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Archived questions from: May, 2009 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I think he lied to me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5444 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - okay so im 15. my boyfriend of 3 mo nths told me he loved me atleast 100 times. im begining to think that was a lie. see we have a long distance thing going on and ive been seeing him as much as i can lately but i guess that wasnt enough. i know i l ove him more than ... (105 words)

Should I take a chance and see what develops?

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31 May 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Im an college student and have been attending college for about 2 years now. This semester is the 1st time i actually attented full time and made alot of friends and met a lot of people. The question i wanted to ask is: Theres this professor in my college, she very beautif... (427 words)

Don't know if wife wants a threesome?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5345 days ago

31 May 2009 (M)

age 51-59 - been married for 10 years my wife and i watch porn and when three somes are on she gets turned on and i would ask if she likes what she sees and she always says she yes when i ask her if she wants a 3-some she always says i would never do that one time we were watching porn ... (109 words)

Stepmom thinks I'm gay!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5443 days ago

31 May 2009 (M)

age 26-29 - My step mum thinks im gay, which theres nothing wrong with, but its annoying. How can i convince her? ... (19 words)

Why do guys wake up with an erection?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - my boyfriend and i were chattin, and we got onto the subject and he said he often wakes up 'fully erected'. my question is, who knows why this happens? maybe its a stupid question but i realised i really dont know why. thanks for any answers!... (49 words)

I'm confused, he is so bi-polar with his feelings!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5443 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - ohkay so this is a little long but i need to say it all. and thru the whole thing dont think im a slut. im 13 and in 7th grade. one day on my bus i met this guy that i saw everyday and thot he was hot for along time. but i never talked to him. then i just did. i dont know why ... (407 words)

Boys and grad parties!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5443 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - K i have three things to ask!! : 1- can i invite the guy i really like to my grade eight grad?? Or is that too weird.... I like him and want him to be there but i dont know..... He has a sister that i babysit could i invite her and then say he can come to????? 2- this has ... (135 words)

Should I call him? Or should he call me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - heyy friends well i am desprete for help. wel first thing is my best guy friens lives in Mississippi and i live in chicago and he comes to visit and well this summer he is going to stay with his hometown in Mississippi and he hasn't called me and he told me that he was g... (89 words)

Am I wasting my time or should I let it ride?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5435 days ago

31 May 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - I need someone's opinion who knows what's going on .... I am 20 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, Shane. He's 19. I do love him sincerely and care enough about him to spend the rest of my life with him, as naive as that may sound. But we're not per... (1577 words)

The annoying thing on my mind

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5443 days ago

31 May 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey, I'm a 16 year old guy and will be 17 in 2 weeks. Me and my gf both lost our V plates to each other when we were 15. My girlfriend is 3 months younger than me which makes her a year behind me in education. Thing is, even though now we are above the legal age to have sex ... (204 words)

Should I just completely give up on him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5441 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) age 51-59 - My ex broke up with me. I apologized to him and was truthful to him. He made it clear that he didin't want me. there were times when he gave me mixed signals and I responed and then the next time I talk to him he would be negative again. I loved him so much I pleaded with him ... (309 words)

Flatmate ruining my relationship! Confront them or not?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5444 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend stays with another couple in a flat. He has known them for 2 years and has lived with them for that amount. They are very horrible people - confrontational, irrational, nasty, spitefull, messy, most of all jeleous... the list goes on. It all started becau... (1003 words)

Addictive personality, becoming addicted to cannabis!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5441 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I have an addictive personality which means i can get addicted to anything as silly as penguin biscuits and i get addicted very easily too. Ive done well to stay away from drugs so far in my life but for my current bf they're quite a major part of his life. Ok, so hes not ... (183 words)

I waste so many opportunities and have so many regrets!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5280 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi, I feel like life is passing me by,im 22 sitting at home when everyone else is out having a good time, enjoying their lives, i feel like i sabotage myself by turing down invitations and making impulsive stupid decisions.I didnt go out tonight because i felt i looked ugly and ... (117 words)

How can I get past the touching phase onto something more?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5244 days ago

31 May 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - Im a gay guy that hangs out with mostly straight guys. Im in a situation that im having feelings with one of my straight guy friends. He has a girlfriend but whenever we hang out he likes to watch porn. He knows i like him and allows me to give him body massages everytime we ... (291 words)

How can I get over my erection phobia?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5435 days ago

31 May 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - This is gonna be long..sry ! i need help tho.. Ok so today me and my girlfriend were alone in the house..we started taking of our clothes etc..started foreplay and stuff butshe had her panties on and i was trying to think a way to go inside her without her seeing me put th... (358 words)

I'm terrified of make-up shops, after security strangled me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5444 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Im seventeen, and when i was 13 i did a pretty stupid thing and its hanuted me for the rest of my life. It was they day before my mums birthday, and i was off school because it had been snowing. I went into the city with 3 other girls (my best mates) we were shopping and... (560 words)

I need change...any recommendations?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - okay so summers coming and im on to high school and i want to change. hears how i am now: im VERY shy, skinny and bony, unconfident, selfconscious, NOT very popular, and i fall for guys too easily. i know that the only wayt o fix all of that is by making myself what i want to ... (189 words)

Are we responsible for her even though she chose to move out?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age - My 16 year old daughter has decided she cannot live with our rules. As much as it is killing me to let her move out, I think for her it might be the only way to learn that our household rules were not that bad. She has always been very strong willed. What I am wondering is, are ... (86 words)

A question about female ejaculation...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - I'm trying to learn how to cum a lot. I'm aroused by my boyfriend, but he wants me to cum so he can actually see it flowing from me. Even though I would love to learn how to squirt, but that's out of the question right now. Please someone help.... (50 words)

How can I move on from them?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5442 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - Well...my ex broke up with me a day after we did stuff, and went really far. It's been 2 weeks and I was crying about him because I still love him, and my best friend was like it's okay, he's a jerk , he's not worth it and everything. Then I find out that night they snogged 5 ... (77 words)

He turns to his friends for all of the fun times...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - What does it mean when after a year+ relationship that your boyfriend wants to spend more time with his friends? He never does anything with me anymore other than chores and wants to go out with his friends to do fun things and go drinking and play sports, and go to the park... (178 words)

I'm 14 and haven't gotten my period yet...

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5023 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I am fourteen and still yet to have my period. I'd like to hear from you the age you first got your period...or a friend. Even if it was young or still yet to have gotten it... All help appreciated!... (41 words)

Should I just try to stay friends for now?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5444 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been dating this guy and he seems unsure of what he wants. He lives in another town so the distance makes it hard to see each other. I know he is going through a hard time because his daughter was just born a few months ago. He and his ex wife just seperated about a ... (160 words)

How do I let him know that it's ok to be open with me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5444 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend always seems afraid to tell me things about his past. He was married before and has two kids. He also has had felony charges for drugs. Last time we hung out I caught him smoking, but he has quit now. At the time he was down to one cigerette a day. I know he... (159 words)

I'm scared of getting hurt again. What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5425 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear Cupid, I recently got out of a very bad and extremely hurtful "friends with benefits" relationship that lasted around 7 months. It ended badly and I suffered a lot of emotional abuse and got my heart broken, by an absolutely horrible person. So anyway, two weeks ago I ... (160 words)

My hormones are controlling me and it's horrible. Help!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5443 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I know hormones are very normal for my age but I can't cope with them. I always get upset when I am on my period; I sometimes feel aggressive. I'm one of those people that don't start fights and probably wouldn't fight back, but recently I have been in a few. They hit me first ... (175 words)

How do I know if a guy really likes me for who I am?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - It seems like all the guys I date just use me. Now I have a hard time trusting guys and always think they are going to use me. How can I trust guys again and How do I know if a guy really likes me for who I am? ... (49 words)

Is it normal for a husband and wife to only have sex once every 3 months?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5443 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - I am a 42 year old woman who recenly got married (it will be a year in june) Is it normal for a husband and wife to only have sex once every 3 months? He looks at porn almost everyday..some of it that I found is a little on the weird side like looking at transgender...he says ... (83 words)

Should I ask out my doctor?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4065 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Should I ask out my doctor? I have a terrible crush on my orthopedist. Been seeing him for 6 months and just had my last appointment with him. He is supposed to call me next week with some follow up information... so I'm wondering if I should make a move of some kind? He has ... (106 words)

Disowned by family, homeless and with a child.... Help!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5423 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi me explaining my situation might take a while but i need help.so please dont get bored.im 21yr old muslim and i am also at university.my family are very respected in the community but iv brought shame to them by getting pregnant without being married.my boyfriend got carriex ... (184 words)

Virginity questions

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

31 May 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Im 16 and for some reason i cant stop thinking about sex i really want to have sex but im worried that im gonna lose my virginity when i am drunk, and should i retract my foreskin before erection or leave it unretracted?... (43 words)

What are guys opinions on girls with short hair?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5444 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, my last few exes have all loved my short hair (i sometimes have a chelsea cut, then let it grow out into a sort of pixie cut) it suits me and makes me look a lot more mature than what long hair does, i prefer it on me. My last real boyfriend was the one who hinted he loved... (195 words)

Is it wrong for me to feel angry because my best friends are going on holiday with out me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

31 May 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - How should i feel? I have 2 clear best friends in my life, and one of them is moving off to a new school in the autumn so this will be out last summer together. The one who is leaving, i have taken on holiday with me before, and we have gone on many family holidays before ... (104 words)

Should I leave my husband after his affair? Or stay in eternal pain?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5434 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I need advice, should I leave my husband or stay with him and live in eternal pain after his affair, which happened last summer? I will never forget what he did to me and our daughter. I found a text from his tutor at work saying night babe i love you. So obviously he had told ... (344 words)

If I fail my next exam mom says I have to finish with my boyfriend!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I dont know what to do. At school I have alwaiis been good at maths and now am failing it as i failed my first exam. I have another one coming up in a weeks time and my mum said that if I do not pass it I have to break up with my boyfriend cause she thinks he is a distraction... (104 words)

Mixed reactions!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5444 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - hiya, please help me. Well, It was my birthday party on friday night,,. and it was a joint party with my friend.. So.. I have fancied this boy for nearly 2 years now... and lately friends have said he acts differently around me. But he is a ladies man. So at this party he pi... (376 words)

I'm 15 and don't know why I crave the attachments

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - My most recent ex boyfriend and I, started dating in November, we broke up the first week of Feb, but we had an on and off relationship into the middle of April. Since we OFFICIALLY called it quits, I have totally felt like I have moved on, but now all of a sudden,(in the p... (239 words)

Why do some people get over a family death quickly and others take years?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

- Hoping people will have insight here and thank all who answer. My friend and I are about the same age. I am a little older. I lost my dad when I was in my twenties. It was horrible, awful but I had to carry on. I grieved but had to get on with life, mortgage payments, car ... (337 words)

Still in love with my ex! Could he still love me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5239 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I am still in love with my ex-boyfriend. He was my first high school boyfriend, my first homecoming date, and my first "love." We dated from October 13, 2008 to January 18 or 19, 2009. 3 months and 5/6 days. He was the first one to say, "I love you." He was the first one ... (462 words)

Am I just too energetic for him?

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31 May 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Hey everyone, I've been seeing a guy for about a month now and things were going great. I'd stayed over a couple of times, he was really affectionate and caring and we got on really well. Last night, I stayed over again and today all we did was watch motorsports all ... (160 words)

It went wrong and I don't know how to fix it

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5443 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear all, I do not know how to act on this situation, i did something that is extremely wrong for my love, 12 days ago he found out that it was me who did it and he has not talked to me since then, he blocks my calls and doesn't reply my msgs, i tried to explain but it seems li... (90 words)

Wife, lover or solitude?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5442 days ago

31 May 2009 (M)

age 51-59 - married. long time. beautiful home, animals, no kids. love her, really really do, just never developed much sexual chemistry, when that was something really important for both of us before we got married. felt lonely, sad. years later - last year - cheated. thought it was a ... (259 words)

Crush? Or something more?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5226 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok - I like this guy but I can't decide whether its a crush or something more than that. I have known him for about three years now. I know I was immediately attracted to him - but now I have got to know him better and we are fairly friendly and and still have feelings fo... (205 words)

Trusting my boyfriend

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5444 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - hi im 17 and ive been dating my boyfriend for 8months now and the past 8 months have been amazing hes sooo nice to me and everything but i cant trust him hes sooo over protecting when it comes to me i cant text any of my guy friends on my phone cause he checks it but when i ask ... (120 words)

She slept with my guy years ago and now wants to be my friend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Okay, here goes..I have been with my boyfriend for almost 9 years. Three years ago we broke up for about 3 weeks..we were fighting a lot! He moved in with a friend and during this break up he slept with another girl, a girl we knew mutually (she is well known in our small town ... (202 words)

I'm confused about his actions

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31 May 2009 (F) age 30-35 - guy at uni: he always talks to me till silly aclock in the morning like 5am despite having work the next day. never mentions hes girl friend to me. is forever picking me up , rugby tackling me, bear hugging me, tickling poking me when we are out together. has invited me ... (144 words)

Do I pay for his band or does he?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - my bf and i have been discussing the kind of ring that i want for engagement and the kind of bands we want. Do i pay for his band or does he? He hasn't brought this up but i'm sure it would come up eventally. ... (45 words)

Chosing between 2 guys. How do you do it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

31 May 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I dated a guys for 2 years he wasn't able to commit to me (wasn't ready to move in with me or get married). We broke up because I couldn't handle that anymore. After the break up I ran into an old friend from highschool and we started talking. He was living in another state ... (145 words)

Very emotional after I had the contraceptive jab, how to deal with it?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5444 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) age 30-35 - girls help with hormones had my contraceptive jab and finding it hard to deal with the emotion/sensitivity part. anything , remedies, hot baths to make me feel better? any suggestions?... (33 words)