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Archived questions from: 14 December, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

We were getting along so great, and now .... we are not!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5248 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - i've seen that my crushes friend added me on myspace,so i added my crush he sent me a message say hey next thing led to another i gave him my number we started flrting and texting none stop for a week then he said we should hang out the weekent came ...

I am constantly daydreaming and fantasising about a man other than my husband!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5157 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - In my mind, I'm already cheating on my husband. I daydream about this other man constantly and I cannot help it. I try not to think about him, but then my mind starts piecing together these ridiculous stories involving the two of us. From things as ...

I have a really nice guy for a boyfriend but am attracted to a player

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - I'm completely confused. For months now, I've been going back and forth between these two guys. I've been available for both of them, but now that it has come down to it, I'm lost. The first guy, I've been with for 11 months today. But I hav...

I am attracted to older guys of about 28, could it be because I miss my Dad?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - Why am I attracted to older men? As in old, I mean guys from 28 years or older. I don't know if it's important, but my dad recently died - so maybe I like older men because I want to love a man who reminds me of my dad? I even found myself flirting ...

Should I tell her or let it go?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (M) - i am in this situation, a girl i had the biggest crush ever on for 6 months i asked her out we when on a date couple days later when i asked her out again she said she didnt feel for me in that kind of way but she loved our friendship and really ...

How can I stop his ex girlfriend from getting to me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - I've been dating one of my good guy friends for a few months now. I realized I didn't like him like I thought I did, but he's fun to hang out with and I really enjoy having sex with him, so we're keeping things casual and I've been happy with ...

I cheated on my girlfriend and cannot stop thinking about the other woman

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5255 days ago

14 December 2009 (M) - I have been happily seeing my girlfriend for just over 3 years. We have never had any problems and she is now 2 months pregnant which is something we are both happy about. However, on a night out at work, i ended up spending most of the night tal...

To go or not to go!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5249 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years, he has two children from a previous marriage. When we first started dating I wasn't sure if I wanted children or marriage. Now I know I do want one (a child) and I would like to get married. I am getting ...

I am confused, I love and hate my ex boyfriend, how can I keep my cool?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5253 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - I am confused I love and hate my ex boyfriend. I know i can never date him again cuz he was a jerk and would use me but that was at the end in the begining he was realy sweet and kind, thats why i love him but now were over and hes being a real big ...

Things are tearing us apart, how do I fix them?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5247 days ago

14 December 2009 (M) - ive been with this girl for 8 months now, at first it was great...but things in her family and things that happened between us are commanly beign brought up now and it is tearing us apart and i dont want to break up with her, i love her... how could ...

How do I make him forget the past?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5249 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend can't forget my past... This is a LONG story About 4 years ago I moved country with my now ex boyfriend of nearly 5 years... when I turned 20 we split up as I felt I was too young when we met. When we split up just before Christma...

How to avoid the pain?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (M) - MOD NOTE: POSTERS ORIGINAL TITLE I am a 38 year old male who just got out of a 9 month physically, emotionally, psychologically and mentally abusive relationship with a 34 year old woman. She had two children. At first the relationship was...

Somethings missing from my new relationship...i still long for my old half-lover/half-friend.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5252 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - So, I have a friend, a boy, who means a lot to me about 4 years by now. And now when I`m in a relationship, I started to miss him. We were much closer before, and I was always hoping that we will become more then just friends cause he used to give ...

Do I forgive him or just move on...I feel gutted?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - I love my boyfriend more than anything in the world. I moved country to be with him and everything was going great - or so i thought. He never logged onto facebook or msn in front of me and i used to question this. So he did 2 nights ago and i see ...

Do I expect too much from him and this relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - I have been dating my current boyfriend for about six months now, and I feel no closer to him now than I did at the beginning. I have been in a serious relationship before of two years, and was cheated on, but our relationship was so strong and even ...

How do I deal with this friendship between my boyfriend and another woman he used to be interested in?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - Trust Issues: I posted a question yesterday about finding a text my boyfriend of 7 months sent a female friend of his telling her he missed her. I received very insightful responses reminding me it was wrong to read his text messages in the first ...

My girlfriend is pregnant but I also have feelings for another...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5249 days ago

14 December 2009 (M) - My relationship with my girlfriend became rocky and it was coming to a stage where i didnt love her anymore and was ready to try to end it with her when my partner told me she was 6 weeks pregnant. After the initial shock I was overjoyed. But 3 ...

He stood me up - how should I act next time I see him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - I was introduced to a guy 6 weeks ago by mutual friends who said he'd been asking them to set us up for ages but warned me he was really busy with work and may not be free that often (that had been the reason his last girlfiend dumped him). From ...

Have you given into the "what if??"

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5249 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - So I've posted quite recently in the past couple of weeks about my boyfriend who was using an internet dating site and if I should break up with him. I ended up breaking up with him but I really want to take him back. I'm so confused and don...

I found a video of my girlfriend and her ex having sex and now I cant get it out of my head!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5254 days ago

14 December 2009 (M) - i have been going out with this 24 years old girl from foreign country for 6 months now. she got 8 years old daughter which she gave birth during her young and innocent age. then she leave her country to my coutry and work in pub as a PR and never ...

I'm worried I could end up marrying the wrong person! Should I accept him or let him go?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5249 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - I've been with my fiance a year now, he proposed to me 8mths ago, but since then he's been going off and on. for no reasons he'll start avoiding me later he'll come back and beg me. Last 2 month he came to my house i saw him off, when he got home...

Is the way I'm feeling normal?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5249 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - Hi, I'm hoping to get some advice re my situation. 9 months ago I split up with my partner of 7 years because he walked out after a series of arguments which I think were mainly caused by him being depressed and at that time he was verbally...

How do I make him realise he is better off with me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - I have a guy friend who I'm extremely close with. He has a girlfriend who has been giving him nothing but grief for ages. I care strongly about him and knows he feels the same way, but I have told him I'll support him no matter what and understand ...

Is my boyfriend a nice guy? I think he is lying to me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5245 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - Hi Thanks all of your time. Dear All I with my BF have been together around 3 years. We are stay together about 2 years, He is a Swiss guy (from Switzerland), and I am Asian girl (Chinese). We were break up with 2 month+ ago. I was confused and...

I want a relationship, but I'm worried he just wants to be friends!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - My relationship with this man goes a long way back. We were together 2 years ago for about 5 months but ended it because he was depressed after having come out of a 7-year engagement that ended up badly. We didn't speak for months after that, until ...

If we are friends how come he doesn't message me like he does other friends?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - hey again :) ok... theres this guy in class. he's one of my best friends. the thing is we became best friends all of a sudden. i mean we've known each other for a year and a half, initially we hardly used to speak to each other. n in the past two...

I like this girl and am not sure if I should let her know I want to be more than friends

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5258 days ago

14 December 2009 (M) - I have this friend, I liked her a lot for some time and I eventually told her, but she had already gotten a boyfriend and sort of friendzoned me. I stopped all kinds of contact with her for around five months. Two months ago we saw each other at a ...

She put me in the friend zone and then broke up with me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

14 December 2009 (M) - So I had been dating this girl for a year and a half and she started acting more distant. I pressed her on it and she said she no longer has romantic feelings for me. She said she has never felt so comfortable with a boyfriend before and she ...

He is not in the mood for sex

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5245 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half but the past few months we have been long distance because I have been away at school. I came home about a week and a half ago after not seeing him for weeks and we had sex the first three ...

The man I am involved with is waiting for a married woman, how do I get rid of her from our lives?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - I'm seeing a man who has been involved with a married woman for a few years, she tells him that she will leave her husband but they have children and has yet to do so, how do I get her out of our lives....

My guy has never come straight out and said " I love You"

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - SO my guy has never said these three words "I love you." right out like that...Instead he says things like "Love yah lots!" Or he will tell his friends he "love yah lots!" then turn to me and say "love yah lots...more." Or if I do something stupid h...

I am starting to have doubts about my husband and my marriage

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5238 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - hii i m really desperate and i need ur help...we have been married for 5yrs nw.i am 29 and he is 35 now .but there s somethng wrong with our relationshp .my parents were initialy against this marriage as they found my husband had lied about his p...

Husband deployed in Iraq and I think he is cheating!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5222 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - My husband is in Iraq and I haven't talked to him in two weeks. Before he left we were on the verge of getting a divorce. He had to train in Alabama for a month and during that month he called me just once. After the month training He didn't even ...

My ex is threatening to rape me!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5246 days ago

14 December 2009 (?) - help! im 16 and i jus broke up with my now ex bf who is 19 bc he kept pressuring me to have sex. now he wont leave me alone! he keeps txting me, threatening tht he is going to rape me! his texts say: "listen beautiful, u know u want me, and your gona...

I feel guilty and can't decide!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5254 days ago

14 December 2009 (M) - [Note: All names are changed for privacy.] My girlfriend, "Jane," wanted to take a break from our relationship, partly because she was weary of my uncertainty about whether I was committed to the relationship. During the break in our relati...

My boyfriend is talking to his ex behind my back!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - Okay this girl messaged me on myspace saying she was a friend of my bf's ex. She was telling me how he was calling her and messaging her on myspace saying how he missed her but he wants to keep it from me till he is ready to tell me. I didn't want ...

I told him I love him and now he is backing off!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - Please someone give me some advice. I have been dating a man for about 6 months now. He has constantly been in my face telling me he loves me and I will be his wife. Well, I didn't say anything to him about this but a really good friend of his was ...

Does he want me yes or no? I need an answer so that I can deal with issues and move on with my life!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5256 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - Ok I used to date this guy like 2 years ago and he lived on the same street that I did and the Chemistry was there and everything so I wound up getting pregnant and I did the un thnkable thing and got a abortion I regret it everyday but I wound up ...

Christmas is anything but a time to be joyful for me

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - I have always hated xmas. Firstly my older childrens father use to two time me at this time which seriously damaged me emotionally. Secondly I come from a very large family and since back in the UK for 26 years, they have never invited me for x...

I want to find the bubbly person I used to be, and be her again.

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14 December 2009 (F) - Well let's see where to start well my now exboyfriend and I broke couple days ago and the reason was because I felt as tho we have been a relationship for a year and he has no rletionship with my eight year old so i felt like I was being split in ...

Engaged but having second thoughts!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5249 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - should i get married? i have been in a relationship for almost 5 years, and have been engaged for 8 months. I have lived in apartment with him for about 41/2 years... and things have been good... except for the last couple months. We are supposed to ...

I feel my life slipping away and I want to be happy!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5249 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - I have been posting asking for advice in relation to moving on a mutual attraction. I have been trying to get out of a relationship but find it hard as do not want to be totally alone. I feel b/f is seeing other peoplke as he has not been with me ...

Childish by nature

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5256 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - I met this guy off of a dating website (strike 1 on me) in February of this year. We went on a date, hit it off, talked for a couple of days and then I didnt hear from him again for about a week. He informed me that his exgirlfriend of 9 months had ...

Opinions needed... What can I do to stop thinking about her past?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5254 days ago

14 December 2009 (M) - help! i've been with my gf for nearly a year. We can get on great, but im finding it harder and more often to forget about her past. I now find me analayzing everything, I met my gf 3 years ago, she and her bf at the time and of 4 years came to a ...

Break up help...

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

14 December 2009 (F) - I know what I need to do, but... ...but I still need reassurance? Strength? My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. He comes to see me twice a month and stays at my house. We talk to each other every day. I wanted to go see...