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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi everybody. My problem is this, I am in love with a girl who is also my best friend. We are pretty much like a married couple and even refer to each other as husband and wife, i've never told her because I really don't know how she feels back. When we're together (we talk or spend time with each other everyday) a lot of the time she treats me really well but when other people get involved (my friends for instance) she can really treat me badly and when they say to her that I obviously love her, she just insults me.I really can't cope with the constant rejection, I really do love her and want to be with her and I think that we would be the perfect couple but i'm afraid to tell her because I really don't know how she feels and how she'll react.
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (13 April 2009):
 She sounds quite nasty, but it is now time to be a MAN!
If for whatever reason you are "in love" with this girl you have to ask her out, if she rejects you, at least then you can move on and find a girl who actually respects you, but hanging around her in the hope that one day she will just fall in love with you with out you making this first move is not going to happen.
Call her now and tell her how you feel. It will be a massive weight off your shoulders!
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reader, growing up  +, writes (13 April 2009):
well here the qs.. if you tell her just say that you feel more for her then just a friend and ask her if she has the same feelings.. if not then do take some time apart from her to redirect your attention and find someone who will care the way you care about them
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009): Gosh.. I would NEVER say anything bad, mean or disrespectful about my husband to anyone, and he would beat the crap out of someone who said anything about me. Don't let yourself fall all over the feet of a girl who degrades you like that, especially in front of other people! She should care about the way you feel and recognize that whether you love her or not, she's being hurtful. Don't be blinded by a love so much that you can't see what's really going on. Pick yourself up, grow a little taller and go find yourself a girl who make you feel good about yourself.
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reader, lah mouw +, writes (13 April 2009):
 Hmm, if she's insulting you when people make comments, and she treats you badly in public that maybe a sign that you may not be the best couple (if you were one). Why would she disrespect you in public... or at all? Maybe she's not deliberately doing it but even so that's not okay. Since she is saying negative things when people comment on how you really do look like a couple maybe that's a sign that she's not into you as more than just a friend. You could always try talking to her and telling her how you feel. Communication is a big part of it... because she's not a mind reader and she won't off the bat know how you feel. So try letting her know yourself. Write her a letter, or email or take her out and tell her. Although she may not feel the same way if you tell her. There's still the friend factor, so if you don't get her on an intimate level just know that you still have her on a friend level and be happy for that at least. Just sort out your feelings and make sure you know what you want before you take action. If she doesn't like you then so what! there are plenty of other women who would love to be with you I'm sure, so don't let it bring you down... I'm sure we've all wanted someone we may not be able to have at some point... good luck with whatever you choose to do!
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