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Archived questions from: 15 July, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

How can I approach the subject of him not putting much effort into our relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5409 days ago

15 July 2009 (F) - Hey, Over the summer, i'm living away from my boyfriend (we are in a serious relationship) and i just can't help but feel like it's me doing all the chasing. I know hes busy with work but i'm working full time and doing placement reports in my sp...

I should just go clear this up with him, but continue to live in limbo anyway

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5410 days ago

15 July 2009 (F) - I am really confused. I split up with my boyfriend at the weekend by text (I am appalled that I did it in that way, and instantly regretted doing it but I was rarely able to get hold of him on the phone which I found deeply frustrating. We were in ...

We have differing timelines for marriage

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5386 days ago

15 July 2009 (F) - Hello. I'm twenty-five years of age, turning twenty-six in exactly two weeks and I'm still a virgin. In junior high and high school, I never wanted a boyfriend because I was focusing on my studies, but I did have a lot of guy friends. Plus, I grew ...

My love wanted to experiment with a threesome, so I ended it

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5404 days ago

15 July 2009 (F) - Firstly i'd like to thank u all for helping me find solutions to my troubled questions . Here i am again in need of ur advice, i broke up with my boyfriend today and i feel horrible i don't no if what i done was the right thing to do.He stood by me ...

I know I should stay cool and back off, but I also feel like I should call her

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5410 days ago

15 July 2009 (M) - I've been dating a girl on a once a week basis, partially because we both live busy lives and I'm always traveling. In the past she has been by my standards permiscuous, for example sleeping with someone who has a girlfriend. By no means is she a ...

I want my ex back, but she wants nothing to do with me after I said and did some really awful things.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5410 days ago

15 July 2009 (M) - I said things to her that really hurt her feeling and broke her heart. Now she does not want to talk to me, does not want to reply to my emails, has even removed me as a friend from her facebook, and said please do not contact her. I feel really bad ...

I'm insecure and feel less loved

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5410 days ago

15 July 2009 (F) - (Mod note: two questions merged together) ONE: im really insecure with the fact that my boyfriend has a lot of girl friends. he has one in particular, who is undeniably gorgeous, talented and popular. in comparison to her i cant help but feel lik...

Could a minor argument really spell the end of the relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5410 days ago

15 July 2009 (M) - Dear cupid I've been dating a girl for over a year now. Everything has been going very well up until yesterday. We've had some small issues of course, but have generally worked things out well. Yesterday, however, we had an argument, and sh...

Now that we live together there's no "alone time"

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5410 days ago

15 July 2009 (F) - I have an amazing boyfriend, we've been together for 2 years and have been living together for a year. However, ever since we moved it, i realised that my boyfriend slowly slowly seems to lose the need to spend alone time with me or go on a "date...

He loves me, but he doesn't want to go through a trouble relationship again

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5410 days ago

15 July 2009 (F) - About a month ago i got really mad and broke up with my boyfriend. I didnt really mean it but i really hurt him. Since then we had been dating on and off again. He kept saying it didnt feel right anymore because i said i wanted to break up awhile ...

My boyfriend flirts with other women, comes home to me but I am paranoid

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5401 days ago

15 July 2009 (F) - Ok heres is my issue. My boyfriend is a very well liked person. He is always flirting with other girls and things like that. I know this is wrong but I have a password of his and I do use it to check up on him. But he is writing girls telling them ...

Could my personality be a barrier in the relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5410 days ago

15 July 2009 (F) - I'm 25 years old and still trying to grow-up as far as financial and emotional independence goes. Recently, I met a man who is 19 years older than me, never been married, but had several serious relationships in the past. He showed special ...

I want to feel independent again, but he's begging me to stay together

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5410 days ago

15 July 2009 (F) - Hi my BF and I have been together for 2 years and just a few months back we are having lots of conflicts and resentment. Most of the resentment I have, I assumed is caused by my dependence on him. I havent been dependent on him from the start, ...

How do you deal with a person who treated you like you were just a fling?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5410 days ago

15 July 2009 (F) - How can someone treat someone like they are not even a person? I work in a downtown core and have been talking with a man that purchased a coffee sop in the area of my work. We hit it off great and have been talking for a year and a half. We ...

Beaten and abused and I need a way out

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5386 days ago

15 July 2009 (F) - please help me..ok i am 16 years old and my mom is very physically abusive and verbally abusive towards me.i have been in state custody once because i reported her.i was in state custody for 7 mths and i loved it my foster parents were great.well ...

We need time apart to test our connection, yet I think we should be together

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5406 days ago

15 July 2009 (F) - Hi My boyfriend of 11months has just told me that we should go on a break. We have been arguing quite alot lately and it was really getting him down. He has told me that he needs a break to work out if he really wants to be in a relationship rig...

I went to far with my adoptive sister while drunk and now she hates me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5410 days ago

15 July 2009 (?) - i cant believe im doing this, but here goes. Well, when i was 5, my dad was an alcoholic. He killed himself after he killed my mom. A year after the funeral i was adopted. I guess my childhood memories made me who i am right now. Im an alcoholic, im ...

I'm pregnant, and I need his love and support...but he's not giving it to me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5410 days ago

15 July 2009 (F) - Hi I'm pregnant for 23 weeks and married for about 6 months now. Before marrying we knew each other for 6 years I knew he was already married but yet i decided to marry him because of his love and since childhood i was away with this affection. ...

He told someone to tell me he never wants to see me again. Does he mean it?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5409 days ago

15 July 2009 (F) - My scorpio man 13 years my senior has just ended our two year relationship very publically and abruptly with abosolutely no warning. I am not really sure why. He says I spoke badly about him. I did pass 1 comment in jest. He told someone to tell me ...

Big trust issues here! What should I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5410 days ago

15 July 2009 (M) - i will try to keep it short thanks to anyone that replies. i was seeing a girl for a few months and she was texting this guy all the time and going out on saturday nights etc with this guy as a part of a group. anyway he told her he liked her and...

How can I stop my bf from texting her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5410 days ago

15 July 2009 (F) - hi, i recently found texts on my boyfriends phone from him to another girl (who doesn't have the urge to look :P) she goes to the same college as me, he was texting her like he does to me putting 'babe' and lots of kisses i could tell he was ...

What should I do about my girlfriend? She won't tell me what's wrong!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5410 days ago

15 July 2009 (M) - My GF had on and off mood swings which I can not figure out, sometime when I'm with her shes really hyper and happy and that but when I'm at work and she is at home I call her on the phone and she just goes quiet and doesn't really talk. I sa...

I called my girlfriend a whore and slut and she wont forgive me.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5410 days ago

15 July 2009 (M) - Ive been talking to this girl for about 6 months now. Basically to make a long story short, my girlfriend never SLEPT with nobody but she did talk to a BUNCH of guys on myspace while we were going out for about 3 weeks because she was mad at me for ...

He's stopped hitting me, but is this still abuse?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5411 days ago

15 July 2009 (F) - Hi there, My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 1/2 years. When we first got together I got pregnant right away. He slapped me when I was 8 weeks pregnant. I miscarried at 14 weeks. I tried to get away from him but moved back in with him...

She's dumped me 14 times, is she serious this time?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5411 days ago

15 July 2009 (M) - My X girlfriend broke up with me in August 2005. We had been seeing each for 4 years and living with each other for 2 of those years. During 2006 we got back together a number of times. It was her doing the hiring and firing as i desperately ...

He physically hurts me, but I love him

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5410 days ago

15 July 2009 (F) - if been with my boyfriend off and on sence 7th grade I'm now n 10th we've gone through so much being together or at least I have he has the rep of a cheater and he's cheated on me more than once well if only proved it once the rest is just rumors he ...

The guy I'm seeing denied my facebook friend request!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5402 days ago

15 July 2009 (F) - I've been casually seeing a guy for eight months. We had been friends on myspace (he added me), but I deleted my profile so about a month ago I tried to add him on facebook. He denied my request! He has over 100 friends so clearly he's not that ...

Venting relationship troubles

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5139 days ago

15 July 2009 (M) - Where to start? I am with this girl and she is 8 weeks pregnant with my child.She lives almost 2 hours away and neither of us has transportation at the moment.I broke up with her the morning of the 4th because she wanted to go home.I don`t have ...

Should I just sit around and wait for him forever?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5410 days ago

15 July 2009 (F) - Ok, I've posted on here once before about my relationship with my ex-boyfriend. Quick Recap: been together 18 months, he moved cross country with me when I was offered my dream job, 2 months after getting here he decided that "something just wasn't ...

I have a lazy bf and pay for everything HELP!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5410 days ago

15 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend has no job, no money and won't make an effort to even try to get a job. He'd rather smoke pot, I take us out everywhere we go.. I pay! Im tired of it.. How do I convince him to get a job?... I mean he loves me and is there for me but I ...

I'm so angry at myself after falling for a womanizers lies

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5411 days ago

15 July 2009 (F) - I have been struck by the womanizers arrow. I am so pinned up against the wall I feel my whole mind has been taken hostage. I am so angry at myself! Were both married. Obviously he led me to believe he was the victim of no sex in his marriage ...

Why am I thinking of a future with him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5411 days ago

15 July 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for many years and now have a child but do not live together. He makes me feel incompetent as he has never eaten with us or my cooking. He is a vegetarian and we eat meat. I have no idea of the types of food he likes ...