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30-35,
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writes:I'll keep this brief.I started working for this company about 9 months ago. A friend of mine is the executive there so he helped me out. The boss of my department showed me around the first day, normally it's another person that performs the tour, because he is the boss of the whole department. Soon enough I started seeing him workout on the work campus and I sort of realized that he was pretty attractive. I ran into him one day and talked to him for a little bit while walking and then I got nervous so I just walked away (without rly saying bye lol). Every time he came my way he would always make sure to say hi and would always compliment my outfit and the clothes I wore. Eventually he found out through my other bosses that I'm an artist and he seemed to like that I was pretty well known on the internet. My small team of people that I work with moved over to the other side of the room, and I ended up being moved to right outside his office, literally right next to his door. He would say hi sometimes but normally would keep pretty quiet. Somehow in a group conversation he brought up that I was an artist, I mentioned to him that I had a new music vid online and he told me to send him a link. Ever since then he seemed like he always wanted to talk to me... he even came up to my desk one day and started fondling my key chain (cuz it's pretty) He doesn't seem to be that friendly to the other coworkers (maybe selectively). He is married and has a family too I might add. One night I went to this music show for his friend that invited me and I said hi to him and his wife. He ended up hugging me which was rather funny, because I wasn't expecting it and it was for a long time. After that, I would talk to him but he started being very short with me. To this day he's sort of nice to me but not like he used to. for a while afterward I tried to go out of my way to say hi, but he's not as friendly as he used to be so I stopped caring/trying to be cool with him.He knows too that I have a boyfriend. ( now fiancee) I'm trying to figure out what went wrong. Do you think he backed off because his wife didn't like how friendly he was with me? or do you think I may have done something wrong (which I highly doubt) or do you think he just got extremely busy?I would love to hear a few opinions :)
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (30 January 2014):
 Maybe he noticed the beginnings of a crush on your part and decided he'd best back off before it could turn into a full blown crush. Focus on your job and not your boss and you'll be just fine. Don't dwell on this a moment longer.
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reader, love2much +, writes (27 January 2014):
love2much is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm in my early 20's he's in his mid 30's.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (27 January 2014):
I'm curious, what's the age difference between you and your boss?
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (27 January 2014):
 Yes, I think he realized that being "buddy-buddy" with a new young girl at the office can be construed as INAPPROPRIATE so he is trying to NOT be your friend but be your boss.
I don't think it's his WIFE telling him to behave, I think it's his moral compass. You are there to work (so is he) not to flirt or play footsie.
Just be polite and professional.
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