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Archived questions from: 29 July, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

I want to go out with my friends but my girlfriend wants to see me. What to do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5396 days ago

29 July 2009 (M) - Hi there, I've started seeing a girl for the past month or so. But I'm worried she's becoming a little too attached to me. She constantly wants to see me, and while I'm thrilled to bring her all the happiness I can, it can be hard work, because 1)...

Boyfriend is a player but talks about starting a family? Whats wrong?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5396 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Hi there....ok I met this guy, realized he is a player, had sex and now we keep it cool, always talking with each other, but knowing that nothing serious will happen. Every time that I am with him, he talks about women, he flits with other women in ...

Why did I act as such a fool? Have I lost him for good?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5396 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Hello there, I'd like some advice on how to stop feeling like a complete fool and move on after breaking up with my bf of 9 yrs. I'm sorry if this is a bit long, bit here goes... I met him 9 years ago at Uni, fell in love hard and fast, and 2 ...

Why did she lie to me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5396 days ago

29 July 2009 (M) - I was dating a girl for a while and when we got together she told me she was single, now I come to find out that she would go back and forth between me and her ex boyfriend. We would be pissed about it but she tells me she wants to be with me and we ...

Five years and still waiting for the date!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5392 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I have a dilema... I have been with my fiance now for 5 years and counting. We are currently in a custody battle with his ex over his son and i have tried so hard and worked so hard through all of it for him and with him. I am just not sure that he ...

No Sex Nellie: thinking of having a fling!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5396 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I am 45yr old female married for 16yrs.Is it abnormal for me to still want sex as my husband seems to be incenced if I approach him.I am getting desparate and thinking of having a fling. No Sex Nellie...

Should I forgive my husband?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5396 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - After 32 years of reasonably happy marriage, I suspected my husband was messing around with another woman. I asked him what was going on he told me his feelings for me had changed. He had strong feelings for another woman and she felt the same. It ...

Am I right to have pressed charges? And why would he do these things?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5396 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Hi I am taking my ex to court, for fraud theft and dwoc, I am due next week to appear. I was seeing this guy for 6 months, we had a lovely relationship, (so I thought) basically he stole money from my bank account by stealing my card. And taking...

How do I give her that space she needs without stepping aside and going away?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5396 days ago

29 July 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and i have been together for 5 years. It has taken me the better half to realize that she is the one. I have hurt her and broken her heart more than once by way of, moving to oregon. My son lives there and its hard for me to be away. I ...

Why are guys so stupid, why do they want to be players?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5396 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I'm a 21 year old girl in college, and I love being single and independent. I was in love with a guy who dumped me after a couple months for not putting out (I'm a virgin) and I don't want to have a boyfriend for a while. I've made out with this hot ...

I'm confused and I don't know where to go from here

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5309 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I started out as FWB with this guy seven years ago, but as you can imagine, we eventually fell in love, and despite the fact that we didn’t want to be in a relationship, we became “exclusive” and things started to seem like we were in one, up to the ...

An innocent flirtation, two months of fighting

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5396 days ago

29 July 2009 (M) - My girlfriend of two years won't let me go to an old job because she found out I flirted with a customer once. She found out looking through my emails at a message I sent to another friend, in which I told them the full story and even admitted that ...

A girl kissed my boyfriend, is this considered cheating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5396 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend just told me that another girl kissed him.it happened 7 weeks ago.he was out and stayed in his friend's house,he went to bed in his friends house.later a girl came into the bed and turned to him and kissed him.she kissed him twice.he ...

My controlling husband won't except that I don't love him anymore.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5396 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I told my husband i don`t love him like i used to,the fact is that i love him but i`m not in love with him.I told him and he don`t accept what i said.We been together for 4 years we have a son 2 years old..i want to end the mariage,he is to ...

My BF broke up with me, should I stay and fight or come back later.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5396 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend broke up with me after a year of dating. We had a great relationship until the end when things got tense. I started pressuring him to go to the next level and the tension just snow balled. He says he's convinced in his heart and so...

Why does he keep pushing me away for other girls when we get on so well?!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5396 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I really like this guy who I am friends with but hes not interested in me. Ive twice slept with him in the past but he made it clear he did not want a relationship so I left it at that but I stayed friends with him as we got on so well. Ive noticed ...

14 years with my BF but I don't want sex anymore. Whats my problem?

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29 July 2009 (F) - I don't care for having sex with my boyfriend no more. We've been together since I was 15 years old, now 29. I keep having these dreams about him having sex with someone else. I don't like for him to touch me or nothing. I started to go to the ...

My BF called me his ex-wifes name

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5396 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I have been seeing a wonderful man for 20 months now and we have had a few problems with his former spouse as they have remained very close friends. However, in the last month he has called me by her name 2 times (not in bed) just while we were out ...

Does love fade?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5396 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Does love fade? I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years now, and it used to be something you would see in the movies. Head over heels in love. But now the magic is gone. I'm almost bored... but I do like to be with him. I dream of better things ...

Should I say goodbye... or should I stay?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5396 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - In three more days my boyfriend and I are going to be together for one year, we have been living together for about 11 months now and I have a 2 1/2 year old child that is not his. When we first got together we were so happy but here lately there ...

I am phobic about my girlfriend leaving me... help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5396 days ago

29 July 2009 (?) - I am really scared of losing my girlfriend i really really love her this fear is really eating me up and causing it to become a belief it really hurts me... she has given me her word but it really still hurts and im dead scared... Can you please t...

Money conflict

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5396 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend want to move in together within the next few years. We had started saving, but he lost his job several months ago and has just been working every now and again, not regular work. He still goes out every weekend and is in his ...

Does it sound like we will have ongoing issues or can we overcome this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5396 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid I started seeing a man approx 16 months ago. It started off casual neither of us was looking for a relationship. After 5 mths he decided to tell me that he had a girlfriend back in his country (El Salvador) and wanted to come clean wi...

What is the easiest way to dump someone you've been with for over two years?

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29 July 2009 (F) - What is the easiest way to dump someone you've been with for over two years? I've tried before but I hate making people feel bad. You have no idea what it does to me. But I have to do it, I'm miserable. I do love him, but it's just not the same ...

He doesn't believe I would NEVER cheat on him. How can I prove this to him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5396 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I've been a relationship for 5 years now. We've been through a lot together. I stay at his house almost every day even though I have my own place. A few days ago I received a call from a male friend I did not answer. My boyfriend's friend made a ...

She broke my heart before, and now she seems to be acting the same way again!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5396 days ago

29 July 2009 (M) - hey, basically, i really like this girl, i have liked her for about a year, and we acted like a relationship. (we went out together kissed had sex blah blah blah) but it wasn't official, and when i asked her about being together she kept saying i...

How slow is too slow?

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29 July 2009 (F) - My ex is giving me every indication that he wants to get back together even talking about why we split up...even to the point of saying people don't agree on everything. However he seems to be taking things very slowly. He is very emotional and ...

The aloof man

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5396 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I am really in a confused state of mind. I feel loved starved, and desperate because I have strong feelings for someone, and I know that I am an important person in their life. However, we went through tough times. We met each other in 2007, h...

I don't know how to handle my wife!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4291 days ago

29 July 2009 (M) - my wife abuses me pysicologically and every so often phisically, she has had a bad up bringing eg rape, abandonment,irrashional behaviour and thoughts. she has an iq of 138 and uses this against me, she has an alcohol problem also, we have very big ...

I don't feel like an important part of his life!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5396 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Hi everyone, I'm feeling so confused and lost right now. I am 19 and my boyfriend is 36. I'll be going to uni soon and he is a tutor. Recently we have not been spending much time together as he says he needs to do work. Fine, I'm trying to be ...

This fight has been going on for 3 days now, what should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5396 days ago

29 July 2009 (M) - Hello, Im in a fight with my girlfriend for three days now. It started with something minor, She was rude and I told her that hurt me, but then she started accusing me of manipulating behaviour in our fights. She claims that im trying to make h...

I still have feelings for my ex but I don't want to ruin things with his fiancee!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5396 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - im really confused at the moment. i have just got in contact with my ex and we have started talking. he has told me that he is engaged and is going to be a dad soon but that he still loves me. i still have the same feelings for him but i don't want ...

Problems with sex in our relationship....we're only in our 20's!

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29 July 2009 (F) - Hi I've been with my boyfriend for about 3 years but we aren't having sex anymore. We have probably had sex 5 times this year. We're both in our 20's so libido isn't the problem! He complains I am not horny enough- this may be because of the pill? ...

Do I just let him go and forget him, or do I keep trying to make this work?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5396 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Hi I don't know if I should break up with my boyfriend or try and make it work? I am 22 and have been with my boyfriend nearly 4 years (he is 25.) We are mostly happy but have broken up a few times, and have had periods of intense arguing and ...

How do I make him stop playing with my heart?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5397 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - my bf and i broke up a few months ago becouse he wasnt giving his all and i was..plus i found text messages to other chicks in his phone....he denyed having sex with them but couldnt deny the fact he was doin wrong...so i broke up with him but ...

Is it unrealistic for a husband to get turned on by his wife after having kids?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5396 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Am I wrong to refuse sex to my husband when he uses porn to get aroused. Im simply hate the thought of him getting all excited by the bodies of other women (he likes penthouse glamour type images of women) and then using me as some type of ...

My BF thinks I'm losing interest cause he never receives my texts

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5396 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - My man for seven years is all of a sudden tripping because he thinks I've been losing focus on our relationship which I'm not he's just mad because every time I send a txt he never receives it but I have proof but he thinks I'm lying what should I ...

Is my bf feeling guilty because he left his wife? Does he still love her?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5360 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I am in avery loving relationship with a wonderful man. He has three young girls (ages 8and 11,8 year old twins),whom I get along with very well.The only problem is the ex wife (thier mother),ho is very controlling ,vicious and jealous.She blames ...

I still love her..but does she love me?

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29 July 2009 (M) - hi i am in a separation with my wife we have 2 kids ,one she had with another guy before me but i have been there since her birth. i love them and i still love her. we have broke up before and in a matter a days she has found someone to date. one of ...

Is this avoiding commitment a phase or something more permanent?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5397 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - My love life seems to be drifting right now. I'm not sure what I want and when anyone tries to get too close, I back off. I'm wondering if this is just a phase... I seem to just want some positive attention from at least a few guys at a time right ...