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Archived questions from: 20 May, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

In the last few months everything has went downhill...

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5466 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - I believe I need some advice. I know the answer to the question but still need something from some one. I will make this simple. I have been with my fiancee for a year, we were friends for over 3 years. Close friends, always hung out together. ...

No one is ever truly happy in a marriage... is this true?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5464 days ago

20 May 2009 (M) - Hello everyone. As my screen name suggests I feel like im ready to make a choice but I need some real strong non-hateful advice. I have never used a service like this so I hope it will make me see things more clearly. I really need help. anyway here ...

Engaged but not in love with him!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

20 May 2009 (M) - I am a 23 year old female living with my 44 year old boy friend for the past 3 years and 5 months. we broke up once for about 7 months just after he engaged to me because i fell out of love with him. Yes i lost all attraction for him. anyway for the ...

Heartbroken, confused and need advice

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

20 May 2009 (M) - Okay, I need some help here and I don't know what to do. For the first time in my life, at 41 I have truly fallen in love. I wasn't looking and a mutual friend thought we would like each other. So 6 months ago I met this wonderful women. We ...

I need some help with my situation please

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5463 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - Hi I hope someone can help x This boy likes me , I like him back , but he has a gf , and I feel like I'm waiting untill they break up what should I do to help the situation ? Also when they do break up , another boy likes me but it's like he has a...

My wife or the love of my life? How do I choose?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 5056 days ago

20 May 2009 (M) - hello everyone. as my screen name suggests I feel like im ready to make a choice but I need some real strong non- hateful advice. I have never used a service like this so I hope it will make me see things more clearly. I really need help. anyway ...

He depends on me but I want to leave!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5465 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - My problem is...... I have been with my sons father for 13 years on and off (we are not married). mostly on of course. We have a child together. About 8 years ago he got sick. He lost all function of his kidneys well he hasnt worked since then. ...

Why do I keep hurting this man when I love him so much?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5465 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - I am 34 separated from my husband because in the relationship Was mentally and verbally abused and also betrayed by my ex and Now I am in a relationship were I know the guy loves me but I keep Hurting him by calling other men and having them all ...

He isn't being very nice, and certainly not romantic or sweet

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5466 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - I have been dating this guy for 3 years now, and i really care about him. But we have hit a rough patch these past few months. He isn't being very nice, and certainly not sweet and romantic. I talked to him and he said he would try to be nicer. But ...

Why do I become so stubborn and difficult to deal with when it comes to my boyfriend!?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5466 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - Ok, I am engaged to a wonderful man. We did the long distance thing for a year and a half, and I we have been living with eachother for over 3 months. Its wonderful, but in certain instances, I get upset with him and make it so hard for him to talk ...

Paranoid that my boyfriend will cheat on me!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5441 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - Can anyone please help me with this fear i have that my boyfriend will cheat on me when he goes out with his mates. He doesnt handle drink well and doesnt know when to stop and ends up acting a right knob and not remembering what he gets up to. He ...

I don't know what to do as he has a girlfriend!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5416 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - I've been friends with this guy for about two months, I've liked him a lot since I met him but I refused to say anything as he has a girlfriend. We've been flirting a lot and the other day he told me that he also likes me, I also told him that I ...

I was pissed off because he went off with friends..am I being too sensitive?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - Hi everyone, this is my 3rd time asking a question on this website...thanks for all the great advice out there! Hope I can get sound advice this time round as well... :) Well I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 36 (the question I am asking does not relate ...

Sex with the ex used to be amazing and the new boyfriend doesn't quite match up!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5455 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - Hello ladies out there, I have a strange situation and want to see if anyone else has faced this. About six years ago, I ended two year relationship with a guy. We were not compatible, no abuse, cheating, etc. The issue is that the guy had a ...

I have genital herpes, how can I get my fiance to get me pregnant?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - ok well this is very embarrasing. but here it goes.... I have been with my finace' going on two yrs now n I want a child. We have set a date and every thing to get married but that's not the problem. the problem is that I have genital herpes and he ...

He has a child by a psycho when it should have been me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - ok well I have been with my fiance' for the past 2yrs now. During them two yrs let's jus say a lot has happened. He cheated on me 3times...twice with one woman n once with another. The woman he cheated on me twice with got pregnant n he lied about ...

I'm a stressed out single mum but I don't want to lose my boyfriend!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - Where to start? Okay i dated this guy for about 8 months(I broke up wih him twice because i was scared to start a relationship but we put that in the past on Jan. 1st) things were really serious we were getting ready to move in to our apartment we...

My affair ended and my husband forgave me....but the guy I cheated with wont leave me alone!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - Ok, this is my story I have been working for a great company for 2 years now have a wonderful marriage well lets say we have our ups and downs but who doesnt. I started training this man that came to work in my department, well I started flirting he ...

Sorted things out?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5466 days ago

20 May 2009 (M) - me and my long distance are on a break and its been 3 weeks now, and she whats to see me and work this thing out, and i am going to in 2 weeks time, also she told me that i am the one for her and now one else also the other night she was crying ...

17 years and counting? Help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - I am a 30 year old mom of two children ages 13 and 8. I started my relationship with their dad at the age of 14. Over the past 17 years a lot has unfolded.. Really bad times... Really good times. I try to sum it up to we were kids and had a lot of ...

Falling for someone I can never be with! Please help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - Well this is the short and long story.... I'm in a casual relationship right now, although i really do like him, actually love him alot. The thing is, i'm starting to have really very strong feelings for the company i work for, workshop manager! I ...

I want him to realize he's treating me wrong

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - help, I got involved with my ex boyfriend after 21yrs, we dated wen i was 16 then split wen i was 20 and he found and contacted me after 21 yrs, after we met he said he was still in love wit me and i felt the same way, but this guy has a lot of ...

We find ourselves in each other's arms again and again but is it love?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5466 days ago

20 May 2009 (M) - there is this lady we are "truly in love" - I don't know. We have dated for the past three years but every time we have to part for a while, she would call and say it's over with us... then later, after a few months of silence and everything, we ...

Deployed for 10 months to Iraq and now my wife claims she is no longer in love with me!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

20 May 2009 (M) - Hi everyone, I need a little help with my marrige. Im in Iraq right now and i have been deployed for 10 month. I call my wife last sunday and she tells me she loves me but is no longer in love with me. This came out of the blue and i have no idea ...

What is love then?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - love my bf more than any body even more than myself whatever i did till date i did it for him and never looked at any other guy or felt like looking at nude men even...my bf is the only person in my mind..since paet 8years and i have no inclinatons ...

Thinking twice about our relationship

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - Ive been dating this guy for about a month. But some things have happened that are making me think twice about our relationship. I am 20 years old and he is 24. He keeps asking me if im a virgin, how far ive gone etc. I've told him im not that ...

We were texting non-stop but as soon as I suggested we meet up he lost interest!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - Ok hope you can help! A friend of mine was out with her boyfriend and she met one of his friends. They got chatting and he asked her did she have any single friends so she thought of me and told him about me. He seemed pretty interested anyway we ...

I think my mates girlfriend fancies me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

20 May 2009 (M) - i know this sounds big headed, but i think my mates girl fancy's me.. she's always texting me and telling me i'm cute, she always wants me around and wen im not in she beggs for me to come in, WE recently had our school prom and she was on my ar...

He's always reminding me about past relationships

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5466 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - i used to love so many guys before, i cried i almost have killed my self,but luckily, i have God in my heart. well i have this present relationship by now and if you have read my other questions you might know my life...im having a relationship with ...

B/f 11 years older than me is abusive and I don't know how to get out of this relationship!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - First off, I'm 15 going on 16 in a couple of days; my boyfriend is ELEVEN years older than me. We've been together for 7 months and I do really like him, but every single month I've tried to end it because he's made me feel like sh*t, I have rea...

We are so finished if we get busted!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5467 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - This is how it started. My mom need to work for our tuitions in our school so she need to leave the country. but before she left she organized us her children. well she doesn't want us,her children, to be endangered,so she looked for our guardians ...

He told me initially he wasn't attracted to me..he likes curvier girls

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5463 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, Please help me. I have been seeing a guy for 3 months now that I met at work. We were just friends at first. Then after about 2 months of knowing each other he started giving me signals he wanted more. Our friendship deepened and we ...

I feel like he decieved me and wasted my early youth....should I leave him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - I met this guy seven years ago,and six months into the relationship I asked him when we were going to get married he said soon.The following year in 2004 I asked him again and he said soon.In 2006 we had a break and we got back together in 2007,that ...

Fed up of my boyfriend's friends!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5467 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - I'm fed up of my boyfriends friends... Me and his friends don't get on... I've tried everything to sort it out but because of me and my ex (he's at the same school as my boyfriend) had a huge argument when we broke up all his friends obviously are ...

Mr Perfect

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5466 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - We Met years ago and so happen to have a thing for each other...So we talked..we both knowing were my heart was really at...We've always been more like friends...That's it and that's all.....And then ....True feelings came about??And Yes I believe ...

Planning on marrying my fiancee but my other girlfriend is pregnant

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

20 May 2009 (M) - morning, i'm a young guy of 33years old. i have a problem with my girl freind.the probleme is this.i have a fiancee in my own town,but i came in this small town for work almost 8 month now and i find another girl freind.before we started...

Is it a good idea to stay with her even though she cheats or should I move on?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

20 May 2009 (M) - i have a question,,i have a girl friend who ive known for 11 months and i found out she had been doing any guy she could get her mouth on ..or in her vigina.. this was before me..is it a good idea to stay with her, or let her go.. she is a n...

We really hit it off but then immediately after we met up he left me for another girl!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - I met a man 10 months ago on the internet and fell in love with him. He had everything in common with me and we instantly hit it off. We spoke for something crazy like 12 hours the first time we ever spoke to each other and it carried on that way ...

Soulmate vs the good guy

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5468 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - Two years ago I met a man who absolutely blew me away. He was perfect for me in every way and whenever I saw him, I felt elated, happy beyond words. If there is such a thing as soulmates, he would be mine. Complications arose and I acted ...

I think I am in love with him

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5465 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - i met this guy 6 month ago. when i met him i told him i had a boyfriend that lives in africa. he accepted it and continued to see me. at the begining i hung out with him for fun but now i started to fall for him what do i do please help....

How do we get our daughter to realise her boyfriend's a loser?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - Ok... here's my problem... my daughter is 19, and has been dating this guy for 2 1/2 years. We've always had our reservations about him, but to keep her happy, we've welcomed into our house, treating him like one of the family. He's repeatedly hurt ...

It's very hard for me to not "relive the memory"! But I don't want him if he isnt sincere!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5461 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - my ex and i dated for 2 years in high school and about 2 years on and off at college (we went to different colleges) and decided that it was too hard to have a long distance relationship and broke it off. We fought a lot, but untimately it was the ...

My flatmate's nasty when she drinks

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5468 days ago

20 May 2009 (F) - Hi, Iam currenlty living with one female flatmate. I moved in almost a year ago and we are now like family. she is old enough to be my mother and we relate to each other more like mother and daughter than flatmates. The problem is that when she has ...

I'm having second thoughts about moving in together

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

20 May 2009 (M) - i dated a girl for over two years, and recently we broke up on trust issues due to events in the past. For the first year of the relationship i took it as a free ride and cheated on her twice while away at uni. I admitted both of this two her and we ...

Why does my girlfriend enjoy making me jealous?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5468 days ago

20 May 2009 (M) - Hi, my girlfriend likes making me jealous. She talks about different guys a lot, even her ex-boyfriends and people she used to like. It's getting really annoying, because sometimes she acts as if she still likes them, to see what i would say. I am g...

I feel trapped by my extremely controlling girlfriend, but I think I love her... what should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

20 May 2009 (M) - Alright, so I really need help here. I have been with this girl for almost 2 months now. Basically, I feel soooooo trapped. She seems so controlling, untrusting, etc. I need opinions on what to do. Basically, She wants my myspace passwor...