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writes:Ok , I live in a small town wehre everyone knows everyone. As a teenager and in to my ealrie 20's i went through the whole bad boy stage. Ditching school , drinking, fighting, racing cars, drugs, tattoos, I did jail time for break and enter and drug possesion. Now that I'm that older I realze that I am older I realize how stupid I was and have tired to do some thigns to change that. I work as a bartender at nigth and attend college part time during the day. There is thsi girl in myy town that is a few yr younger then me and I asked her out and she said yes. After a few dates she asked me to dinner with her family. I knew hr dad was a cop but I figured he was ok with us dating.I was so wrong. with int he first 15 minutes he asked me if next tiem I came over if I could cover up " the disgrace on my arms" and asked me how many pills I had snorted before coming over. Then he said I should leave his daughter alone before and not "fuck up her life liek I did mine" I really leik this girl and yes I admit I have doen worng in my life but I am clean, sober, working and attending college. I dont know what to do , should I tell ehr what he said to me when we were alone , should I jsut forget it, do I try and show him I changed? I really like this gril and for once I can honestly say I care abotu something.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2009): You are awesome! Your actions show people who you are. Unless you have some sort of valid 'behavioral disorder' it is your thoughts put into action that make it happen. Just as that 'bad boy' stage formed 'dads' opinion it did the same for you in forming a self-image you recognized as not good and you have taken the steps to change that, that's courage. Likewise, as you take positive steps to boost your self-image those around you will notice, however, it is human nature to hold on to an opinion such as 'dad' is doing (and I believe cops are more skeptical) but in time he will see you for who you are now, not then; if not that's his problem and a whole other topic. My point, don't knock your self out trying to prove anything to someone. You could simply sit him down, tell him you saw the errors of the past and are working towards a more positive you, it's then up to him to see that; I know that's easier said than done. As I said you are awesome, my son's been in that 'bad boy' stage for 14 years, if he ever makes that turn-around you have made I know I'll see it whether anyone else does or not. I could blog on this for hours so just keep up the positive steps you're taking for yourself, cliche as it is, you'll get the girl in the end if it's meant to be. Best of everything to you!
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