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Archived questions from: 23 July, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

He wasn't making me feel good, so I broke up! Should we try again?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5402 days ago

23 July 2009 (M) - Well... my boyfriend and I been dating close to a year, never been perfect, he sucks in bed, but I have fallen in love regardles. For some reason, can't explain it why, he casues for me to withdraw, I like him and want to be cheerful and happy ...

Is it right to make my boyfriend choose between me and his mom?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5402 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for almost four years. We have two kids together and he has one with someone else. When i first met him his mom was taking his son which i didn't understand. We got pregnant with out first child and before our first son ...

How do I get my psycho boyfriend to come back? And then when he does how do I make him work for it?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5402 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - hi, ive been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half and i have recently lost my virginity to him. I love him more than anything and want to be with him for the rest of my life. However, we have manyyyy fights and basically fight over ...

I'll bet you've never read a more messed up story than this one!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5398 days ago

23 July 2009 (M) - Right then there is a girl who i can say honestly isnt a hotty but she is beautiful i mean truly beautiful an angel among men and her personality is to die for. I love her to the ends of time i would go through hell and stay there for 1 million ...

How do I leave controlling bf without being guilt-tripped back in?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5402 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - Hello everybody. I have been in a relationship for about 2.5 years (with 2 "breaks" in between). In the 1st break he went out with someone else and hid it from me and lied about it. Yes I know I'm dumb to take him back. He showed great improvem...

If he likes me why isn't he speaking to me!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5402 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - So me and this boy like each other We used to talk or actually text everyday Now it all stopped We would talk like once or maybe twice a week Recently I was talking to him through text and he asked me " I know this sounds wierd but do u still...

My BF says if I loved him I would have sex with him

This question has 23 answers - newest was posted 5402 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 39. he said he loves me and if I loved him I would have sex with him. what should i do?...

Should I leave my fiance even though I'm pregnant?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5402 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - I thought I was going to marry my best friend, but now I feel like I am making a huge mistake by committing my life to my fiance. "John" and I were as close as any friends could be- we worked together, spent every day together and hung out in soci...

If I get pregnant, he says he'll do a runner! What should I do?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5402 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - i'm 16 and my boyfriend keeps telling me he thinks i'm pregnant. first time was when i felt sick, he said i was pregnant. second was when i started my period a day before, he went mental saying i'm pregnant etc, and loads more sh*t like that. ...

My Fiance is sending sexual emails to old female friend.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5402 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - My finance is still emailing an old female friend and using sexual innuendos, he says he is not in touch with here however I know for a fact he is lying, what do I do confront her?...

I've been unfaithful and am unhappy!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5402 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - I have been with my husband for 9 years, married for one a half years. I have often had doubts as to whether I ought to have married him (I have had no other serious relationships and barely any boyfriends) and more recently I have been quite ...

My boyfriend is violent, why do I still love him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5382 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - i recently got back with a guy that i've known for years. i fell for him very quickly he was sweet and give me anything i want but here lately he start getting very mad to the point he hit me once and tried to again and keeps threaing to hurt me bad ...

Can anyone give me an idea about what's in his head?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5401 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - My ex split with me few weeks back. I'm not sure but think he cheated on me with his new girlfriend as they got together couple of weeks after we split. After weeks of him being undeceive of how he wanted me in his life as friends of not, I sent him ...

Things have gone from bad to worse with my abusive boyfriend

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5402 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - hi! i have a boyfriend and we have been going out for three years now. at start, things were going so well but as time pass by it changes. he started hurting me,physically. and it really hurts me to know that he can do that to me. then, i m...

My boyfriend is Bi-Polar and has panic attacks and 4 a year old child. Bad mix?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5402 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - i just split up with my boyfriend, he suffers from panic attacks and is bi-polar, he always does things when i break up with him, like do pills, panic, go out looking for fights, things like that. the problem is, his daughter is staying with him for ...

I was in danger and could of died, but he couldnt care less because he needed his sleep!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5390 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I had a rocky beginning. I loved him more than anything and it wasn't mutual. I did let him go and it took me dating another for him to realize he loves me. We've been together for five years and I thought everything was fine but ...

I do love my fiancé but we keep drifting further and further apart, and to make things worse my ex is back in the picture!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5402 days ago

23 July 2009 (M) - My problem, I've been in a relationship with my fiancé, for 2 years. We fight no more than normal, but when we do fight it's usually me getting completly fed up with the fact that she does nothing, no want or drive to work, she sits around and gets ...

Everything was going great until we had sex! What do I do now?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5402 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - ok i met this guy at work and he was into me and i was too. he was real nice and sweet. until we had sex thats when everything went wrong. he started to treat me bad. until one night he called me when he was drunk. he was telling me he liked me and ...

On one hand it is the best relationship I've ever had, on the other hand it is the worst!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5400 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - he is a great guy, but has a couple of problems. have been with him 15 months he lives with me. we havent been intimate for 10 months, i ask him if he wants to be with me and he says yes but there is no affection. it is like living with a roommate...

I have been in a gay relationship for 4 years, but I've found out that he's been looking at heterosexual porn!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5398 days ago

23 July 2009 (M) - I'm 25, been in a gay relationship with my partner of 4 years, he's 28. We have good jobs and live together in our city flat. In most respects, our life is good, no issues there, apart from our sex life. My partner does not seem to want se...

My boyfriend is a slacker in bed

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5402 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - Basically I have a really bad problem, i love the guy I’m with more than anything, but, well, in bed he's not exactly great... I’m lucky if he lasts 5 minutes and he’s really selfish in bed. I spoke to a mate of mine, and we were talking about sex ...

How am I supposed to feel passionate when we never make out

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5402 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - My fiance rarely ever kisses me "with tongue". He has problems breathing through his nose so he says he can't breathe when he does. How am I supposed to feel passionate when we never make out? Is it wrong of me to get sick of little kisses? Is it ...

My boyfriends unromantic proposal is disappointing

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5394 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - my boyfriend asked me to marry him 4 months ago. He did not have any kind of romantic little speech or poem. He didn't even say how much he loved me- just plain old "will you marry me". He has not brought up getting married ever since. What can I ...

We broke up, but I still want him back!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5402 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - Me and my bf broke up for about a month now. We've been together for about 4 years (next Saturday). We've remained "friends" and he called me almost everyday. The problem is that we keep on fighting over and over for the same mistakes that we made. ...

I don't want to be a second wife but I love him so much!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5378 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - i am 24+ and i really need someone in my life(a fiance),i dont want to be too desperate about it because i dont want to fall into the wrong hands. i dated my boyfriend for four years but i have broken up with him because he doesn't trust me, he is a ...

He's looking to move out because I'd rather walk away than fight with him!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5402 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - I have a pressing issue. I am with a loving man and we get along 95% of the time. He moved in with me last year and we are to be married next year. Here's the thing. When it's good it's good, when it's bad it's horrible! We fight about the kids, he ...

How can I have feelings for anothe when I'm supposedly in love with my partner?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5401 days ago

23 July 2009 (M) - I have been in a relationship with a guy for the last 4 1/2 years, we have been through a lot and have always been there for each other. Our relationship was great from the start and we have a lot of history together, which made the feeling of f...

After 11 years he left me for another woman but I don't think he knows what he wants!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5340 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - my boyfriend left me just before christmas after 11 years he moved straight in with her after only knowing her for 3 weeks and this is true as she told my ex sister in law that they been together for that period so i know its true. she has a 8 year ...

He followed me into the bathroom and told me to dump my loser girlfriend!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5402 days ago

23 July 2009 (M) - I was at a restaurant with my girlfriend and her best friend who was with her boyfriend, and everything was going well. We'd been out as a foursome before, so there were no problems there up until now... That day, I had to go the bathroom, a...

How do I stop feeling bad about when he masturbates?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5402 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - So my boyfriend and I are in a committed relationship and the sex is extremely satisfying and frequent for both of us. I definitely have a higher libido than he does, but I can really easily coax a higher libido from him when I want it. We talk ...

Should I just leave him? He doesn't show affection!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5402 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - How do men behave when they want out of a relationship but don't have the balls to tell you so?...My b/f of 4 yrs. been very distant. Snaps at me over everything. Hardly ever e-mails me during the day like he used to. He rarely talks about his work ...

He hurts me or makes me cry and I'm living in fear

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4710 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now, and it's been pretty rocky. He's been putting me down about certain things that occurred before we were even together! I was in a "relationship" with a guy he despises, so he beat me up ...

Want a child and fiance has changed his mind!

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23 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been dating off and on for approx. 4 years. I am 38 years old. He is 49 years old. From the beginning of the realtionship I told him I wanted one child. He agreed to this. We got pregant once- I miscarried. He has since ...

We've got back together, but now he's acting differently! I feel lost, please help

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5403 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - i met a guy on the internet a year and a half ago and when we first met ahh he was great the usual and clamed to love me very much , alot has gone on since we have had alot of small rows lead to big fights and even splits, we were going through a ...

Who should be head of household and lay down the rules?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5401 days ago

23 July 2009 (M) - I've been with my wife for 10 years. She has never had a job. I have always paid most of the bills with very few exceptions. she collect ssi and public assistance. She pays what she wants on the bills. Recently it has been $80.00 a month for the ...

I'm not sure I want to be in this relationship, but I'm scared of breaking up and being lonely

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5402 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - I'm really confused!! I'm 22 and currently with my boyfriend of two years. I dont know if he is the one, I dont even know if I really wanna be in this relationship anymore, but at the same time in not sure about breaking up either. I think im just ...

What can I say to my best friend? I don't want her to get hurt anymore by these confusing relationships

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5403 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - my best friend is bi sexual. and she loves another one of my friends and they both like eachother. but the girl she likes has a boyfriend and likes a couple other people. what do i tell my best friend so she wont get hurt anymore?...

My ex hates me and hurts my feelings, but I really want us to be frineds

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5403 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - What should I do I want to be friends with my ex but he calls me a bitch and says just give up i don't want to be friends. He really hates me and he hurts my feelings sometimes but i know deep inside he wants to be friends hes just to afraid to ...

How do I stop hurting my boyfriend..I really don't want to be with him anymore

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5403 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - Over the past year or so, my bf and 5 years and I have had 3 of "those" talks. Each time it was about the same thing - whether I still want to be with him or not as I was not showing it. Each time I have assured him that I do love him and want to be ...

I'm letting hims play mind games with me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5403 days ago

23 July 2009 (F) - i used to go out wit this guy..i called it quits cuz it just didnt go anywhere.then for a champioship in la we went in the same plane and we had fun and flirted.then when we got in california he told me that i've changed since i got to cali and i ...

I need help before I destroy more lives!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5401 days ago

23 July 2009 (M) - why am i such a pessimist it truly is awful being like this,im actualy an horrible person but i am quite good at fooling people especially women,i know that my ex girlfriend was good to me in loads of ways but i even turned her against ...

Mixed signals as we're apart

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5402 days ago

23 July 2009 (M) - This is long, I know - please take a moment to read it and let me know your thoughts. So, my ex and I had been together for almost 2 years and the relationship moved very quickly -- we moved in together almost immediately, work together, and ha...