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Archived questions from: 8 December, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

My boyfriend's dad hates me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - I think i need some solid advice here... the story is that at the moment i feel really down. i have spoken to my bf about it but he dosent think that im as depressed as i think i am. as it is at the moment money from my part is really tough. ive ...

Her ex boyfriend won't leave us alone and refuses to believe she has moved on!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5253 days ago

8 December 2009 (M) - I have been dating this girl for the past 7 months and we are very happy together. There is a problem though, her exboyfriend will not accept that they are not together any more. She has told him several times to move on but he refuses to do so. He ...

Flaky girlfriend never calls or is always late (but didn't used to be)

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

8 December 2009 (M) - This girl and I were together 4 years, broke up, had new FB/GFs and then got back together (sort of). She often says she'll call me at a certain time, or we'll hang out, but then I don't ever hear from her, or she'll call hours later to cancel our ...

She said she'd dump b/f and came back with an engagement ring!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - My girlfriend fell in love with me and promised to dump her boyfriend, so that she could be free to be with me. After a couple of months at sea(She was in the military) she returned with an engagement ring. I was devistated... She told me that ...

G/f asked me to clean house, I did, and now she's mad!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5256 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - Alright, I was hinted at by my girlfriend to clean the house. So, I did. All of her crap that was just hanging out around the house I heaped on her bed. (I learned a long time ago to never put away another person's things because they NEV...

I can't understand why he must have a girlfriend when he could have me anytime he wanted.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - hello everybody, I have a problem with my ex, we saw each other after our break up and I did that because he said that he loved me, but after one year of beeing with him whenever he wanted me and seeing him with his new girlfriend, I just couldn't ...

Should I try and save what was a great relationship and could now be even stronger?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

8 December 2009 (M) - Ahh where to start.......I have been dating a girl now for almost 4 years we recently broke up, probably about 2 months ago. We had a great relationship and it all came to a fall over a house I wanted to buy. My gf and I had been looking at houses ...

I messed up our friendship by hooking up with her kids' dad!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - i really messed up a friendship over a yr ago and i really miss her. i hooked up w/her kids dad they had been split up for a couple yrs before this happened, and she lives out of state, so it wasn't like i broke them up. we were like sisters and the ...

He keeps reminding me I messed him around in the past. Should I pursue it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5260 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - I have known this guy for 8 years, and we saw each other a few times and still in contact now even though we are in relationships. I previously messed him around alot in the past which he still reminds me of now. I like him alot and for the past...

My boyfriend used to mess around with 14 nearly 15 year old girls when he was 23!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - Okay so heres the thing, ive had a boyfriend for nearly 2 months, that I REALLY care about okay. So I knew he has a reputation of "getting around", but ive recently found out he went as far as messing with 14 nearly 15 year old girls! his HIGHSCHOOL ...

Married but falling for another man, what should I do!?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5255 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - what do i do. im married, 1 child. great marriage, no lies, no infidelity, and no drama. but i think im falling for another man. hes married too. iv been apart working this past year and this man is working with me. were both apart from loved ones. ...

How can I get him to leave me alone!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5259 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - Right. There's this guy who i met last year, and he is OBSESSED with me! I've tried to get him to stop texting me, as im with someone i love very much. He keeps saying he loves me, then when i say i dont feel the same he calls me horrible things. ...

It has taken me two weeks to pluck up the courage to post on here, please help me

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - hello all i am so much in need of advice iv made a right mess of everythin u know when theres so much to explain but dont know where to start. i have been in a relatinship for 13 yrs he was not very nice to me and refused to commit, took all my ...

A maneater has my man in her sights!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - O.k. heres my situation. I am in love with my Fiance'. We have been through really rough times..Who hasn't. Well now lately he has really been stressing accusing me of talking to another Man. I haven't been. But we have this female friend of his ...

He is all lovely dovey in text, but doesn't want anything solid

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - I've been talkin to this guy for a while now and he always says how he likes me and that he wishes we could be togther. So me being tired of just texting and talking asked him where he thought this was going and got all defensive saying were just ...

Does he like me, I wanna know, how can I tell if he likes me so?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5262 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - Does he like me? I mean, he flirts with me, no doubt, I can tell that. The problem is that he broke up with his girlfriend who was cheating on him 2 months ago, and he also flirts with one other girl, my friend. He flirts with us about the same ...

My boyfriend has erectile problems

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5252 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - Some advice or reassurance! pweasee When me and my boyfriend have intercourse he can never come. He often loses his hardon aswell. He tells me it feels good but it obviously doesn't, he's fine during foreplay but sometimes can't get fully hard b...

I was torn between two but I think I chose the wrong one!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5252 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - Big Problem. Okay, my boyfriend and i have been dating for 5 years... known him for 6. We use to have major problems off and on. Loved him to death and really knew i wanted him. We lived far apart for the first 3 years of knowing each other. W...

Has she fallen OUT of love with me???

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

8 December 2009 (M) - A little backstory first. I've been dating this girl for 1 year and 4 months. Before we started dating we worked together and I was her boss. It began innocent enough, neither showing any interest in each other but over time I developed a huge crush ...

What do I do about Lee?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - Hey, I just thought I’d write in because I am in need of some help over a boy. I mean it’s pretty weird because I don’t normally stress about boys much but this time it’s different and I am a bit confused. I’m 16 and in my last year at high school ...

I love my fiancé, but I feel like I'm just getting what's left of him after his past marriages.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - My fiance has been married twice before. He's a great guy and I love him to pieces. But, I feel sometimes that I kinda am getting what ever is left of him and his relationships. Maybe thats not such a bad thing, but in somethings it is because he ...

Although we've made up now my boyfriend is having a party and the girl he cheated with might be there!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5236 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend cheated on me 2 months ago - slept with someone else at a party. Completely unexpected and completely against my morals. More detail in previous q's of mine! But to the point of this one... Rightly, or probably wrongly, i gave ...

I don't know whether to be with him or move on after this happening... help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - A couple of months ago my boyfriend slept with someone else out of the blue... complete surprise and never thought he would ever do anything like that. Have been trying to move on - with him - trying couples counselling. Feel some issues are ...

Was it his ex who called him? What is he hiding?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - I so hate my boyfriend right now. After we got into a fight on sunday evening because of his ex he told me sorry and i forgave him. The next day we both went to work and he didnt call me the whole day like he does on a regualar basis, after work i ...

Does my girlfriend love or hate me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5255 days ago

8 December 2009 (M) - umm .. i am a male aged 24 and i have just recently got my first girlfriend at age 23. my girlfriend lives in a forain country at this time. although i have not physically met her i still love her. i have many problams with anxiety and stress t...

Can anything be done for my boyfriend who doesn't last very long in bed?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - I've been dating my guy for a few months. We've had sex 6 times, and each time he "finishes " after less than a minute. Until me he hadn't had sex for 4 years, and is 36 years old. How long is normal for this to happen after such a long period of ...

Can anyone help me? I feel I am being mentally abused by my wife and I don't know where to turn

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4840 days ago

8 December 2009 (M) - I'm lost........... I am a 37yr old male who has been married for 5-1/2 years been with my wife for 8 years. We have a beautiful 2-1/2 year old daughter who is my life and soul. I am stuck in a spot where the only thing right now in life is what ...

Should I be angry because I was not invited to my friends party?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - hello today a friend of mine was having a party and she invited everyone accept me.i felt hurt and my other friend who got invited said i dont deserve to go and also was saying some nasty things and untrue things about me to another mate of mine. i...

My girlfriend wants sex more than I do..

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5262 days ago

8 December 2009 (M) - It's been a year My girlfriend wants sex more than i do, the majority of the time i cannot climate before she does we're only young and have sex A LOT how do i regain plessure?...

Is it really over this time?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - Please help.. me and my boyfriend were together for 11 months. he jumped right out of a bad 2 year relationship with his ex (in which they had broken up several times..got back together..twards the end she wouldnt really let the break up happen....

Anyone have any ideas on how me and my boyfriend can improve my self esteem?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - I have no self esteem, because of past relationships, and I just found out I like to dominate, but there's only one problem. It doesn't feel normal to me to dominate during sex because I'm female. I know it's because my self esteem is pretty much ...

How long should I give my ex a "pass"?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

8 December 2009 (M) - My ex girlfriend broke up with me this past August, but till continued to hang out like a couple until about Halloween. Some things in out relationship caused me to go psycho on her. I became controlling, continually asked her what she was doing, ...

How do I help him recover from his rape

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - I'm currently deployed in Afghanistan and I spoke to my boyfriend yesterday and I could tell there was something seriously wrong so I asked him and he told me he'd been beaten and raped by 3 guys last Saturday. He's been to hospital and reported it ...

How can me and my girlfriend can get closer?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

8 December 2009 (M) - well last night my gf and i were texting and i asked her if she thinks that me and her are close and if we have a good relationship and she said "yeah i think were close, but we could be closer" and yeah i think we have a good relationship too". ...

Boredom? Midlife crisis or just plain immature?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - Hello, I have been in this relationship for almost 6 year. We live together and get along perfectly fine. Until last week when he announced he wants to break up because he feels "tied down". He says he stills loves me but he misses the "...

Is it normal for guys to switch from being hot to cold?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - Is it normal for guys to switch from being hot to cold? My bf and I who are both in our mid 20s, have been together for almost a year. Throughout our whole relationship I have felt like I am walking on egg shells. If I show him affection a...

Its not fair on my boyfriend to still be in love with my ex, how do I get over him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - Hi My ex and I broke up 7 months ago. I'm currently with a guy who treats me far better and loves me far more than my ex. I can't seem to get over my ex, no matter what I do about it. 1.) is there anything I can do to try to get over him? 2.) I...

Why do I start to feel like this 3 months into my relationships?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5262 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - i was with my ex for 2 years on and off, we only lasted up to 5 months each time tho because after 3-4 months id start to feel as if i no longer had feelings for him but as soon as another girl was on the scene i cudnt handle it and all a sudden my ...

Monster in law

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - How do i deal with a monster mother in law ?...

Its like we’re in a long distance relationship but we live in the same house!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - I’m engaged to a man and we live together. We are planning to get married but I always delay things because I am not 100% sure. I think I love him but we live together and I am noticing habits that I am not sure I can live with. He is already ...

I'm struggling to be honest during relationship counselling because I don't want to hurt her feelings!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

8 December 2009 (M) - I'm in relationship counselling with my girlfriend. We've been to one session. The counsellor is using the Imago method. My girlfriend has very low self-esteem and I think it's partly because I have problems communicating and I often say the wr...

My new girlfriend has fallen in love with me, but my ex wont stop begging for me back! What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - My ex of a year broke up with me abut 4 months ago, saying it was because i couldnt tell her i would be there for her. I begged for her back, like an jackass, and she wanted none of it. I waited for about a month and started talking to another ...

I want my man to be a man and have a mind of his own, but I feel it cant happen whilst he still lives with his parents!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5253 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - i have to start my question with my story...i'm dating a guy who is 27 and im 26.i'm currently workin and recently moved out of a siblings place to get a place of my own.My boyfriend is in search of a job as he just completed his masters ...

He says he hit me out of self defense. Should I still even be with him?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4418 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 21. 2 days ago we went to a christmas party. i got very very drunk and apparantly made a fool out of him by the way i was dancing ect..we stayed at my parents and when we got in we were arguing. I went into my room and ...

She has lied to me and she is a bit of a sex freak. How do I accept this?

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8 December 2009 (M) - I think I've had enough. OK. Been dating her three months. Everything seemed great at first. But now everything has come around. She lied to me about her neighbor guy friend coming over because she didn't want to admit she was smoking weed with any ...

He embarassed me in front of my friends and family. Should I give him a second chance?

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8 December 2009 (F) - Okay so I meet this guy who was really sweet, we have lots in common and everything our first date went really well we had lots to talk about. But the next day he made a really innappropriate comment about naked pictures involving himself very ...

We got back together, but now my wife is acting the same way she did when we broke up

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5256 days ago

8 December 2009 (M) - Hello to everyone. I am thinking I will get the best answer from a woman, but will take advice from anyone. My situation is... About ten months ago my wife told me that she was completely unhappy and didn't want to be married anymore. I am ...

I am soooooo sexually frustrated!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5259 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now. He's 20 and I am almost 19. In the beginning of our relationship, we got physical quickly and I loved it. After a couple months it died down, due on his part, and nothing ever happened except ...

How do I tell my mom that I want to stay at my bf's place?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - I come from a strict European background and up until recently I haven't dated much. I'm 23 and still live at home (I support my parents financially). I don't talk to my mom about guys or anything like that...she's never talked to me about it ...

My bf got drunk and threatened me with a knife and I wound up sleeping with his best friend!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - Me, my boyfriend (who we'll call Andrew), his best friend (who we'll call Nick), and another friend of ours went out to a bar the other night together and all of us were kind of drinking a lot. Andrew got absolutely smashed all of the sudden and ...

Part of me feels I should play the field, especially since I'm not as sexually attracted to him.

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8 December 2009 (F) - i've been with my boyfriend for a long time now, and i seriously think he's the one. But since things have started to get serious i don't find myself as sexually attracted to him anymore, and we rarely have sex. We both work together and for...

Sometimes I can't stand my boyfriend!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5263 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - I really do love my boyfriend I just can't stand him sometimes. Sometimes I think about breaking up with him but after talking to him I change my mind. I don't know what's up with me. He's 17, a senior, and Im his first official girlfriend. I do...