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Archived questions from: April, 2020 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Since getting a job my boyfriend's behaviour has changed.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1313 days ago

30 April 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - I've been dating this guy for a year now. He's good and wonderful but one thing I don't like about him is when it comes to money. For example, during valentine's Day he couldn't even get a chocolate or even a cup of water. It wasn't that he was broke too. It's not like I'... (257 words)

Is it time for me to finally move on?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1436 days ago

30 April 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - A few years ago I fell for a friend. We spent a lot of time together and all of his words and actions signalled he had romantic interest. I did not know where I stood with him so I asked him and he started panicking and said “he might have been leading me on”. Bear in mind at ... (541 words)

I recognise the man on the dating site, and he is MARRIED!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 1431 days ago

29 April 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear Cupid. I'm on a dating site and have had a man message me saying "Hey how are you going :)" and "Your super cute, love to know more about yourself!? Feel free to ask me anything" Anyway, I Looked this guy up on facebook because I recognised his face of a man I u... (141 words)

Married co worker is objectifying me and I just want to be friends.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1449 days ago

28 April 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - Why does EVERY man I try to befriend end up objectifying me? They'll be totally respectful to our other mutual female friends but I get treated different. Like this guy I THOUGHT was nice at work: the worst thing he did was be "silly"and he did that to everyone but management. ... (888 words)

I'm not sure if the guy I met was just being friendly or if there was more.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1444 days ago

27 April 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - A week before the lockdown happened I went for a walk with a walking group. There was a guy there who I have known for a few years. He seemed a bit shy when we said hello on arrival. During the walk he asked if I was seeing anyone. I'm not sure why he asked if I was seeing ... (156 words)

I'm struggling with waiting to see what happens with this guy after lockdown ends.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1450 days ago

27 April 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Before Corona virus hit I had been on a few dates with a front line doctor. We’ve known each other very loosely for a few years. I asked him if he wanted to go for a drink back in February then we had a great three dates before this hit, including sex on the third. So ob... (373 words)

I give my girlfriend everything but it's not enough!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1445 days ago

27 April 2020 (M)

age 30-35 - Im struggling with something. After a whole day of normal communication with my gf (we are living separate during lockdown) the smallest thing can make her go into a tantrum. For example I work 6pm-2am. Therefore when I finish at 2am I will call her. I was tired by 3.30 an... (664 words)

Can anybody help me work out what is going on in this guy's head?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1450 days ago

27 April 2020 (F)

age 22-25 - I met a guy in college and we were really good friends, we got on well with each other and it felt as if we had known each other for years. A few months into the friendship this guy was always looking for excuses to text me like asking for a book when he could just get it ... (1418 words)

I moved out because I didnt feel safe, landlords are asking me to come back.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1449 days ago

27 April 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi people. I moved out of a property 2 months ago due to the owner's adult kid harassing me. He made false accusations against me and was going through something at the time. I never made a big deal of the situation but I avoided talking to him. I knew he wasn't okay in his ... (176 words)

Is there a such thing as an obsessed partner?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1450 days ago

26 April 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my fiancé have been together for almost 4 years lately I feel myself being more and more unhappy because I feel that I can’t balance time between him and my kids and myself. My fiancé seems to be very needy for my attention and when I can give it to him he craves it even ... (319 words)

Living at home again and sister is driving me crazy

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1452 days ago

26 April 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - My sister is 8 years younger than I, unfortunately due to financial issues I'm back living at home, and during this lockdown I don't think I can cope with her. She has aspergers which has gotten milder with age, but she has a tendancy to use it more of an excuse for her rude ... (280 words)

I never told my husband that I had an abortion. I am afraid he'll divorce me if he finds out

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1452 days ago

26 April 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - I did not tell my husband that I was pregnant and I had an abortion behind his back. I am now very scared to tell him. I think he will divorce me and I am very worried. Does anybody has advice on how I can save my marriage. It was partly a health decision because my health is ... (67 words)

I don't think I should be his go to person every time he needs something

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 1449 days ago

25 April 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - My story is as old as world. Here it goes: I am in my 40s, moderately comfortable financially , love to travel . One day decided to go to Africa and met a guy. My age, divorced , bringing up his small son. And taking care of couple relatives. Of course we are in two diffe... (351 words)

The disparity between our financial situations is causing problems in the relationship

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1452 days ago

25 April 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello everybody, Thank you for taking the time to read this. I am after some advice on some financial/relationship issues. My boyfriend and I own a house together. We each put in as big deposit as we could afford at the time. His was much bigger than mine (around £55,000) an... (1065 words)

Lockdown is keeping me away from my mistress. Wife is boring but don't want to lose her while going after mistress

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1450 days ago

25 April 2020 (M)

age 41-50 - My wife is wonderful. Good at saving money and gets me everything I need. But my mistress is kinky and she will do anything for me. She will wear kinky clothes and let's me do anything to her. She cries when I have to go home. Now it's lockdown and I can't see her yet. Sex wit... (121 words)

What is going on with this guy, am I overthinking?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1454 days ago

24 April 2020 (M)

age 30-35 - This isn’t really a problem just more a curiousity So this guy I did used to fancy him but now we’re just friends. But I’ve noticed since I’ve know him when he has a bf he ignores me and when he doesn’t he talks to me I just trying to understand why that is I sen... (249 words)

Due to my past, I’m anxious and paranoid and am starting to become controlling! How to balance and maintain boundaries?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1453 days ago

24 April 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - My previous boyfriend had multiple relationships behind my back, this has caused sever stress and insecurities for me. I’m am now in a relationship with someone else, for a year now. He is supportive and very patient and understanding of what I went through, but I a... (234 words)

Happily married yet lusting over a doctor! Help me please!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1443 days ago

24 April 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been married for 4 and a half years and have a 3 year old daughter. There are no problems in my marriage and I thought till a few days ago that I was very happy and content with life. My husband adores me and we have a healthy sex life. I don't know what is wrong wi... (287 words)

My partner is living with her parents to help them during this lockdown, and I’m feeling disconnected and not cared about!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1453 days ago

24 April 2020 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone, I hope you are all doing as well as can be expected. I am having an issue with my partner and looking for some advice. We are currently in lockdown and my partner is an hour away. She decided to go and stay with her parents as they run an essential busine... (501 words)

My husband had a video chat with another woman on the day I was having surgery!!!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1455 days ago

24 April 2020 (F) age 41-50 - I just had surgery today! It was tough on me! I am sensitive to anesthesia. And was puking and dizzy. I had a hard time. My husband dropped me off at the hospital because of Covid. He came to pick me up later after I recovered from anesthesia. When I called him from recover... (273 words)

Any advice on supporting my ex without complicating her life?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1453 days ago

23 April 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello, I’m hoping to get some advice and clarity on a situation with my ex. In 2014 I’m positive I met the love of my life, we dated for two years long distance, at the time neither one of us drove and both worked pretty crappy jobs so we saw each other about every three ... (530 words)

Things have changed since the baby came along. I'm not sure I want to be with my partner anymore

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1456 days ago

23 April 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - Ever since myself and my partner had our baby boy (10 months ago) our relationship hasn't been the same. Many people told us to make sure we still went on date nights, still made time for each other and not to let go of our relationship but in all honesty that is what has ... (429 words)

Should I reach out to my ex boyfriend's ex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1454 days ago

22 April 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello, I'm hoping I can reach out to you for some advice about a girl called Daisy (fake name for obvious reasons). I am 26, and Daisy is 27. We met becauseof my ex partner. In 2019 I came out of what I thought, was a stable relationship of 7 years. Fortunately we w... (848 words)

Should I assume he lost interest and deleted my number?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1454 days ago

21 April 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been briefly seeing a guy which started as friendship and we have been friends on FB. He last messaged me to ask how I was at the beginning of April. He last acknowledged me by text two weeks ago when I decided to tell him that if I had met him when he was younger I ... (247 words)

Should I be worried that my gentle wife is reading books about murder and violence?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1455 days ago

21 April 2020 (M)

age - I just found out that my wife of 5 years, a caring gentle woman in her 70"s, has been reading John Stanford books about violence, sex and murder. Should I be worried?... (32 words)

S it possible for friend zoned relationships to turn romantic?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1455 days ago

21 April 2020 (M)

age 30-35 - Okay, weird question. I can't ask my friends so I am turning to dearcupid as usual. I have a female housemate who is a nudist, although she refers to herself as a naturist. What this means is she doesn't like to wear clothes. Yes I know it's weird! Actually she is more like a ... (413 words)

My anxiety and insecurity is getting in the way of my happiness

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1456 days ago

21 April 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone, I’m coming here for advice about an ongoing problem I have with dating. Bear with me- I annoy myself with this and am certain I sound exhausting. I’m a female in my late twenties and have dated a handful of men. I’m currently dating a wonderful man who was a cl... (664 words)

I should be so happy that we are getting married but I'm not because he cheated on me 2 years ago and 'm worried he's still in contact with the woman

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1457 days ago

21 April 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi All- I'm in desperate need of relationship advice. I'm currently engaged to someone who I've been with for almost 10 years. We've been engaged for about 5 months. As with any relationship, things between my fiance and I haven't always been sunshine and rainbows. But I ... (280 words)

My husband won't take advantage of the lockdown to spend time with his family

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1453 days ago

21 April 2020 (F) age 30-35 - Yesterday made it 3 weeks since there was an order in my country to close non-essential businesses due to the current pandemic. I worked from home and my husband and his mother's food business was closed. He rarely spends time with me and our kids. Whilst the world is in a ... (450 words)

Messed up the second date

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1456 days ago

20 April 2020 (F)

age 22-25 - I met this guy on tinder. The first date went great!! Like sparks flying. The second date was great until alcohol got involved. I basically was embarrassed and vulnerable about something when I shouldn't have been. I am not usually like that but I guess I felt comfortable ... (287 words)

Fiance texting crush, but wanting to have a family with me. Do I let it slide?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1455 days ago

20 April 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm not sure how to feel about this and i wondered if anyone could give me some advice. My partner had a crush on the same work colleague two times in our relationship, a couple of years apart (that i know of and he admitted to). They've never had a 'thing' at all and i... (741 words)

Are these enough warning signs that my partner isn't into me?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1450 days ago

20 April 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - So I have been in a relationship for almost 6 months and am wondering whether this relationship will last. I've had a lot of bad relationships, and childhood was not ideal so I doubt myself a lot and struggle with what a normal relationship should be like. But here are some ... (1547 words)

Do I reach out to my deceased husband's brother?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1457 days ago

20 April 2020 (F)

age - My husband died two years ago from cancer. He had an older brother who he stopped talking to for at least fifteen years (we were married for fifteen years and he refused to talk to him). I have no idea what happened between them two, except my husband said that they were not ... (135 words)

I'm not sure how to deal with my alcoholic parents

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1455 days ago

19 April 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey everyone! Love this site - I’m wanting a bit of advice regarding a family matter. I’m in a really good place right now. I’ve just moved cities, have a healthy relationship, moved in with some great people. I have a counsellor who I see every month which is so valuable. ... (511 words)

He goes by secret pseudonyms and follows random people I used to know or he used to work with. He doesn't know that I'm on to him

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1459 days ago

19 April 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - My partner handed me their laptop so I could take a zoom meeting and I guess didn’t realize they had left their Instagram open. Well, he just made this new Instagram yesterday He had an old one which he had also kept a secret from me up until I guess he deleted it. He goes by ... (184 words)

Does everyone "settle" or do they really believe they've found "the one"?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1459 days ago

18 April 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi there, this might sound like quite a broad question but I'm interested to know people's thoughts. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 4 years and we're planning on moving in together this year. We've lived together on and off over the years between jobs and... (326 words)

What should I do about my wife's declining sex drive?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1456 days ago

18 April 2020 (M)

age - I am a 58 year old married man with a question...My wife and I have always had a very good sex life in the past, but over the last couple years that has slowly changed to the point that she shows no interest at all anymore, and I'm tired of begging, which rarely makes a ... (153 words)

I met up with an old crush, had sex twice now he is being short with me.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1439 days ago

18 April 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - A few years ago I was speaking to this boy I met on Twitter and we got on really well, flirted and things. we didn’t live near eachother at the time and I got a boyfriend and obviously things didn’t continue. Recently though, me and my boyfriend split up, I went on tinder and ... (216 words)

Doubts with texting style with my LDR

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1457 days ago

18 April 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - I met a man online about 3 months ago. We communicate about every day through whatsapp, skype, facebook messenger, viber, facetime calls, Instagram etc. Sometimes I am realizing when we are texting That it feels if I am talking to a different person. When you text a person ... (193 words)

My husband treats me like a room mate and gets defensive when I try to discuss it.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1460 days ago

18 April 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear cupid My husband of 2 years does not want to share bed with me. He plays games till very late and his work starts late in morning, but my work starts at 8 am. He thinks he sleeps better alone, I'm not comfortable sleeping alone, reason being, we hardly spend time toget... (170 words)

How do I tackle the problem of my boyfriend commenting every time I eat something?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1458 days ago

17 April 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - I’ve recently moved in with my boyfriend, and I’ve noticed he makes comments every time I eat something. Anything. Like it’s too big or too much or I’m going to spoil my appetite if I have a snack. I don’t eat that much and I’m a thin girl so I’m quite offended when he... (125 words)

I can’t understand why she doesn’t want sex with me anymore

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1458 days ago

17 April 2020 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi I’m not normally one to ask personal questions on these sort of things but I need advice I’ve been with my fiancée for 6 years we have a 3 year old together I started sleeping in the spare room when our child was ill and I haven’t moved back into our shared bedroom now that ... (144 words)

Does it matter if a boyfriend is saying he is only 45 percent attracted to me

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 1460 days ago

17 April 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - A short question , just want opinions on being enough physically for a boyfriend . My boyfriend has given me a percent, and a value to what number he finds me attracted at 45 percent , should I be anyoed by this I never asked to be given a percentage he came out with it yest... (352 words)

Where do I start to earn my own living?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1461 days ago

16 April 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - My husband and his family are treating me very badly before. We are living separately for almost half year. Im now living with my family and my 18 months son. I have asked questions many times before and now im sure that i want to be dependent and start afresh. I guess aunts ... (391 words)

Is this part of life, having no one who knows who you really are?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1461 days ago

16 April 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi, I'm 23 yo, I have some friends in my life, but no close ones anymore.. I've had 2 besties (2 guys who i loved as best friends) I've known for years, but then i was forced to block contact with them because my family thought they were bad influence, which they weren't! Bu... (311 words)

Someone tell me I’m not crazy for wanting a real relationship!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1461 days ago

16 April 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - I’m in my early thirties but I’ve never had a partner/boyfriend. I’ve been online dating for several years but all the men I meet just want no strings sex. They claim they are looking for a relationship but after a few weeks of dating we have sex and then after that they say ... (290 words)

I need help in moving on, and it’s hard because I’m living alone!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1459 days ago

14 April 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi y'all, I am 22 yo, and i lived with my bf (23yo) for 5 months and then 1 month long distance cz of studies.. we loved each other and we always were together hanging out and all.. Lately, he just stopped trying as he was doing before, he used to try and give me attentio... (201 words)

My neighbors are disrespectful in how to act since policies adopted for coronavirus

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1464 days ago

14 April 2020 (F) age 36-40 - Hi guys, I would really appreciate your advice. I live in a country that has introduced a severe measures for fighting the corona virus, including a stay-at-home / work-from-home, all non-essential activities are forbidden. You can go to a store once a week, and have to... (704 words)

I am fighting myself not to contact her

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 1459 days ago

14 April 2020 (M)

age 51-59 - So someone i worked with is no longer talking to me. She knows that i like her as i always complimented her and even told her straight out "i like you". But something happened that she now ignores me. And i wish i knew what it was because it is messing with my head and... (343 words)

We split up 3 months ago but he's still living with me showing no desire to move out

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1464 days ago

13 April 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi I ended my relationship with a lazy selfish partner in January he is addicted to weed and spends hundreds on it a month I told him stupidly he could stay until he found somewhere else to live his parents told him he can move back in with them but he won’t go it has been 3 ... (149 words)