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Archived questions from: 30 July, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

How do I confront my partner about his cheating?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5394 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I've been with my partner for over 7 yrs. He has cheated on me once, early in the relationship when it was not 'exclusive' but it hurt me a lot. About 6 months after that I went through his phone and found lots of intimate messages between him and ...

Her daughter is standing in the way of us taking it to the next level!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5394 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - Need opinions please. I’m a 47yr old male in great 3.5yr relationship with 50yr woman. The woman lives with her 27yr old daughter and I do not. The daughter smokes pot daily (moms more of a friend than a mom) has dead end job, never has had a car ...

How can I stop liking someone?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5394 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - how do you stop liking someone? Because I cant stop liking this guy and its getting on my nerves because I know what he's like and he can be nasty....

Do I have a good reason to be angry?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5394 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I hace been talking to a guy for 2 weeks now and he has a gf. I didnt know that for a while but then when i found out i was furious. I know we arent together but he says hes comfortable in this relaionship and doesnt like the girl shes been pushing ...

We stayed together after her affair, but she's not happy!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5378 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - My wife had an affair last year. We are still together as I was desperate to keep things together. The thing is, she doesn't seem very happy. I'm certain she's not seeing this chap anymore but she seems so miserable all the time and cry's whenev...

All I want is to find a girl and develop a relationship like most normal people!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5394 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - Hi everyone. Just looking for some advice. I am 23 years old and i seem to be having a real problem with finding girls. When i was youner i was often described as a "player" and often messed girls around. I then found a girl who was perfect for me. ...

How do I show my girlfriend I love her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5361 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - I have been with my girlfriend 3 yrs and she recently asked if i loved her. i was quite angered by this as she knows i do. what things should i be doing to let her know how much i love her other than the occasional flowers, chocolates etc?...

Ways to deal with my aggressive mother...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5393 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - I'm bisexual and have been in a relationship with a guy for eight months now. I spend weekends at his, and make up excuses to my parents who are conservative and petrified/repulsed by homosexuals. To the point that any defence of homosexuality is ...

How do I avoid this feeling of anger?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5394 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - hi i'm afraid that my boyfriend doesn't appereciate me enough,he doesn't communicate enough and i'm afraid that i also get angry too fast...how do i avoid this feeling of anger?...

Is there a way I can completely get over him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5394 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - Hi - I need help in getting over this guy. I have had an on and off crush on him for ages. Some of the time I feel like he's amazing and would so be the right person for me - but then other times he just infuriates me (he doesn't deliberately do ...

We had a great relationship until he said that I wasn't the one he would marry.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5394 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - Hey everyone, I need some advice. I have been in a relationship for about a year and a half...its actually been a year and four months. Anyways we were doing great... everyting was perfect but I had a bad feeling and when we were drunk I asked ...

I fell in love with my bestfriends girl, now what?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5384 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - Me and this girl have been friends for a while and her boyfriend and I have been friends for even longer. I am talking many years and I would consider him my best friend. Anyway one day she starts to touch my arm so I start to do it back. This es...

I turned him down and now he's threatening me!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5393 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I met this guy recently who i thought i could be good friends with. i thought he was nice at the time but when i told him i didn't want to date him after he asked me to go out with him he changed. He started saying things like he was looking for sex ...

He says he flirts with other girls to feel better about himself, could this be true?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5394 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - Ok, guys i been with my mate for a few years now. like more than 4. Lately he will do anything to get another female attention, or like he need some type of validation from another female. He recently admitted to me that he have low self esteem and ...

He cheated, how do I regain the trust needed to get over the betrayal?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5382 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - i neeeed soo much help... ive never asked for help but i need help... he recently cheated on me but realised he made the biggest mistake in his life and we have been tryna work things out ever since... the thing is i dont trust him and though i know ...

I just ended an abusive relationship. I'm scared of what my ex might do!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5394 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - Hi everybody So I finally got the courage to leave my abusive (mix of verbal, physical and sexual) boyfriend this week. I ended up having to do it online because after talking with some friends they suggested doing it in person would be too dang...

My ex forced me to have sex with him! How do I get over this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5394 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - Please help me.. Last april i had an abortion because i was only fifteen and my current boyfriend was allot older, i was scared he could of got done by the police so we both decided to have an abortion. It was really hard and i was very upset. ...

I've tried to trust but just can't. I don't want to be alone forever!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5394 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I was sexually abused when i was a child so i have very little trust in men as i've got older the guys i've dated have been abusive and cheated on me. Now i'm at the stage where i just can't trust, i've finally met a guy who treats me like a ...

Do I ignore him and give him space?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5391 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - I have been seeing my boyfriend on and off since December 2007, it began as a long distance relationship but he moved nearer, to manchester which is about 25 miles from where I live to see me more often. However, this year the realtionship has hit ...

I am not going to continue rewarding abusive behavior! Any suggestions?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5394 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I am a single mother and have an 11 year old daughter who has been used to seeing me being abused by her father, my mother, my sister and my father. This abuse from her father escalated when I tried to have a relationship with a man that I was ...

I feel like I'm not part of my boyfriend's long term plans

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5394 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - after a talk about about the 'future' saving money and so... my boyfriend said that his going to New Zealand for 3 months for business, its not ever but it feels like forever... i asked him why i wont be going with and he said the last time i ...

Any advice on why she is acting crazy?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5394 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - What is worse - being cheated on by the man who said he wants to marry you, or having him accidentally break your nose during an argument? I want to be with my girlfriend more than anything in the world but she just doesn't understand me so...

The distance between my girlfriend and I is starting to cause problems

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5394 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - I have a girlfriend who lives 1 hour away from me because I recently moved and now when I call her she's alyways at bbqs and partys and I go to school with alot of pretty girls I'm just afraid I'm not gonna find someone who loves me as much as my ...

I think I love him but he annoys me with his silence..... is it fair?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5394 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - well i met a guy a while ago through a friend and i tend to like him in the same way he liked me too.we decided to build up something concrete in the sense that it supposed to be something strong which can not be destroyed that easy.but this has ...

What are my rights on a lease contract with my boyfriend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5394 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - Im from australia, and i was wondering what are my rights on this.?! Me and my dickhead boyfriend got a rental house together. Both names are on the lease contract but tonight he kicked me out, and said once the 6 months are up hes going to leave an...

Is it possible to have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder after an emotionally abusive relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5394 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - Is it possible to have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder after an emotionally abusive relationship?...

I ended our relationship because he is too close to his ex. Did I make the right decision?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5394 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend talks of his ex girlfriend's body or what happened between them, He call her and she calls him he says she is only a friend and a close friend I got angry and upset and I said to him I don’t want him to have any contact with her or t...

How can I get my boyfriend to trust me again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5393 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I dunno what to do, i have been with my boyfriend on and off for about 2 - 2 1/2 years. We split for about 6 months in 2008 and i had no idea that in 2009 we would get back together. When we split after i while i decided to try dating again, and i ...

Stick with my boyfriend or try with another?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5394 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I am in a relationship which began about 3 and a half years ago. I have always imagined marrying my boyfriend, having children, all the rest, up till about a week ago. It is true that he does annoy me lately, pretty much every day as whenever I ha...

Does she really hate me that much?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5394 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - Hi, I recently got my question answered by someone who told me to ask my girlfriend more questions about the relationship, http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-dont-want-to-leave-her-but-feel.html Now she doesn't like it and starts blaming every...

My boyfriend is torn between two women!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5394 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of almost 6 months is still in love with his ex girlfriend. He says he loves us both and wants us both. I told him he has to decide who he wants to be with. He said he wants to be with both of us and he won't settle for less. I told ...

I have the most annoying fiance, hes doing my head in!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5394 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I neeed advice omg im soo stressing out and seriously think ive lost about 1 stone in the past week! I have the most annoying fiance,hes doing my head in! His nana was dying the other week and he rang in sick that day and told work he was up...

My parents forced me to to leave my 40 year old married boyfriend!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5394 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I'm 16 year old who had a boyfriend before who's older than me his 40, and married already.Were 1 year and 1 month already,he had a wife but they are not staying anymore because of some misunderstanding and he don't have a plan to be together with ...

Her daughter told me she is cheating on me...who do I believe?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5394 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - i got a question for you all.. i have been in a long distance relationship for 12 months. 3 months ago my girl cheated on me with another ..he was an old boyfriend..she said it was the distance and booze that helped her do it.. she said that in wil...

Am I being silly to worry about her male friend who fancies her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5394 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - hi i have recently fallen for someone and have been goin out a few months now and she feels the same way,the majority of her friends are male and i dont have a problem with that but recently she told me one of them really fancies her and has been ...

How do I stop being so clingy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5394 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - Hello everybody, I have a problem, obviously. Well ever since middle school, I am 22 now, I've had a big issue with being clingy. It has haunted me so much to the point where i get jealous over my girlfriend when i know for sure she is doing not...

I think my insecurities will drive him away!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5394 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I have a wonderful boyfriend but I'm insecure anyway. I know he loves me - it's obvious - first time in my life I've felt this loved. He has a great friend who's a woman, and I met her - we all went on a short road trip together. At times she seemed ...

I want happiness but I'm so afraid all the time!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5395 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - Hi, I am female just turning 41. I have been involved 2 marriages since i was 18 and have had a domestic violence marriages. I am aware of attracting those kind of man and have been working on that problem. My issue is now that I have been involved ...

I ran into my childhood crush, things were going great, we slept together...and now he seems more distant

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5395 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I made a big mistake. You would think a woman 44 years old would know better. I ran into a man i had a huge crush on when I was in High School. We bacame friendly while online where we belonged to many of the same sites. Once we exchanged phone ...

How would you feel if you were in her shoes? What did I do wrong?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5395 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - me (i'm a girl) and this girl has been friends for a while and around november i told her i was bi..and she said its just a phase..and then like 4 months later i told her that i had no interest in boys..and i was lesbian and she started to accept it ...

What is he really thinking of when we make love, me or porn stars?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5380 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - i have been with my boyfriend nearlly 2yrs now. i am 18 and he is 21. we use to kiss and cuddle all the time but now we dnt do it very often. he never gives me sex i get it once a week. i am a pretty girl i am slim and smart dressed i like to make ...

Do I wait for her to come around?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5395 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - im 16 and im in love with my best friend still. our relationships is weird where were totallh best friends and talk about everything but weve gone out a couple times always ending in her breaking up with me in a day or two. after one relationship ...

How do I prevent his mood swings, that make him break up with me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5395 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - It's an interesting situation, actually... You see, I'm in a long-distance relationship with someone who's a few years older than me (though that might not be relevant); I guess you could say that he's a... 'mercurial' boyfriend. I read about that ...

Is he trying to get me pregnant again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5395 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - My partner and have an 11 month old and have had a few financial difficulties over the last year. We both want more kids (I'm thinking 2, he wants 3) later on when I'm finished with school, financially caught up, and have a ring on my finger ...

He won't let me end it but it seems he needs a break?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5393 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - my boyfriend of 10 months has been really distant lately, sometimes hes really lovey dovey and i times hes makin comments like i dont think were gonna make our relationship ship last a year.. i found a couple of girls numbers in his phone.. he wont ...

Does he want to get back with me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5394 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - okay, so i was in this relationship for 6 months... i was in love with the guy ..when the summer started things started changing becuase he was broke and we coudnt really go out and have fun .. so it was if the relationship was fading but the love ...

Feel like a nag but I know I'm a good girlfriend!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5394 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - Hi everyone, My boyfriend of 3.5 years and I are going through quiet a rough patch at the moment. I have had a rough year after my brother being diagnosed with a mental illness but things are looking up, I got a job and im moving into my own plac...

She doesn't want sex!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5393 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - I am a 30yo male with a 30yo girlfriend. We have been together for 3 years lived together for 2 one of which was overseas, we have returned recently. My problem is she has been saying she doesn’t want sex, she has had this stance for 18months...

Need help with steps to get her back

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5395 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - hello, I am 21 and have been in a relationship with a girl for a little over a year. We were coming up on our anniversary with the titles as boyfriend and girlfriend. she just just broke up with me last wednesday because she fell out of love wit...