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writes:Where to start?Okay i dated this guy for about 8 months(I broke up wih him twice because i was scared to start a relationship but we put that in the past on Jan. 1st) things were really serious we were getting ready to move in to our apartment we got together. I also have a little one and a half year old son who calls him daddy and he calls himself daddy. we did have silly fights that didn't really last long. but the last month he finally said things need to change. I was really trying to stop the fighting but when i am a 19 year old single mom (i wasn't going to make this guy pay for everything although he tried to) I am very stressed out then adding my son has psoriasis (a dry skin that is really ichy and it serious on his whole body head to toe.) i have to make sure i use two different creams every other day and loition all day everyday its very stressful. My mom is always trying to tell me what to do and make my decisions so i was upset about that. I am embarrassed about the help i recive from the state like daycare help and food stamps i didn't want him to find out about that and maybe think different of me. and i have to work at least 28hrs and where i work its hard to pick up more hrs. and i had to make double rent this month because my apartment and the new one we were going to get. but i am always short on money. I did explain all this to him after he has had a day or two alone. but he says he has tried too much and brings up the things we said was the past and we were over with! I love him to death i don't want to lose him! what should i do?
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reader, Stars20 +, writes (20 May 2009):
 Well, I KNOW WHAT IT FEELS LIKE TO STRUGGLE BEING A SINGLE MOM and guess what? I DID IT!. Don't let the stressors of a relationship affect your abilities to be a mom. Your child come way ahead than a man who is yours today and gone tomorrow. Your child is yours ALWAYS, and their is no sincere love than that. Keep that in mind. Yes, life is hard especially when you are young and alone with a child. My ex husband abandoned me, completely walked out of my life, leaving me unemployed, with all the bills, and an infant, not even knowing what to do because I was a first time mom going through post partum depression. Yes, I felt my world ended. I cried a lot, I stressed a lot. Worse of all my son would see my pain. Until one night, I couldn't sleep wondering how i would pay the bills, take care of the child on my own, suffering of a broken heart because my ex left me, feeling unloved. I sat in bed with my son, I turned my back to him so he wouldn't see me cry and to my surprise, I felt a small hand on my shoulder. He was able to crawl for the first time, stood up right on his tiny leggs, I looked back and it was him looking at me with the most comforting look in his eyes. Almost expressing "mommy i am here for you", he just stood there with his hand on my shoulder and all I did was grab him and hugg him. I was shocked. It made me realize that he needs me and it's all about me and him against the world eventhough his father left us. He is four years old now and I still get emotional about it. You should see the tears in my eyes now as I write this to you. Good thing is that you have your mom to help you like I do. Don't feel mad if she is telling what to do, it may look like that but I guess it's just a habit of mothers to do that. Use the opportunity to ask your mom to care for you child while you go out there and look for opportunities to suceed. Don't feel embarrassed of getting assistance. There are many social services out there that are worth while. You can get public assistance, enroll into a school, eighther training or college. I recommend a CUNY college because they'll assist you with applying for financial aid. If you qualify at the end of the semester you'll get reembursed at least 1,000 dollars for pell (which is a financial aid program). Apply for public housing. That's how I did it. Now, I have my B.A.S and work within the social services field, I have my two bedroom apartment co op thank God. I always thank God because you have to be greatful for what you have and what you don't have. I went through hell, after my ex left me, I would begg him to come back because i was afraid to make it on my own. Little did I know that it gave him the opportunity to emotionally abuse me like he did. I went through humilliations, a horrible divorce, and the tragic death of my father all at once. Yet, my ex laughed at my misery and proved no mercy for me. He would deny a hugg from me but my son never did. I am still single but better than ever. Now, it's all about me and my son!!! I feel like an independent woman, and so will you. Keep striving, don't give up. If your guy wants to quit, let him go. Pick up your son in your arms and head to a new life. A life of self empowerment, and self sufficiency. Believe me, you can do it! If you need assistance email me and I'll send you resources and how to go about it.
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