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writes:So my girlfriend and i are taking a break from our relationship because she want to figure out what she wants to do in life and i agreed to it. I understand because im in that position too. Then later on we confirmed if it was ok to just talk to the opposite sex which i said was fine by me since i didnt mind even when we were dating. Then she asked if i would be jealous and i said im fine with it. Then i asked if the talking she meant was the talking to hook up and she said that the break was going to be more of an open break where we can talk to whom ever. Im confused on what she wants and i dont really understand the concept of an "open break". Its my first serious relationship and im wondering what is going on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2014): Walk away don't look back, do no contact, it will hurt alot, don't chase her, don't let her think she got one over you, when she gets dumped by the guy who will treat her bad, thats your payback, it will take a long time, the pain will slowly leave, might take a few years, but its her lost, you know what kind of man you are.What goes around , comes around, but the only thing about that we never get to see them cry, when some one does the same thing to them.An girls it does go both ways, one day you will look back at how you felt about her an wonder why you put yourself through all that hurt, she isn't worth it, but you got to go through the pain, for your feelings were true.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2014): She met another guy she likes. Once she knows if he is really interested; then she'll get back to you... and break up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2014): I agree with the other Aunts. She intends to try out some other penises. You only have one play here. Tell her to spell it out, is it okay to date and sleep with other people during this break or not. If she says yes then you need to say it's over. Then you need to face the reality that she will be doing this and start moving on. Keep in mind that you have to get up and try to find someone else. She is a girl, all she has to do is not turn down everyone who makes a pass at her. It takes MUCH LESS proactive effort for her to end up in another person's bed than it does for you. You won't keep her out of another bed by refraining from moving on yourself and hoping she understands and does the same. She WILL be screwing someone else. If she wasn't intending to do it then she would not have caused herself trouble with you by specifically asking for that kind of break this time.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (16 January 2014):
 She just wants to check the grass color on the other side of the fence before she commits and breaks up with you for real. Are you willing to ride around in her back pocket?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (16 January 2014):
 she wants to be free to hook up with who she pleases.
"a break" is usually the beginning of the end.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (16 January 2014):
 I'd say it means she wants to hook up.
If an open relationship is a relationship where people are together yet are allowed to experience other sexual partners, it figures that an open break would be a break where people are free to have sex with other partners without this having to be considered cheating and having to prevent a possible reunion.
You'd better ask her, what would be " open " during this break , and make sure if she does not just mean " my legs ".
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (16 January 2014):
 I have no idea either, my guess is she wants to try out a few guys while you and her are on "break". If you are not sure what she means ASK her to EXPLAIN what she means, and if it means sleeping with others.. I would just tell her that the break is over and you are done.
A break in a relationship rarely works and if either of you starts to "see" other people while ON a break the likelihood of you two getting back together is even lower because what happens on a "break" WILL affect a relationship. Her "hooking up" while on break means she wants to "try new" people, not think about the relationship or figure out of it's something she wants to go back to.
Seems to me that a relationship really has nothing to do with WHAT you want to do in life. YOU can figure that out WHILE being with someone.
Why make it so complicated? If you two aren't sure you want to be together BREAK up instead of creating these "games". "Open break"?
Good luck with that.
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