Is it normal to feel scared about a relationship like this?
Q. I feel really weird about my relationship with my boyfriend. I feel so much love towards him that it almost hurts! I think about him and want to shed tears of joy... But I try to repress it for some reason. It's like I'm scared to fully love him o...
A. 14 October 2014: You need to try to relax and enjoy your lovely romance. Try to focus on all the good and try to block all the negative "what if's". There is no need ever to go borrowing trouble. Take a couple deep breaths when your mind starts wandering into that ... (read in full...)
Is my cousin interested in me?
Q. My cousin visited from Norway and we were not good friends but on this visit she became friends with my and me also and I noticed her looking at me more than once and gave me smile when I eyes met and one night we were out sat behind me in car and ...
A. 13 October 2014: "she became friends with my and me" are you single? ... (read in full...)
I want to be in a relationship but I don't want to settle for just anyone
Q. I graduated from university this past spring, and have been single for about 3 years. I have decided not to settle for just anyone, however I now really would like to be in a relationship. But I do not know where to start. I am working but the ...
A. 13 October 2014: You can't expect Mr. Wonderful to just show up on your doorstep, you have to be out there and visible. Join clubs, volunteer groups, anything you are remotely interested in. Go to parties even if you really don't feel like it. You need to be ... (read in full...)
If we did get together I'd be paranoid that he'd cheat on me the way he cheated with me
Q. Over the last few months I've been speaking to someone I used to work with and we've been out a few times. He has a girlfriend so we've always made a point of saying we are only friends. Then when we were out with a group of mutual friends we ended ...
A. 13 October 2014: Has he showed any inclination of leaving his girlfriend for you? ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel scared about a relationship like this?
Q. I feel really weird about my relationship with my boyfriend. I feel so much love towards him that it almost hurts! I think about him and want to shed tears of joy... But I try to repress it for some reason. It's like I'm scared to fully love him o...
A. 10 October 2014: How long have you two been in this relationship?... (read in full...)
I can't get over my girlfriend not being a virgin!
Q. Hi, I have a serious problem that I don't know how to adress. Me and my girlfriend have known each other since we were in our teens. It's been about 8 years now that we've been friends. We've always gotten along great, been best friends and fel...
A. 10 October 2014: I also believe that virginity is totally overrated, it really is, at least I thought, a guy thing. Apparently I was wrong. You however are yet another sufferer of RJ and from what I have learned on this site, overcoming RJ can be near to impossible. ... (read in full...)
Is my request for her not to speak to him unreasonable?
Q. Ok. a few months back i posted a thread where my girlfriend had went to stay with her male best friend for a while and he'd declared his love for her etc etc she never told me about him telling her he loved her until a few weeks after it happene...
A. 10 October 2014: If you are footing her bills, hell even if you are not, she is indeed playing you like a fiddle. Yep, too much history between them and too much history with lying about it. You got to know when to hold 'em and know when to fold 'em, right?... (read in full...)
Her ex is traveling 300 miles to take her to the theatre!
Q. my wife died about six months ago and i have been seeing another widow of four years who really likes me and we have had sex which is not the problem, about nine months after she was widowed she took up with a chap who lives about 150 miles away and ...
A. 9 October 2014: Your relationship looks just a tad one-sided to me. If you enjoy the once a week relationship then proceed, however if you are hoping for more I don't think you are going to find it with her.... (read in full...)
Does it make me a bad wife to exclude my husband from my social life and travelings?
Q. Doesn't make a bad wife that I don't want to travel with my husband anymore, and more...I don't really want to involve Him in my socialiZing anymore also. We are married for 23 years. I married very very young right after high school, had a ch...
A. 6 October 2014: Yeah, if you're happy and he's happy then why would that make you a bad wife? Now if he resents your going off without him then that's another bag of cats.... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to a man that rides on the bus with me. Could he like me too?
Q. A little under 2 months ago I started working at a company for my placement year for uni. I take the bus everyday to work and for a while I noticed that a guy that also works in the same building but not same company looked at me quite a few times. ...
A. 6 October 2014: Ask him if he would like to get some coffee after work some day soon.... (read in full...)
My friend's dad is cheating and his children don't know what to do!
Q. My best friend is having a real life crisis! Any help would be really appreciated. Her brother was helping their dad link his emails to his phone. When doing this he found that their dad has a profile on a sex website. (Where people message ea...
A. 6 October 2014: Totally agree with Honeypie, absolutely stay out of this business. There may come a day they will resent you for just knowing about it (even though your best friend told you herself). Do not give any advice or input into the situation. Just let them ... (read in full...)
He's a childhood friend. Yet due to his Gf's request he is now snubbing me. How do I handle this?
Q. I know this might seem trivial, but this has been bugging me. A childhood friend of mine has just randomly started ignoring me. We were such good friends in high school, and although we fancied each other for years nothing actually happened beca...
A. 6 October 2014: How did you find out that she didn't want him speaking to you?... (read in full...)
My mom is going to visit me but I cant stand the way she constantly criticizes me. How do I handle her?
Q. My mother and father are visiting my brother and his family today and tomm its my turn, they will be staying with me. I live alone. They live interstate and I see them maybe twice a year, I enjoy catching up with them, and we mostly get along, a...
A. 4 October 2014: Tell her if she doesn't like your hair, the two of you can jump into her car and drive to the hairdresser's and your mom can pay for a color job. Same with your clothes, a gym membership, etc... Some people will learn to keep their mouths shut if ... (read in full...)
Should I change my style of dress for my boyfriend who says I'm too old to wear certain things ???
Q. I just recently found out that I am the oldest women my boyfriend has ever dated minus his ex wife who was 5 years older than me. I have been dating my boyfriend 6 months and he has already said he loves me and I don't doubt that he dose , but I ...
A. 4 October 2014: I'm 62 and wear flip flops and sundresses every chance I can. I also live in North Carolina so it's an extended season for both thank goodness. But one must go to work so then one must dress professionally, I have some high end flip flops I wear on ... (read in full...)
My family doesn't want to meet my boyfriend. How do I tell him?
Q. I would like your advice on how to handle the following situation I have. I met a guy online in a chatroom. After being an online couple for a month, he came to visit me. He initially wanted to stay at my place as I was living by myself at the time...
A. 4 October 2014: Be honest, tell him your mom and your aunt have decided that he isn't good enough for you and so don't want to meet him. Then tell him that it doesn't matter one bit as far as you are concerned because you plan on just ignoring their disapproval ... (read in full...)
My family doesn't want to meet my boyfriend. How do I tell him?
Q. I would like your advice on how to handle the following situation I have. I met a guy online in a chatroom. After being an online couple for a month, he came to visit me. He initially wanted to stay at my place as I was living by myself at the time...
A. 4 October 2014: You are a big girl, it's your life, it's your house. Do whatever you think is right for you. Don't ever let yourself get into the situation where you must live your life to the dictates of someone else. ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend and don't want to leave, but how can I make him see what a monster he is when he's drunk?
Q. My fiance has a binge drinking problem. When we are on a night out, its as if he just can't get enough and he doesn't know when to stop. He blows all our money on it too! And he gets violent.Last night, he was invited with me to a function and I was ...
A. 4 October 2014: Maybe he will realize what a monster he is when he stands over your grave.... (read in full...)
Is he remotely into me? Is this a crush? What kind of guy does he seem to be to you?
Q. Hello, I have only been in my school for a month and there is a boy who has caught my attention. But I have no idea of how to know if he likes me and my friends aren't the greatest help, either way here is what has happen. 1. I'll catch him starin...
A. 3 October 2014: My best advice to you would be to quit smoking, I wish I hadn't started as a teenager.... (read in full...)
3 wishes: want him to treat me better, be more passionate, and erase his tattoo. Too much to ask for??
Q. Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years. He's wonderful man. We are both 25 and he's going to proposed me and give me that hint ( asking me about the engage ring that I like and accidentally told me that he's going to marry me next year). ...
A. 2 October 2014: OP, Google tattoo removal, there will always be an obvious mark where his tattoo was, can you accept this without getting faint? Why would you even ask him to wear a meaningless scar? I don't think you really care about the guy, you have some other ... (read in full...)
3 wishes: want him to treat me better, be more passionate, and erase his tattoo. Too much to ask for??
Q. Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years. He's wonderful man. We are both 25 and he's going to proposed me and give me that hint ( asking me about the engage ring that I like and accidentally told me that he's going to marry me next year). ...
A. 29 September 2014: 1. You can't MAKE him do anything, hence you need a new boyfriend.
2. His body - his business, hence you need a new boyfriend.
3. see number 1... (read in full...)
Why was my sister friend so rude to me and why are women so mean to each other?
Q. A few months ago my younger sister ( who lives in another state) got married, smallish amount of people around 60, at the end of the night there were buses that took us from the venue to the car park in the town where we all had parked car...
A. 26 September 2014: Some people have no class. I highly doubt your paths will cross again but if they do just be polite. Let her see what classy means.... (read in full...)
The girl I'm dating lost weight and now I don't find her as attractive!
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, I am writing to ask your advice on a difficult situation. I have recently begun a new relationship and we have been going out for about 2 months. When I first started seeing this girl, she was quite chubby and curvaceous, ...
A. 26 September 2014: sorry about the hiccup... (read in full...)
The girl I'm dating lost weight and now I don't find her as attractive!
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, I am writing to ask your advice on a difficult situation. I have recently begun a new relationship and we have been going out for about 2 months. When I first started seeing this girl, she was quite chubby and curvaceous, ...
A. 26 September 2014: Well Charlie, unless you think it's an option to force feed her jelly doughnuts then yes breaking up with her is your only option.... (read in full...)
The girl I'm dating lost weight and now I don't find her as attractive!
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, I am writing to ask your advice on a difficult situation. I have recently begun a new relationship and we have been going out for about 2 months. When I first started seeing this girl, she was quite chubby and curvaceous, ...
A. 26 September 2014: Well Charlie, unless you think it's an option to force feed her jelly doughnuts then yes breaking up with her is your only option.... (read in full...)
Surely after 5 years he should be able to give me more than 'maybe one day'?
Q. I'm looking for some advice please. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years now, but the last few months have been a bit rocky in my opinion. I say in my opinion, because he disagrees and thinks I'm overreacting about the fact that he still can't ...
A. 23 September 2014: Buy your house, tell him you are planning to date other guys and send him a copy of Beyoncé's "Put a Ring on It"...
If you liked it, then you should have put a ring on it
... (read in full...)
Do I need to tell guys that I don't shave down there?
Q. Same person who just wrote in about starting over sexually I just thought this was different enough for a new entry--I don't like to shave or really even trim my bush, I do very minimal maintenance.Once you're at that crossroads, where you're ...
A. 19 September 2014: Yeah but Cindy the poor creatures have to shave their faces and even their necks too so maybe expecting armpits is just simply too much shaving...... (read in full...)
Why would an apparently happily married person claim that they are in a "complicated" relationship?
Q. When somebody puts on facebook that they are in a complicated relationship, but they still live together, go to family gatherings together. What does it really mean? Obviously they are still going out as couple but is it that they are having p...
A. 17 September 2014: I'm with Honeypie, why does this matter to you? Why do you ask this question?... (read in full...)
Why does he get angry when I question him about a girl I know has a thing for him?
Q. Hi everyone! I would like some opinions on this! Me and my boyfriend have been together for five years, we did take a 7 week break over the Christmas period due to personal issues. In that 7 week period I was introduced to a friend of a friend,...
A. 16 September 2014: If you keep harping on this he may just figure that if he gets accused of something that never happened, he'll make it happen. Listen to the Aunts and Uncles, time to back off chickie.... (read in full...)
Should height be a factor in not picking someone?
Q. Should height be a factor in not picking someone? There's a guy I went out with recently, cute, sweet, funny, and we got along fine it's just that he's so short. I mean I'm short too but he's like 2 inches taller than me and I'm 5'1 I love ...
A. 16 September 2014: If you do decide not to date him anymore, just do him the favor of not telling him it's because of his height, that is if he even asks.... (read in full...)
Should my uncle have a talk with my boyfriend?
Q. Dear agony aunts, I am posting my question and asking for your advice. I've been with this guy for almost a year now and although we had ups and downs I never felt like posting for advice. This time my instinct tells me things are different. ...
A. 8 September 2014: What on earth can your uncle possibly do about your relationship? Make the guy call you? Tell him to play nice and not to shout at you? Tell him he's going to track him down and break his knees? It's your business after all you are a big girl. Sorry ... (read in full...)
She wrote me this letter about her marriage. Should I forget about her and find someone who is single?
Q. This may be long enough but i'll try to keep it short and simple. I liked her from school. Never talked to her i was a shyguy. After college we meet on facebook. We started talking. Even she had feelings for me since school. The point now is that ...
A. 4 September 2014: Tell her to look you up after she gets her divorce. And yes, you need to start looking for someone who is single and has the honor and integrity not to cheat on her partner.... (read in full...)
I had an affair with a younger man and I wanted to hurt his girlfriend so I told her about what we did. I thought this would break them but they're back together. What do I do now?
Q. I've been very stupid. 6 weeks ago I started to talk to a man 11 years younger than myself, he was at work when I met him and I asked for his number for a job that I needed doing in my home. I text him and it started off innocently, I ne...
A. 2 September 2014: "Hell hath no fury...". What say you show these two youngsters how a real adult handles this kind of situation and leave both of them totally alone, show a little class will ya?... (read in full...)
Is this starting to become a love triangle?
Q. Is this starting to become a love triangle? A couple of years ago, I met a married couple who became my friends (the woman more than the man). I too am married. With time, I found my friend's husband increasingly attractive, and noticed he is so...
A. 29 August 2014: Do you have children?... (read in full...)
Can you really teach yourself to sing?
Q. How an earth is this possible.... My sister is 20 and I've known since we were little she can't sing, she usually signs around the house and it's not bad but she's not great either. Well she's been at uni for the past 8 months and has been teachin...
A. 29 August 2014: Can you hit his high notes in "Blue Bayou"?... (read in full...)
Ten best ways for a woman to be given her walking papers.
Q. Yeah I know : ultimately love is a mystery, not an exact science. There's always an element of sheer luck, of serendipity, of magic in it. Some times you do everything right, by the book, you are the perfect gf / wife / lover .. and you still get ...
A. 29 August 2014: Get on it FA. Good job Cindy, we will use for reference material.... (read in full...)
Nothing happened while he was married but his sister considers me a "home-wrecker"
Q. I've been friends with Jeff for almost four years. . He was married for two years and one night while working he confused that they weren't getting along. I wouldn't so we were close friends, but friendly with each other if we ran into each other ...
A. 29 August 2014: Yep, you definitely had an affair with a married man, call it what you may. Watching movies while laying in your BED? Come on...sheesh. Of course his family considers you to be a home wrecker. You may have not actually baked the cake, my dear, but ... (read in full...)
Am I falling for my boss when I swore blind I never would?
Q. Hi, Ive recently got a new job, my boss fancies me. I knew him before I got the job but not very well. Never have I looked at him like that never thought I would he's not what I look for In a man. Obviously since ive been in the job ive gotten t...
A. 28 August 2014: How old is your boss? Is he married?... (read in full...)
Is there any way to find out whose baby I am carrying?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been trying for a baby its been 3 years now i had an affair with another guy we did not use a condom and 2days apart i slept with my boyfriend and only to find out that i conceived on the day that i slept wit my boyfriend is ...
A. 26 August 2014: Either guy could be the father. You can do a DNA test after the baby is born. It is possible to do a DNA test while you are pregnant but it is very very expensive. Good luck telling your boyfriend. You may want to have yourself tested for STD's as ... (read in full...)
How do I meet people in a new city?
Q. In June I was transferred to a new city, 8 hours from home, for work. I love my job and I love the city, but I don't have any friends or a boyfriend here and I'm lonely. I'm a shy introvert, so it's always been hard for me to make friends. I've tr...
A. 22 August 2014: Take a class in a subject you are interested in, do you have a community college or university near you?... (read in full...)
I found performance-enhancing pills -- should I ask him about them?
Q. I'm in a new relationship with my boyfriend for 4 months, it's going very nicely. Infact we confessed our true feelings a few days ago and told each other we love each other, we're both so happy :) My concern came about today when I came across so...
A. 21 August 2014: April and June only have 30 days.... (read in full...)
I found performance-enhancing pills -- should I ask him about them?
Q. I'm in a new relationship with my boyfriend for 4 months, it's going very nicely. Infact we confessed our true feelings a few days ago and told each other we love each other, we're both so happy :) My concern came about today when I came across so...
A. 21 August 2014: You don't do anything. It's his business not yours. I suggest you sit back and enjoy your budding romance, you've only been together for 4 months, 2 of which were short ones. Relax.... (read in full...)
Why is he so hot and cold? Excited and happy one day, ignoring me the next?
Q. After 8 months, I finally returned to the place I used to work. The last time I was there, I became good friends with a man, let's call him Mike. Mike pretty much taught me everything I knew when I first started the job. He is about 10 years older ...
A. 20 August 2014: Why are you reposting this exact same question again? Do you think that this time you'll get the answers you want rather than the sound advice you got the last time?... (read in full...)
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