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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My dad has been a severe alcoholic most of my life. He was emotionally dead when I was a teen and went through a brief point of sobriety when i was in my early 20''s. for the last couple of years, he's cheated death several times. he has survived cancer, spinal infection, cirrhosis, a stroke..the list goes on. So now he can barely do anything for himself and is miserable, as well as an unpleasant person to be around because he is in so much pain. I feel sorry for him, but I'm also mostly angry that he never took responsibility for his alcoholism and played the victim. When he drinks he's verbally abusive to my mom and is either passed out or belligerent. When sober, he's funny and generous, but I rarely see that side. I don't have much emotional connection with him.Deep down, I wish he would just die so we wouldn't have to deal with him anymore. His quality of life is poor and he's very unhappy.Is it wrong to wish that he'd just pass away?
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (30 December 2009):
 To me it depends why you want him to die. If you want him to die in order to relieve HIS suffering, then your wishes are valid. If you want him to die in order to relieve YOUR suffering, then your wishes are not.
Sweetie, he will eventually die. I urge to to make peace with him or at the very least, peace with yourself before he does.
I really do wish the best for you. I read a lot of hurt in your message. Good luck. If you need someone to talk to, message me. I lost a parent so I do understand.
Jeff
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reader, hameleon89  +, writes (30 December 2009):
 it's a tragic story, and he does have problems.And it's normal that you hate, and dislike him.but i can tell you how bad he was, how bad he treated you or your mom try to forgive him.It's difficult i know,but if you'll forgive him now, and try to prevent certain situations may be next time there won't be such a post as : "my dad died and i didn't forgive him when he lived, and now i feel guilty"
Think about it, good luck
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