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Now she's a lesbian! Could dating me have been so bad that I've put her off men altogether?

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Question - (22 January 2009) 1 Answers - (Newest, 2 February 2009)
A male United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:


I recently dated a bisexual girl from my college. Our relationship was "okay" at best, but I never felt like she was interested in giving us a proper go. In the short time we dated, she canceled on me on several occasions, usually saying that lack a lack of money was to blame (it would cost her £10 in petrol to come and visit me) (I offered to go and see her a number of times, but she never agreed to it). On one occasion she decided against staying over because "something is telling me that I should go home". She just had a "feeling", and hence drove home for 45 minutes instead of sleeping over.

Today I've read on her facebook profile just a few weeks after we pulled the plug on the relationship that she is now only interested in women.

Did I do that?? Was our relationship so bad that I've put her off men altogether, or am I blaming myself for no reason? I can't think what I did was so bad that the relationship would fall apart and she'd officially declare herself a lesbian. We both agreed that we had a nice time together and that we just weren't compatible. Right now, to say that we "weren't compatible" sounds like a massive understatement.

Could dating me have been so bad that I've put her off men altogether?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009):

Maybe she is dating a lesbian now who only dates other lesbians, so that's what she told her, and she changed her Facebook to match her tale. I doubt it was you.

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