a guy for 6 months, but have known him for a year through a work contact. Since we have become official I have noticed when I call on week day evenings (we only meet at weekends due to distance) he isounds drunk at least 3 times a week. He usually talks ... (188 words)