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writes:my problem is having a boyfriend. My parents won't allow it. I'm 15 in my last year school, and he's my first boyfriend. I really like him, i usually don't pay attention to stuff like that, but i felt that he's different. He likes me for who i am. And is a sweetheart. So as far as i knew, my parents where fine with the whole situation, they where aware i had my first boyfriend, and agreed to the whole thing.One day he asked if I’d wanted to go to the cinema, i asked my parents they said no! i was upset obviously, in my whole life i have never asked if i can go out, i'm always home and or school. Other times i go with an adult, like brother or sisters, or my parents. I don't even go with my friends. They are really strict. But i was hoping for a compromise, it didn't work. On several occasions i asked if i can go out with him, but they refused. Then i asked if i could go out with him, but with an adult like his brother or sister or either mine. They said NO! Finally it came to the point where i asked them to come with me, but they said NO! i don't get it why? i'm not that type to mess around, or get influenced easily. And i choose my friends carefully, so when me and him first came boyfriend and girlfriend i made sure he was nice, etc.. not messed up and to my parents likings most importantly. Then i put up with it, so i would see him only at school, which is hardly ever. He can't pick me up in the morning to go school together because i go with my parents. So he drops me of, but it don’t even take long to get home, and if I take time they be counting the minutes. Then I get questioned where I’d been for them extra minutes. If I walk slow with him, then each day I’d end up making excuses like I was kept behind from the teacher, or something, and I won’t sound realistic enough. At lunch time where with our friends, and they practically no area where we can be alone. Because our school works in one way, you can only be outside, and that means the whole school is outside, not one place is left.Anyways, then I asked him to come down for dinner, and my parents agreed only because they’d wanted to meet him. At the end of the night they told me he’s really nice. I expected them to compromise, and say something like sure u can go out with him. But at the end of the week, they told me, I have to stop seeing him. However my dad convinced my mum to agree me going out with him, but still I can’t see him outside, like go to the cinema or something.Furthermore, me and my parents had an argument not over the boyfriend thing just family stuff, and I came crying to my bedroom, I was really annoyed at them. And my boyfriend knocked on the window; he’d climbed the wall to get in my room. It wasn’t that hard because my house is quite small not tall. And he’d comforted me, we lay on the bed and he listened to me, something which my mum won’t do. But nothing happened between us, just talking. I fell asleep in his arms. (if your wondering why he came through the window because it had been over a month since we seen each other) I felt bad in one way because I lied to my parents by not telling, but then I want to see him, what else can I do. But one thing for sure, it might be quite nice of him to come through the window, and a little cute, but I want honesty between my and my parents. How can I get my parents to compromise with a little bit of freedom? Reply to this Question
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reader, Katie-Lou +, writes (2 January 2010):
That was so not funny and deffinately un-neccecary what that person said about jack the ripper. (he was like some nut-case rapist! Idiot!
Hun, a suggestion, maybe ask your parents to get family therapy with you, tell them, if they wont listen to you, you want them to see someone who you can speak through. Parents/adults are stupid, seriously, they think kids are stupid but i think their much better than adults, dont let them restrict you that much, sounds like a really really nice guy, a keeper, tell your parents your not a little child that needs protecting. if it was me, id just do as i please, but then again, there are serious consequenses to rebelling and being disobediant.
Dont let them ruin this relationship it seems like you got something really good there x
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2009): thankz for the replys, and no as far as i know i don't think he's related to anyone known by that name/tag.
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reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (31 December 2009):
 you seem mature i waont say for your age because thats relative there 60 yr olds doing dumba$$ sh!t by mature i mean on the level of a rational intelligent human being.
Your parents are over protective but can you blame them look at this friggin world kids getting ubducted everyday. Then theres the sex issue, you have sex you get pregnant your parents have to foot the bill. Or you could get Aids and your parents watch you suffer a horrible death even if you live the medcations arent cheap once again your parents have to foot the bill.
That said your 15 not six you need to live a little so When you turn 18 you dont run off with some 35 yr old you meet on craigs list.
Tell your parents that you like the guy your responsible they need to trust you blah blah blah and your going to have a bf whether they like it or not hes a nice boy and he makes you happy and your gonna marry him blah blah blah.
Im serious tell them that but fill in the blahs with something catchy, your dad will mostly hear blahs regardless but your mom will get the picture.
Ok thats it now take control of your young life you can do it. Parents feed you clothes you and shelter you but they dont own you.
Oh i was just wondering this bf of yours would he happen to be related to someone named Ripper, Jack Ripper
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2009): wow this last bits sounds like that film oh what is it called oh right twilight girl you need to stop making things up
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