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Archived questions from: 10 December, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

He's just told me he doesn't want to be in a serious relationship at the moment...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5261 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - I dont like myself at the moment. Today i was incredibly happy, i realised how fantastic my friends are, im seeing a great guy... yet now i feel so so different. I have been seeing this guy for 3 weeks, and he is lovely... brought me a lovely p...

My husband abused my daughter, she won't prosecute! Can I?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - SORRY FOR JUMPING IN ON YOUR TOPIC BUT i need advice as hitting my head on brick walls and getting no further i have a 24 year old married daughter who has just spoken up after 13 years of child abuse from her step father she never ever ...

He's a senior, I'm a freshman, and he blows hot and cold

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - Today, I was walking with my friend to go outside because of a fire alarm, and I saw him and he clearly saw me. I waved at him and he ignored me and said hi to my friend. Then afterwards when we were walking inside, I tried waving again but he ignor...

He is a lovely man but his hairy back turns me off!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - Ive met this lovely man after a very unhappy 3 yr being in a mental abuse relationship and didnt believe there could be any nice men out there! Ive been single a yr got my head sorted with counciling and finally ready to move on! And thats when this ...

Should I bring this very dodgy subject up with my boyfriend?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - I was hanging out with my boyfriend the other day and he was all going through my phone (of course i didnt have anything to hide) but anyways, then he kept trying to take pictures of me and i was being dumb and like shy so then he had to get the ...

Why is my on/off older boyfriend making my pregnancy so miserable??

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5250 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - I have been going out with a man much older then me for a year and a half. The relationship has been rocky - on and off and I have lost count of the silly breakups and makeups. I am currently half way through a pregnancy and would like opinions on ...

Why do married men have affairs with less attractive women?

This question has 27 answers - newest was posted 4605 days ago

10 December 2009 (?) - On a Dr. Phil show it was said that 80 percent of married men have affairs with women who are less attractive than their wives, why do married men choose women who are less attractive, my husband had an affair and the women was not what I ever ...

I feel worthless, upset and unloved because he doesn't like me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - My guy friend and I talk to each other a lot. He used to wink at me, joke around and flirt with me a lot. I really thought he actually liked me. Sadly enough, I like him a lot. On the contrary, he's always distant with me when he's around his ...

My creative son calls me judgemental

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5260 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - How can you tell your son or daughter,if you don't really like something what they create,or dress up,or any other thing ,where they ask your opinion? I have very creative son, and he is good at music , and painting. But many times, I don't think, ...

How can I accept that I can never be hot for my b/f?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5259 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - I'm not a hot and sexy female. I know this because ever since I hit puberty, I've lacked the attention my friends got. Then I got a boyfriend, and I felt secure... until time passed, we started getting more comfortable with each other and I started ...

Is he just using me if he doesn't want to marry me?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - I have been with this man for going on three years,he shows me in many ways that he truely loves me,but he wont marry me or even make plans,he just tells me we cant aford it.that makes me think all he wants is a clean house to come home to and ...

He is denying he's my boyfriend because he and his other girlfriend are still together!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5258 days ago

10 December 2009 (?) - I am in a relationship that i do not understand.I have a boyfriend but he is denying that he is my boyfriend because he has a girlfriend before me and they are still together. I have slept with him and i love him but he refuses to tell me how he f...

Why do people like to inflict pain on me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - I've always wondered this and it's getting worse by the months. More and more people tend to be horrible to me and i don't know why. Is it because of the person i am? Or what? People like to afflict pain on me. Why? For example, one of my friend...

What should I do about my future father in law?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - Hey. This is a short question but in order for me to get good answers, I think you need to hear all aspects of the problem. I live with my fiance and our daughter, who is a year and a half. We've been engaged for a year but next month is my 21st...

Will my obsessive ex scare my new boyfriend off?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - Hi everyone! Alright so I just started dating this guy last week. We are having fun, going out, getting to know each other better etc. I really like him and things couldn't be better... Except for my obsessive ex-boyfriend. Him and I broke up ...

Should I carry on trying to act like I believe in this fantasy?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - Hi sorry really long post. I ignored my intuition and moved back in with my ex husband again, we kept splitting up because he refused to have babies or commit to anything except work. Years later I am stuck in my ex husband's house. Before we were ...

My girlfriend is self concious when it comes to sex and it makes it difficult for me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

10 December 2009 (M) - my girlfriend is self concious. as a result she wont let me use my fingers on her or let me please her with oral sex. at first i accepted this but now i makes things abit more difficult for me. she barely lets me feel her vagina and when she doe...

I hardly ever get to speak to my boyfriend!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - okay so long story short lateley me and my bf havent been talking much becuase his got queit abit on his plate (college work, finding a job). It's been more than a week now and im finding it extremly hard not speaking to him, he used to come on msn ...

Boyfriend won't participate in our relationship

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - Hi, My boyfriend won't participate in the relationship. refuses to answer any of my questions such as how did you feel about me when we met or your being very distant and always just doing what you want without any consideration of us. He spe...

Why is he always questioning me about other men?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5261 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - here goes, i have known this guy(KS)for three years, but we became close friends this past year. at first he would call me or text me all the time, seems he was intrested in me. making moves and asking questions about the guy am dating and so on. my ...

I feel so insecure after his female friend came to him for advice!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - well, I have been in a relationship for more than a year now. I love my bf so much. I can't imagine living without him a sec. One his friend is getting divorce( a woman). She came to talk to him. he was giving her advice, and i was here too. before ...

I want us to remain friends but also let him know I do not love him!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5262 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - hi I know you can help me! I am a lady who has a friend who thinks that I am his wife to be. That's great but I honestly have no feelings at all for him. I am not even attracted! But he's kind, understanding and supportive. The first problem is t...

I still really like her but she's got a boyfriend now! What do I do next?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5261 days ago

10 December 2009 (M) - Hi, I have been best friends with this girl for a year now and I love her so much and she likes me to, we were rely close we used to spend all are time together and were constantly on the phone to each other. Shes been with her boyfriend for nearly ...

I want her back, but for what?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

10 December 2009 (M) - Hi i originally posted here on the 11th july, asking advice as to whether my wife was having an affair. Well 5 months on i have the truth. My wife had an affair for about 6 weeks, she went to hotels for chat and sex and sex in this guys flat above ...

Nothing will make this guy stop!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - I have a problem this guy won't go away. What started out whatseemed like a crush has progressed to begging for one date. I have told him no I'm not interested . I'm in love with someone elae . I ignore his texts and phone calls I'm rude to him. But ...

I just cant talk to my boss, waht can I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - sorry for the length..need to explain... Im a quieter person at work, I work in a hospital environment. I have no enemies and get along with most of my colleagues, I dont socialise with them as they are all clicky and most are freinds (typ...

I was sexually abused and don't feel comfortable kissing a child, why can't my man understand this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - I fell deep in love with a man (Jake) who has a 4 year old son from his previous marriage (Leo). I also fell in love with Leo in a way, as well: I love him as if he were my own son. Over a year into our relationship, we decided to ...

My boyfriend broke up with me saying he didn't love me. Now we're back together but I'm afraid he'll leave again.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - ok....... i have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and at the beggining everything was great, we had split up once or twice in this period but only once was major!! he claimed he did not love me..... but after a couple weeks he realis...

I found pictures of nude women on my b/f's computer!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5250 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - I found a bunch of pictures of naked women on my boyfriend's cd and a small sex video. Is there something I should be worried about? I feel that he has a problem? Or also feeling that he's not getting enough sex in our relationship which leads me to ...

I get all uptight around women and I want to unbend a little

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5262 days ago

10 December 2009 (M) - Guys and gals, I have a problem. For a long, long time I've convinced myself that I'm just incompatible with women. That I'm not handsome enough, fit enough, funny enough etc to draw the attention of any females. I've also told myself that women ...

I don't want history to repeat itself!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5261 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - I'm about to break up with my long distance boyfriend when I come home for Christmas break. I can't stop crying. It's light crying, not excessive but it still hurts so much. I love him but things between us have only been getting worse, although he ...

He is the sweetest guy but after a month I don't want to date him any more!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5261 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - I have the sweetest guy ever. He's the one every girl wants but the thing is I don't want him and I don't know what to do because he's so in love with me. We've known each other for a year but just started dating a month ago and now Im just tired of ...

Is this what relationships are about, or am I being taken for granted?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5237 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - I've been with this guy for 6 years. I stood by his side through thick and thin, I put up with things that I would never have. Ok lately in the past year our relationship has crumbled, he's been totally emotionally abusive towards me. He claims ...

Crazy in love...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5262 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - I need some advice, I'm 21 years old and i was involved with an older man 32 now, for two years. I was undeniably in love with him, totally and completely. To me he was perfect and my everything, my best friend and lover, we were both in love crazy ...

I just can't stop texting him!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5253 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - I broke up with my ex 3 months ago and I still can't seem to stop messaging him and texting him... he always blows me off and says he's busy and can't talk etc... I can't blame him for not really wanting to talk to me but I can't seem to stop ...

He wants to break up with me over my labia hanging looser!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5257 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - I'm in dire need of explaining to my boyfriend that I am not cheating on him. He says that when we have sex that sometimes my labia hangs and is more loose than other times. Is that normal? I don't know why it is that way sometimes, and I am so ...