Why is he so hot and cold? Excited and happy one day, ignoring me the next?
Q. After 8 months, I finally returned to the place I used to work. The last time I was there, I became good friends with a man, let's call him Mike. Mike pretty much taught me everything I knew when I first started the job. He is about 10 years older ...
A. 20 August 2014: Why are you reposting this exact same question again? Do you think that this time you'll get the answers you want rather than the sound advice you got the last time?... (read in full...)
Why did he only call me "cute," and how do I stay safe on my next date if we're alone at his place?
Q. [Mod note: two questions from the same asker and concerning the same date have been combined] Went on a lovely, but brief date with a 23 yr old guy at the mall. It was my first date ever, and according to me (and my lack of experience), it went mos...
A. 18 August 2014: You had an hour's date and now you plan on going over to his house? Are you nuts? You need more dates IN PUBLIC PLACES, many more dates before you should be alone with the guy especially alone at his house. Make him prove how much he respects you. ... (read in full...)
I'm really attracted to him but he hasn't made a move
Q. I asked him to go on an errand with me but he said "we'll see". Should I ask him again or just let it go? we have great chemistry at work and I can tell from his body language that he's somewhat interested in me (being conservative in ...
A. 16 August 2014: So where, in your opinion, does your boyfriend/husband fit into this situation? Do you have children? Do you like your job?
... (read in full...)
Why would he google my exes?
Q. I just recently found out that three months into my relationship my boyfriend went online and Googled two of my ex's. My boyfriend is not a controlling person and he is self confident - not needy our insecure. I'm not really sure what to thi...
A. 15 August 2014: This is what happens when you just question to just the uncles. Now if you had included the females you would have had a ton of responses.... (read in full...)
I have my first date! Is there a list of no-no's to follow to ensure that its a great date?
Q. I'm about to have a date for the first time in my life. Is there a general list of things that I should refrain from doing in order to ensure that my date has the best possible time? The date itself is going to be a fairly simple affair. Basicall...
A. 15 August 2014: You two should go on the circuit together...what a pair! And OP Have a good time.... (read in full...)
I want to leave my boyfriend because just now it's feeling like our relationship is more like a comfy convenient situation instead of a loving happy one. I want to open up to my friend and not feel guilty about hanging about with him. Advice?
Q. OK,so I'm needing some advice, not criticism buy good solid advice.Recently I have been up and down emotional, I have a lot to deal with just now but I was fine up until about six weeks ago. Six weeks ago my life changed and it's been tough, I have ...
A. 15 August 2014: If you are sure you no longer want to be with your boyfriend then just go ahead and break up with him. If he's been really critical lately maybe he is feeling the same as you.... (read in full...)
Could I have found the right guy?
Q. So I have been dating this guy for 3 months and things seem to be going very good. Except that his ex is still in his life he says they are just friends. We hardly fight and he says that when he he's with me that he doesn't think about anything...
A. 15 August 2014: Don't have sex with until his ex is totally out of the picture. Time will tell if he's really the one. He sounds pretty conflicted to me, he told you he still loves his ex??? Definitely take this slowly.... (read in full...)
Can my child be taken away from me because I had an affair with my uncle by marriage?
Q. so i will start by saying where i have messed up, i am in a commonlaw relationship with a man that is also the father to my 5 year old, we have been together for 7years and i have never truly been happy with him, i stayed for so long just to make ...
A. 12 August 2014: Why do you need a divorce if you are in a common law relationship? This post doesn't really ring true.... (read in full...)
Do men like biting and scratching during sex?
Q. Is it enjoyable for a guy to have his back grabbed/ lightly scratched during sex? Lip bitten? I just don't want to hurt or turn men off. When I get excited, I can't help it! Opinions? ...
A. 11 August 2014: Make sure you ask before you bite or scratch, some reactions may be quite severe. Consider it another chapter of the safe sex manual.... (read in full...)
My brother and his wife only call me when they need something!
Q. My brother is 31 years old and I am 29 years old. My brother is married. The problem is that the only time my brother and sister-in-law calls me is when they want something or when they want to complain about something. They call to ask for money...
A. 11 August 2014: I'm in total agreement with the owl, the only reason people are taken advantage of is because they allow it to happen. Learning to say no just might be the most liberating thing you will ever do for yourself. Next time they call give it a try and ... (read in full...)
I kick in my sleep! How do I stop this so I don't kick my soon to be husband?
Q. I'm getting married next year. I have been sleeping on my bed alone for the past 23 years of my life. I only slept on the same bed as my fiance once and he said that I kicked him off the bed. I feel that I always kick in my sleep because each time I ...
A. 7 August 2014: Definitely invest in a king size bed and do warning him again next time. Sooner or later he will learn to fend for himself. My husband talks in his sleep all the time, really mundane stuff too. Occasionally, even after all these years I sucker into ... (read in full...)
Do you think the age difference of 3 years is a problem for two teenagers?
Q. So, I'm 17 years old, and I'm a lesbian. I'm talking to this girl, we'll call her "M," and she's about to be 14. We started talking through Facebook, and I didn't know her age by looking at her profile. She told me, and I had no problems with it. ...
A. 7 August 2014: She is under the legal age. You could get into a lot of trouble. How do her parents feel about you two dating? How do your parents feel about it? Do either even KNOW about you two dating? Are you both certain you are both lesbians? At her age I ... (read in full...)
Do men's voices crack or sound shaky over the phone when they speak to women they might be attracted to?
Q. When men I find attractive speak to me on the phone for business purposes, I sense that they are nervous and they laugh nervously or start losing their voice or get a shaky voice. What's the reason for this? It gets a little awkward and I am not ...
A. 7 August 2014: That's is odd, how many times has this happened to you?... (read in full...)
What does this quote mean for some of you??
Q. what does this quote mean for some of you?? I am a little confused on the exact meaning.. "I'm not who I was yesterday, and maybe you're still the same person in my memories. I can't tell the difference between what was and what is. I jus...
A. 7 August 2014: OP, I'll have to get back to you on this...So anybody got any blotter acid?... (read in full...)
Have I been over-thinking the issues surrounding bringing a dog into our new home?
Q. I really need some advice. This is something I'm getting all OCD about! For my entire life, I have always wanted a dog. My partner and I have a brand new home, we're yet to have children and it just seems like a good time to bring that speci...
A. 4 August 2014: First off you need to take a deep breath and relax. Now I've pretty much had a least one dog around all my life. I've had pure breeds and mixes from puppyhood and I've adopted older dogs as well. I know the sorrow of putting them to sleep in their ... (read in full...)
I don't want to scare her sexually so I am dirty and sad :(
Q. Dear Cupid, I met my current gf about a year and a half ago... from the get go I realised she was the one. She's funny, she's smart, she's kind, she's gentle... she understands me in ways that a lot of other people don't. I feel loved and secure...
A. 3 August 2014: Sexual compatibility is crucial in a healthy relationship. You need to be upfront about what you need and expect, talk to her and let her decide if she is willing or not to participate. You guys may even be able to find a middle ground that is ... (read in full...)
Feel sick to my stomach. Love my wife, and know it's wrong to text another woman. Need guidance on how to deal with all this, please?
Q. I am a married man and I have been texting another woman for about 1 year, she does not know I am married. I love my wife very much and I can't be without her, I don't know why I began texting the other woman but I have become good friends with her ...
A. 1 August 2014: You know exactly what you need to do and you've done it once before. Show some character this time and stick to the no contact.... (read in full...)
Question on BDSM: What things could I do or use sexually to drive my B/f wild?
Q. Hi cupids, this is a question in hope of gathering all of the BDSM style members. My partner is into BDSM and loves anything considered dirty/experimental. In the past we have used hot candle wax, being tied up etc but what I'm here to ask is, how ...
A. 31 July 2014: Read the "Fifty Shades of Grey" Series.... (read in full...)
They never acted on their mutual crush, so why would my friend's boss send her a goodbye card with kisses?
Q. There was a mutual crush between my friend and her married boss. They sort of developed a strong liking for each other, But for him, it was more of an infatuation. He did not know that he was flirting with her at the beginning( his wife also...
A. 30 July 2014: He gave her a going away gift and card because he IS going to miss her but then he also is most likely aware that he just missed making the biggest mistake of his life as well. So all is well that ends well, nice of you to be so interested in your ... (read in full...)
Help please... does my coworker like me?
Q. I met this guy at work and started working quite closely with him about a month ago. He is a warm, friendly person and helps me out all the time at work. One time because I did something wrong at work, he had to wait for me to fix it for three...
A. 30 July 2014: Workplace romances are a pain in the butt. If and when they turn sour you have to work with and see each other every day and it's miserable. Just be friendly and enjoy his friendship and do not try to take it any further.... (read in full...)
What interesting things can I do with a guy at a boring mall?
Q. I'm going on a date with a 23 year old I met online tomorrow afternoon. Now, at 19, this is my first date. I havn't even told him that because I find it so embarrassing. We've planned on meeting at a mall. I'd like some ideas on fun, flirty, ...
A. 30 July 2014: For Heaven's sake just be careful, make sure friends and family know where you are going to be, have a "safe word" you can use if you need to call them for help. Preferably you will have a friend with you or planted at the mall to watch over you. ... (read in full...)
Do I do anything about my feelings for my brother in law?
Q. I like my sisters husbands brother alot. Should I do anything? ...
A. 30 July 2014: More information please. Is he single, how old, etc...Plus he isn't YOUR brother-in-law, he is your sister's.... (read in full...)
Have I missed the bus?
Q. Have I missed the bus? Hi I'm a fifty year old from rural England who is at the end of a relationship that has not worked for the last few years, the thing is I feel as though I won't find a woman for love at my point in life, I'm getting quite low ...
A. 29 July 2014: You just need to get out there and be visible and involved. I know that may difficult if you are in a very rural setting but you need to do what you can to meet new people. There are many people your age who find themselves starting their love lives ... (read in full...)
I've got back with my ex and its made my friend angry!
Q. Just a basic question. Is it fair for friends to get angry at you over decisions you make for yourself and your life? For example, recently, I got back together with an ex who I have been on again/off again with for quite some time. And as soo...
A. 24 July 2014: So if you and your friend don't see eye to eye on friendship rules and regulations then just go your separate ways. Problem solved.... (read in full...)
When a guy holds your waist after hugging good bye
Q. Wondering if this is a subtle hint that a guy may have feelings for me. We were with family and friends, and upon leaving this guy hugged me, I hugged him but very lightly...as I pulled away he moved his hand down to my one waist side and held his ...
A. 23 July 2014: Are one or both of you are already married? How old is this man?... (read in full...)
I've got back with my ex and its made my friend angry!
Q. Just a basic question. Is it fair for friends to get angry at you over decisions you make for yourself and your life? For example, recently, I got back together with an ex who I have been on again/off again with for quite some time. And as soo...
A. 23 July 2014: How have you behaved in the past when you've broken up with the ex? Have you sobbed and screamed and carried on and on? Maybe she is fed up with all your drama and just wanted you to know she wasn't willing to go through it all since she has been ... (read in full...)
Is there any way to find out if she has feelings for me without making our friendship awkward?
Q. I've known this girl Katie since I was 12 years old (she was 8). She was the younger sister to my best friend. As we got older the two of us became extremely close. We became best friend , hanging out every day after school, having sleep,overs with ...
A. 19 July 2014: I slide back and forth from friend to lover with my husband and have been doing it for 40 years this next April. You are one lucky fellow.
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Is there any way to find out if she has feelings for me without making our friendship awkward?
Q. I've known this girl Katie since I was 12 years old (she was 8). She was the younger sister to my best friend. As we got older the two of us became extremely close. We became best friend , hanging out every day after school, having sleep,overs with ...
A. 18 July 2014: Sounds like the movie "When Harry Met Sally" if you haven't seen it yet then do. Pay close attention to the ending.... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 17 July 2014: The OP likes dating you guys apparently.... (read in full...)
Was I right to throw the creep out?
Q. When your kids hate the guy you are dating....watch out. No telling what they will do. I had been seeing a fellow for about 6 months or so, and my two girls could not stand him. He was trying to play the concerned parent part. He never lived in...
A. 16 July 2014: Yeah, why are you asking this question 22 years later? I don't get it.... (read in full...)
Why do "nice" guys complain that girls never want them when what the problem REALLY is, is that they keep going for the same type of girl?
Q. Why do "nice" guys complain that girls never want them when what the problem REALLY is, is that they keep going for the same type of girl? They're doing the same thing over and over, and expecting a different outcome. What I mean by the same type of ...
A. 16 July 2014: I really like this post I'm sure it will be referred to many many times in the future as we get so many of these "guys/girls won't give me a chance" postings.... (read in full...)
Does "narcissistic" ex miss me?
Q. My ex and I dated very briefly last Aug-Oct (2013). I met him through my job (he was a customer there). We had a very intense short term relationship. We never really fought, the sex was amazing, we did fun things together. And behind closed doors ...
A. 15 July 2014: Good lord how on earth are we supposed to give a solid answer to this question? Just assume he's totally missing you and you have had the good fortune to leave him in the dust.... (read in full...)
My wife of 20 years invites a man to stay the night at our home? Is this weird?
Q. Hi, Is it strange that my wife of 20 years invites another man to stay the night at our house? She apparently arranged this visit several weeks back, but didn't let me know about the plans, ask for my opinion, nor tell me until a few days bef...
A. 15 July 2014: Has your wife done flaky things like this in the past? Does she normally invite people over to spend the night without consulting you first or does she fly by the seat of her pants most of the time?... (read in full...)
I think she might try to initmidate me when we meet!
Q. I have recently moved to live with my long distance boyfriend. In a few days time I'll be meeting one of his female friends. I get the feeling that this girl has become used to being adored by all her male friends and may not appreciate me taking ...
A. 15 July 2014: Hey Honeypie, did you notice I used Caps in my response? I thought you would appreciate it.... (read in full...)
I think she might try to initmidate me when we meet!
Q. I have recently moved to live with my long distance boyfriend. In a few days time I'll be meeting one of his female friends. I get the feeling that this girl has become used to being adored by all her male friends and may not appreciate me taking ...
A. 15 July 2014: Relax and just be yourself. Don't worry about stuff until you need to worry about stuff. You may end up becoming great friends. He's her friend and he's your BOYFRIEND, there is a reason why you both are in your classifications. So relax and meet ... (read in full...)
My wife of 20 years invites a man to stay the night at our home? Is this weird?
Q. Hi, Is it strange that my wife of 20 years invites another man to stay the night at our house? She apparently arranged this visit several weeks back, but didn't let me know about the plans, ask for my opinion, nor tell me until a few days bef...
A. 15 July 2014: What did your wife say when you asked her why she did this behind your back? Do you even talk to your wife? This is very weird indeed. Did she give you an explanation for the invitation? Is the guy too poor to pay for a motel? When is he supposed to ... (read in full...)
We had an amazing weekend connection but now I haven't heard from him. Do I call?
Q. I met this really good looking guy at a friends BBQ last weekend. We hit it off instantly and chatted for hours. We ended the night by kissing. We live in different states and he spoke of me visiting him. We even talked about sex and how he wasn't ...
A. 15 July 2014: Just saw your response. I guess he was into having a few kisses and hugs but no sex just because he still wants to remain "faithful" to his girlfriend. Guy mentality. Sorry you are disappointed but when he told you about his relationship status you ... (read in full...)
We had an amazing weekend connection but now I haven't heard from him. Do I call?
Q. I met this really good looking guy at a friends BBQ last weekend. We hit it off instantly and chatted for hours. We ended the night by kissing. We live in different states and he spoke of me visiting him. We even talked about sex and how he wasn't ...
A. 15 July 2014: Let it go. Chigirl has the right bead on this I think. He told you straight up that he's still involved with the mother of his child. This definitely sounds like a weekend fling to me as well.... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 13 July 2014: Escort meshcort ...say it like it is. You are looking for a hooker to get laid not escorting someone to a formal dinner party.... (read in full...)
I need help understanding why he won't see me!
Q. So I've got this friend of like 7 years, but recently he refuses to see me. We used to be the best of friends and then we got together. It wasnt easy as we were very shy and alot of people made it hard. It ended, by him, I was hurt but we stay...
A. 9 July 2014: "He obviously doesn't want to see you so back off". Humm exactly.... (read in full...)
Lost my best friend because of her "cousin"
Q. Ok so my bestfriend of almost 3 years ... Just all of a sudden cut me off. Her pretend cousin is like the BOSS of her . She runs her and tells her what to do so I think she played a HUGE part in it ! School starts in august an I just don't want to ...
A. 7 July 2014: You can be friendly without being friends with them. Do that and at the same time focus on making new friends. I had a totally blast my senior year and made lots of friends and lots of memories.... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 4 March 2014: Maybe you shouldn't be waiting around for an email, just walking around campus you'll see flyers and announcements for activities. Get pro-active if you really want to change your life. It's up to each person to make significant changes ithey ... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 4 March 2014: Maybe you shouldn't be waiting around for an email, just walking around campus you'll see flyers and announcements for activities. Get pro-active if you really want to change your life. It's up to each person to make significant changes ithey ... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 4 March 2014: Maybe you shouldn't be waiting around for an email, just walking around campus you'll see flyers and announcements for activities. Get pro-active if you really want to change your life. It's up to each person to make significant changes ithey ... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 4 March 2014: Maybe you shouldn't be waiting around for an email, just walking around campus you'll see flyers and announcements for activities. Get pro-active if you really want to change your life. It's up to each person to make significant changes ithey ... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 2 March 2014: I'm not buying your " budget cuts so no clubs on campus " excuse. I work at a mid-sized university with budget cuts and there are ALWAYS plenty of activities going on. You are wasting everyone's time. You have a rebuttal for everyone's advice and ... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 22 February 2014: I think you actually don't like women or find them attractive at all. Maybe you have been barking up the wrong tree this whole time?... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 21 February 2014: Go ahead and get laid we'll be here waiting for your follow up.... (read in full...)
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