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Archived questions from: September, 2019 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Its been 5 days since our fight on the phone and he hasn't reached out to me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1661 days ago

30 September 2019 (F) age 30-35 - I need help here please. I met a guy and we was speaking on the phone every day and things was going fine. I only been talking to him for 2 weeks because that's how long it's been since we been talking. I really like him. He said he like talking to me and staying up talking ... (263 words)

My boyfriend follows a LOT of women on Instagram and it bothers me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1661 days ago

30 September 2019 (F) age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I met through an online dating app. We chatted a bit and then he asked for my Instagram handle. I thought that was weird and gave him my number instead. We had a bit more text conversation getting to know one another, and then he asked me out right away. ... (211 words)

My life is a disappointment and is nothing like how I wish it was

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1660 days ago

30 September 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone. This is more of a life question than relationship question and I know this is not the place to ask but it’s been on my mind ALOT and I don’t know what I’m doing anymore. Here goes...when are we deemed too old to get married? To have kids? To have a mortgage? ... (390 words)

He started talking to other women while I was giving him the silent treatment to make him realize some things!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1606 days ago

30 September 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - How can a husband dare to find a woman online joining different dating sites and talking to them women. And even send money to the women. When I found out this one early morning It breaks my heart into tiny pieces.Cos I never thought and I never ever had a second thought of him ... (196 words)

How do I set boundaries with family and long-term friends?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1662 days ago

30 September 2019 (F) age 36-40 - Hi guys, For years I haven’t been really satisfied with the relationships I’ve had with some people. I had very low self-esteem and have learned certain behaviors as a child that led me to letting some people treat me with less respect than I deserve. I started seeing a... (915 words)

My ex has my stuff. How long do I wait to contact him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1656 days ago

30 September 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear cupid.. my ex and were together for 2 years. He broke up with me and then slowly crept back into my life then I cought him perusing a relationship with another woman whiles telling me sweet nothings. Well when I found out I cut him loose I changed my number and blocked ... (127 words)

Does he love me and want to express it this way, or is he just trying to get what he wants?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1663 days ago

29 September 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - I told my long term boyfriend that I was getting my IUD taken out. I said to him that he would need to start wearing condoms. He said “no I don’t pull”. We have one child together already that was unplanned. He has not proposed but has no problem if I get pregnant again. I plan ... (137 words)

Is this married man hinting for me to sleep with him?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1663 days ago

29 September 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - Is it flirty for a married men to remove his ring while he is speaking to a woman? And to twist and toy with his ring, removing it from his finger? Once he even switched it to a finger on the opposite hand...all while talking to me. How would I know if this behavior was int... (62 words)

How do I tell my girlfriend, "sorry, my life has been a lie, I'm gay and a cross dresser"?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1661 days ago

29 September 2019 (M)

age 41-50 - I'm gay and I don't know how to tell my partner or even how to live as a gay man. I've been attracted to other men for as long as I can remember, but I've only dated women, or had relationships with women. At first I told myself I must be bisexual because I was still able t... (528 words)

Does he like me more than he is letting on?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1663 days ago

28 September 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - I was hooking up with this guy for 5 months literally every weekend. Met his family, his closest friends, stayed over every weekend, etc. I fell pretty hard and told him I wanted more and thought a relationship was worth exploring. His response was that he wasn't looking for ... (318 words)

Girlfriend hangs out with male friend and and don’t tell me

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1656 days ago

28 September 2019 (M)

age 26-29 - My girlfriend soon to be finance chills with my best friend but i didn’t know about it . We broke up for like 2 days then she goes drunk and she tells me her sister went with her but i can’t ask her sister about it because her sister will lie for her . And i find out by using ... (256 words)

I cheated on my boyfriend and even though things are going well I am wracked with guilt

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1660 days ago

28 September 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been with my boyfriend for 4.5 years. At the start everything was great, he was a tad jealous and moved quick quick which I said I wasn’t as comfortable with so everything was smooth and going well. As time went on I wanted to see each other more, it would be once ... (335 words)

I'm so relieved he dumped me, but I do feel dirty and gross.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1656 days ago

28 September 2019 (F)

age 18-21 - I'm 14 years old and was just dumped by my first boyfriend. I am not sad, I am relieved! Literally when we hung up, I said, "thank God that's finally over!" Having a boyfriend was not what I thought it would be.i thought I'd have a guaranteed date to dances, football games, ... (219 words)

Insecurity & lack of trust in new relationship due to texting

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1664 days ago

27 September 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - I feel insecure about my new relationship. Is it all in my head or do I follow my gut? My boyfriend and I met online a few months ago. We met before in college, and when I told him about this, he remembered as well and we bonded over it and thought it was quite amusing. M... (890 words)

Help me find peace living with my nagging mom

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1661 days ago

27 September 2019 (F) age 26-29 - My mom brings out the worst in me. She complains about Everything from doing her own laundry, cleaning her own house and overworking herself even when she is not in good condition, making her condition worse. I was recently left by my fiance who is also the father of my child. ... (426 words)

My girlfriend isnt bother by people invading her personal space.

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 1656 days ago

27 September 2019 (M)

age 36-40 - My girlfriend seems to not be bothered by people getting too close up in her personal space . When she looking for things or working she doesn't seem phase by people squeezing through her or their body brushing up against hers without even flinching or arching her body to ... (130 words)

How do men feel about establishing exclusivity before sex?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1661 days ago

26 September 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - How do men feel about establishing exclusivity before sex? Ideally, I prefer to only have sex with men I'm committed with, but I know that realistically both partners should know if they are sexually compatible before committing. Is it reasonable to want exclusivity before ... (80 words)

Should I go on a date with him?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1665 days ago

26 September 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - I met a guy on Facebook a week a go. He messaged me first saying hi and I responded and we chatted for like an hour and told him I had to sleep to wake up early the next morning. He ask me for my number and I have it to him.the next day he texted me saying good morning ... (241 words)

My best friend is having my boyfriend’s baby and I can’t deal with it!

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 1664 days ago

26 September 2019 (F)

age 26-29 - My best friend is having my boyfriend’s baby and I can’t deal with it. 7 months ago they slept together behind my back. He ended up making her pregnant as well. I’ve forgiven them both and am trying to move on and rebuild relationships with them but it’s proving a lot ha... (1196 words)

I want your opinions on how I handled this situation?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1666 days ago

26 September 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello members of DC, I'm here to seek your opinion on the following. A bit of history - My ex husband and I have been separated for 9 years. Financially, my ex and I split our children's tuition and living expenses in half and we keep in contact to discuss things related t... (719 words)

At the start of our relationship, he was talking to his ex and other girls!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1665 days ago

26 September 2019 (F)

age 26-29 - My husband and I have been married for almost a year now, but I'm only just finding out that, during the start of our relationship, he was still talking to his ex and possbily other girls. I was smitten with him. He was deployed (he's in the army) and I fell in love with him... (230 words)

Does my manager still have feelings for me? Or is it all a game?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1666 days ago

26 September 2019 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey guys, So something has been bugging me lately. Also I don't want abuse from anyone - just advice. Last year I was struggling to cope with a personal issue and found comfort from my manager who is married. He used to text me asking if I was okay and needed a chat at wo... (525 words)

I was brought into this company to improve it, but am meeting a wall of resistance and sabotage!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 1666 days ago

25 September 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - I recently took over a company (4 months ago) as the new managing director. It’s not a big company as it only has 10 people. I was told that the company was not in good shape but that it should be easy to turn round and had 4-5 meetings with my would be bosses (who sit outside ... (502 words)

He didn't try to stop me when I told him I lost interest. Can I salvage this?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1654 days ago

25 September 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - Please don't make fun of me on this post because I'm not looking for smart comments like "Well you lost interest, so why do you care? There is this guy i was having a casual sexual relationship with for 3 years. All was great, except he wouldn't treat me very well. He would s... (373 words)

I’m married but crushing and it’s messing with my head!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 1663 days ago

25 September 2019 (M)

age 41-50 - Just going to lay it out..I'm sure their are some that are going to say I'm a piece of crap for asking or thinking this, but it's just the shitty place I'm at in my head right now. I'm married, late 30's and have a few kids. Love my family , wife, kinda happy with thing... (416 words)

Our relationship has broken down after I had our baby!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1668 days ago

24 September 2019 (F)

age 26-29 - So I gave birth to my little boy three months ago. The pregnancy wasn’t planned as me and my partner always said that we didn’t want children, nothing against them it’s just that I don’t really think I’m a maternal person and I’ve always been a carer for most of my life having ... (252 words)

How would you handle your partner making such a comment?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1669 days ago

24 September 2019 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been married for about ten years. I married later in life, being a career person and single parent before that. At first I was wildly in love with my husband, and ignored several red flags, thinking that with someone to love him that they would change. Now I am at my ... (323 words)

I don’t want to leave my husband but I need help forgetting the other man!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1667 days ago

21 September 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - I need some real help. Here is a bit of background that might help whoever reads this give me better advice. I have been married 5 years but together for 10. We met in high school, went to college together, and are both have the same job right now. Overall everything was g... (816 words)

My best friend wants to get me interested in his fetish thing?!?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1669 days ago

21 September 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - My male best friend who have known for the last 6 years He is into fetish wear and sex toys and games. He has confided in me and told me some info about his other life what interests him in this etc. He wants to get me now into it wearing outfits and stuff and going to place... (123 words)

Just because I blocked him doesn’t mean I’m still stuck on him, right?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1671 days ago

21 September 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - So, my ex and I broke up two years ago! We’re together about 2 years. It was a very toxic relationships. He never left me alone! Him and I would break up he would show up at my job. Or he would put things on my car when I was at home. He is in the military he is in... (270 words)

I’m not sure if he is right for me with his way of life!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1671 days ago

21 September 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - I have a 'friend' who i havent seen in over 1 year we wernt really close but did have 'fun' times a couple of year back. He has got back in contact and wants to see if there could be a chance of a relationship. The thing is ive changed with what i want in life ( kids, marriage, ... (337 words)

Does he really expect that I will do the first move to contact him? Shall I just move on?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1671 days ago

21 September 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi. Here I am again, hope u all can enlighten me. So, here I already broke up with my online bf 2 days ago and its really killing me. I am desperate to contact him again and ask him to be with me. He's my online bf that is so controlling, not so affectionate, but I know he has ... (166 words)

I feel so dumb! How do I handle this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1672 days ago

20 September 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear Cupid, My ex boyfriend and i have been dating again giving it another go. He says when he goes out that he doesnt acknowledge any other women and that he still acts like hes in realationship with me. Well for weeks hes been acting strange on the phone, short texts, sho... (184 words)

Does she feel sorry for me or does she actually like me?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1671 days ago

19 September 2019 (M)

age 36-40 - I found out on facebook that my friend because friends with a female co worker who I’m into. I like her, I’m not sure if she’s only talking to me because she feels sorry for me or she actually likes me. I want to be friends with her on facebook. but I don’t know if she will ... (100 words)

Should I stay or leave my mentally ill boyfriend?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1673 days ago

18 September 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been with my boyfriend for 6.5 years. I'm 29 and my boyfriend is 31. We met online and moved in with each other very quickly in a new town to both of us due to me getting a new job. There were some things I didnt know about my boyfriend until a few months into the ... (947 words)

His disastrous ex keeps popping up and I can’t figure out why I’m being called jealous and insecure!?!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1673 days ago

18 September 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - the guy im crazy in love with has finally filed for his divorce and custody. his 12 year relationship, from an outsiders perspective i suppose, was pure insane. she cheated on him constantly with men and women, which is appearant just by looking at her facebook where shes pos... (1370 words)

Should I quietly delete him?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1673 days ago

17 September 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - I think i know what people will advise but its better that i hear it from other people and their views. I joined a dating site 4 month ago met a man had a few dates then he decided he wanted to be single he had split from his girlfriend 5 months earlier. i couldnt be bothered ... (232 words)

I started a lie that my dad was dead before I met my boyfriend. I don't know how to tell him the truth

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1676 days ago

16 September 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - I grew up with an abusive alcoholic father who would beat me, my mum and occasionally my younger brothers. I grew up with low self esteem and anxiety relating to this situation. At 14 my mum left him, he threatened to kill himself if we chose to stay with my mum (which we did) ... (848 words)

Five years in, where is this going?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1676 days ago

16 September 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - Wow! So I haven't come here for advice in a very long time, I hope you're all well! Hmm I don't really know where to begin. I am nearly twenty seven and my partner is early forties, we have been together just over five years. We are currently renting a place together. We've ... (319 words)

How do I broach the subject of not wanting to get married?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1675 days ago

16 September 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - Ill try to keep this short and simple. The title probably sounds terrible. So, Im a 30F, my boyfriend is 7 years my senior. We both have children from previous relationships and we are both divorced. Ive known him nearly 2 years, but we only started dating in April. He more ... (371 words)

Not sure what the next step is

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1674 days ago

15 September 2019 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi Cupids! I've used this site for years and absolutely love everyone that shares some wisdom- this time I really stumped! I'm 25 and I'm at a point in my life where there's so many cross roads I'm starting to feel like I have no sense of belonging and no security for th... (439 words)

I feel like I pushed my parents out of their home!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1676 days ago

15 September 2019 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi guys, i’m not sure where to begin but here goes, I’m an only child and very very close to my mum and dad, they are like my best friends and we’ve always had a real close bond. I’ve been with my girlfriend for 2 years now, she has 2 children, and about a year ago we spoke ... (225 words)

Does my wanting to perform oral sex on a man make me Gay/Bi?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1584 days ago

15 September 2019 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello, I have posted here before about a similar issue but it never got resolved and the sexual idenity confusion cycle continued. My question is does my persistent fantasy of wanting to give another man oral sex make me gay/bi? In the past I have found women attracti... (294 words)

I really like the co-worker who I slept with but she's non committal and there's this other girl who's interested in me. What do I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1677 days ago

14 September 2019 (M)

age 36-40 - I’ll get right to it, I have a friend that’s also a coworker and we’ve been friends for years, and honestly I’ve always wanted more but haven’t expressed myself. Until recently, I expressed my feelings and we talked and it was just a line that we couldn’t cross. Fast forward a ... (456 words)

What should I tell the girl I'm seeing about my separation/ soon-to-be divorce?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1661 days ago

14 September 2019 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi Seeking advice. I have been separated from my ex wife for 12 m months now and have just applied for a divorce with the court hearing to be taken place in November. I have met someone, whom I really like and see it going somewhere. We have been on three dates... (156 words)

Should I leave my marriage because of my husband's attitude towards his baby mama?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1676 days ago

14 September 2019 (F) age 30-35 - This may not be the site to ask this question as some people do not believe in God. I believe there is a God and there is of course the devil. My Christianity has not been up to par and there were times I dealt with psychic before even a pundit. My deceitful husband got marr... (526 words)

My boyfriend seemed to celebrate me having a miscarriage

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 1678 days ago

13 September 2019 (F)

age 22-25 - My boyfriend secretly punched the air and celebrated after I had a miscarriage. Should I dump him for being so heartless? We’ve been together for 8 months and are both 20. Things were going fine and I genuinely thought he was the kindest, sweetest guy I’d ever met until t... (566 words)

The Guy I'm Dating Apparently Abused His Ex Girlfriend. Should I Dump Him?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 1678 days ago

12 September 2019 (F)

age 22-25 - So I met this guy on Tinder and I've been for a drink with him. It went pretty well and he's really attractive TBH (tall, dark, handsome, muscular, works in IT which I also do.) There are a few things about him that bug me a bit like it takes ages for him to reply to message... (507 words)

Why hasn't my crush ever sent me a friend request on facebook?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1677 days ago

12 September 2019 (M)

age 30-35 - I met this girl about a year ago through class. Both of us were in relationships at the time but there was attraction, I would even say she had a major crush on me but she was very shy. I was going to break up with my partner and leave my number with her with which she can de... (129 words)

We've been married a month and only had sex once

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1677 days ago

12 September 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - I just got married a month ago and since then my wife and I had sex only once. On our honey moon we didnt have sex either. Today she came to me and said she wants to invest in her friends business and that she wants to help her friend by sending money and products to her friend ... (131 words)