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Archived questions from: December, 2021 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I don't know what to do about a manipulative close friend

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 845 days ago

31 December 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - I have recently discovered that one of my closest friends is a liar and a manipulator; there really isn’t another word for it. In the past 6-7 I’ve had some doubts here and there, but never got a clear confirmation. Until now. I’ve known her all of my life and I knew she h... (805 words)

After my friend rejected me, I spiraled into depression

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 847 days ago

30 December 2021 (M)

age 22-25 - Hi, any advice is appreciated. I've been feeling lost recently. About 5 years ago when I was younger I asked my best friend out and she rejected me. Ever since I was sent into a spiral of self hate that I'm only now recovering from. 3 years after, I found a relations... (205 words)

Was I love bombed?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 849 days ago

29 December 2021 (F)

- Was I love bombed? So I've known this guy for the past 5 years. He lives in another state and we only see each other every other year. We were fwb and he was never very affectionate towards me, but during our recent encounter, he was showering me with gifts, attention and non-... (257 words)

How do find out if this attraction is mutual?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 848 days ago

29 December 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Basically How do you tell someone you like them? There is a guy at work who i have a crush on. We work for the same company. But not the same department. So we don't see each other all that often. But when we do it's always friendly chat. Bringing me a coffee ect. I h... (142 words)

Should I forgive him after he admitted to watching porn?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 834 days ago

29 December 2021 (F)

age 22-25 - I don't even know where to start Me and my boyfriend / ex boyfriend had a lot of problems. I could never deal with his past but I kept trying. And 2 days ago he told me something new from his past, and I was so hurt that I only had one thought that I had to break up with him... (429 words)

Does she see things from my point of view

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 845 days ago

29 December 2021 (M)

age 26-29 - I’ve been friends with a female who I have had a crush on, for many years. we both like each other but have never acted on our instincts. she told me she had a boyfriend, which I was disappointed by. I told her that I have a crush on her and she thought it was cute. then I said ... (113 words)

Left out and not included

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 847 days ago

29 December 2021 (M)

age 36-40 - a couple of years ago, I joined a working mens club and at first everything seemed to be okay and people were wanting to play snooker with me. as the months have passed, not a single person wants to play a game and I’m always on the sidelines. they say I’m too good a player for ... (144 words)

If she does not like me why the friend request?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 847 days ago

29 December 2021 (M)

age 26-29 - hi aunts advice needed, I work at a warehouse processing materials for shirts and badges for football teams. there is a female at work who doesn’t seem to like me, either because I’m ugly or get on her nerves. I normally don’t do social media, but when I was on my facebook... (118 words)

What would best advice for this situation?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 850 days ago

29 December 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - I have a question in relation to a situation that I am writing for one of my fictional characters. It’s somewhat bizarre, but… yeah. So, the character (Let’s call him Moe) is 10 years of age, and he has a sweetheart-like female friend (Daughter of Sonic and Amy). They have ... (246 words)

Why did she contact me sfter telling me not to contact her

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 849 days ago

28 December 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - This is an odd situation. I got dumped by this girl, and saying that we’re not on speaking terms goes without saying. She tells me to "No longer contact her for ANY reasons." So, I honour that fully. Now, strange thing is, she, for some oddball reason, sends me an address, ... (299 words)

Why does husband sulk when he doesn't get his way?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 849 days ago

28 December 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - My husband sulks if he doesnt get his way .. its driving me mad .. he gave up work to start retraining in January ,which I admire as hes 48 ... hes always sulked but seems more now we are together more .. he buys rubbish off the internet just to put it in the cupboard but sulks ... (145 words)

Is my brother in law using my sister?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 852 days ago

27 December 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Am I crazy to think my brother in law is using my sister? She helped him obtain residency papers, start a new career which led to a 50 percent salary increase yet he didn’t get her anything for Christmas? She was so upset. I didn’t know what to say so I just listened to her ... (91 words)

Do I have a valid reason to be upset with him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 852 days ago

24 December 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - I started a LDR with a filipino man last year in September and we talk everyday and check up on each other, spend good time together. I came up with the idea to send our own cultural foods to each other. So he agreed, and I asked whether he was able to afford it and he said he ... (528 words)

Guilt over avoiding depressed people

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 852 days ago

24 December 2021 (M)

age 36-40 - Dear Agony Aunts/uncles, forgive me if I seem judgemental. I grew up with a depressed mother and a father who was avoidant and often would ignore my mother's contacts and according to her had some affairs. This would make her an anxious mess. We as children would internalise ... (304 words)

My boyfriend and I haven't spoken in two weeks

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 847 days ago

23 December 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been with my partner over four years though we have had many ups and downs, primarily because I feel he doesn't want commitment. He says he is committed to me, wants no one else yet he doesn't want marriage and evades the topic of moving in together. He did move in with ... (399 words)

My new boyfriend lashes out at me when he's stressed

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 853 days ago

23 December 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - I have a new partner after getting divorced and I have to say I really like him. We have the most amazing passionate relationship and in the last few months we’ve both admitted it’s love, we live quite far from each other but we manage it fine and see each other regularl... (254 words)

Is it worth asking this personal trainer out?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 852 days ago

23 December 2021 (M)

age 36-40 - I haven't dated in over 2 years now, so I'm a bit out of practice so to speak. My life is finally in order as I recently moved to the States, have a job, a house I just bought, and am slowly trying to adapt to a "real life" again. I'm 34. I've been going to a new gym recently... (474 words)

Pregnant after breaking up with my ex for stealing from me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 853 days ago

22 December 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been in a relationship with a guy 6 years younger than me and have been trying for a baby ... 6 days before my periods he stole money from me ...I was pissed off and I just went mute and told him to never speak to me until he has returned the money .... I am at peace ... (147 words)

My wife expects perfection, even in fantasies

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 854 days ago

21 December 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - I feel like my wife has gotten really boring when it comes to sex and fantasies. Everything surrounding it has to be perfect, even in fantasies. She suggested we watch porn together but because everyone in the video had to be the exact right level of attractiveness we ended up ... (226 words)

My husband recently confessed to being tempted to accept a blow job

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 851 days ago

21 December 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - My husband recently confessed to me that when he was young he was offered a blowjob by a friend and said the ONLY reason he said no was that his friend wanted to record it. He even admitted if that was not the case he might have tried it on his friend just to see what it's ... (153 words)

I'm beginning to see my boyfriend as a free loader

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 855 days ago

20 December 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - Free rider? My boyfriend of 8 months now seems like a free rider..tell me.if am mistaken I didn't notice anything until it was time to go on vacation. We went to Cancun and all but 500$ was paid with my points all inclusive. 500$ went on my credit card. I asked him to pay... (220 words)

My boyfriend has allowed his ex girlfriend to move in with him

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 857 days ago

19 December 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey there! I got in a relationship 3 months ago with this amazing guy and I really like him. We have been spending all of our weekends together and have been on two trips. The relationship with him was going great until last month when he told me that one of his friends ... (450 words)

Is this the end of Dear Cupid?

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 857 days ago

19 December 2021 (F)

age 51-59 - Is this site reaching the end of its life? Not to say that I want it to be but are we actually providing a genuine service to anybody any more? Back in the "good old days" we'd have a couple of hundred questions posted every month. Now we don't even get half that and the maj... (295 words)

My friend uses her self inflicted heart condition to gain sympathy

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 857 days ago

19 December 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - My friend is a hard drug user. When I met her 10 years ago she was clean and stayed clean for the next 5 years. When I first met her I told her that normally I would never have a close friendship with a drug user as those people are on a different path in life to me. But... (445 words)

Do I just not respond to text from friend? Its been a troubled relationship

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 858 days ago

19 December 2021 (F) age 41-50 - Hi Aunts and Uncles ! First of all, thank you for the help and support you’ve given me over the years ! And I wish you all the best in the new 2022 ! Hopefully it will be much MUCH better than the previous two ?? Long story short – after DECADES of accepting to be a part o... (1064 words)

My wife thinks flirting is harmless. I don't agree

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 845 days ago

18 December 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - Wife goes out on girls night with her divorced friend. I'm fine with this, however ever since a Halloween party, she wears her tight black spandex pants and low cut leotard she bought; she went as bad Sandy and couldn't stop talking about all the attention she got from the men. ... (113 words)

Why would someone make a deep fake of my husband?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 856 days ago

18 December 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - My cousin sent me a link to a Facebook group she visits a lot, about things in the local area in her town, which is about 40 minutes drive from us. The link she sent me was a video of my husband cuddling another woman, who was wearing a bright blue bikini, and standing nex... (418 words)

Are things serious?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 848 days ago

17 December 2021 (M)

age 18-21 - My girlfriend kissed me in the cheek for the first time, and in school! Does this mean things got more serious?... (21 words)

How do I handle my controlling sister in law without damaging relationships?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 859 days ago

17 December 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - My husband and I have been married for almost seven years and together for almost 11. I've always had a good relationship with my in-laws...BUT. I have also always felt like I've had to tiptoe around his only sibling (a sister who is a year older than him and two years older ... (961 words)

A married friend I had not seen in a long time hit on me. I don't know what to do

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 855 days ago

16 December 2021 (M)

age 36-40 - I was doing grocery shopping the other day, when on the way out to the car park, I saw my friend Steve, said it was good to see him as I hadn't seen him for ages (he'd actually left the town I've lived in since 2012, way back in 2016, and returned in 2021 after living in ... (584 words)

My fiance eats so much and takes so long before we can have sex. Why is she like this?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 859 days ago

16 December 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been with my fiancee for 2 years, the wedding's off due to COVID but we've been together for 5 years as a couple. She's a great girl, lovely, kind, helpful, always has some project on the go here. Sex is the big issue. It's not that she doesn't want sex (far from i... (307 words)

My mother ruined my wedding day

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 859 days ago

16 December 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - I have a controlling mother- she’s always been like it and ive just spent my whole life accepting it. She has no boundaries and interferes all the time. I got married 3 years ago and did so many things that upset me and like an idiot I never stood up for mysel... (443 words)

My boyfriend isn't enough for me anymore

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 864 days ago

14 December 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend is not enough for me anymore. I have always thought it wouldn’t matter that he’s short, cause he was in shape. Then, he got fat. Refuses to work out which I do. We don’t even look like a couple. Then he got grumpy. Is in weird angry mood all the time. Then he ... (445 words)

My sister is getting married. Should I move out?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 864 days ago

14 December 2021 (F)

age 22-25 - Should I move out or not? I tried moving out twice this year but cancelled because I was too terrified. The reason why I wanted to move out both times is because I felt extremely stressed at home all the time. All I wanted was some peace. However I now regret not going ... (602 words)

My husband has just left me for another woman, and insists our kids meet her

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 864 days ago

13 December 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm 38, been married to my husband, 39 for 12 years, we've been together for 14 years as a couple. We have two 11-year-old girls, Katie and Angie, identical twins. I (well, it was we a month ago until my husband moved out) live in Adams Morgan, Washington D.C., my husb... (886 words)

I want to attend the winter dance with my crush

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 864 days ago

13 December 2021 (F)

age 18-21 - I really like this guy at my school and want to go to the winter dance with this guy. He means a lot to me and so I really want to go this dance together and take our relationship to the next level. he is a really nice guy that i've been flirting on and off with over the... (115 words)

I feel used by my mother

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 863 days ago

13 December 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - I left an abusive relationship a few years ago. I had to return my car because I couldn’t afford it. My mother gave away my dog while I was at work starting a new job. She claimed the dog tried to bite her. I had the dog for 6 years and she never showed a single person any ... (551 words)

I am in love with my sister

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 862 days ago

12 December 2021 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi, please can I get advise, first no I’m not a troll, I’m genuinely after advise so if your not going to take me serious then don’t comment! I’m 33yo and I’m in love with my 38yo sister and have been for about 18 years, I’ve had serious relationships and even a child so ... (172 words)

My husband has double standards

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 863 days ago

12 December 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - I’m in a marriage, and I recently found out my husband has had a pattern of secretly texting other woman, gets emotionally close and then ghosts them and moves on to the next woman, I had my suspicions for years but buried my head in the sand about it all, recently I caught him ... (238 words)

I found out my wife cheated. Sad and don't know what to do

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 861 days ago

11 December 2021 (M)

age - My wife of 20 years or so.I found a letter that my wife wrote to a man. Who she was having an affair with the letter was so detailed about the sex she had with him.I pick up the phone called her work and told her about the letter .She said it was not that bad like iam a ... (160 words)

Can I get a date on facebook?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 865 days ago

11 December 2021 (M) age 30-35 - To sum up briefly, about 3 years ago we met about 10 times as she was serving me at the postal service, we don't know each other, I think she was interested in me at the time but nothing happened, the only chance to meet her is to contact her on Facebook. I know chances are not ... (295 words)

Should I go to husbands family for Xmas after racial incident?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 866 days ago

11 December 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - My husband's family makes a huge deal out of christmas, huge dinner, tons of gifts, etc. Whenever we are there, we do all the dishes for a family of 6, and when guests come over we do all the dishes for a family of 15. Also, I clean up after all the gift unwrapping because I ... (728 words)

I got called a homophobe when I did nothing wrong

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 867 days ago

10 December 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - I go regularly to a nearby gym (I'm a young woman). Due to something horrible going on in my life right now I am often pretty stressed and was walking around the gym earlier today with a serious expression on my face. As I did so I passed two guys standing chatting, I noticed ... (460 words)

I am worried about my sister having an affair

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 867 days ago

10 December 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - I have a sister who's 28, she lives alone in a flat, legally she's classified as a vulnerable adult due to having autism spectrum disorder, and has a support worker (not sure if she still does due to the pandemic). She's lived alone for 4 years now, semi-successfully. I've... (668 words)

Is it normal to cry over not being able to do your routine?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 856 days ago

10 December 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - Is it normal to cry over not being able to do my routine? Very unusual for me, I live with parents but I have a very busy schedule with work etc. I specially took a day off so I could sort my room and myself which means extra time spent on me. I woken up to find bathro... (234 words)

I have fallen out of love with a good man

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 867 days ago

10 December 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - This is hard to write about but I’m feeling incredibly conflicted on what to do and need advice. I’ve been married for 8 years (together for 12) and I’m no longer happy, I have fallen out of love with him. I feel we have grown apart and I often think about being with o... (369 words)

Husband won't let me forget that I cheated

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 866 days ago

10 December 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - I need advice. I have been in a relationship for 17 years, married for 8. I got pregnant a year after dating and moved in with him at 5 months pregnant. He was always the one to go out with friends, get drunk and stay out late. I stayed home while pregnant and after i had the ... (688 words)

Why does my ex make everything so difficult ?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 868 days ago

9 December 2021 (M)

age 26-29 - I’m trying to make the best of things after splitting with my ex but she keeps making everything so difficult. I don’t understand what her problem is. We have a 15-month old son together so obviously need to stay in each other’s lives because we share him. After our son was ... (981 words)

I'm worries my younger boyfriend will lose interest

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 862 days ago

9 December 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm a 33 year old female and my partner is a 24 year old male. We've been together for over 6 months. I've never been in a relationship with a younger man before but he's very mature for his age and treats me like a queen. I realise we are in the honeymoon stages of the ... (374 words)

Why did I give in this time to his media request?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 869 days ago

8 December 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi all, I need to vent about this. I had a secret “boyfriend” when I was young. He was my first everything. I’ll call him John. This was many years ago. I was 13, he was 17. I explored why in my 20s in therapy. My mother was an abusive person and I felt good around him to d... (565 words)